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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by dejol88: 7:45pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
AdaNri1:Abduction? How? For taking his biological kids? The only crime if any is if he forged any document and not abduction. How will you proof that in court? 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Ten06(m): 7:46pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
No husband will run away with children if the wife is a good wife. He is alcoholic, he is this and that. Who made him so? As a bachelor, If he was like the way you described him, would you have married him? 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Openbusiness: 7:48pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
JustforMen:if you want to see who is being crazy, then I suggest you look in the mirror cuz from your comment I can see that you must be very MAD. Matthew 1: 1 An account of the genealogy* of Jesus the Messiah,* the son of David, the son of Abraham. From the human genealogy of Jesus given above, didn't his lineage come from Joseph his "father", or did you see his mother Mary's lineage attributed to him? Mtchwwwww!!! |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by UDUJ(m): 7:48pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Openbusiness: You just dey burst mynd44 head with all these praisings, but truth be told the dude is a hardworking moderator sha. You have to give that to him. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by tradepunter: 7:54pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Lady we can help you find him and get the kids for you. First utilize the legal channels available to before we can come in, all the best. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by madridsta007(m): 7:56pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
TemiBami2020: I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home. This was why he did what he did. You threatened him. Men and women do not like threats and when you show someone that you have the capacity to get a threat done, they preempt you and work behind you to oppose what you are planning to do. Whether you have planned it or is a mere threat is irrelevant. That you've spoken it is enough for them to act. As for your kids and your husband, better reach out to the relatives. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by InvertedHammer: 8:00pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
femi4:/ Isn't it obvious that she was not involved in her family? She was busy frolicking around while her family was in jeopardy. \ 4 Likes |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by bepositive11: 8:05pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
I'm sorry that this happened to you. Just ignore those people assuming that you're a bad wife -- they don't even know you or the full story. No one deserves this. No one is perfect. If there were issues on your side or his side, it should have been resolved. Mothers have a very powerful bond with their children. I would run mad if this happened to me. Those commenting in favour of your husband need to learn to put themselves in other people's shoes. If their spouse did it to them, they wouldn't be able to handle it. I don't have any helpful advice to offer, but I hope that this gets resolved. All the best! 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by InvertedHammer: 8:07pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
humilitypays:/ She is volunteering to help while infact she is planning to throw fuel into the fire. Such toxic women search out for others to lead astray. Let her go ahead and work with the AdaNri1 of a lady. I give it 6 months and she will open another thread for lamentations. / 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by jahlove4jah: 8:07pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
thesicilian: Things happens. A close relative experienced exactly this sane senario last ten years. But in her case it was just the husband that left. 10 years and he is still not home So let's not be quick to conclude. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Openbusiness: 8:08pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
UDUJ:Honestly, i'm not trying to praise him. I'm just being factual and honest. He is the most objective and neutral moderator on Nairaland. The rest of the bunch are mostly biased or have vested interests. Let me give you a simple example of his neutrality. If 10 people create a thread on the same topic, maybe like a news in politics section, he will check all those threads and the person that first posted the news, as per the earliest time, that's the thread he will push to front page. That is unique to him. Even when it comes to mediating between conflicting parties, yes the "human" factor can come in sometimes, but he's mostly objective in most situations and he doesn't show favoritism or this clique is my clique so let me use my mod privilege to suppress the other voices or not even the level playing field etc. But some other mods here, all kinds of bias and stuff. Also most of the relevant useful meaningful topics that hit front page, na him dey push am there. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Gokoyer0(m): 8:09pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
When the father being deported, can you tell me what will be the fate of their 3 kids? GboyegaD: |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by humilitypays(m): 8:11pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
InvertedHammer:feminists coven 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by humilitypays(m): 8:13pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Openbusiness:Mynd44 is a tribal bigot like me, so take it easy oh |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by babwilms(m): 8:13pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Madam, I have seen this almost happen to a cousin of mine before. My cousin contacted the US Embassy when she got wind of what her husband was doing with the kids without her consent. Even fake divorce join. Infact every thing was almost complete. The US Embassy had to send someone down to my my Uncles place to verify things with my cousin with the children present. The guy has been banned from the US now. He appearantly has a girl friend in the US doing the whole processing together. Fake documents inclusive ( fake divorce) My advice is that you contact the UK consular office in Nigeria and make an official complain and seek their advice on what to do next. Trust me they will look for those children and get to the root of the matter. It will take time and it is equally exhaustive. Dont give up. Also you need to act fast, the longer you leave those kids the harder it becomes to get them back. My mother did the same to my son, she would not give me my son back when we wanted him to come back to Nigeria to stay with us. The boy had stayed with her for close to 3 years and she would not allow us to talk to him f9r close to a year. O boy, i returned to the UK sharply, resign my good job for Naija. Even at that it took almost two years of legal battle to get my son back to stay with us his parents. It was not funny. Act fast if you are reading this message and dont inform his family members. What you need now a loyal and supportive friends. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by ghettochild(m): 8:14pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
TemiBami2020:He didn't go to uk o.. he's in Nigeria.. He no go even fit enter UK this time |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by debbydams(f): 8:15pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
TemiBami2020:ma'am why not going to church ⛪️ nd. Seek God he alone can do it.. Nd get a good man of God that assist in prayers.. If your story is real can u send pm.. Mayb I cn help u ma but if u b man no send pm o..just felt bad for u..God cn do all things.. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by AfroKnight: 8:15pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
One sided story. The man is running away from something he considers a threat to his peace or his life. 5 Likes |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by cho25bc(f): 8:16pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Zzor: This is not the same zzor that i know. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by MrFly(m): 8:18pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
he gave u a full dose of what u wanted giving him. Ur a bad wife without being told! |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by onome2013: 8:19pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
You left for work maybe around 6.30am, and returned back by 7.30am . Does it means till when you got home , there was no call from to check the children's well being?that should have given you a signal on what was happening. You are also near bad mother. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by adanny01(m): 8:20pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
tidalstorm: True talk, the marriage was over long before he got papers for him and the kids. Whatever the case may be, that a well laid plan was executed so well means op has been living a lie for a long time while being oblivious of her real problems. Despite op's faults, the hubby is clearly a weak and bad man. Some how I feel he orchestrated the plan in part to punish and frustrate his wife and not for good intentions for the kids. His actions is completely out of order, he can be sued or deported for this. It is abduction which ever way it looks. What happens to divorce? He had the option of doing it legally but didn't which means he is not doing it for best intentions. I think if he went to court with clean hands, he can get the kids with plans to give them a good life abroad. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by PointZerom: 8:24pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Zzor: I agree with you till eternity. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by ladywise: 8:27pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
This is your opportunity to repent from your wicked ways and give your life to Christ. Second ask your husband forgiveness and get ready to submit yourself totally to him. Follow all these in a peaceful way. Forget police. Pray seriously. Especially pray for self control and good character. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by DEBJOCH1(m): 8:28pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
" I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home" . Madam, I am also a married man with children, you won't keep threatening me as a wife with such a word as such up, and you expect me to keep calm. Think very very well the fault may be from you. |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by humilitypays(m): 8:29pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Openbusiness:Mynd Na Buhari when it comes to tribalism and nepotism bro, he is our Supreme Leader in that regard. Anytime u hear that militants blew up his thatch house, Na because of his anti Igbo stance |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by tit(f): 8:32pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
humilitypays: Is the Dominique that gave that advise a witch? |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by joyousever(f): 8:34pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
You're a lady, don't be too hasty with conclusions you know nothing about. She's in a situation right now, as a fellow woman, you should be empathetic with words of consolation, that's if you must comment or better still pass, if you've got nothing sensible to say. Zzor: |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by toboy: 8:36pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Chai! OP Your situation just made me think up a similar sad story we had here in Montreal! A man abducted his two kids and after days of searching, they found the kids dead and the man no where to be found. It sounds like your husband is dealing with tough issues and then you threatened him on top of it with sth he holds dear. My piece of advice is to deal with a situation like this by seeing your husband as someone who need help and affection. A lot men go crazy about the idea of loosing thier Family and having to restart from zero. You can begin with connecting with your husband families or close friends and explain the situation. work together to make sure the children are safe first and that your husband understands they are his children and no body is taking them away from him. Please, don't threaten him he may not even mentally stable as we're speaking. If you find out where he is or is able to connect with him, approach it softly, tell him you're sorry about what you said, you love him, and didn't mean to threaten him that way. Keep your personal problems aside, you really needs to manage this amicably for the sake of the children. I'd recommend you ignore people asking you to put more on fire on this so no one is hurt. Also think long term, imagine if this done forcefully and he has to go to jail for it. He may plan a retaliation attack. It's really important that could dialogue and iron problem out peacefully. People can part ways in peace and with respect and proper arrangement if it no longer working. Na was oo, I have never experienced this sort of thing but it looks very worrying. Good luck Dear, praying it turns out well 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Openbusiness: 8:40pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
InvertedHammer:Guy those evening newspapers gang need new members na, to keep their inflated balloon ego afloat to carry the load of sadness, bitterness and frustration and loneliness hanging on their necks. When they see a happily married woman, they are not happy. How dare she have a husband that she submits to? When they see a marriage with issues, they jump out like a pack of hungry wolves ready to help their new prospective recruit tear whatever is left of her marriage into pieces so she can join their club of frustrated man-haters. They can't get a man, and even if they get one, they can't keep him cuz they are toxic mannerless low IQ females, so everyone else must suffer and be blamed for it. As if we send u msg. All the married women out there that have a man to call the head of their home, may God continue to bless your union and make your bond stronger and give you more wisdom to understand and appreciate your man as the head of your family and know your role as his deputy, not Co-captain, not 2nd President but DEPUTY. Una go dey love oh , Don't mind all these frustrated ones that call themselves evening newspapers, they will be more than happy to help you destroy your marriage 5 Likes |
Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by YelloweWest: 8:44pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
Mad man. Go to British council and file a complaint of kidnapping. He has no right to do that without your consent. |
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