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Eeyahhh Pele oOo... But inasmuch as you've said all these, we'll still wait to hear from you husband sha...e get why

Lol 1 case out of millions. What about all those women who ran abroad with the children without spousal consent, how many of such women were deported. Hahahahahaha

Righteousness2:


Is this a movie or For Real?

If it is For Real, Don't run mad.
Calm yourself down. Try all the Possible contacts you can to get Him on phone to know What really is on Ground.

Possibly make a Complaint to His Parents, the Nigerian police and the British Embassy.

Prayers will be your Main key in these times..

Prayers can control him and bring him back with your kids the same way he left.

Be Calm! Stay Calm!
Don't create tension for yourself..

Prayers? Rubbish.

TemiBami2020:
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?


Modified For those saying I'm a bad wife, I'm not. I've been very supportive in a every way a wife can be. I've lived in both physical and verbal abusive marriage within the last 10years of my life. He's a violent man, adulterous, alcoholic and a fervent smoker. He gets drunk and get home and beat me up Infront of the children unprovoked. I have evidences and witnesses

I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home.

So sorry madam.

Please first do a self check and point to yourself your own faults, if possible seek advice from someone who will tell you what bad things you did to deserve such treatment.

Secondly, your husband was wrong I admit. You don't want to make more of a mess than it is already. Be bold and get your husband to the dialogue table.

Thirdly, your first priority at this time should be their welfare, then find out his plan for the kids and how you can come into the plan. Finally, ask him to make things right by either saving what is left of the marriage or divorce.

At this point, hold off any court, human rights, NGO, embassy or police case till you can't get his family to get him to talk. Give the family a dateline when you will report to relevant agencies.

This is such a horrible terrible thing to do to a mother. I can't begin to imagine how hurt you've been Op. Carrying 3 pregnancies, raising and nurturing your babies only for your life partner to run away with them. No matter how someone has wronged you, this is just too cruel

Get a lawyer asap! Nairaland isn't the best place to seek for advice.

TemiBami2020:
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?


Modified For those saying I'm a bad wife, I'm not. I've been very supportive in a every way a wife can be. I've lived in both physical and verbal abusive marriage within the last 10years of my life. He's a violent man, adulterous, alcoholic and a fervent smoker. He gets drunk and get home and beat me up Infront of the children unprovoked. I have evidences and witnesses

I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home.

Pray seriously against this marine spirits.
Giant Half man half fish.

This wicked spirits is the course of your problem.

And he is married to most women here on Earth. Both married and unmarried women.

Pray seriously against this wicked marine spirits.

Harrykn:
Mad oh
Mad oh
Who get US Embassy customer service number help a sister.

But sister oh, what's this thing that made your hubby [del]absconded [/del] Travelled w_o_you?

I work with US embassy here in abuja we've had similar case like that. let her go to UK consular in Lagos or come to UK High commission here in abuja to repot the issue. They'll help her.

Perfectsouth:
This man just used my masterplan..
I need to device other means to go about mine without her even having a say at all.

Shares of ups and down my left yansh..
Only God knows the hell that man has been through, now he is free...
Smart man, he would have been planning this for a while and believe while he was planning this, he will be in his best behavior and even be the best husband to his wife just to make his plans a success

That's my plan also I need to japa and leave this country sharp sharp

Hmmmmmmmm

If you get those papers and they deport him back here madam you're not safe it's either you find your way out of the country or find a way to reach him and you guys can talk ....d man that travel with his kids without telling you na him u wan call back here ...it's very dangerous for your life and at the end your kids will turn stray dogs

Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who loves his family, I hate women who treats Good men badly.

This is the most sensible advice you've given lately. More of this always!

Zzor:
That man is a good man,I can see through her post

More like the zzor I know.

Go to the embassy to file a complaint asap. Make sure you have his picture and that of your children as well.
You don't own anyone any explanation about your marriage on this platform.

Do you've pictures of your kids? Are you legally married? Do you have all the papers to your kids births call uk high commission, they can track him down with his passport number and visa no panic

TemiBami2020:


They left Nigeria for the UK. His brother said he was able to reach him and he said he's not out for divorce. But I know the deceptive part of him. I lived with him for 10years.I just didn't know he could pull this kind of stunt.

Deceptive how? What did u do? People don’t act this way all of a sudden So what transpired btwn u guys lately or this year. The clue is always there bt I understand u may not want to say it.

Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who loves his family, I hate women who treats Good men badly.

No be your gender again? If the man is beating the hell out of her she will have stayed and endure it

Draslo:

Please release the account back to the owner. Zzor would never type this.

Haha

TemiBami2020:
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?


Modified For those saying I'm a bad wife, I'm not. I've been very supportive in a every way a wife can be. I've lived in both physical and verbal abusive marriage within the last 10years of my life. He's a violent man, adulterous, alcoholic and a fervent smoker. He gets drunk and get home and beat me up Infront of the children unprovoked. I have evidences and witnesses

I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home.

Madam ur a chronic liar.A bad wife will never admit she is.For a man to runaway with his kids,madam e get y can ur consience will judge u if ur d reason.Honestly madam,just move on with ur life

TemiBami2020:
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?


Modified For those saying I'm a bad wife, I'm not. I've been very supportive in a every way a wife can be. I've lived in both physical and verbal abusive marriage within the last 10years of my life. He's a violent man, adulterous, alcoholic and a fervent smoker. He gets drunk and get home and beat me up Infront of the children unprovoked. I have evidences and witnesses

I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home.

Op, I really empathize with you. This must be disconcerting but please try to relax so your next move wouldn't aggravate the situation. Don't be quick to rush to the British Commission. Consider your condition and that of the kids, ask the right questions.

If your kids are brought back, can you cater for them without chasing their father for support?

If the kids are better off in the UK, could you have visitation rights and all? Would it be better if you could co-parent long distance?

If after considering everything and your best option is to approach the British Commission, then do so by all means. May God strengthen you at this time.

Your husband is a very mean man. An act like this could destroy a mother completely. Shame on all those who support this disgraceful demonic act.

Op please try to establish communication with the man through his family especially. They probably knew of his plan but regardless, an amicable solution can still be reached. Hopefully, there are reasonable people in that family that can influence him. You don't have to stay married to raise your children. God help you.

if this your write-up is truth forget it you don't pay attentions to your kids how can a man plan all this without any of your kids telling you..u see your life..

Is your husband a UK citizen?

TemiBami2020:
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?


Modified For those saying I'm a bad wife, I'm not. I've been very supportive in a every way a wife can be. I've lived in both physical and verbal abusive marriage within the last 10years of my life. He's a violent man, adulterous, alcoholic and a fervent smoker. He gets drunk and get home and beat me up Infront of the children unprovoked. I have evidences and witnesses

I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home.

I wish you had turned the story around. Pretend to be a man whose wife abducted the kids and went to the UK. You would have received more help and information from people here.
Most of the members of this forum do not think much of women, including women.

I also want to add this:

1) No matter whether you are the worst wife on earth, does not give anyone right to take your biological kids from you without your consent.
You owe no one an explanation about your marriage, I wonder why you included details about your marriage. Seriously that was uncalled for. The embassy knows that.the rules, so go find out whether a consent may have being faked on your behalf.

2) Stop involving his family members with your next plans. You need to contact an expert/lawyer immediately cos your life may be in danger. If a death certificate was faked for you, his family may be trailing your movement and planning to physically kill you inorder to silence you. This depends on your next move.

Gokoyer0:
When the father being deported, can you tell me what will be the fate of their 3 kids?

They will as well. The very reason why she should let him know before doing such so that they can have a discussion about the situation.

If truly he did that without the wife's consent,that is kidnapping. That alone is his crime, whatever reasons for that, judge won't hear.

Zzor:
That man is a good man,I can see through her post

don't say so!!everybody with there weakness...

Mynd44:

You know you are defending a crime right? No matter what the wife might have done, the best thing is to get a divorce, file for custody and then travel. What he has done is wrong.

OP, make sure he is in the UK, find out more like passport number and address then approach the police and British embassy. He will be deported

So that the kids will come and suffer in this shithole country.
Instead of u to advise the woman to make peace with the man through the man's family and go get her visa too.
Na wa for una

debbydams:
Hummm..something is not right here ma'am, just calm down for now, give it two days before taking any actions.. No man will do that if the wife is good to him, if u are a good wife as u claim to be your hubby is Nigeria �� probably wants to give u April Fool in dec nd if u are bad wife pls leave those kids let them enjoy abroad abeg.. Nd find a way to reconcile with your hubby..

I try to get in touch with you,but I don't know,how to reach you!!!I hope you feel better now

Olaideolayemi:
I try to get in touch with you,but I don't know,how to reach you!!!I hope you feel better now

yes.thanks

AltCtrlDel:
I'm a man but men are scum


You guys should stop criticising the OP. Be sensitive and consider her mental health.

If y'all can't render any meaningful advice or directions then read and move on

including your dad