Bola146:

dominique:
Set awon "I wish I met you before I met my wife", na from courtship they dey start. The guy is playing both of you and messing with both you and his girlfriend's heads. Since he has told you that he doesn't want to leave a girl he claims not to love, do yourself a favour and block all forms of communication with him. Except you want to remain his side chick even after he marries her sha o.

RSVP:
Serious entanglement going on here jesuuuu

Gayatri:

Yeah, thanks for the laugh... I deserve it..

Gayatri:

What is your take please??..

Bola146:


You have seen the red flags now Move on!!! Stop hoping on what is not a reality! His heart is with someone else! Haba! You are still young to get high BP

RSVP:
Serious entanglement going on here jesuuuu omo mary.

So the summary is: You like him, his ex still in the picture even tho they are in a ON/Off kinda relationship, He likes you too and you both don't want to leave each other hmm .

So you want to prove your "love" to him or perhaps show him reasons for him to see you deserve the "main" chick position OK OK.

Now, I will have to do some serious slapping to reset back ur brain to factory setting if you were my sister but you're not so that's impossible.

you need to leave that guy or tell him straight up to decide and let you see front my friend. Don't get yourself stuck up where there's no light. You will get really messed with this your lovey lovey emotional thing you're doing oo and you no come have real girlfriend that will talk sense to your skull.. If he can be serious with you with all honesty fine and if he can't do without his ex then shut him down. No time

Theboy21:

Gayatri:

What is your take please??..

osogma:
He is not in love with you sister. He is deeply in love with the other lady. He is "keeping you" incase the other lady breaks his heart-so that you will be his emotional support.
All the signs are obvious but you are too emotional to either see the truth or tell yourself the truth. To put it harshly, you are simply his side-chick.

Mcslize:

If I were the guy, I will dump the other girl that is still keeping in touch with her ex.

That babe is not good for him but the problem is he is still caged by the other girl. A typical guy that can't take control of his feelings for a so called cheating girlfriend. The girl is definitely cheating on him with her ex. She will definitely cheat on him if he make the mistake of settling down with that lady for life.

A lady that keeps in touch with her ex when still dating a guy is not going to be loyal to such a guy. That he has failed to realize. He seems to be that type of a guy that finds it hard leaving a girl and taking all the bullshits of a girl.

What you need to do: meet him one on one and tell him you have a question you will like to ask him. Stare into his eyes and ask the question: can you tolerate a cheating wife? If he says no, then ask him why then he is working things out with a girl that left him for her ex and then out of the blues she started crawling back to work things out with her? Isn't that foolishness?

He might go mute at first. Tell him that girl is not good for him. Be bold and talk to him exactly what I write here.

Tell him a girl that is still keeping in touch with her ex is definitely a big disaster to any guy.

However, what I see in this your male friend is that he is still very naive to see that the said girl is not good for him. He needs to realise this. That girl will cheat on him with her ex again and again even if she succeed manipulating him into getting back with him.

The guy is not wise at all. But it is left for you to be bold enough and make him understand this. He seems to be so naive with his emotions for that lady he claims as a girlfriend. That he is still trying to get back with a girl that can't let go of her ex is a complete act of foolishness.

Be bold and take the bull by the horn and make him understand just that.

Gayatri:

What are the red flags please??... He loves his girlfriend but he does not want to let me leave him because i help him get focused than his girl aside the feelings he has for me... Please make me understand...

Gayatri:

You are free to laugh but please i need your take on this Sir...

Openbusiness:

Theboy21:
I know you might not listen to this cos you're in love ... But After all the complaints about his ex and the compliments he showered on you, it is enough to drop her for you, but one thing is certain; its either you are in love with a playboy or a confused guy, of which he can't afford to leave any of you n his gf out of his life and you are the one even getting hurt the most, so better think twice before the friend-zone will be your place in his life or the side-chicken

Gayatri:


I appreciate.. Thank you for sounding like a brother i never had..

Gayatri:

I understand Sir, thank you!

Mcslize:

If I were the guy, I will dump the other girl that is still keeping in touch with her ex.

That babe is not good for him but the problem is he is still caged by the other girl. A typical guy that can't take control of his feelings for a so called cheating girlfriend. The girl is definitely cheating on him with her ex. She will definitely cheat on him if he make the mistake of settling down with that lady for life.

A lady that keeps in touch with her ex when still dating a guy is not going to be loyal to such a guy. That he has failed to realize. He seems to be that type of a guy that finds it hard leaving a girl and taking all the bullshits of a girl.

What you need to do: meet him one on one and tell him you have a question you will like to ask him. Stare into his eyes and ask the question: can you tolerate a cheating wife? If he says no, then ask him why then he is working things out with a girl that left him for her ex and then out of the blues she started crawling back to work things out with her? Isn't that foolishness?

He might go mute at first. Tell him that girl is not good for him. Be bold and talk to him exactly what I write here.

Tell him a girl that is still keeping in touch with her ex is definitely a big disaster to any guy.

However, what I see in this your male friend is that he is still very naive to see that the said girl is not good for him. He needs to realise this. That girl will cheat on him with her ex again and again even if she succeed manipulating him into getting back with him.

The guy is not wise at all. But it is left for you to be bold enough and make him understand this. He seems to be so naive with his emotions for that lady he claims as a girlfriend. That he is still trying to get back with a girl that can't let go of her ex is a complete act of foolishness.

Be bold and take the bull by the horn and make him understand just that.

Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

Gayatri:


So Sir, are you saying that if he truly loves his girl as he claimed, he would not have had eyes for me??

I personally think he doesn't love any of you.

Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too..

Oh boy

DukeJoe17:





I don't know if guys that keep a cheating pussy are lunatics or Bewitched.