I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

you and your mother are too hungry. Respect and courtesy >> gift.

Dis is the problem,with many relationships in nigeria..ur mum was expecting him to come with big bread,milo and milk.ur mum acted wrongly.dis is just a boyfriend and not ur husband.

stupidmod2:
hungry will no kill u n ur mother, entitlement go disgrace u n her.


mature woman like u sense u no get.
be listening to mummy there till u turn 40 mumu

must you be insulting? With the way you sound, u re not responsible and reasonable enough, so your opinion doesn't count

Lol more examples of the independent women that cococandy and co have been preaching about that litter everywhere in Nigeria.
One was even telling me yesterday how U25 women with good careers are everywhere in Naija,that I should change my circle
She almost stab her fiance because the guy no buy her mama bread.
Can you believe this?
Imagine what will happen if you marry his one and somehow forget to drop food money in the morning...

Miarose:
you and your mother are too hungry. Respect and courtesy >> gift.

We are Africans. Let us be honest with ourselves.

A man going alone to visit his would-be mother in-law empty handed is a red flag. Something to worry about.
What was the purpose of the visit?
Even as a female, it is still wrong to go visit the mother of the man you're going to marry empty handed.

Your mentality and that of your mum is so annoying, to think that you had to even call him him instead of talking sense to your mum is the height of it all.

Chujor1634:
Your mentality and that of your mum is so annoying, to think that you had to even call him him instead of talking sense to your mum is the height of it all.

Swears
I always tell people to avoid poor women as much as possible,it's for reason like this.
Personally I'd rather die single than have anything to do with this class of women.
Bread for that matter,Ha!

Trayceey:
must

Was that his first time of visiting?

Trayceey:
My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around. When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink. Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up. Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

No offense o, but be offended all u want.
You and ur mama need deliverance .
Contact me for recommendations.

If the guy marries u, each visit to your mum will now cost him a cow and a new house shebi?
That he even went to greet her which is the highlight that deserves accolades suddenly gets swept under d carpet. U proceeded to hang up call on him.
Now ur seeking justification publicly.

If u want to enjoy ur marriage in d future when u don marry eh babes, no be everything momsi talk u go swallow.


(((According to her it wasn't even his first visit and he did take something along the very first time.
Una don see as person dey open door for wahala?)))

Mariangeles:


We are Africans. Let us be honest with ourselves.

A man going alone to visit his would-be mother in-law empty handed is a red flag. Something to worry about.
What was the purpose of the visit?
Even as a female, it is still wrong to go visit the mother of the man you're going to marry empty handed.

This post and iberibe.

Now I see why Africans are tot to live on trees like monkeys.
The young man truly deserves better.
His good behavior and other characteristics a mother would want for her daughter should be overlooked and replaced with his inability to bring stuff she will shit out next morning abi?
They ain't married yet o?
I was even expecting to see her say she sided her bf on d matter but now it has turned to serious beef.
Aunty will loose a good man and you are blaming being Africa for this irrational behaviour?
She should go and apologize to him, the boy owes her mom nothing! Not at least till marriage is sure.
He is manly to have even visited the woman.
Wherever he is may good fortunes locate him.

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GayPontiff:




This post and iberibe.

Now I see why Africans are tot to live on trees like monkeys.

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Lol. Very funny thread. You and your mum no try. Now, the guy done try to dey japa as you and your mum have displayed leeches mentality. Your mum should be after your happiness and comfort in your marriage and not leeching your husband. Na u na Sabi Sha.

Trayceey:
I'm not a poor woman u fool. I can feed you and your entire family for ages. This is not about being poor. It's about doing the right thing that culture demands. we are Africans

Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh you want use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions keep for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation?

TransAtlanticEx:
Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh youesnt use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation?

E dey pain me pass say all these rubbish is given with the excuse that we are Africans and gift must be presented. Who enacted that stupid law?

God punish every idiiiiot that keeps dragging this race backward with their backwardness.

An apple doesn't fall far from d tree.

The guy should treat them with a ten ft pole onwards. Bonding with a woman he is looking forward to call mom is now a crime.
They don't deserve him at all.

Family of poverty and wretchedness.

Trayceey:
I'm not a poor woman u fool. I can feed you and your entire family for ages. This is not about being poor. It's about doing the right thing that culture demands. we are Africans

Traceey, we have passed that culture things. Now, everyone is trying to be careful and put somethings into test. You see, your man did nothing wrong at all.

How about he does not takes anything to your house but he gives you peace and comfort in marriage and always support if any situation arises in your own family side?

You need to think and go beg your man. So far he's a good guy to you. Somethings just need wisdom. Since he's into going to your house without buying something along. Next time, whenever he wants to go, try and meet him up and handover something to him to give them at home. Maybe as time goes on, he will get used to it. Do this with calm and good words, like you just want your family to see him as a more better good man.

All the very best.

I'm just glad the guy has left with the vibe you and your mum gave him, go and look for another guy if you think it's easy to find a man who is willing to come and see your family. i can beat my chest that you must have visited his family severally and you never gave anyone of them anything...….Nonsense

Trayceey:
I'm not a poor woman u fool. I can feed you and your entire family for ages. This is not about being poor. It's about doing the right thing that culture demands. we are Africans

aunty,this issue to worth d fight.what if ur man no get money 2 buy anything 4 her make e go collect credit?.pls go and visit ur man,settle with him then use ur money 2 buy things and give ur mum,tell her its from ur man.thats if u love the man and want things to work out.

Mariangeles:


Was that his first time of visiting?

not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

You should have never told your boyfriend what your mother said. BIG mistake!
Even if you mend the relationship with him, he will feel different about her from now on and I can't blame him.
Expecting people to always give you something every time they visit is pure greed or the result of poverty. I don't know which one it is in your case.

Trayceey:
must you be insulting? With the way you sound, u re not responsible and reasonable enough, so your opinion doesn't count

it hit ur nerves so it count, better u start taking decision on ur own. nonsense

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

It must've been that it didn't occur to him.
Apologize and make peace with him.

Please don't marry him, he will always hate your mom. You did wrong by telling him what your mom said. It wasn't his first time and he didn't go empty the first time. Your mom is greedy.

While it would have been nice and presentable for your fiance to bring something for your mum, it's not enough for your mum to be vexed and not even enough for you to call and reprimand him

If you truly want to be with him go over to his place and try to patch things up.

Meanwhile what is his financial capacity?
Just curious to know if he couldn't afford to or just didn't think it necessary.

Modified : just seeing that he has bought things for your mum previously.
You and your mum are wrong.
You shouldn't even have mentioned anything to him.

You and your mum are wrong on your actions, perhaps you have missed an opportunity of having a good husband to be. Craving for gifts is a bad omen, nothing African about that cos what if............. Advice you mum on seeking for gifts she might be selling you to a devil.

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

see ur self, soo anytime he comes he must come with something, girl see all the response u getting jeez.

REMEMBER THIS U WILL LIVE WITH HUSBAND NOT WITH YOUR MOTHER.

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

Please give me the contact of your ex fiance. He needs to be congratulated and warned against ever getting back in this toxic relationship where a stupid and non discerning Lady will disrespect him hang up on him because her mother was too greedy to appreciate common courtesy.

Nonsense and ingredients

DontBullshitMe:
Family of poverty and wretchedness.

that's your family

DontBullshitMe:
Family of poverty and wretchedness.

that's your family and not mine