OscarJaden:
Yea! first person you should keep out of your marriage is your mother

When my wife gave birth my mother came over to ogbomoso,she was to spend sometime with us

After few this days she saw I was the one Cooking and she ask if it is okay for me to come and I said of course


And subsequently, each and every time she needs something to be cooked for her, she would call my wife. I would respond and tell her I will get it done, and so I would do.

All the while, I never knew she was displeased.

I returned home one of the evenings, I was a Corper then. And I met my wife crying.

I asked what happened. She said nothing. I asked her again and again. She kept saying nothing. I asked if anything was wrong with the baby. She said no. The baby was sleeping beside her. I became confused. It resorted that i started begging her to speak. Then she told me my mother had just finished speaking to her. She had told her only a shameless woman would allow her husband cook. I never heard the rest. She tried pulling me back but I was so infuriated.

I called my mom. I told her she leaves first thing the following morning. She was shocked to her bone. She already knew my wife told me what she had said to her. She said my wife is lazy. I said I love it that way. I put a call through to my Dad. I explained to him what had happened. He called her to leave. Then he called my wife too.

Mom didn’t wait for the next day. She left that same day. I told her to pass the night but she didn’t say anything again. She left.

After that night, I didn’t see her, didn’t hear her voice for almost 2 years. I would call, she won’t pick.

1stKing:
only a fool will keep out his family from a union.

Don't ever fall for the feminine gimmicks of telling you to keep you parents out of your affairs. When everything goes south, they will be the first you will fall back to

have you ever ask yourself why ladies despise mother in-laws? ask a woman this question and apply logic to understanding her answers

NoToPile:
I saw screenshots of the post on a collegues status yesterday.

OP you didn't post the full story- what of the part where they all went to visit the mum after the two years and he prostrated and the mum took all of them in and they all became one big family again,


Anyway the point still is 3rd parties are not encouraged in marriages (mother, father, sister, uncle, aunty, friend whatever )

area74:
My sincere advice will go to those who are not yet married. Women are naturally gifted to be manipulative. First, they will like to keep the family of the man out of the picture but I can tell you that eventually, family of the wife will have free access to their home and enjoy the benefits from whatever the man has. It is their way. I have been there and I know how they act. Ask the question, if it was the wife's mother that scolded her, would she had acted in such a manipulative way to send her mother away from the house?

The man lacked wisdom and obviously inexperienced to handle the situation like that. I am an advocate of third party staying away from marriages but women are never in accord to this because they usually involve their mothers in their marital life.

To the man and other aspiring husbands, even if your mother does something that is obviously wrong, never you scold your mother in anger because of your wife especially in her presence. Remember how long your mother has been with you from your pregnancy to probably 30 years of age and still showing that care and love. Thread cautiously! The two women are precious to you and a mother's blessing goes a long way in the life of a child.

NoToPile:


I had to laugh out loud at the bolded, if you had to ask that question then you don't understand the dynamics of in-law and parental relationships.

What a daughter will get away with a daughter in law would never get away with it.

What a mother would say to his son and he would not take offence , if she says same to the sons wife kasala fit burst, the wife may not talk but she will keep it at heart and use it to react in the future, in fact her own mother will say the same exact words and she might not think twice about it, the husband might even be the one to vex on behalf of his wife.

What a mother would say to her own daughter she cannot ( in a lot of cases) dare say it to her son in law.

When people understand these things its easier.

Ability to manage your mother, your wife and your family in general without issues is a hallmark of a man mature to get married. If you can manage them all successfully , you have less marital issues( at least the ones caused by external interference).

Bhadmus77:
You better apologize to that woman!
Your wife is precious to u but on no reason should u displease your mother over your wife ..espeCially supporting your wife in your mothers presence.
You did not approach the matter with wisdom..

area74:
...To the man and other aspiring husbands, even if your mother does something that is obviously wrong, never you scold your mother in anger because of your wife especially in her presence. Remember how long your mother has been with you from your pregnancy to probably 30 years of age and still showing that care and love. Thread cautiously! The two women are precious to you and a mother's blessing goes a long way in the life of a child.