Please i really need your advise on what or who to chose. I've been a member of NL for almost a decade now and I've seen alot of people getting solution for their problem here.

I have two (2) girlfriends who are madly In love with me. The first one is a girl I've been dating for seven years plus and she has aborted six pregnancies for me (even going against her family belief/law). I met her a virgin and we started dating when we were very very young and during our dating then, we were cohabiting for those years (i'm an orphan so we lived like brother and sister) until i was posted to one of the northern states for my nysc. During my service year, i met my second girlfriend who happened to have a boyfriend too. So we were just dating for fun with the intentions to end everything after our service year, but unfortunately, the lady fell in love with me. She broke up with her guy while i was still with my own girlfriend. She started concentrating on me. After our service year, she invited me over to her state with the promise that i will get an offer very fast, i had no choice than to succumb to it with the intentions to make enough money so i can also take care of my first girlfriend because that girls has been a blessing to me and I don't think i will be able to pay her for all The sacrafices she've made for me during and after my schools days. She's very humble, faithful and loyal to bone marrow. Despite my inability to buy or take care or her, she never complained. Rather she's always praying and giving me hope for a better tomorrow. Never cheated on me as she has sworn that as long as she's with me, she will never cheat on me and she's has been keeping to that promises. Even when i went for my service, she calls to check on me almost every hour. Many guys tempted her including my young landlord, but she never fell for it. Which made my landlord to call me and advised me never to live her. She can do anything just to see me happy. Even if it requires her own happiness, she wouldn't mind. She places me incharge of everything about her and she never had a double thought about that. She believe so much in me.

My second girlfriend of 3 years plus also possessed the above mentioned attributes with some exceptions and she's older than me with almost 4 years. She's due for marriage and she has been looking unto me (although never aborted for me). Her family is after her to get married and all her age mates in her family has gotten married. She has sacrificed alot also for me hoping to see our relationship work so i can repay her someday. Although she's little more financially buoyant more than my first girlfriend due to her family stature, but i have achieved alot from my first girlfriend more than i do from her.

Note: my first gf made it possible for me to graduate due to her financial assistance while my second girlfriend assisted me when i underwent a surgery that cost her 200k plus. She did that all in in the name of I'm her husband.

They are good and so kind and i don't want to hurt any of them. They deserves the very best from me.

The families of the two parties knows me and love me so so very much. Infact, when ever I'm talking with any of them, they talk to me as their own very child. They love and accepted me with open hands. Saying they like the type of person i am. I'm so much closer to both families like mad. Infact, each of them see me as inlaw already. I always call to check on them and i visit them whenever the needs arises. I'm a soft hearted person. I don't want to hurt any of them. Else i would have done that since. They are both looking unto me for marriage and they've started preparing/talking about their marriage.

My second gf is of age and she may find it difficult to get another suitor. She's the last person in her family to marry while my first girlfriend is in my age group.

I'm so so confused and frustrated. For almost two years now, I have no peace of mind. Sometimes i feel like i can be like normal average men out there. Happily living my life. I never wished for this. I really want to settle this problem so i can have peace of mind. I'm dying emotionally and is affecting me physically

Please note that during all these years they've been sacrificing/investing in me, I've not been relenting. I've also been striving to stand as a man and they are attesting to the fact that I'm not a lazy type. Just that things isn't working as planned. Also, i do have dreams of being poor and rejected. Most times in the dreams, i see myself begging to survive. whatever the outcome of this problem is, i just hope it shouldn't affect me negatively in the future..

Friends and family, please propose solution for me cause I'm really dying inside.

Modified: To those calling me a gold digger, i wouldn't say you are wrong nor right, but have it in mind that my main reason of going over to my second girlfriend state was just to seek for a greener pastures. But things turned out otherwise. And to my first girlfriend, I'm also the one who established my first gf after her Father's dead. I enrolled her in hairdressing school then rented a shop for her which made her to always be grateful and indebted to me for making her who she is today. I was the one who gave her the idea and today, she's making money from it. My second gf have also achieved from me even though it's not much. But i never stopped caring. Please don't judge me because i never had any bad intentions. I would have ran away not minding who's hurt. I'm pleading. What i need now is solution to my problem please.

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Marry the both of them..

Marry then both

On a more serious note, did you write this to get bashed? Cause that's what's going to happen in 3, 2, 1.....

Are the two women aware of each other?

The effect of longthroat. All these men wanting women to spend on them. Wo better marry both o, afterall its not a crime.

Boss just marry dem for their respective states
If the first one dey Lagos just marry her and keep her as Lagos wife while u do the same for the other lady ....

So that u may live long ...but make we talk true nah u put urself for this kind mess ..

We just need to be sincere with each other .. if u truly love the First Lady u won’t be gallivanting up and down ... Now u con dey ask us what to do ..

Do anything wey u like nah since u r fit enough to marry the 2 ladies

Good luck

At the end of it all, one of them will end in premium tears. You don't need anyone's advice because nobody advised you when you started. Then again, shit happens. But my candid advice to you is to go meet an elderly person, probably your parents because i don't need any of these headlines "Girlfriend of 5 years committed suicide after being jilted by her lover" or "Lady burnt her boyfriend to death after finding out he has another". Thread wisely.

A word they say is enough for the wise.

bros we hear


these your matter easy cos na u start am,u know say u get girlfriend before u go service abi u been wa chop clean mouth.


as one op been talk before me marry two of them,then claim say na because u be orphan and u need large family that why u play along both ladies.




las las my advice is 'life is easy when we make difficult decision with our eyes closed'.

When I say guys also gold dig, some people frown at it, but you see this op right here is a certified, insensitive, cold-hearted gold digger.

No one is bashing him because he's a man. Imagine getting close to the family of both ladies, visiting, calling, and the rest. Yet he's confused on who to choose among them.

You never loved that first girl; you only saw a means of survival and maximized the opportunity. Not only did she house you, but she also fed you, saw you through school, and gave you free coochie that resulted in 6 abortions.

My friend, I don't pity you at all. Just pray that girl doesn't hurt you when she eventually finds out about this betrayal.

You see why some girls wouldn't hesitate to take bobrisky's advice.

What a tangled web you've weaved.

Why do u cheat on ur gf?

There are situations that makes a knife look like a ruler.

Opportunism is evil. Anyway, make sure you marry the first lady, your betrayal of her loyalty so far notwithstanding. Just find a way to appease the second lady and extricate yourself from her life; there's always a way to appease every person. Of course, eschew opportunism henceforth.

Hmm, waiting for the elders to come.

SweetCunt97:
The effect of longthroat. All these men wanting women to spend on them. Wo better marry both o, afterall its not a crime.

I knew you'd be here bashing men as usual instead of contributing meaningfully to the topic. That aside. Oga I had come here to advise you thinking it was something important. But since it is about a useless topic as discussing issues concerning vagina people, I'm out.

Oga this matter be like when water pass garri. I don't pray to be in your shoes because where do i start from?

Nonexistent:
I knew you'd be here bashing men as usual instead of contributing meaningfully to the topic. That aside. Oga I had come here to advise you thinking it was something important. But since it is about a useless topic as discussing issues concerning vagina people, I'm out.

Why following me upandan like a dog in heat?

SweetCunt97:
Why following me upandan like a dog in heat?

Following you? Biitch you apportion too much credit to yourself, slow down.

So u blatantly told us how ur first of aborted 6 times n how d latest hasn't so that we will now say go for the latest.


Do u know how many she is aborted in d past? Do u know if d womb is even functioning? My brother! d more u look, d less u ........


Let me tell u I am not saying ur latest deserves to be dumped o. None of them do but u see that ur first, if u like dump her n wait for nemesis

don't let aunty abortions swear for you oo my brother

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Sorry to say, but you are selfish. You are the architect of your own problems. You already have a good woman but decided to get things complicated all in the name of "fun" and "greener pasture". You do not deserve any of those ladies. I pray God settles your first girlfriend with a good man.

Damn!!

You're pure evil!

Nonexistent:
Following you? Biitch you apportion too much credit to yourself, slow down.

Hegoat puhleeeeseeee! Swerve outta my mentions

guy d boss pls go wit ur first lady is gud 4 u

Username2021:
Please i really need your advise on what or who to chose. I've been a member of NL for almost a decade now and I've seen alot of people getting solution for their problem here.

I have two (2) girlfriends who are madly In love with me. The first one is a girl I've been dating for seven years plus and she has aborted six pregnancies for me (even going against her family belief/law). I met her a virgin and we started dating when we were very very young and during our dating then, we were cohabiting for those years (i'm an orphan so we lived like brother and sister) until i was posted to one of the northern states for my nysc. During my service year, i met my second girlfriend who happened to have a boyfriend too. So we were just dating for fun with the intentions to end everything after our service year, but unfortunately, the lady fell in love with me. She broke up with her guy while i was still with my own girlfriend. She started concentrating on me. After our service year, she invited me over to her state with the promise that i will get an offer very fast, i had no choice than to succumb to it with the intentions to make enough money so i can also take care of my first girlfriend because that girls has been a blessing to me and I don't think i will be able to pay her for all The sacrafices she've made for me during and after my schools days. She's very humble, faithful and loyal to bone marrow. Despite my inability to buy or take care or her, she never complained. Rather she's always praying and giving me hope for a better tomorrow. Never cheated on me as she has sworn that as long as she's with me, she will never cheat on me and she's has been keeping to that promises. Even when i went for my service, she calls to check on me almost every hour. Many guys tempted her including my young landlord, but she never fell for it. Which made my landlord to call me and advised me never to live her. She can do anything just to see me happy. Even if it requires her own happiness, she wouldn't mind. She places me incharge of everything about her and she never had a double thought about that. She believe so much in me.

See this one mentioning it like it's something to be proud of.
The rest of the story is sick too.

You're worse than a serpent. You're wicked in a subtle way.

Forget all that fake praises you're singing about your first gf. If you truly love her and have a "kind" heart like claimed, you wouldn't go having a relationship with another girl knowing you have someone who has sacrificed a lot for you. Without her, you wouldn't have been able to graduate let alone go for service and start frolicking with another girl to the point where you got trapped.

What I see here is greed. You're a greedy fellow who is easily carried away by free things. Now it has hooked your neck. Look for how to get out of it. Your greed has led you to a tight corner that you may never be able to come out from.

Chop here, chop here chop here. Only you. Mtchew.

SweetCunt97:
Hegoat puhleeeeseeee! Swerve outta my mentions

Sadly no man want u. Nonexistent dont want ya. I dont want ya. Single guys dont want ya. Me dont want ya.. is a shame. How r u going to cope sweetcunt?

Sorry man I don't do relationships, neither do I give relationship advice... That space for love in my heart is meant for people going through what I'm going through.. we show each other love, be each other's strength.....

Runs out of thread

The person whe come up with that line say life no balance truly get oil for him head.

Life truly is not fair.

Only you get two.
Me like this na just one I de find, yet I never see, even though I fit afford urgent 2k.

Tell me, is life balanced?

Emi ko le pariwo rara

This matter wey dey on ground so....e heavy for mouth

faithugo64:
Sorry to say, but you are selfish. You are the architect of your own problems. You already have a good woman but decided to get things complicated all in the name of "fun" and "greener pasture". You do not deserve any of those ladies. I pray God settles your first girlfriend with a good man.

I pray that good man turns out to be your loving brother. I'm very sure you'll be happy for your brother when (not if) he brings a girl that has committed six abortions home as a potential wife. God will do it for him and your wonderful family.