Mikester:

But you somehow don't feel safe making the decision of marrying him and I presume you also hate to be just his baby mama. You feel deep down that it might not be best to give in to him as creating this thread has shown. Ma'am if you were my relative, I would advise against giving in to him just as your actual relatives did. Drop him. There is always someone better for whoever we leave behind. That's my mind on this.

Nousername4356:


Your no 1 point is the crux of the issue. I am scared I am going against God's word by proceeding to marry him. You know divorce is very controversial. At the same time, I am not sure if I will find someone as great as this guy. This guys treats me right! Just how I want and like it

Nousername4356:


Thanks for your advice sir. God bless you

Denique:


Now that your faith has been established, I'd say DON'T...we both know why.

Although, the offer is tempting but there's more to life than monetary gains. Think about it.

Nousername4356:
Hello Fam,
Happy sunday to you all.
I am in a dilemma right now and I dont know what to do. I have been seeing a particular man for about 2yrs. All seems well with him except for the fact that he is legally divorced with 2 kids. He is all any lady could dream of but family and friends strongly advised me against marrying him. They say that it's wrong wrong choice for me, that his exwife would always be in his life since they have 2 male children together, that the exwife could even resort to fetish means,that being in Africa doesnt even help matters, that I would be at a big disadvantage.
This man loves me, adores me, respects me and puts me first in anything. I met him at one of my 'lowest' moments in life and he was like heaven sent.My church is not in support, my family and frnds feel I am too young to put myself in such a tight situation. His exwife is very quarrelsome and I dont like stress.I am scared, I dont want trouble. I dont even have that kind of tolerance level. However He is still persistent, has been for over 2years now..still promising me that nothing would go wrong. He is even offering me N10m to at least be his baby mama if I am not willing to marry him in the interim. All the while, he has respected my body when I told him I wasnt willing to have sex with him. I am 27. I am thinking of forgetting everything all together, I just am not sure of what to do....

simplepee:

Froshloaded:


Good day simplepee.
I've replied your mail

Nousername4356:


Lolz..abi make I forget everything? I feel like running away..

Nousername4356:
Hello Fam,
Happy sunday to you all.
I am in a dilemma right now and I dont know what to do. I have been seeing a particular man for about 2yrs. All seems well with him except for the fact that he is legally divorced with 2 kids. He is all any lady could dream of but family and friends strongly advised me against marrying him. They say that it's wrong wrong choice for me, that his exwife would always be in his life since they have 2 male children together, that the exwife could even resort to fetish means,that being in Africa doesnt even help matters, that I would be at a big disadvantage.
This man loves me, adores me, respects me and puts me first in anything. I met him at one of my 'lowest' moments in life and he was like heaven sent.My church is not in support, my family and frnds feel I am too young to put myself in such a tight situation. His exwife is very quarrelsome and I dont like stress.I am scared, I dont want trouble. I dont even have that kind of tolerance level. However He is still persistent, has been for over 2years now..still promising me that nothing would go wrong. He is even offering me N10m to at least be his baby mama if I am not willing to marry him in the interim. All the while, he has respected my body when I told him I wasnt willing to have sex with him. I am 27. I am thinking of forgetting everything all together, I just am not sure of what to do....

simplepee:
Oh, ok dear. Just wanna ask about something.

Froshloaded:


Go ahead ma.

simplepee:
Check your mail.

Froshloaded:


Ive replied

simplepee:
Seen. Thanks sweetie. You are a diarylander, right? I've seen you a couple of times in the section.

ImaIma1:
If part of reasons is the fact that your family and church are against marrying him, will they be in support of you being his baby mama.

Being his baby mama won't keep you from the ex wife's issues. If you are going to be with him, it's better you go all the way rather than having one leg in and one out.

What if you decide to be his mama and after a while he gets married to someone else, where does that leave you. You have to try to see 5 years from now before you make a decision.

extol1:

collect the money and be his baby mama and after come and marry me with the money

SweetCunt97:
You both can relocate. Abeg follow ur heart.

Meto1234:
My question is how old is the two children.
b4 u shook head enter, and b4 a man we offer you such amount of money just to be is babymama then he is after something else.

simplepee:
Whatever decision you make, just be very careful. And don't EVER be a baby mama to any man please.

lefulefu:
he might just be using u for cruise
become his baby mama for 10 million..ifa hear
better shine ur eye
the bros might have a sinister plan up his life

candygebs:
Marriage is full of problems, even if u marry a virgin man, the problem still go lap you, collect 10m, become baby baby. Then marry him, and face the problem. Let the money be your motivation, because if na happiness you dey find, then na fa fa fa foul. Happiness no dey there ooo. Folo money

Adeboyefa:
If you can't find an unattached man, be a side chick rather than a stepmother. Even if his ex-wife has remarried, she will want to come back if her 2nd marriage breaks up rather than go for a 3rd husband and will use her kids to drive you out. No stepmother is ticked right by her stepchildren; she is always perceived to be partial to her own kids (who are all younger than her stepchildren).