Good morning romancelanders, this is not right section, but i need more opinions about this thread.

December 27th will complete one year in which my dad was buried, and according to friends and family, i was told we should have a remembrance party in his memory.

I am the 7th born in the family, but the closest to my dad before his demise(none of the kids have access to his properties except me).

Now the families are tasking me big, i mean a whole 500k from me alone for the remembrance party(despite the fact they know my financial state, which i was scammed a huge sum of money months ago and i also just ventured into some business, and the registration for my 2yrs old son school by january). So my question is, why are they planning so much for the remembrance? Why did they bill me that much? Or are they possibly passing a message to me because of my dad's properties? But fact is me i don't have such amount of money on me talkless of contributing that amount? Pls ur sincere advise is needed..

Everyone should contribute equally if y'all want to celebrate the remembrance!

You should call all the family members and explain to them about your situation or call the elders in your family and talk to them.
May your dad soul continue to rest in peace.

obonujoker:
Everyone should contribute equally if y'all want to celebrate the remembrance!

every other child is billed 150k, but mine is 500k. I think they are trying to pass a message

BaddieFreak:
You should call all the family members and explain to them about your situation or call the elders in your family and talk to them.
May your dad soul continue to rest in peace.

I have done that, infact I have a meeting with olori ebi(family head) today. but yet my step siblings insist I must pay the money. though am planning to contribute 250k, if they can't take it then everyone should do their thing separately. btw, amen for the prayer..

soulstalker:
every other child is billed 150k, but mine is 500k. I think they are trying to pass a message

As the saying goes, "to whom much is given, much is expected " since you're the one managing ur late dad's property they've obviously got the impression you're more financially buoyant than you actually are. That's what explains the high expectation they've got for you. It's now left to you to make them see the actual picture of how things are with you presently...

soulstalker:
I have done that, infact I have a meeting with olori ebi(family head) today. but yet my step siblings insist I must pay the money. though am planning to contribute 250k, if they can't take it then everyone should do their thing separately. btw, amen for the prayer..

Wait and hear what your family head has to say. Whatever your family head says will let you know the next step. I am sure your family head will be considerate

BaddieFreak:


Wait and hear what your family head has to say. Whatever your family head says will let you know the next step. I am sure your family head will be considerate

i hope so shar. Cuz me am not really into all this families stuff.

soulstalker:
i hope so shar. Cuz me am not really into all this families stuff.

I hope he considers you

EzzyCarter:




As the saying goes, "to whom much is given, much is expected " since you're the one managing ur late dad's property they've obviously got the impression you're more financially buoyant than you actually are. Thats what explains the high expectation they've got for you. It's left to you to make them see the actual picture of how things are with you presently. ..

bro i have döne that already but they don't want to believe. Besides, most of them are doing better than me financially, and far older than me. I smell hatred.

BaddieFreak:
I hope he considers you

thanks so much dear. How are u 2day?

Ah ah, you have siblings na, you guys are suppose to share the money equally na, or does your late dad has any account in your possession that they know of.

soulstalker post=97152940:
bro i have döne that already but they don't want to believe. Besides, most of them are doing better than me financially, and far older than me. I smell hatred.

You've done well, you shouldn't be concerned if they believe you or not. Just don't incur any debt to please them, in the end it will be ur ish to sort out and it's definitely not worth it...

EzzyCarter:



You've done well, you shouldn't be concerned if they believe or not. Just don't incur any debt to please them, in the end it will be ur ish to sort out...

thanks for ur input bro, i gat ur point, loud and clear

virginprincess:
Ah ah, you have siblings na, you guys are suppose to share the money equally na, or does your late dad has any account in your possession that they know of.

exactly my thoughts o.. Am only in possession of his houses and lands. I gave them his accounts detail to share btw d family, that was some months after he died.

soulstalker:
thanks so much dear. How are u 2day?

My day has been going smoothly, thanks

soulstalker:
exactly my thoughts o.. Am only in possession of his houses and lands. I gave them his accounts detail to share btw d family, that was some months after he died.

Hmmm, if they are insisting you bring such amount, then i think you should tell them that you are going to sell one of your father lands to be able to provide such amount of money which i know they won't agree to, maybe only then they can calm down on their decisions.

virginprincess:
Hmmm, if they are insisting you bring such amount, then i think you should tell them that you are going to sell one of your father lands to be able to provide such amount of money which i know they won't agree to, maybe only then they can calm down on their decisions.

ahh, they might tell me to sell it, since they knw its my own now

soulstalker:
ahh, they might tell me to sell it, since they knw its my own now

Do you have any intention of selling it.

virginprincess:
Do you have any intention of selling it.

not now.. I don't have it in mind at all, atleast not now. I leased two out already

:thanks so much dear. How are u 2day?My day has been going smoothly, thanks

Don't tell them you want to sell the land, just let them know the amount you are willing to contribute.
If you tell them you want to sell the land, then you should be expecting another inevitable billing.

extortion everywhere

person don die don die kos of remembrance 500k


rubbish


na person wey know person dey kill am

Bros you said you were closest to your father and knows about all his properties?

You're not transparent enough, if not why should your siblings be suspecting you of hiding your father's properties?

You sound like a greedy person to me and that's why they want to extort you
By the way I don't even support the idea of spending so much on remembrance party

500k on top of 1 year remembrance ? Find one pastor/imam to come pray for Ur family.Buy malt and y'all waka back home

But fact is me i don't have such amount of money on me talkless of contributing that amount? Pls ur sincere advise is needed..

You just told us that the FACT is that you don't have that kind of money on you talkless of contributing that amount.

So what advise is needed again?
That we should tell you to go and borrow money or what exactly?

Simply tell them you don't have and they should allow the dead to rest in peace.

We Rise!

This is why Africa will always be backward, they too like billing. Marriage billing, burial billing, rememberance billing, naming ceremony billing, dedication billing.

People can't use their money for relevant things again. They can contribute like 3 million to bury someone, but is child will be dropping out from school soon.

Is that thing necessary? Africans look for how to spend money.

Why not raise money for the living members who aren't doing well?

Your dad is a great man and must be remembered. You being his heir should make the remembrance memorable. If you have the money, give them, if you don't have...








Look for ways to raise it

Can't dey fry Akara and everybody go their respective home in peace .Must we waste money anyhow? Why not wait @least 5/10 years to celebrate him big?

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