englishmart:
What's your reaction going to be like if you meet your brother in-law treating your sister this way?

My brother inlaw attempted this in my presence last month, na him injuries plus hospitals bills matter we still dey settle now.

What rubbish! You didn't come to our house to tell us you were looking for a punching bag.

hashtagged:


Read my post again, if he beat her unjustly he would collect back, but if she was wrong by trying to fight him first it's none of my business.

I won't even try to fight the man I can only call the police to arrest him, if she can't divorce such a man it's not my business

Do you understand English at all?

Jaqenhghar:

This doesnt surprise me. With the nonsense I see here I am not surprised.

I beg help me explain to this guy

banmee:


Do you understand English at all?

Pls just forget this argument

angelfallz:




Long and short of "my rant" is women need to be held accountable for their actions. Also, just because you Angelfrost can accept abuse and assaults both physical and verbally from women does not mean other men should. It also does not make you a "real man", rather it makes you victim. i can only imagine the abuse and assault you have had to endure, whilst you kept telling yourself you're a real man.

Brother, why all the heat??!... My definition stands sir. You don't have to like it, same way I respect your opinion (unnecessarily lengthy tho) without accepting a single word of it!

At the bold above, you have clearly shown the kind of individual you are. You obviously have way too much baggage within your soul! You need to breathe... Exhale out some of that anger before it chokes you.

The summary is below:

Real men don't beat up women except in self defense (Look this up). A man who resorts easily to violence because he is verbally insulted or feels easily emasculated by mere words needs serious anger management training. That man is not a real man!!!

I don't need you to accept, validate, or endorse this simple and universally accepted statement... You are at liberty to hold on to your ego! This is beyond what you find tasteful or distasteful. This is the real world.

Go lay even one finger on a woman who verbally abuses or lashes you from now till tomorrow, lemme see if you won't suffer the worst the law has to offer! Cheers!!!

Angelfrost:


You don't know me, or what I have done, or quite capable of doing... So, don't make assumptions or dish out worn out theories. Been there, done it all.

I move with real men, strong even dangerous individuals... We never lay even a finger on a woman!!! Domestic violence is the unerring trait of very weak and despicable men! Talking to them is okay, but sometimes, breaking a few bones gets them better educated!

I don't know you..
Do you know the man?

Sixfeetbelle:


He's right though. You are ranting.

You keep mentioning physical abuse and not once did he include that. Verbal abuse does not mean physical abuse. Stop confusing the two . If someone shouts at you, hitting them isn't it. If they hit you, then you get to hit back. Hence his 'except in self defense' line.

Edit your comment and then you'd see your error

He is a child... Leave him be. He will eventually outgrow his anger issues (Hopefully)!

uuzba:

I don't know you..
Do you know the man?

The topic of Mr. Op says "Brother In-law" na!!! Or are you not part of this thread??!

hashtagged:


Pls just forget this argument

Just so you understand, you keep saying you will let anyone put hands on your sister. Even if the person has a good reason to do so. That means you will beat up your wife if you believe you have a good reason. Who thinks like that? Under NO circumstance should any partner put hands on each other. No circumstance.

udomma1005:

E nor plenty sef, only 8 years
If you get luck make protest happen wen u dey Dia, men go break jail make u free joor.

Sense full your head

Angelfrost:


Brother, why all the heat??!... My definition stands sir. You don't have to like it, same way I respect your opinion (unnecessarily lengthy tho) without accepting a single word of it!

At the bold above, you have clearly shown the kind of individual you are. You obviously have way too much baggage within your soul! You need to breathe... Exhale out some of that anger before it chokes you.

The summary is below:

Real men don't beat up women except in self defense (Look this up). A man who resorts easily to violence because he is verbally insulted or feels easily emasculated by mere words needs serious anger management training. That man is not a real man!!!

I don't need you to accept, validate, or endorse this simple and universally accepted statement... You are at liberty to hold on to your ego! This is beyond what you find tasteful or distasteful. This is the real world.

Go lay even one finger on a woman who verbally abuses or lashes you from now till tomorrow, lemme see if you won't suffer the worst the law has to offer! Cheers!!!

you're being evasive.

At the bold above, you have clearly shown the kind of individual you are. You obviously have way too much baggage within your soul! You need to breathe... Exhale out some of that anger before it chokes you.

Sorry oga, you're the one with the baggage, if you can't even acknowledge that women should be held accountable for their actions. smh

Real men don't beat up women except in self defense (Look this up). A man who resorts easily to violence because he is verbally insulted or feels easily emasculated by mere words needs serious anger management training. That man is not a real man!!!

The man is not a real man according to you.
Again you are silent on the actions of the woman and downplaying verbal abuse/assault. A woman that resorts to verbal abuse needs serious psychological help. But of course you would never admit it would you?

Go lay even one finger on a woman who verbally abuses or lashes you from now till tomorrow, lemme see if you won't suffer the worst the law has to offer!

i am very sure the law is not silent on verbal assault. so you see, your bias won't get you anywhere. This is the real world too.

Please go back and answer my questions and stop being evasive.

Every reasonable inlaw respects his brother, sister, main/mother-in-law... there4 at d sighting any of his inlaws, he would maintain/pretend as if nothing happened. on that single respect, you take him out to chart outside d case to wave away his mine at the moment till u find out 4rm ur sister/daughter wat transpired b4 action. (i.e, u must hold ur temperament.)

Sirmuel1:



Sense full your head

Sense plus oil na him full am

seanwilliam:
If I was the one , I’ll try separate the fight amicably. I won’t even take the kids away, cos marriage people no be am.. I can’t be fighting another man in his domain .. what if I get killed in the process ?
and if someone’ slaps my mama, I will still settle it amicably. In as much as she was at fault.. and even if was not at fault, I’ll play a role of Jesus Christ , what if the opponent is much more stronger than I am? It will be a case of ‘ he beat the mother and him pikin join ‘ if instablog kon carry am we don be for us

My mom is actually a peace maker so I kinda doubt if she would get into a fight not to talk of getting beaten up .

And if my wife provokes me, I will not beat her , but I will just give her a two or three resounding slaps to make her head correct , then I’ll commot for house for two weeks straight,


I’m a lover of peace jare

honestly, i'm disappointed in you, and you call yourself a peace lover

angelfallz:


you're being evasive.


Sorry oga, you're the one with the baggage, if you can't even acknowledge that women should be held accountable for their actions. smh


The man is not a real man according to you.
Again you are silent on the actions of the woman and downplaying verbal abuse/assault. A woman that resorts to verbal abuse needs serious psychological help. But of course you would never admit it would you?


i am very sure the law is not silent on verbal assault. so you see, your bias won't get you anywhere. This is the real world too.

Please go back and answer my questions and stop being evasive.

What exactly would you like to hear other than the truth??!... Violence, physical violence should never be visited upon anyone for being verbally abusive, especially someone of inferior strength! There is no law anywhere in a civilized society that will back the physical aggressor, not a damn one. What else do you want to hear??! That it is okay for a man to go physical on a woman all because she verbally abused him??! That it is okay or lawful??!

A sassy woman can best be tamed by superior sass... That, or you simply walk away if you are the intolerant or violent type. In a marriage, I would advocate divorce where both parties can't be compatible. That is Manhood 101!

So, I repeat my query... What is all your argument about??! Where exactly do you stand??! That domestic violence is the way to tame or vent anger and frustration at an annoying, insulting, and abusive female partner??!

DollarBuddy:



My brother inlaw attempted this in my presence last month, na him injuries plus hospitals bills matter we still dey settle now.

What rubbish! You didn't come to our house to tell us you were looking for a punching bag.

My brother... Some morons are here foolishly reciting "Bro code", like wtf??! A man like you is physically abusing your sister, and you are talking up a misguided and misinterpreted Bro code!!!

Indeed, Nairaland has become a gathering of ill-bred kids who know nothing about life!

Kokaine:
the religious type .. Na my junior brothers be warriors. The older we grow, the more we just want peace and connection to God

Lol, nice one...

Angelfrost:


What exactly would you like to hear other than the truth??!... Violence, physical violence should never be visited upon anyone for being verbally abusive, especially someone of inferior strength! There is no law anywhere in a civilized society that will back the physical aggressor, not a damn one. What else do you want to hear??! That it is okay for a man to go physical on a woman all because she verbally abused him??! That it is okay or lawful??!

A sassy woman can best be tamed by superior sass... That, or you simply walk away if you are the intolerant or violent type. In a marriage, I would advocate divorce where both parties can't be compatible. That is Manhood 101!

So, I repeat my query... What is all your argument about??! Where exactly do you stand??! That domestic violence is the way to tame or vent anger and frustration at an annoying, insulting, and abusive female partner??!

What I would like to read, is you condemning verbal abuse from women.
What I would like to read, is you calling for women to be held accountable for their actions, instead defending them.
What I would like to read is you condemning and renouncing the lies you've been telling yourself about women.(women are weak, women are like that because they can't control themselves)

In fact While verbal abuse doesn’t leave physical scars, the emotional trauma can be severe and long-lasting.
So it's very annoying that you tiptoe around it and claim women that engage in such behaviours are just being women.

Also, men respond differently to verbal/physical abuse from women. So your real men mantra works only for you, it won't work for all men.

banmee:


Just so you understand, you keep saying you will let anyone put hands on your sister. Even if the person has a good reason to do so. That means you will beat up your wife if you believe you have a good reason. Who thinks like that? Under NO circumstance should any partner put hands on each other. No circumstance.

I can never hit someone, even if the person slaps me I always avoid fights. That's the reason why I won't go and fight the husband if he is beating her up unless there is a good reason to I cannot come and be doing boxer with someone for a useless reason, that's why I said I'll just call the police they would handle him

Still waiting to read brandonx's take on this...... Cos it' like he himself is a bully.

Fiscus105:


Sooooo everyone must put all blames on brother- in -law, no matter what sister do that led to fight, she should be ignored.

Is wife not frustrating a times?

Let me tell u fact, character wise, woman has 75% contribution to make her marriage work, I will indulge you to take this bitter truth to ur husband house, if you want to have peace and not ready for married and remarried.

Nobody said that a wife can never be frustrating. The point being made is that a husband is never justified to use a belt on his wife. And in front of the children. SMH. According to your logic a wife can pour boiling water on her husband in his sleep because frustration ... See the way you reason.

You are not in the position to teach me about marriage. You have disqualified yourself by justifying domestic brutality. It's your kind who have dysfunctional families.

I understand how women are... She must have said or done something that triggered this action. But not withstanding he should not have reacted whatsoever in this manner.
A wise man once said, "A strong man is not the one who can make use of his fist when he is a critical situation but the one who knows how control his anger/feelings when he finds himself in a critical situation".
Anyway if anyone tries this with my sister lasan, we'll have a talk about it as man to man

Zzor:
What a shameful comment

Watin concern you

Hathor5:


Nobody said that a wife can never be frustrating. The point being made is that a husband is never justified to use a belt on his wife. And in front of the children. SMH. According to your logic a wife can pour boiling water on her husband in his sleep because frustration ... See the way you reason.

You are not in the position to teach me about marriage. You have disqualified yourself by justifying domestic brutality. It's your kind who have dysfunctional families.

Because you re a product of dysfunction upbringing

Hathor5:


Nobody said that a wife can never be frustrating. The point being made is that a husband is never justified to use a belt on his wife. And in front of the children. SMH. According to your logic a wife can pour boiling water on her husband in his sleep because frustration ... See the way you reason.

You are not in the position to teach me about marriage. You have disqualified yourself by justifying domestic brutality. It's your kind who have dysfunctional families.

.you become a mad dog just because the other guy say woman can be frustrating a times, the way you even aggressive on issue which not real but just hear opinion from public say a lot about ur personality, I salute the poor guy that you will end up in his house.


In as much as I condemn brutality from any gender,.......in every disagreement between husband and wife, 3rd party is supposed to reprimand both parties and not to blame only man irrespectful of what wife did


You are a type that will kneel down for her pastor, 3 time before service end, but see husband as servant.

If you don't change and continue do gragra , you will have problems maritally, unless you marry woman's rapper

NasMaleeq:
only if you can beat him
and if the man is my type you'll join ur sister to pack her load inside keke napep ASAP

E don be for u be dat...sake of say if u beat me today...once I manage escape commot for ur presence....hahahahaha... u're a GONER

seanwilliam:
will just shut up and stop this nonsense jare.. look if someone’s mother slaps me without me doing no wrong , I swear to almighty that created me, I will slap her till she looses her sight .. so because a woman is an elderly person she should not have sense ? Am I not someone’s pikin too? I am a peace maker but not dumb or stupid. And if the woman’s son picks a fight with me, I will calculate fast to determine if I can beat him or not.. if yes I’ll make sure I leave him with enough bruise he will leave to show his children.. if no, I’ll pay for his beating ..



If my mama slaps someone else son just for the sake of ‘ I am a woman and I’m old’ honestly I’ll tell her sorry and we will go home in peace , provided she’s wrong .. and if she was right and I see the opponent is more powerful and influential than us, then I’ll choose to fight another day ..


Stop bringing spirituality to physical battle.. stop spoiling Nigeria .. of all the respect we Dey give elders and spirit we Dey worship , what have we achieved as country ? Don’t quote me if you have nothing reasonable to say .. good day

God bless you son. Experience with teach you someday.

NobleRace:


God bless you son. Experience with teach you someday.

Amen. learn how to address issues from practical points of view. I’m not disputing spirituality, but in this respect , it is pure whataboutery.. God bless you too.

Mckhala80:
Still waiting to read brandonx's take on this...... Cos it' like he himself is a bully.

I already dropped my opinion, I think I was the first to comment or so.
Have I bullied you before?

banmee:


Just so you understand, you keep saying you will let anyone put hands on your sister. Even if the person has a good reason to do so. That means you will beat up your wife if you believe you have a good reason. Who thinks like that? Under NO circumstance should any partner put hands on each other. No circumstance.

To beat one's wife in Naija is a norm.

Fiscus105:


.you become a mad dog just because the other guy say woman can be frustrating a times, the way you even aggressive on issue which not real but just hear opinion from public say a lot about ur personality, I salute the poor guy that you will end up in his house.


In as much as I condemn brutality from any gender,.......in every disagreement between husband and wife, 3rd party is supposed to reprimand both parties and not to blame only man irrespectful of what wife did


You are a type that will kneel down for her pastor, 3 time before service end, but see husband as servant.

If you don't change and continue do gragra , you will have problems maritally, unless you marry woman's rapper

Merry Christmas to you too.

Fiscus105:


Because I'm a product of dysfunction upbringing

Too bad!