bukatyne:


Bros 22 yr old is old enough to marry na

Her mates are done with their kids.

Seriously, she was wrong for not informing you before the visit.

She should have said 'Brother, a male friend of mine wants to visit me here.'

Na you go kana say na her boyfriend.

This would have prepared you to engage him as baba Iyawo.

I want to assume he is serious that's why he can visit her in your home.

However, I don't understand the part of entering the room for three hours.

Surely, they are not stupid enough to have sex in your house?

Let madam talk to her so she learns how to behave next time. That way, you also make an impact in her life.

Merry Christmas.

lekonso:

the girl is his niece, his sister's daughter

wwwkaycom:
My niece came visiting for Christmas, I was so glad to have her with us since yesterday. She'll be leaving on Sunday.

We came back from our church programme today and just as we were finishing lunch, this young guy just knocked on the door and my niece Shola went to open the door for him. He came in and she just introduced him casually as Clement, her boyfriend. She led him straight to her room and were there for like 3 hours before the guy left.

I felt insulted and irritated by her action but my wife would not allow me to say anything. She said I will talk to her angrily, she however promised to call her and counsel her gently before bed this night. That must be the kind of rubbish she has been doing in her school because I know she won't even dare it with her parent. She has been telling me her mum especially is high handed and just too tough for her liking.

I'm still not so happy because of my wife's action, or am I been too old school or archaic?

extol1:

was it the first time that your sister's ex came to your house that he went straight into your sister's room

cayorday89:
If we are to go by people's comment here, most of them don't commit such sin, it's more complex than we think, the only offence I see here is her not informing her uncle prior to the guys arrival. And they must have settled for the bedroom for reasons best known to her. And please dear uncle for the sake of your children, don't act this way considering her age and level of education.. I know what my parent's high handedness has caused us the children now, they are practically begging us to bring intending partners home but all of our lives, we were not allowed to associate with people not even family members and neighbours who move with opposite sex are seen labeled all sort, now those ones are married and we are struggling to unlearn all the holy holy habits enforced on us.

Professorcplus:

I can perfectly relate. Recently, I visited my childhood family for Christmas. And I realized my holy holy friend then is now on street vibe. His parents knows he has a girl friend. The girl even came to parent house and straight to the room. Even on gen o. While we were all outside and parlour gisting. He was in the room making love sometimes.

On Christmas day she come as usual and met me in the room with her bf. She was like haa, your friend can not even hug me very well. Why is he shy to feed me? He can't look at my eye ball. This your friend must be deeper life or mfm? I don't even know what gave her the perception that I am a church boy. I I couldn't resist the heat, I left then to continue their romance. While I was in the palour thinking about my relationship life.

Just like my family background, you can't move with bad boys in quote and girlfriend/boyfriend is a sin. No sex education between teenage and parents. But out of the blues, they will tell you to just bring partner/wife. Even though I haven't gotten to that stage, I am sure they can't even have such odasity to tell me such.

No Manual to relationship, it depends on the family background and ideology. Simple.

wwwkaycom:
My niece came visiting for Christmas, I was so glad to have her with us since yesterday. She'll be leaving on Sunday.

Professorcplus:

I can perfectly relate. Recently, I visited my childhood family for Christmas. And I realized my holy holy friend then is now on street vibe. His parents knows he has a girl friend. The girl even came to parent house and straight to the room. Even on gen o. While we were all outside and parlour gisting. He was in the room making love sometimes.

On Christmas day she come as usual and met me in the room with her bf. She was like haa, your friend can not even hug me very well. Why is he shy to feed me? He can't look at my eye ball. This your friend must be deeper life or mfm? I don't even know what gave her the perception that I am a church boy. I I couldn't resist the heat, I left then to continue their romance. While I was in the palour thinking about my relationship life.

Just like my family background, you can't move with bad boys in quote and girlfriend/boyfriend is a sin. No sex education between teenage and parents. But out of the blues, they will tell you to just bring partner/wife. Even though I haven't gotten to that stage, I am sure they can't even have such odasity to tell me such.

No Manual to relationship, it depends on the family background and ideology. Simple.

mariahAngel:


This your comment reveals the different dynamics in family, upbringing, and culture.

In an Igbo family, what the op's niece did would've been outrageously disrespectful and shameless! Regardless of how old she is.

BluntNigerian:
I need a sincere reply from you....
..
How good does this niece of yours rapport with your wife before the visit??
I mean,, do they relate very very well like tight friends or something??
..
Your answer to the question above can help us fix some dots in the story.

mariahAngel:


This your comment reveals the different dynamics in family, upbringing, and culture.

In an Igbo family, what the op's niece did would've been outrageously disrespectful and shameless! Regardless of how old she is.

HerCuteness:
her mates are done with their kids at 22, aunty take it easy na, wetin happen

Cryptofxt10:


This is a very nice comment and I appreciate it... It shows maturity and diplomacy