purples25:
I love the decency of this O.P.

Please do keep it up and pray before entering a relationship.

More like 'be true to yourself, don't be greedy and use your brain.'

daewoorazer:


Shut the fcvk up lil boy

Street Urchin.

RedPanthar:


Nb: By taken i mean they are either married or in a serious relationship.

Then why did you then write that every guys I'm 30s that's handsome and a little settled is married. You're spoiling men before women especially men in that age bracket. I have friends in that age bracket that are seeking partners for marriage.

Trust me the guys u mentioned are taken on the basis of competition, they only lady don jazzy spoke about as they said was linda ikeji. There are so many girls hunting for don jazzy with their fake love.
Now over to ur guys, trust me most husband materials earn low income, no guy wey hold bar go lack babe. 9ja Babes will surely introduce herself if u get bar. I hope u r aware a lady hunting 4 don jazzy's love; money in play here.
Trust no successful guy is free, all those u mentioned are maybe scared of marriage commitment but they hv a secrete lover.

toye440:
Trust me the guys u mentioned are taken on the basis of competition, they only lady don jazzy spoke about as they said was linda ikeji. There are so many girls hunting for don jazzy with their fake love.
Now over to ur guys, trust me most husband materials earn low income, no guy wey hold bar go lack babe. 9ja Babes will surely introduce herself if u get bar. I hope u r aware a lady hunting 4 don jazzy's love; money in play here.
Trust no successful guy is free, all those u mentioned are maybe scared of marriage commitment but they hv a secrete lover.

Na wa o. The way you guys judge. What about guys who didn't break out on time financially?

On the basis of competition Ozo was begging Nengi, Tolanibaj and Dorothy were dreaming about another entity.

Where did you get your data that all successful guys are all taken. Where? Yourself and yemmit90 boldly made such claims. And it's demarketing mehn and painting them bad before ladies. Let's be less absolute when communicating information across plz

I know one who got a job for example in Chevron last year and I was the one pushing marriage to him. How about guys like that?


Many men in 30s are still single. And it has nothing to do with low income but rather other concerns like compatibility issues. Learn to be less absolute in your truth abeg

UnbanEbenezar:
another scripted and fabricated article.
I've read this tale before so you better find another lie.

but this could be someone reality, the essence of the article isn't for story telling but to share life experiences and learn from people's experience. Don't forget that this forum is a faceless forum! The story you read someone could be a someone reality somewhere, somehow and concidently.

Sounds like fiction....unless the OP is a writer. Nigerians don't write this good.

abbatoir:




Please be honest..has someone ever told you you possess a good degree of intelligence...I admire the way you argue

Thanks a bunch, I appreciate your recognition

RedPanthar:




Na wa o. The way you guys judge. What about guys who didn't break out on time financially?

On the basis of competition Ozo was begging Nengi, Tolanibaj and Dorothy were dreaming about another entity.

Where did you get your data that all successful guys are all taken. Where? Yourself and yemmit90 boldly made such claims. And it's demarketing mehn and painting them bad before ladies. Let's be less absolute when communicating information across plz

I know one who got a job for example in Chevron last year and I was the one pushing marriage to him. How about guys like that?


Many men in 30s are still single. And it has nothing to do with low income but rather other concerns like compatibility issues. Learn to be less absolute in your truth abeg

U know the thing with being too experienced and ppl just dim u smart alec but in reality u speak what it would take some decades to unravel. Trust me i know that much.

toye440:
U know the thing with being too experienced and ppl just dim u smart alec but in reality u speak what it would take some decades to unravel. Trust me i know that much.

Answer na. Is Ozo not fine looking. Lekan. Jo. Don Jazzy.


Have you met all men in their 30s to confirm they are all single because they are low income earners? Mehn. Stop being overly judgemental. I have successful males and females who are single.

Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!

You're so intelligent. I love the way you write - excellent.

RedPanthar:


Answer na. Is Ozo not fine looking. Lekan. Jo. Don Jazzy.


Have you met all men in their 30s to confirm they are all single because they are low income earners? Mehn. Stop being overly judgemental. I have successful males and females who are single.

Lol, I sense my assertion offends u and i apologise, but one thing we can both agree on is the truth is bitter.
The above mentioned names are handsome and financially bouyant, but the question is are they free? pls dont believe what they tell u those guys have someone in their life they just choose to protect them by keeping them away from the mainstream and social media.

toye440:
Lol, I sense my assertion offends u and i apologise, but one thing we can both agree on is the truth is bitter.
The above mentioned name are handsome and financially bouyant, but the question is are they free? pls dont believe what they tell u those guys have someone in their life they just choose to protect them by keeping them away from the media.

Offends me ke. What's my own. Why was Ozo chasing Nengi na

Abi is Timaya not successful.? Can you qualify him as hitched?

RedPanthar:



Offends me ke. What's my own. Why was Ozo chasing Nengi na

Abi is Timaya not successful.? Can you qualify him as hitched?

Hehen Ur head correct abeg, have u forgotten Timaya's got a child? pls did ozo go to bbn single? haba he got there, and finds someone more appealling than what he has, and u and i both know in most cases they dont last.

toye440:
Hehen Ur head correct abeg, have u forgotten Timaya's got a child? pls did ozo go to bbn single? haba he got there, and finds someone more appealling than what he has, and u and i both know in most cases they dont last.

Is Timaya hitched in his current condition.

No let me vex

My. Main guy broke out last year. Team Chevron. He's single. No go spoil market for me like this abeg. Very calm. Nice guy. If there's one, there's more

aalangel:
Sounds like fiction....unless the OP is a writer. Nigerians don't write this good.

And Who Might U Be?

RedPanthar:



Is Timaya hitched in his current condition.

No let me vex

My. Main guy broke out last year. Team Chevron. He's single. No go spoil market for me like this abeg. Very calm. Nice guy. If there's one, there's more

apologies, I'm confused with regards to ur gender pls no disrespect intended.

Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!

Why am I smelling lies in this your post

Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!

hmmmmmmm.....Odiego

Heartbrokengirl:


I didn’t fall for a bad boy, I fell for a man who deceived me into thinking he is good.

Do you think he's bad?

Thanks

Juliearth:





Sorry about that, you will be fine.

You are not a side hoe anything.
You just fell in love with a loveable man and unfortunately, he was married.
Even married folks fall in love and genuinely so.
On one of my business trips, I once met a lovely lady with whom I got friendly. she was really nice and beautiful. She was smart too and I have a weakness for intelligent ladies. She is a computer programmer and I am a programmer too and a hardcore STEM guy so we blended real good.
we were literally inseparable and got along real good. Just imagine me in my late late 30's having a female friend with whom we sang songs over the phone.
she fell really hard in love with me even though I have told her I am a married man with two kids - I never deny my children, even jokingly, never.
She loved me all the same and even wanted a relationship and SHE WAS NOT A HOE.
I am more experienced than her so I played along but avoided situations that would allow us consummate the relationship.
I helped her get a better job and never ever attempted to fvvvck her which was a big turn on for her and she loved me completely.
But I am a guy-man (red-pilled bros)so I know how to manage a relationship and tow the thin line between love and just friendship.
We still get along fine and she still loves me but I am back at my base so no sexx fit happen but who am I to say I did not love her even though I am a married man and definitely, a good father - and may be a good husband too!!
So married people fall in love too but its a delicate situation that needs skill and commitment to navigate.
Enjoy the good times you had with him and move on with your life. be grateful for the experience of real love you felt and shared with him.
If you can, still maintain a beautiful friendship. But If you can't, it is still okay too.
Cheers and may the forces be with you!

Heartbrokengirl:


Nairalanders and insults. How exactly am I the side hoe here? Someone clearly looked me in the face and lied to me many times and I am the hoe?

Are you always like this or you are faking it?

I don’t need your advice, I advised myself and left him for his wife and family.

He waited untill he slept with you yet he claims to be in love with u.. he was just lusting after ur succulent body dear.. its a good thing u let him go

JustforMen:
You are not a side hoe anything.
You just fell in love with a loveable man and unfortunately, he was married.
Even married folks fall in love and genuinely so.
On one of my business trips, I once met a lovely lady with whom I got friendly. she was really nice and beautiful. She was smart too and I have a weakness for intelligent ladies. She is a computer programmer and I am a programmer too and a hardcore STEM guy so we blended real good.
we were literally inseparable and got along real good. Just imagine me in my late late 30's having a female friend with whom we sang songs over the phone.
she fell really hard in love with me even though I have told her I am a married man with two kids - I never deny my children, even jokingly, never.
She loved me all the same and even wanted a relationship and SHE WAS NOT A HOE.
I am more experienced than her so I played along but avoided situations that would allow us consummate the relationship.
I helped her get a better job and never ever attempted to fvvvck her which was a big turn on for her and she loved me completely.
But I am a guy-man (red-pilled bros)so I know how to manage a relationship and tow the thin line between love and just friendship.
We still get along fine and she still loves me but I am back at my base so no sexx fit happen but who am I to say I did not love her even though I am a married man and definitely, a good father - and may be a good husband too!!
So married people fall in love too but its a delicate situation that needs skill and commitment to navigate.
Enjoy the good times you had with him and move on with your life. be grateful for the experience of real love you felt and shared with him.
If you can, still maintain a beautiful friendship. But If you can't, it is still okay too.
Cheers and may the forces be with you!

Some things are just too difficult for some people to comprehend because we tend to attach too much emotions. How can I like this one million times abeg?

Heartbrokengirl:
I have always hated the idea of dating married people, but here I am...the ex-girlfriend of a married man.

It started sometime during the lockdown, I went somewhere to get groceries and ran into this man. Let’s call him Mr X. His smile and sense of humour was the attraction. He was putting on a nice senator material and when I stood for us to leave, he towered above me. I am a 6ft tall lady and ladies with my height can tell the happiness when you meet a taller man.

We started chatting regularly and we were in a competition to give ourselves treats. On our second date which I initiated, I asked his age and he replied 36, he asked mine and I told him. He expressed his doubts and I showed him my drivers license. Started asking many questions about my background and I answered all of them. I asked about him too, including his marital status.

I had just gotten out of a relationship, his father said he wouldn’t marry outside the Catholic church and he started drifting, I had to let him go. It was tough for me, but after months of keeping to myself, my friend encouraged me to go on dates and give another man a chance. I decided to give Mr X a chance.

It was beautiful. We were in a competition to please ourselves, take ourselves out and we both had a healthy sense of humour...chatting was fun!!! Everywhere we went, people stared. We were all over ourselves even in public and till date I wonder how he pulled that off.

One day his office had a party and he asked if I could come, I said yes. Got there and the guys were looking at me with lust, the ladies were looking at me with pity. He said the ladies were jealous of my looks and some of them have been crushing on him. If you see him and see me, you’ll understand why this explanation made little sense.

After the party that day, it was late to go back to my house and his house was farther, so we decided to book a hotel around. That night was our most intimate night. We kissed, he gave me leg massages, a head and said he is ready when I am ready. I was blown away. Could this be real?

I always noticed he would be lost in thoughts whenever we are together and blame it on work. Other times he will start feeling sick and I would have to close earlier to go give him food and drugs. This became a regular occurence until one day…

He had fallen sick as usual. I made him promise to take pain relievers and we should consider going to the hospital. He didn’t do this and I had to make out time within the week to go check on him. He said it is because he was missing me, how sweet!

He didn’t get better, it was obvious something was bothering him. I decided I will take him for lunch so we can talk about it, but he couldn’t wait. That night he said he has something to tell me, he kept apologizing but still couldn’t say it. He asked if he could send a voice note and I told him to go ahead.

At about 3mins into the voice note, I felt my world crumbling. He told me he was married and has been married for almost 10years with kids. His family was not in the country, that is why I never saw traces of them. He said he had been battling with the guilt and was scared to tell me because some other girl left when she found out and the last was with him for money. He knew I would leave and was scared, his best friend told him to give it time, another told him to ghost me but I have been good to him and his conscience won’t let him. Other friends said he should never mention it to me.


When my friend saw him, she told me he was going to hurt me. I asked her how and she said I was too innocent for him. She didn’t say further not to be termed hater, but since he made me happy again...she wished me well.

I kept replaying the audio while he kept asking me to say something. I wondered if he treated his wife the way he treated me. He was such a gentleman. Held my hands when I had to walk in heels, opened the car door for me, checked on me at work, gave me handmade customized gifts...he made them himself. He said his wife is bad and he wants divorce her, lolz. I told him they all say that. I told him how much he has hurt me, but I forgive him and appreciate him telling me when he did.

It has been almost 3months but the pain lingers. I know I will be fine…

what a story, let me come and start going to sleep.

my little advice, all nice guys are married. if them no nice how them go enter there

JustforMen:
You are not a side hoe anything.
You just fell in love with a loveable man and unfortunately, he was married.
Even married folks fall in love and genuinely so.
On one of my business trips, I once met a lovely lady with whom I got friendly. she was really nice and beautiful. She was smart too and I have a weakness for intelligent ladies. She is a computer programmer and I am a programmer too and a hardcore STEM guy so we blended real good.
we were literally inseparable and got along real good. Just imagine me in my late late 30's having a female friend with whom we sang songs over the phone.
she fell really hard in love with me even though I have told her I am a married man with two kids - I never deny my children, even jokingly, never.
She loved me all the same and even wanted a relationship and SHE WAS NOT A HOE.
I am more experienced than her so I played along but avoided situations that would allow us consummate the relationship.
I helped her get a better job and never ever attempted to fvvvck her which was a big turn on for her and she loved me completely.
But I am a guy-man (red-pilled bros)so I know how to manage a relationship and tow the thin line between love and just friendship.
We still get along fine and she still loves me but I am back at my base so no sexx fit happen but who am I to say I did not love her even though I am a married man and definitely, a good father - and may be a good husband too!!
So married people fall in love too but its a delicate situation that needs skill and commitment to navigate.
Enjoy the good times you had with him and move on with your life. be grateful for the experience of real love you felt and shared with him.
If you can, still maintain a beautiful friendship. But If you can't, it is still okay too.
Cheers and may the forces be with you!

Someone who has been there. You narrated it perfectly!!!! I see us just reading through your comment!

This can happen in Lagos hands down. I'll place a bet that if this story is true, it happened in Lagos

Now that everything has failed, try Jesus. He'll never leave nor forsake you

thrillionaire:
You're so intelligent. I love the way you write - excellent.

Thanks a lot. I didn’t mean to entertain you all with my writing skills. That is how I write

Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.
Respect him for telling you the truth on the long run. If your conscience pricks you have your answer but don't blame yourself for anything forgive yourself and then him and let go. You have a kind heart don't give in next time. I know how tall girls feel when they meet tall men. Next time look beyond the physique and guard your heart

shortgun:
You have no blame here sweet heart, ur man also is not a bad person.
being married is complicated, only married peopel will understand.
most marriages today does not offer the satisfaction many expect due to many factors....wanting out is also not a popular option.


it,s ur choice to make.

SAME THING THIS MAN DID FOR U.
YOUR HUSBAND WILL DO For another Lady.

KARMA is REAl

Heartbrokengirl:


I don’t know why people are like this. This is someone that kept policing my movement. He is always seeing men staring at me. At a place we went to eat, he saw a man gisting with me and almost broke his leg where he was rushing to come whisk me away. He was that possessive.

I never took a dime from him and he hated it. All I did was love and trust blindly...

I understand how you feel, your a girl with a beautiful heart. Just trust me, God will surely put a smile on your face. Just be strong, look for things that will distract you from his reflections.

From your previously replies, I observed that you're a decent girl, do not loose that treasure of yours, a real man that will cherish and carry you like a glove will definitely locate you sooner or later. Be strong.

I just wish I can see you but too had, this is a social media platform.

Note: do not reply all these negative comments about you, the comments will only hurt you the more.

Heartbrokengirl:


Nairalanders and insults. How exactly am I the side hoe here? Someone clearly looked me in the face and lied to me many times and I am the hoe?

Are you always like this or you are faking it?

I don’t need your advice, I advised myself and left him for his wife and family.

Sorry bout your experience. But you did the right thing. You will heal.