Logan23:


Shut up, u must be very dumb

U are not supposed to even open the thread since it is an igbo matter. But trust Afonja nah, They must chook their mouth into igbo issue

1x2x3:


After settling the long list which will likely be within the range of 500k to 1M are you still going to buy drinks, buy cow, canopies, cook food for the main function or once you settle the list then the brides family take charge?

Ego2:
well love conquers all the same way it brought my grandparents ( igbo, yourba) together regardless of their tribes.. funny how You See other tribes stereotyping the igbos and yet they still intermarry... what a wonderful hate�

InvertedHammer:
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I don’t think people are complaining about the bride price. The problem is the infamous list in which all the kindreds get together, write all their problems in life and hand it over to a suitor to purchase.

I feel sorry for ladies from Mbaise. Some people are too scared to get close enough to know the truth. If she tries, the man will think he is being reeled in for the kill.
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thatigboman:
I want to create this post in order to disabuse the minds of nairalanders on the misconceptions about much-talked about igbo bride prices.
Contrary to the belief that igbo bride prices run into millions, the bride prices are usually a token. In my hometown in Arondizuogu, Imo State, it is about N200.

The misconception arises from the list given to family of the intending groom. That list is far different from the bride price.
Different people in igboland give different lists in igboland for the different groups in the village they come to marry - the daughters of the family (my 2 year old children get their shares in my place), the women, the youths and the elders. And there are options. You either bring the items or bring the money. Example, u can go to a community and they ask you to bring 10 big yams, another can ask for 20 kegs of palm wine, others can ask for coconut. And youths in my place must ask for a roll of cigarettes, benson or rothmas. And the groom has an option, either to buy them and bring according to specifications or just drop money.

Buying the items usually bring problem. U can buy 10 big yams, and they tell u that it is only 2 that are big, you have to pay for the other 8 'small ones'. U can buy Life and Hero drinks, and they say no, one must be Star, so some people will prefer to pay cash and will be taxed heavily.
All in all, all the issues will be settled, so no worries.

let other igbos and other nairalanders contribute.

moneyest:


We

Did your ₦1 enter that 600k

Logan23:



Keep mute n quit talking more trash that u know nothing about

thatigboman:
I want to create this post in order to disabuse the minds of nairalanders on the misconceptions about much-talked about igbo bride prices.
Contrary to the belief that igbo bride prices run into millions, the bride prices are usually a token. In my hometown in Arondizuogu, Imo State, it is about N200.

The misconception arises from the list given to family of the intending groom. That list is far different from the bride price.
Different people in igboland give different lists in igboland for the different groups in the village they come to marry - the daughters of the family (my 2 year old children get their shares in my place), the women, the youths and the elders. And there are options. You either bring the items or bring the money. Example, u can go to a community and they ask you to bring 10 big yams, another can ask for 20 kegs of palm wine, others can ask for coconut. And youths in my place must ask for a roll of cigarettes, benson or rothmas. And the groom has an option, either to buy them and bring according to specifications or just drop money.

Buying the items usually bring problem. U can buy 10 big yams, and they tell u that it is only 2 that are big, you have to pay for the other 8 'small ones'. U can buy Life and Hero drinks, and they say no, one must be Star, so some people will prefer to pay cash and will be taxed heavily.
All in all, all the issues will be settled, so no worries.
.

Kennyswag:
Igbos can go to hell and burn to ashes .. I don't care

thatigboman:
after my father

Angelfrost:


Your words carry sound reasoning and weight... I am impressed.

However, such customs need to be modified in the best interest of everyone involved.

RealityShot:
my female friend says her boyfriend can't marry her because they gave him a list of 200k

Am not saying it's too much, but a guy of 29 yrs wanting to marry his girlfriend of 25yrs,,
Who (the guy) just left NYSC 3yrs ago,
has he reached to save up that sum to spend at once?

Now add that, he will also do traditional party, plus white wedding party, plus new apartment.

Well, all that expenses just to have another mouth to feed ain't worth it man!

The guy relocate go north leave my friend... Lolzzzz

Any thing beyond 50k is not worth it or reasonable. (even that self plenty)

Guys just prefer to pay per do or maintain girlfriend till goal occur!

Cc: thatigboman

Angelfrost:


Ignore the jobless and idiotic child... This forum has become overrun with such nuisance.

Jefferyhi86:
You can tell ur kinsmen that, tribal advocate

Logan23:


Common keep quiet

U have zero knowledge as regards any part of igbo traditional marriages

Logan23:


My kinsmen are within their right to talk about igbo culture ....... U dont.

RealAlubarika:


I won't stoop so low, to insult you. This has brought to the fore your your level of intelligence and education, I thought you should have come up with more potent comment to counter mine.

Mind you I did my NYSC( Batch B 2011/2012) in Uhueme community in Agulu Anambra state(Aniocha LGA whose capital is Neni), stop this your myopic ways of reasoning. I have knowledge about igbo traditional marriages, my uncle married from Ebonyi state

Logan23:


Common keep quiet n stop dabbling into matters that u have zero knowledge about.

Logan23:



See moronic madness in action. Afonja So because u did ur NYSC in Anambra state, u have now become the custodian of marriage rites in IGBO land , Musa really needs to change the location of this gate.

How does ur uncle marrying an Ebonyi woman also make u the Ono owu of IGBO marriage and cultural practices ..


Listen carefully, U have ZERO knowledge of Anambra marriage rites (Anambra even have like the lowest requirements for marriage in igbo alnd).....Neither do u know shii about Ebonyi marriage rites.

Keep quiet on igbo matters, U are only allowed to ask marital questions to IGBOS and learn from them.

Logan23:


Stop reinforcing ur silly nature.

Keep away from igbo matters, u are not married to an igbo woman and u have never been to an igbo wedding. Keep quiet

RealityShot:
my female friend says her boyfriend can't marry her because they gave him a list of 200k

Am not saying it's too much, but a guy of 29 yrs wanting to marry his girlfriend of 25yrs,,
Who (the guy) just left NYSC 3yrs ago,
has he reached to save up that sum to spend at once?

Now add that, he will also do traditional party, plus white wedding party, plus new apartment.

Well, all that expenses just to have another mouth to feed ain't worth it man!

The guy relocate go north leave my friend... Lolzzzz

Any thing beyond 50k is not worth it or reasonable. (even that self plenty)

Guys just prefer to pay per do or maintain girlfriend till goal occur!

Cc: thatigboman

collinshush:
In my village (in Anambra) bride price is just ₦400..,just as the op said, it's the lists that normally makes it look big, and this list is negotiable.

In my entire life, I have never seen where parents refused to give out their daughter for marriage just because the item in the lists ain't complete. You can negotiate to bring it down. Though some items listed are compulsory.


A man can marry a lady with 2 million naira in a family where another man married the lady's sister with ₦200, 000. So it all depends on how the man present himself.

Gracchus:
Y'll are good at pointing fingers. So y'll don't stereotype others huh?

fastseo:


Am not a fan of sex aside marriage.


Truth be told girls do encourage this extortion. They see it as high pride price high value etc.
Ask the average girl here in my area, the will tell u if not 800 to 1m for trad they aren't doing.

thatigboman:
I want to create this post in order to disabuse the minds of nairalanders on the misconceptions about much-talked about igbo bride prices.
Contrary to the belief that igbo bride prices run into millions, the bride prices are usually a token. In my hometown in Arondizuogu, Imo State, it is about N200.

The misconception arises from the list given to family of the intending groom. That list is far different from the bride price.
Different people in igboland give different lists in igboland for the different groups in the village they come to marry - the daughters of the family (my 2 year old children get their shares in my place), the women, the youths and the elders. And there are options. You either bring the items or bring the money. Example, u can go to a community and they ask you to bring 10 big yams, another can ask for 20 kegs of palm wine, others can ask for coconut. And youths in my place must ask for a roll of cigarettes, benson or rothmas. And the groom has an option, either to buy them and bring according to specifications or just drop money.

Buying the items usually bring problem. U can buy 10 big yams, and they tell u that it is only 2 that are big, you have to pay for the other 8 'small ones'. U can buy Life and Hero drinks, and they say no, one must be Star, so some people will prefer to pay cash and will be taxed heavily.
All in all, all the issues will be settled, so no worries.

let other igbos and other nairalanders contribute.

Bar1941:
Really, so that list is about house warming not wedding? You are talking as if the list is about something else. What brought about the list in the first instance if not the bride?

fastseo:

Don't say what you have not experienced.

A neighbour of mine left his girlfriend of 4 years to marry another girl just because the list is expensive.


How can he be ask to buy wrapper 3 pieces of each worth 30k, 20k for igwe with a goat, 120 peaces of yams value 1k per each, plus other things I can't remember.

He said when he calculated the money it got to over 700k, ask the family to consider they said no.


See u have not experienced.

collinshush:


@ the bolded, I said I have never seen where parents refused to give their daughter out because of non fulfilment of marriage list.

Is that English hard for you to understand?

Besides that, I don't know the part of Igbo land you came from. In my place, the most important thing in marriage is the Bride price.

The lists for the traditional wedding ceremony can be fulfilled any time you deemed it fit but must be fulfilled before the first child (male or female) of the said woman get married in future.

You guys should stop making it look as if it's very expensive to get married in Igbo land. Poor people are getting married, people earning ₦50k and below monthly are all getting married.


Marriage list can always be negotiated downwards.

There's one Igbo saying that says "anaghị anụcha nwanyị anụcha".

ottega:
this is not comprehensive enough, please do your reserch very well, cos Ave been to the east and I know what it is over there.

fastseo:


Look boy/man.. In my place when they came to marry my sister. They demand they do for my late dad first.
Do for my mother. That's where they come to buy those George that each cost 20k least and you got to buy 3 or 4.

Do for my kindred men.

Do for my umu ada

Do for my umu nna.

Each of the things on the list, for the listed trad up are not less than 50k, not to talk of 120 to 200 yams, assorted drinks, ogba that will full a basin, bags of salt, other stuff.



Say the truth. Our girls are not getting married on time it's worrisome.



One of my brother In the Lord the daughter got married last year. I was there to record the event.
What they paid is over 100k, and they were told to come to village to complete the rest which is the main one.