wisdomiskey:
See them wailing

Because a woman bought TV in the house we no go hear word again.
Millions of men globally are sole providers for their households, most are even unknowingly paying school fees for kids from other men. Men have been providing quietly for centuries and nobody complained.

Then women woke up one fateful morning and decided they are tired of sitting at home and being taken care of by men, so they decided to fight for the wonderful thing called equality - unless now, she still wants the man to provide and also share in domestic responsibilities?

Jokers.

OP, shebi you and your ilks wanted to be equal to men? This looks like a 50/50 situation to me so why you complaining?
If you can't take it anymore, leave him (although I doubt you can afford to) Ms Independent.

Also noticed how you conveniently ommitted who pays the rent.

It is your responsibility as a man to provide for your family whether you like it or not.

wisdomiskey:


You're not a TV person yet you're forcing him to buy another one even though the kids have a TV to themselves. Lol.

You still haven't mentioned who pays the rent - because he probably does!

Cut your cloth according to your size madam. This ain't the 50s ma, marriage is a partnership. He is not obligated to do anything for you that he doesn't want to.

If you were a single mother won't you buy bedsheet on your bed, feed your kids and pay rent?

Marriage is not by force, if you're not happy, you can always walk away.

Not obligated to his wife?
Is that the mentality of the "new age man" ?

@the second bolded, are you her husband?

Chinekenna ekwela ihe ojoo!

A wise woman once said to her son "Never leave your responsibility as a husband and a father to your wife"

mariahAngel:


It is my responsibility as a woman to cook, clean, do the laundry and suck my husband's slioong whether I like it or not.

Yeah that's right.

wisdomiskey:


Yeah that's right.

You are so disgustingly shameless!

You are not to be taken seriously for even one second!
I am disgusted by you.

mariahAngel:


My father is so disgustingly shameless!

My father is not to be taken seriously for even one second!
I am disgusted by my father.

Hypertension loading...

wisdomiskey:


Hypertension loading...

No, it's not hypertension or whatever.... I just told you the truth exactly how I feel about you.

I'm utterly disgusted by you!
You lack common sense. Wisdom is totally out of the question!

Heiterkeit has logged in. . Let the trolling and fake likes begin!

mariahAngel:


No, it's not hypertension or whatever.... I just told you the truth exactly how I feel about you.

I'm utterly disgusted by you!
You lack common sense. Wisdom is totally out of the question!

Too bad your 'disgust' doesn't affect the air I breathe

I'm grateful that God is not woman!

mariahAngel:


Not obligated to his wife?
Is that the mentality of the "new age man" ?

@the second bolded, are you her husband?

Chinekenna ekwela ihe ojoo!

@bold:

Isn't that the new age and woke form of marriage?

Wife is not obligated to host her husband's guest; husband is not obligated to provide or join in the setup of his home.

You wonder the difference between couples today and live-in sex partners.

Going by the wailing here, the sex is not even that great.

wisdomiskey:


I won't coz men are always right!

Na una dey lie pass.

Just take that Queeny girl for example, crying and accusing a guy of rape only for us to find out that she's a cheap prosttii who over-priced her used up psleeve

Queeny does not represent all the females in the compound where she lives, not to talk all the females in Nigeria.

The basis for your bias is pointless.

ImaIma1:


Queeny does not represent all the females in the compound where she lives, not to talk all the females in Nigeria.

The basis for your bias is pointless.

She's an example love
Please learn the art of basic comprehension.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Isn't that the new age and woke form of marriage?

Wife is not obligated to host her husband's guest; husband is not obligated to provide or join in the setup of his home.

You wonder the difference between couples today and live-in sex partners.

Going by the wailing here, the sex is not even that great.

@bolded, I remember the attacks and side-talks I got on that thread from the female folks for condemning the woman's action.

Thankfully, I don't contradict my views.

wisdomiskey:


She's an example love
Please learn the art of basic comprehension.

Using her as an example helps with the narrative you like to believe. So, carry on with your loathe. Just make sure it trickles down to your female loved ones. Don't be partial sweety.

ImaIma1:
In marriage, "they" say "don't start what you can't finish".

Maybe you have shown him that you can afford to handle the things in the house and so he doesn't need to spend his money.

You need to start demanding money from him. If you need to buy things for the kids, give him a list. Let him get involved. Share the expenses and push to make sure he fulfils his own part.

From the way you have described him, the best thing might be to tell him that you got a pay cut. But you said you cannot lie. Ask yourself...what is he using his money for?

He is your husband. There must be a way you can get through to him. That mentality he has about a woman handling things is a convenient one for him and needs to be changed

u get sense

even If he has projects, he shouldn't be pouring all his money there since Kids are in the picture... my advice is make him responsible, you and the kids are his primary project! let him know he has to do it, please dont mind if you won't talk to yourselves for some days, you just must make see the need!!!
PS: you are a great woman, I really love your kinda woman!!

It is better for one to be physically poor than mentally poor, at least the physical one isn't static, but you see the mental one, sorry is always the case

You will be fine Op.

[s]

chatinent:
He may not be buying things you wished for but has other many responsibilities you really haven't noticed are numerous.


It is not easy to be a man.


Have you tired talking it over with him? .. at least hearing his own side of this handicaps?

You may be sorry to understand what he'll say.

You are doing great in remembering what is needed. Just do your best.


Marriage is beautiful where understanding stands as its citadel.

Thanks.

[/s]

You ended up saying nothing,

Op you are the head and bread winner of your home, start acting accordingly, maybe that will reset his brain.

Parents of old be breeding shameless men these days

He is so shameless he's even dragging remote with his kids, chai....

Honestly I don't understand couples fighting about money. You are suppose to be one. Are you guys going to take money and property to heaven after death?
If I am in your shoe I will buy what makes me happy in the house and ignore him. contributing to project is what I will not do. The project is important to him let him be spending his money on it. I will suggest you make it a point of saving part of your money because this guy may end up getting another woman after the project is completed. I may be wrong though

@Op; I feel your pain. Buying of things to be used in the household should not be left to only one person to do. That said, you would not be the first or last woman to be in this type of situation you are in. You now need to sit down with your husband with a pen and paper and both of you should write down what expenses each person caters for in the month. So even if a particular expense is fixed like rent, that should be included on the paper too as well as any other expenses. In that way, both of you would know the exact expenses each person pays for and then a budget can be drawn up for the month to avoid one party being burden down with more expenses than required.

Moving ahead, if for example you earn 250K per month, split your salary into 4 places as follows:

62.5k – Savings (COMPULSORY)

62.5k – Yourself

62.5k – Children’s expenses

62.5k – Miscellaneous/feeding for household/rent and other expenses

If you carry on the way you are currently going, the resentment for the situation you are in will build up so much that everything your husband does will irritate you and cause unnecessary quarrel. There is a reason why a man is the head of his house which SHOULD include providing and catering for his family both materially and otherwise.

ENOUGH SAID

notoracism:
Hi Guys,

This is really disturbing me, I do not have that dream home. How do I mean? Buying home fittings and keeping the house neat. We both work, but since we've been married my husband has refused to buy things at home. My living room has no tv as I write, this is over 2 years! I decided not to buy and it has remained so. I only bought one in the kids room. He drags remote with them atimes to watch sports!..

I bought the cushions in the living room when it has become so shameful having the old ones there, so bad that my kids were complaining they couldn't sleep on it. Talk of anything at home now, ai bought them from fans, to AC, to bed frame to whatever we have at home except the 2 mattress and they are old now. Our mattresses were in the floor until I bought the frame. Even Window blinds name whatever.

He wasn't a made man when we got married, I don't even discuss buying things at home before marriage because I thought we'd jointly make our home homely when we get married but na lie.

Even for the kids, the only thing he does is paying school fees, I pay a part too (Bus fees), after that, he doesn't care about cloths or extra items needed in school. Since we had our kids he never gives me money for kids Christmas clothes, he call them luxury. My husband went to market one time and bought them rubber shoes.

This same guy like good things oo, when it's time to go out he selects good cloths and shoes for them to wear but he can't buy them.

He once told me it's woman responsibility to take care of the home, I think his orientation about life is wrong but he is also had to convince. How do you Share the responsibility of taking care of the home married couples?

I love cute home but he doesn't. He says atimes, he doesn't mind sleeping on the floor. I have told him several times to let's jointly make the home beautiful but we'd decline. Am doing the little I can but atimes i get financially stressed. I have other responsibilities too.

Let me add, I bought even gen too after the first one we had got bad. I buy units, his excuse is he doesn't know how to buy it online. Am really getting tired and am feeling cheated. I don't know how to lie that I don't have money, he knows how w much I earn.

wisdomiskey:
Heiterkeit has logged in. . Let the trolling and fake likes begin!

Fake likes? Lmao, a like is a like, why does number of likes hurt you guys so much? It's an online forum for Pete's sake, does it add or subtract anything to your existence? Lol.

fuckaholic25:
even If he has projects, he shouldn't be pouring all his money there since Kids are in the picture... my advice is make him responsible, you and the kids are his primary project! let him know he has to do it, please dont mind if you won't talk to yourselves for some days, you just must make see the need!!!
PS: you are a great woman, I really love your kinda woman!!

The only sensible male among the wailers here.

JovialJune:



Fake likes? Lmao, a like is a like, why does number of likes hurt you guys so much? It's an online forum for Pete's sake, does it add or subtract anything to your existence? Lol.

Wetin concern you?
Are you Heiterkeit?
Is Heiterkeit you?
Abi you're still pained that I quoted you yesterday .. or perhaps it's the fact that my comment was 'liked' alongside crackhaus' but yours wasn't

Let's kuku be childish together

bukatyne:


What is your idea of comfort? What is his idea of comfort?

If you both can agree to jointly fund projects, why can't you both treat beautifying your home as a project and jointly do it?

Who benefits from the projects you jointly fund? Can you give example of these projects?

This is one of the disadvantages of 50/50 or co-sharing things to be done in the house.
Because some things can be more expensive than others, and the other spouse would feel cheated.
Sha that's their problem.

wisdomiskey:


Wetin concern you?
Are you Heiterkeit?
Is Heiterkeit you?
Abi you're still pained that I quoted you yesterday .. or perhaps it's the fact that my comment was 'liked' alongside crackhaus' but yours wasn't

Let's kuku be childish together

Haaa, how old are you again?

It seems number of likes completes your very existence and keeps you sane,

Keep being childish ok.

JovialJune:



Haaa, how old are you again?

It seems number of likes completes your very existence and keeps you sane,

Keep being childish ok.

This is rich, coming from a lying, I must belong kid like you who writes long-winded epistles for cheap acceptance..

Who no like "likes" .. oya tell me?

wisdomiskey:


This is rich, coming from a lying, I must belong kid like you who writes long-winded epistles for cheap acceptance..

Who no like "likes" .. oya tell me?

Eyah you will be fine, it seems you have no life outside nl, Pele.

JovialJune:



Eyah you will be fine, it seems you have no life outside nl, Pele.

Clearly you don't either, and that's why you're engaging jobless ol' me

wisdomiskey:


Clearly you don't either, and that's why you're engaging jobless ol' me

Wayray

JovialJune:



Wayray

All I know is that I hate those rubber shoes. Jeez! Rather buy OK than those Aboki shoes.