CalliDora1:
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Then maybe the man is not sweet enough or he doesn't know how to do it. Some men will stress you out during the exercise that you won't look forward to it again. I guess this could be the case if its not the former.

Some men need to work and improve on their bedmatic skills so the woman can look forward to doing the do with them anytime.

sureboykris:


Evil genius. Nice one

Kingosytex:


I think you meant cheats.

We share same belief, I detest cheats with passion, I have absolutely no second chance to give them.

mariahAngel:


Let's say we go with it:

The question is can most men of nowadays do what the men of old did?
Can they do what their grandfathers and great grandfathers did?
Can they cater for a polygamous family? Heck! They're even barely able to cater for a monogamous family, talk more of...

Na by talk?

SimplyFacts:


Thanks for clarification, Boss

Orlu15:


Which will you propose; a husband that is romantic or the one that work hard to provide for her??

bizme:
Let's not go down that particular rabbit hole. It is only people without a good knowledge of history that tries to idolize the past and paint the present in grimmer hue. In the past there were utility values for polygamy that were peculiar to that time. First, most of the households were farmers with hundreds and thousands of acres to till. The fact that there was no organized labour as it were (sometimes community arrangements existed), each man literally had to produce his own workforce in-house. In other words, there was a specific need for having several children.
Secondly, diseases like malaria, sickle disease, polio, and many communicable diseases that were not understood, were killing children in particular in droves. And surviving to adulthood literally became a game of numbers. You might start out with 10 children under the age of 5 and only 1 or 2 survived to adulthood. It is not uncommon for most grandmothers 90 years and above to tell stories of how many children they gave birth to and how many actually survived. This in particular, together with the first point, necessitated the polygamous arrangement.

Lastly, mortality rate for men was much terrible at the time, many dying from communal clashes and wars or getting raided by slave-traders. More women, much fewer men.

Polygamy served specific societal purposes and it wasn't because of sex or waning desire for sex. Most wives were circumcised, and it was generally frowned upon for a wife to enjoy sex any way.

I am setting the record straight here because that guy was incorrectly trying to paint a lofty picture of the past.

esthel:
I think you should contribute intelligently and logically. This post isn't for people like you. Mind you "All of them" includes your mother, sisters, aunties,female friends" etc so you need to watch your words.

RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.

Ishilove:

You're welcome

SirDelight:

zainabicy:
This is because after a while d man stops trying to make d woman orgasm. They take and take and take.

So after a while, we sef lose interest, children dey, work dey.

Ishilove:

I'm male...

Toks2008:


Lobatan!

zainabicy:
This is because after a while d man stops trying to make d woman orgasm. They take and take and take.

So after a while, we sef lose interest, children dey, work dey.

cococandy:
All talk and stories.

When most men get a woman who loves to have sex and do it often, they don’t know what to do with her. Insecurities come flooding.

If it weren’t so, slut-shaming women wouldn’t be a thing.

Ishilove:

What?

Toks2008:


As you don turn male lol!

CalliDora1:
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Then maybe the man is not sweet enough or he doesn't know how to do it. Some men will stress you out during the exercise that you won't look forward to it again. I guess this could be the case if its not the former.

Some men need to work and improve on their bedmatic skills so the woman can look forward to doing the do with them anytime.

RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.

Ishilove:

What?

Kingosytex:


I think you meant cheats.

We share same belief, I detest cheats with passion, I have absolutely no second chance to give them.

skywall:
I think it's mainly cus partners tend to stop putting in efforts after marriage compare to when they were in courtship. People tend to relax after marriage cus...I mean.... you've already claimed the trophy
The woman probably fell for you cus you use to call her sweet names and spend on her while you were initially dating but now that you're married you no longer do
The man also probably fell for you cus of how you used to dress sexy and neat, but after the marriage, the woman starts tying wrapper all the time like someone's grandma

[s]People gotta understand that that physical attraction is a big deal in marriage...you don't see someone and fall in love with their kindness or good heart immediately, at least not most of the time. It's the physical you see first and fall for before getting to know the person more and probably like their personality too[/s]

In summary, couples gotta continuously make effort to maintain those traits that made your partner fall in love with you