Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

In summary. She's cheating. Just be careful.

That girl don dey ride that guy wey she dey call "just a friend".... dey very careful oh. No go put active olosho for house as wife oh. Except u dey equal to the task.

this is a sign of red flag which I think you won't be able to cope with in the marriage. true is I appreciate the fact you love her, but I keep telling people that love is not what you needs in marriage rather what you needs is value and respect. love is temporary while value and respect is permanent. if I must be sincere to you she is already fucking the other guy while they are not dating. I want to believe that other guy knows about your relationship with her, he might just be using her to wipe away time

Lol, that guy is phucking her na. Use your brain.

If at the end, you allow love to cloud the clear evidence starring at you, I'll advice you take her for pregnancy test before walking her down the aisle.


We don't want another DNA saga in the next 20years.

But, I might be wrong. Nothing might be going on between them. You just have to investigate in secret.

And also, fear guys they call "just a friend or bestie",. They are very dangerous and relationship dickstroyers

Dump that bitch she's cheating on you

In summary "You are in love bro

Better a broken engagement.

DICKstractor:


If at the end, you allow love to cloud the clear evidence starring at you, I'll advice you take her for pregnancy test before walking her down the aisle.


We don't want another DNA saga in the next 20years.

But, I might be wrong. Nothing might be going on between them. You just have to investigate in secret.

And also, fear guys they call "just a friend or bestie", they are dangerous and relationship dickstroyers

I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

she's fuckinggg the guy bro, leave the LovePeddler so you won't have to worry about dna. she fought to get her fone from you? that's a huge sign of a cheat hoe

Her refusing to let you have her phone is the signed of cheating so be careful don't think with your anus

The red flag has been shown to you ignore it at your own detriment

Go ahead with the wedding plan.
It will surely end in tears

Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

bro, she is deleting the messages after their chat. and u think they will just be making calls without chatting when it is not business dealing

Serene123:


I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

You don't need to be calm and let her do her wish. It will hurt later if you find out what you suspected in the past was actually true. Bless God, you guys are still in the courtship period. It's a period you tell your intended partner the kind of chaffs in their life that you cant take and you find out which you can still cope with.

If she's actually cheating, she's covering her tracks well. Have you checked her sms. The beeping radar indicates she's cheating

But as I said before, all this you thinking might be wrong. But you still need to investigate very well to clear your mind.

extol1:

bro, she is deleting the messages after their chat. and u think they will just be making calls without chatting when it is not business dealing

Not chat. I can attest to that. I secretly had her WhatsApp on my phone for like a month without her ntoitce.

I saw other chats, but not that of the guy

DICKstractor:


You don't need to be calm and let her do her wish. It will hurt later if you find out what you suspected in the past was actually true. Bless God, you guys are still in the courtship period. It's a period you tell your intended partner the kind of chaffs in their life that you cant take and you find out which you can still cope with.

If she's actually cheating, she's covering her tracks well. Have you checked her sms.

But as I said before, all this you thinking might be wrong. But you still need to investigate very well to clear your mind.

Her chats, sms, messenger all clean.

Someting happened and her WhatsApp was showing on my phone for months without her knowing. I didn't see a single chat with the guy.
Not one.

Serene123:


Her chats, sms, messenger all clean.

Someting happened and her WhatsApp was showing on my phone for months without her knowing. I didn't see a single chat with the guy.
Not one.

What's on your mind right now

extol1:

bro, she is deleting the messages after their chat. and u think they will just be making calls without chatting when it is not business dealing

As the guy talk that thing I know say na lefu lefu mumu, I won't be surprised if he still marries her.

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

Sometimes people don't realise that before you come to a point of agreeing to get hitched with another person there has to be sacrifices. She has to know that somethings have to give. She is not ready to give up a "friendship" with a Male friend(she is gaining somethin)whilst been engaged to you even though you politely told her you don't like it.

My take is that she is not mentally ready or matured to compromise on that front. So it is up to you, if it is something you want to tolerate because u love her or want to still give her time to be ready.

If you eventually marry her, na that guy go born her first child. Guy hold onto the new girl and move on....

DICKstractor:

What's on your mind right now

Confuse

Haven't seen tangible evidence against her and the guy despite hacking her phone and reading all her chats for months.

Just the call that put me off. And the call have continued for months

I am torn between believing her or just calling it off.

Mryacks:


Sometimes people don't realise that before you come to a point of agreeing to get hitched with another person there has to be sacrifices. She has to know that somethings have to give. She is not ready to give up a "friendship" with a Male friend(she is gaining somethin)whilst been engaged to you even though you politely told her you don't like it.

My take is that she is not mentally ready or matured to compromise on that front. So it is up to you, if it is something you want to tolerate because u love her or want to still give her time to be ready.

That's what I sense. But this is someone that planning the whole stuff with me. She gave me reason to put that ring on her finger.

Its already over mentally, be the first to end it.

SocialJustice:
As the guy talk that thing I know say na lefu lefu mumu, I won't be surprised if he still marries her.

Have u hacked someone WhatsApp chat b4?


If u haven't, then keep calm bro.
Whenever she is online, I get notified and read everything she is typing

I am yet to see any evidence between her and that guy.

SocialJustice:
As the guy talk that thing I know say na lefu lefu mumu, I won't be surprised if he still marries her.

and the guy is failing to admit this red flag. if he eventually marry her, there is assurance that this guy will beg this lady tire not to cheat

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

I have been there before..... ur girl knows she is about to be caged by marriage, so this is the last time she has to test another dick, before living with urs forever.


if you can, call it quits with her or better still warn the guy to keep off ur woman....take her phone and call the guy to leave ur wife alone. if she still continues, then u know what to do

extol1:

and the guy is failing to admit this red flag. if he eventually marry her, there is assurance that this guy will beg this lady tire not to cheat

He will die prematurely in the marriage for sure.

Serene123:


Have u hacked someone WhatsApp chat b4?


If u haven't, then keep calm bro.
Whenever she is online, I get notified and read everything she is typing

I am yet to see any evidence between her and that guy.

Lol, you're forming James Bond but she's a Charlie Angel that's way ahead of you.

I'll never invade a person's privacy in the name of whatever. You're also a terrible person.

I wish you the best.

Thing is, you can't just conclude yet. Get your own female friends too, just friends and see her reaction.

Serene123:


Confuse

Haven't seen tangible evidence against her and the guy despite hacking her phone and reading all her chats for months.

Just the call that put me off. And the call have continued for months

I am torn between believing her or just calling it off.

It is not easy brother, I can see that it is very difficult for you to finalize your conclusion, I can feel your pain.
I will advice you sit her down and have a concrete conversation ( you are not comfortable with the call so she must stop the relationship for your peace of mind). She can not decided to be with you and still have extra affairs. You need to clarify all these before going ahead. If she insist, you can find your way out.
Human being can be dangerous; she might have agreement with the guy not to chat nor text her.
Make all your findings before going ahead. Many women are not ready to be totally committed to a man any longer.

@ OP. That's a red flag that you should not ignore, she's been bonking the said guy big time.

Dump the public dog as fast as you can before you fall into deep sh**t... Cheats never change, they only improve on covering their tracks.

Forget love bro, think of your peace of mind, your mental health and sanity, your life as an individual person.

You can go on and marry a coded prostitute, which may end up bringing an illegitimate child into your house and life. That's if you don't die before your time... All the best bro! .