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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Frustrated007: 10:22pm On Dec 23, 2020
Nigerian women have this exaggerated sense of self worth.
Crawl through Instagram..you will see them calling themselves names like "queen", "princess" "goddess" etc
They can overhype themselves ehnn!!!...even the ugly ones grin
gregyboy:




I dont get you so much want a white dick and mixed child lol grin grin didnt you read what she wrote that urchin are the least sort after,


With all d boibs and ass white niggas still dont want it,


I guess this your comment wasnt for me

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 10:23pm On Dec 23, 2020
milehigh06:



if you know the number of white men who date black women...you will not state the BS in here...I stay in the most mixed state in the US and for every black couple you see, you see 2 mixed couples with the women pre-dominantly black and that did surprise me...would have thought it was the other way around

The statistics suggests otherwise.

When discussing topics like this, you have to use averages and compare to other averages, not i saw black women with White's

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by codemaniacs: 10:24pm On Dec 23, 2020
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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by seunny4lif(m): 10:24pm On Dec 23, 2020
They offer nothing apart from destruction
Lucky my wife don’t have Nigerian mentality else my marriage could have been over because most of those mama for Nigeria church are useless.
They will tell how she can be enjoying herself without and been making money off you
luminouz:


Do tell me more....

I'm very very curious. Is it that the members are toxic or what?

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by luminouz(m): 10:24pm On Dec 23, 2020
Aileexa1:
I prefer the deafening silence to the despicable roads of Nigeria!

Oya let's go abroad babe

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Analyst7: 10:25pm On Dec 23, 2020
Na better thread to learn from be this no be Erica wear new pant blah blah blah

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Frustrated007: 10:26pm On Dec 23, 2020
Madam show us your white husband biko undecided undecided

Dey there dey deceive yourself undecided
milehigh06:



if you know the number of white men who date black women...you will not state the BS in here...I stay in the most mixed state in the US and for every black couple you see, you see 2 mixed couples with the women pre-dominantly black and that did surprise me...would have thought it was the other way around

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by luminouz(m): 10:26pm On Dec 23, 2020
seunny4lif:
They offer nothing apart from destruction
Lucky my wife don’t have Nigerian mentality else my marriage could have been over because most of those mama for Nigeria church are useless.
They will tell how she can be enjoying herself without and been making money off you

Are you fuqin telling me a church mama or elder would advise your wife to leave you and be collecting divorce benefits? In a church of God? shocked

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 10:27pm On Dec 23, 2020
codemaniacs:




She is telling her truth.

No she's telling the real truth.

How can you be abroad and deny this, unless you're not or probably a university Student, meaning you haven't seen much

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by marylandcakes: 10:27pm On Dec 23, 2020
Leshurr:
#1. The Silence is Deafening!
When I first arrived in the West, I was so taken aback by how quiet everywhere was. On the way out of the airport, I looked around in awe as the pristine clean roads were not littered with with hawkers, jampacked cars , numerous pedestrians and the blaring sounds of horns! - although, mega-cities like New York is an exception to the rule.  quite is nice better than the 20 churches and mosque on every street in Nigeria. With no control on noise pollution

#2. Your Neighbours & The Police: You Can Co-exist with Neighbours for Years Without Ever Saying a Word to Each Other.
In the average neighbourhood, you can't make noise anyhow. Everyone minds their business. ... The most you will get out of your neighbors is an occasional nod and smile.
Although this doesn't deter them from watching your every move through their windows... they won't hesitate to call the cops/snitch on you at any slight opportunity. Make noise and fight with your spouse anyhow and you will find police knocking at your door. in a civilised society the police is your friend. Wife beating is not accepted here like in Nigeria

#3 Raising kids in a Predominantly Black Neighbourhood Can Spell Doom.
Bullying is incessant in these communities. Gang culture, crime, violence  etc.. not necessarily true

#4. Your Child(ren) can be Taken from You.
This almost happened to a close friend of mine whose nosy neighbour called  child services on her because she heard her baby crying for a lengthy period of time. And the police actually showed up to her house to carry out a thorough investigation on the living conditions of the baby.. Thank God nothing incriminating was found..
Moral of the story: be careful with how you care for/discipline your kids when living abroad. What we call discipline in Nigeria is actually child abuse here. Nigerians are damaging their kids in Nigeria and these kids grow up and accept violence as the norm.

#5. Nigerian Churches (most RCCG branches) are Epicenters for Drama & Toxicity.
Avoid! Just Avoid! An extension of Nigeria

#6. Black (especially Nigerian women) are at the Bottom of the Food Chain; be it at the Workplace or on the Dating Scene.
Young black guys will rather date white or mixed race girls.. (may not be true for all) but my observation living in London.
...and at work, we have to work twice as hard to be respected and valued. The biggest oppressor of a black woman at work is a white woman (and in some cases, your fellow blacks).. but not a white man surprisingly.  You must be mixing in the wrong scene, there are loads of black Nigerian women at the height of their careers, no problem dating who they like with loads of confidence and will never accept bullying in any form especially at the work because they know their self worth.

#7. You will Happily Miss Home from Afar and be so Much More Invested in the Affairs of Nigeria than Those Living in Nigeria.

Need I say more? smiley It depends on what is there to miss as nothing works in that country

#8.You May Gain Weight.
Why??
Kebabs & Pizzas
Chicken and chips.
Cheap and irresistibly delicious chinese takeaways cheesy
Fish & chips
Burgers,
TGI Fridays & Nandos
Depends on the individual, loads of Nigerians go to gyms and do other forms of exercises. There are also loads of healthy takeaway choices

Important Note: This is a light hearted post and just a snippet of my experience so far living abroad.. it isn't perfect here, but I'd choose this over and over again than my experiences living in Nigeria.
My responses are also lighthearted smiley

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Keketu(m): 10:27pm On Dec 23, 2020
favor914:
Couldn’t be further from the truth, nowhere like home, that is why I am so adamant that Nnenna Kanu will beg to visit Nigeria, sooner than later he will get homesick be it 2028, the irony of life is that the same Governors he is belittling today, will be the same persons that will be pleading on his behalf in future.
good morning, shocked please pm me thank
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by PoliteActivist: 10:28pm On Dec 23, 2020
ekesoft:
Am not going to read this thread .. � I wan experience am myself

Smart. Everyone's experience tends to be different. These are generalizations

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 10:28pm On Dec 23, 2020
[quote author=gregyboy post=97369037][/quote]

because I am at work...wow...sorry for stating the obvious
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by seunny4lif(m): 10:28pm On Dec 23, 2020
Nigeria churches abroad is meant for show off
Who own the biggest car while most of them live in council homes.
Be a single mom abroad earn you well
luminouz:


How exactly do they ruin marriages bro?

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by SeriouslySense(m): 10:28pm On Dec 23, 2020
Really, me too, i don't go to the Nigerian church, they are okay, but i don't want drama, can they stop been so dramatic in the Nigerian church's and more matured, I just enjoy staying on my own. No drama, but does not mean i don't care for others. cheesy cheesy cheesy
Newman20:
#5 is so true.
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by ednut1(m): 10:30pm On Dec 23, 2020
SavageBoy:


Did you read and understand what she wrote in the last paragraph?...especially what she wrote in the last two lines of her post

You had better worked on your understanding and comprehension before you come and start disgracing your local government here
she was only being diplomatic with those lines. People abroad should stop complaining. If its that bad or sad come home or shut up
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by drlateef: 10:30pm On Dec 23, 2020
I know why she avoided #5. Sex scandals among pastors and members is very rife. People poke nose in each other’s affairs. Snitching is common especially if people get to know your immigration status as wobbly.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by ednut1(m): 10:30pm On Dec 23, 2020
jajeri3216:


You live in Canada but still don't understand how the world works?

Na wa oh.
why not tell us how it works. Abeg get off my mention
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 10:31pm On Dec 23, 2020
luminouz:


Oya let's go abroad babe

I'm coming, let me pack first
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by codemaniacs: 10:32pm On Dec 23, 2020
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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Midastorch(m): 10:32pm On Dec 23, 2020
Leshurr:
#1. The Silence is Deafening!
When I first arrived in the West, I was so taken aback by how quiet everywhere was. On the way out of the airport, I looked around in awe as the pristine clean roads were not littered with with hawkers, jampacked cars , numerous pedestrians and the blaring sounds of horns! - although, mega-cities like New York is an exception to the rule. 

#2. Your Neighbours & The Police: You Can Co-exist with Neighbours for Years Without Ever Saying a Word to Each Other.
In the average neighbourhood, you can't make noise anyhow. Everyone minds their business. ... The most you will get out of your neighbors is an occasional nod and smile.
Although this doesn't deter them from watching your every move through their windows... they won't hesitate to call the cops/snitch on you at any slight opportunity. Make noise and fight with your spouse anyhow and you will find police knocking at your door.

#3 Raising kids in a Predominantly Black Neighbourhood Can Spell Doom.
Bullying is incessant in these communities. Gang culture, crime, violence  etc..

#4. Your Child(ren) can be Taken from You.
This almost happened to a close friend of mine whose nosy neighbour called  child services on her because she heard her baby crying for a lengthy period of time. And the police actually showed up to her house to carry out a thorough investigation on the living conditions of the baby.. Thank God nothing incriminating was found..
Moral of the story: be careful with how you care for/discipline your kids when living abroad.

#5. Nigerian Churches (most RCCG branches) are Epicenters for Drama & Toxicity.
Avoid! Just Avoid!

#6. Black (especially Nigerian women) are at the Bottom of the Food Chain; be it at the Workplace or on the Dating Scene.
Young black guys will rather date white or mixed race girls.. (may not be true for all) but my observation living in London.
...and at work, we have to work twice as hard to be respected and valued. The biggest oppressor of a black woman at work is a white woman (and in some cases, your fellow blacks).. but not a white man surprisingly. 

#7. You will Happily Miss Home from Afar and be so Much More Invested in the Affairs of Nigeria than Those Living in Nigeria.

Need I say more? smiley

#8.You May Gain Weight.
Why??
Kebabs & Pizzas
Chicken and chips.
Cheap and irresistibly delicious chinese takeaways cheesy
Fish & chips
Burgers,
TGI Fridays & Nandos

Important Note: This is a light hearted post and just a snippet of my experience so far living abroad.. it isn't perfect here, but I'd choose this over and over again than my experiences living in Nigeria.

Keep being the intelligent woman you are, how's your second girl I’m sure she’s fine........ Even if it’s the fact that I will have light in my house as much as I want, nothing will make me pick Nigeria over America or Europe if I have a choice but guess what we die here (Nigeria) D cheesy cheesycheesy

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by madridsta007(m): 10:32pm On Dec 23, 2020
Leshurr:


My point is, you would think white men would be the biggest perpetrators of racism and oppression in the workplace but in actual reality, white women are...
...and your fellow blacks will never have your back.

It is a dog-eat-dog society for the Blacks in the West.
Eaten by their fellow Blacks.

My advice to Nigerians who go abroad is: As much as possible, live a quiet, non-flashy, very simple life. Avoiding your fellow Nigerians is practically impossible. So do not live a flashy, loud life; do not throw your success in their face; do not attend every party and event you go to. Be "controversial". Do not form or join a click. This is hard as this is so unNigerian, but this will get you out of a lot of trouble. Blacks, especially Nigerians, can be so jealous and wouldnt fail to set you up if they have the chance.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Faithful007: 10:32pm On Dec 23, 2020
Nigerians come and hear the truth now oh

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by gregyboy(m): 10:33pm On Dec 23, 2020
Frustrated007:
Nigerian women have this exaggerated sense of self worth.
Crawl through Instagram..you will see them calling themselves names like "queen", "princess" "goddess" etc
They can overhype themselves ehnn!!!...even the ugly ones grin


I still like nigerian ladies but their attitudes is what other people cant cope with outside nigeria


Guess who made them so, we nigerian men

Anything our women are is just a shadow of we men.....

If our women are downgraded outside, who do u think feel d insult, is we nigerian men that shoulders the humiliation

Nigerian men are still one of d least sort after, too in the western world

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 10:33pm On Dec 23, 2020
ednut1:
why not tell us how it works. Abeg get off my mention

Trash, as if your mentions put dough in my pocket.

undecided

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Asianjollof007: 10:33pm On Dec 23, 2020
God when?
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Ugosample(m): 10:33pm On Dec 23, 2020
The OP is right

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