thatigboman:
I want to create this post in order to disabuse the minds of nairalanders on the misconceptions about much-talked about igbo bride prices.
Contrary to the belief that igbo bride prices run into millions, the bride prices are usually a token. In my hometown in Arondizuogu, Imo State, it is about N200.

The misconception arises from the list given to family of the intending groom. That list is far different from the bride price.
Different people in igboland give different lists in igboland for the different groups in the village they come to marry - the daughters of the family (my 2 year old children get their shares in my place), the women, the youths and the elders. And there are options. You either bring the items or bring the money. Example, u can go to a community and they ask you to bring 10 big yams, another can ask for 20 kegs of palm wine, others can ask for coconut. And youths in my place must ask for a roll of cigarettes, benson or rothmas. And the groom has an option, either to buy them and bring according to specifications or just drop money.

Buying the items usually bring problem. U can buy 10 big yams, and they tell u that it is only 2 that are big, you have to pay for the other 8 'small ones'. U can buy Life and Hero drinks, and they say no, one must be Star, so some people will prefer to pay cash and will be taxed heavily.
All in all, all the issues will be settled, so no worries.

let other igbos and other nairalanders contribute.

na still the same thing we dey talk omo eleyii ti poju they wan tax nahin make dem dey complain

psyco:
What of motorcycles? Wheelbarrows. And foods for the whole extended families.

Maybe na afonjas de do that one

Bar1941:
Really, so that list is about house warming not wedding? You are talking as if the list is about something else. What brought about the list in the first instance if not the bride?

Dont drag igbo culture with igbo people. It makes u appear foolish n senseless

Maobichek:


There is no need for lies OK, it depends on the family and the parents of the girl, my brother married from Mbaise (this is where ppl see as the worst in Imo) the girl was doing her masters at Atlanta USA, sponsored by her parents but my brother didn't spend more than 200k, all the list with bride price.
Also my sister is in one of the big banks in Nigeria, with car allowance, house allowance, P for P, etc but the husband didn't spend more than 150k for all in the list and bride price.
NB the parents and family decides whether the man will suffer or not, thank you.

Deciding to suffer your son in-law is callous..... I think the appropriate word is deciding to be "greedy"

Tobiloba2407:


Fine yeah, character no....i have like 2 igbo girls basically begging me to marry them....I'm not going to try that, even my igbo friends, that didn't grow up in the east are breaking engagements and relationships with igbo girls to marry or date other tribes, i keep saying it, there's something fundamentally wrong in the up bringing of igbo girls, leave beautiful for who hasn't dated beautiful girls, be around beautiful ladies, you start to understand character trumps looks

You are decieving yourself with your lie.

I grew up in Yoruba land and I don't have that wacky mindset you mentioned there.

I know a lot of Igbo guys and they don't have that mentality too.

I have many Igbo guys that are married today and they married Igbo ladies.

Let me tell you the hidden truth, most Igbos that married Yoruba ladies, married them because they got them pregnant mistakenly and as such must marry them.

bigseank:
it is greed that will kill you people. Just in the name of marriage you ask for heaven and earth. see as this one dey try explain nonsense.

i followed my padi to imo state go marry, it got to a time i looked at the wife and asked myself is this girl even worth it, i cried for my guy that day.

U guys change your archaic ways. Your females are not cattles. they should not be a means to line your pocket.

Do u know that u dont have sense? How can u drag igbo culture with igbos? Are u a lunatic?

Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

Tobiloba2407:


Fine yeah, character no....i have like 2 igbo girls basically begging me to marry them....I'm not going to try that, even my igbo friends, that didn't grow up in the east are breaking engagements and relationships with igbo girls to marry or date other tribes, i keep saying it, there's something fundamentally wrong in the up bringing of igbo girls, leave beautiful for who hasn't dated beautiful girls, be around beautiful ladies, you start to understand character trumps looks

This is very stupid n false.

It presents u as a lunatic

Bullman:


Change this virgin mindset bro it will do you a whole lot of good.

Virgin or nothing bro. Olosho has not done me a whole lot of good either.

1x2x3:


Deciding to suffer your son in-law is callous..... I think the appropriate word is deciding to be "greedy"

Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

Keep away from igbo matters, u know absolutely nothing about our culture

hakym619:
Igbo marriage is a low key poverty alleviation scheme

Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

Be wise n stop being stupid

Angelfrost:


Your insults mean nothing to me... I can see through to your frustrations. I understand how hard it can be to defend the indefensible.

I have no Igbo In-laws sir, but if I did, it would have cost me a pretty penny!!!

I have merely corrected the Op. I believe my point was quite succinct! I shall refrain from trading words with individuals who get unnecessarily touchy over tribal discussions. This is supposed to be a learning curve. Bye.

Smh

coolangel54:
In my hometown of Amaekpu, Ohafia, brideprice is just #60. The items on the list were all monetized and beat down. My husband's people came prepared and bargained very well the items on the list and my father was very firm with his kinsmen that he isn't selling his daughter.

In all, both wedding and traditional, we didn't spend above #600,000. Dowry was paid a day before the wedding and the next day being Saturday, both ceremonies were done officially.


In all, do not generalize as tradition differs from one place to another. Secondly, if the father of the bride is the best father in the world, he won't sell off his daughter and will pre-warn his kinsmen not to over task his inlaws.



Otutuoma ndioma!

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Did your ₦1 enter that 600k

Nazgul:
Marriage in Igbo land depends on the family like you rightfully stated.

If you're marrying from a greedy family, it will take God's divine intervention for you not to loose your patience with them.

I've been to a wedding where the groom literally walked out cos of excessive billing he said he isn't doing again. Worse of it all was that his supposed in-laws were even mocking him telling him that he's not man enough to get married that what is he doing here.

It was the cries of his bride to be and her mum and some other direct female relatives that brought him back.

So my brother it just depends on the family and most especially if the girls father is still alive. Cos if her father is alive there are some nonsense he wouldn't tolerate cos he knows that any financial burden he places on you, his daughter would bear it as well.

But if it's all these useless uncles who don't even care about the girls welfare, they'll try to use her marriage as a route to escape poverty thereby billing you heartlessly.

Empty, Silly and false post.

Focus on Afonja culture n leave igbo culture, u have zero knowledge about it.

1x2x3:


After settling the long list which will likely be within the range of 500k to 1M are you still going to buy drinks, buy cow, canopies, cook food for the main function or once you settle the list then the brides family take charge?

Shut up and keep quiet. How can an Afonja be discussing igbo culture that he knows nothing about?




Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

Angelfrost:
Mr. Op, stop this pedantry and trying to be smart by half, please!!!

Everyone knows the literal meaning of Bride Price!!!... You are the one who seems ignorant of the contextual meaning here.

When people complain of "Bride Price" being high, of course they are referring to the entire ridiculous demands from the Bride's family.... They merely lump it all conveniently into a single term "Bride Price"!!! This is quite simple na!

No offense sir, I honestly don't see the real point of this thread!!!

Shut up and stop being stupid....Na u go teach igbo people their own culture? Have u ever seen any igbo man discussing yoruba marriage rites or culture?



Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

1x2x3:


After settling the long list which will likely be within the range of 500k to 1M are you still going to buy drinks, buy cow, canopies, cook food for the main function or once you settle the list then the brides family take charge?

Normally it should be that if you drop money like 2 million for everything, they'll arrange the ceremony included. 1m might not cover the extra expenses of the ceremony (which depends on how flamboyant you want it to be).

It's easier for a groom if:
1) He marries into an understanding family. That way, the father can negotiate with the extended family to reduce their demands. It's these demands that appear in those lists.

2)The list is appropriately monetised so you don't buy any items. It's safer that way too as some elders can be strict about what particular brand of item they requested for, causing you to spend extra.

3) If he drops large sums for everything at once. Dropping it slowly for each event will cause you to spend more than your budget. So once you get your list, monetise it and get your bride and mother-in-law to monetise cost of ceremony immediately. Do it once and remove hand.

(I stand to be corrected)

sojfarm:
In one word, Igbo people want the bridegroom to carry his expenses, her expenses, all the parents expenses etc

We understand. It is poverty driven culture please

Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.


Igbos are 100 times richer than whichever tribe u come from

SimplyFacts:
One Igbo friend once told me that, in his village, the elders can even take #500 out the #250k presented as bride price & ask you to take care of their daughter with the rest. And the bride's family would always gift the couple so much; from wears to electronics.

Just like someone mentioned above, he confirmed that the uncles are the main problem sometimes. But the girl's father (if alive) always finds means to make the groom feel at ease.

Las las,,,, money solves all issues.
May God bless us with enough


What do you have to say, Oizee

absolutely nothing

Aguilar:
No matter how tempting an igbo woman is, once I hear that she's igbo. I go just japaa

Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

Stop being silly n keep away from igbo gossip

jagorinho:

very on point!!!

Shut up.

Stop following an Afonja to dive into igbo matters. U know nothing and that fool u replied knows absolutely nothing about igbo culture

Olatlaccon:
5.8m? for real....that one too much...abeg no offense..shey the girl na virgin?

This is as real as daylight, my guy bought a full box of george wrappers and they called the fattest woman in the community to stand on top of it and compress it further to make space for more wrappers. Before they accepted to box of wrapper.

Which kin virgin? They divorced after 3years of marriage.

Sonoyom:
Extortion is the name of the game.

Keep mute.


Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

Remove ur mouth from wetin u no sabi

achierosion:
As if he doesn't know, some villages will collect N20 and give you list of nearly N700k, when you complain they'll tell you that they only collect N20 from the bride price.
Imo state bikonu, amend the price so that other Igbos will be happy marrying ur daughters.

Stop reinforcing ur silly nature.

Keep away from igbo matters, u are not married to an igbo woman and u have never been to an igbo wedding. Keep quiet

Ego2:
At the end of the day it all boils down to individual families....thank God I've been alive to witness different weddings from my place(Imo orlu) including that of my family and I can say the list is quite favourable ( nothing extravagant and also not so cheap) more like we ain't tryna get rid of our daughter and @ the same time not selling her.... like the igbo adage goes " you can't marry a woman under a day".. same way I witnessed my elder bro's intro to his wife( Ondo) and the amount spent on just the intro.... @ the end of the day it all depends on the family you're getting involved in.

You'r elder bro try, I can't marry from other tribe apart from Igbo. Even if women from others tribe are free I am not interested.

I wonder why people of others tribe's are dieing to marry Igbo ladies while they hates Igbo's so much?

Vote for Igbo president they will say no, but they are interested to marry Igbo ladies to give them intelligent children's. Pay whatever the girls family request they will say no, then while having interest to take life partner among the people you hates?

Marriage from other tribes is impossible, Igbo and only Igbo is possible

Logan23:




Empty, Silly and false post.

Focus on Afonja culture n leave igbo culture, u have zero knowledge about it.

Typical brainless rants of your lots. All you do here is to vomit meaningless comments. I expected a detailed counter argument superior to what I posted.

But instead what I'm getting is just a brainless rant from a jobless, teenage, illiterate tribal bigot.

And for the records I'm of the Igbo extraction. More Igbo than you can even imagine.

Angelfrost:


No wahala sir... I have said my piece and moved on!!!

Tell your people to continue pulling out lengthy marriage demands... No business of mine.

How many more threads will be created by your ladies begging for suitors??! Enjoy!!!

Somethings are not meant for you and your likes, na poverty dey make poorman talk say bitterleaf soup dey bitter.

The funny thing is I have more than one Yoruba lady that want marriage from me. One was telling a friend that she will love to marry an Igbo man.

Ignorance should not be an excuse for typing what you typed about Igbo ladies.

The lady you mentioned is a clout chaser and she was just catching cruise.

Take a tour to Igbo land every weekend and I believe your mindset will change.

So for your mind, you think say Igbo ladies no dey marry, lol.

Comparing Igbo ladies to any of their southern counterparts in term of average age of marriage, they have the lowest average age i.e they marry earlier than the rest.

Don't argue on what you know nothing about.

Whiteshield:
Why this useless explanation? We all know that just as Fulanis rear cattle, Igbos rear women.

When it's time for marriage, they maximise profit because those female children are sold out in marriage. This disrespectful attitude is why women aren't allowed to inherent property in Igboland.

Shut up Mr Moronn, Women inherit property in igbo land, stop being silly.


Bus drivers, conductors, Wheel Barrow pushers, Vulcanizers, painters, carpenters and Shoemakers etc in igbo land are married....If u av sense, u would have known that they are married because they, who are the poorest in the society can afford igbo bride price.

The height of stupidity is arguing a topic that u have Zero knowledge about.

Oizee:
absolutely nothing

Lol

Igbochief001:

How dare u pay the complete bride price in igbo land ...it's insulting to the bribes family if u do

Go the girls family tell them how much u have and promise to keep paying for life and watch the magic happen

Una just funny Sha learn culture

I didn't even know this sef and I'm Igbo. Although I do know you can negotiate whatever they demand of you and the negotiation will usually favour the groom at the end.

Thank you for this enlightenment

Aguilar:
No matter how tempting an igbo woman is, once I hear that she's igbo. I go just japaa

Na normal levels if money no dey.

livinbygrace:
Nothing wey you wan write wey go surprise us,the fact remains,if you no get money it will very very very hard to marry an igbo girl.

True. No one wants to suffer.

Angelfrost:


Your insults mean nothing to me... I can see through to your frustrations. I understand how hard it can be to defend the indefensible.

I have no Igbo In-laws sir, but if I did, it would have cost me a pretty penny!!!

I have merely corrected the Op. I believe my point was quite succinct! I shall refrain from trading words with individuals who get unnecessarily touchy over tribal discussions. This is supposed to be a learning curve. Bye.

Shut up ur smelly mouth. U dont have any igbo inlaws and yet u are the custodian of igbo marriage rites and tradition.

Keep quiet