pbae:
It looks like this site has some eye catching stories

I will be 46 years this year and my marriage will be 5 years this year. I have been paying bills ( Nepa bills, house rent, putting food on the table, etc) since we got married in the spirit of a supportive wife. Although we are both civil servants with the salary of 44,000 and 55,000 respectively. Unknown to me, he has accrued huge debt before I met him despite the fact we did a lot low key wedding without reception (which was my idea, in my mind I don't want to stretch his financial capacity so that we can enjoy our after wedding). He keeps telling me things will get better even though I supported him going back to school which he will complete by God's grace this year. The Lord blessed us with a bouncing baby girl last year( she is 4months now ) unfortunately, I couldn't not lactate so I had to formula feed. Which I have been financing alone all with no effort from him. I have told him to please look for side hustle so as to relieve me of the burden but he said I should wait till he finishes his HND and he is been upgraded to Senior staff. Recently when we had misunderstanding, he told me whatever assistance I am rendering is for my sake, that I am not helping him. He said when he finally have money it is me that will enjoy, that whatever I do now is what I will reap. he is also not contributing to the welfare of our child

https://www.naijalogic.com/forums/how-can-i-deal-with-my-ingrate-husband.

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jawalis:
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Where exactly did he spend his salary? From your story, it was stated one is earning 44k while the other 55k so whoever takes the highest. but at least he should make some contributions toward financing the home from domestic needs to shelter. Something is wrong somewhere, or did you mean he pays debt with his whole salary every month which is not possible. He might be paying debts but not with his 100% income. Trust me; something is hidden somewhere. I’ll advice you take some smart moves before you are relegated. And you need to know what those debts are all about, ask him and make sure you get the truth. Some men are just wicked and will use you achieve his short term goal. All those things he said are not applicable these days. Believe him at your own risk that you are doing those things for yourself. If he’ll buy a car for you; he’ll have a car for himself first and if he’s someone like me, that means he would have settled his family first before you are considered. So use your head and don’t be used. Make sure you inform at least one or two trusted people in his family of what you are going through. Withdraw everything you do at home (from electricity bills to other domestic needs). I mean stop paying those bills for like two months and tell him you have a project too. Stop paying bill, get food for your kid alone and sort yourself out, don’t buy foodstuffs for home, stop the spending for sometimes and watch his reaction.

Bola146:
Madam please voice out! Let those who own him know what is going on, they might be the one draining him financially with their bills. My ex boyfriend's Family thought he was the one financing our bills, his mother and siblings was so demanding, I kept quiet, until I gave myself brain to start saving, so he wasn't able to satisfied his family demands, they thought I was the one behind their son's brokenness He will send his sibling to my shop to take some items on credit, I was dying in silence until I voiced out! Mi o le wa ku They scattered the relationship Now they now know the difference.

pbae:
It looks like this site has some eye catching stories

I will be 46 years this year and my marriage will be 5 years this year. I have been paying bills ( Nepa bills, house rent, putting food on the table, etc) since we got married in the spirit of a supportive wife. Although we are both civil servants with the salary of 44,000 and 55,000 respectively. Unknown to me, he has accrued huge debt before I met him despite the fact we did a lot low key wedding without reception (which was my idea, in my mind I don't want to stretch his financial capacity so that we can enjoy our after wedding). He keeps telling me things will get better even though I supported him going back to school which he will complete by God's grace this year. The Lord blessed us with a bouncing baby girl last year( she is 4months now ) unfortunately, I couldn't not lactate so I had to formula feed. Which I have been financing alone all with no effort from him. I have told him to please look for side hustle so as to relieve me of the burden but he said I should wait till he finishes his HND and he is been upgraded to Senior staff. Recently when we had misunderstanding, he told me whatever assistance I am rendering is for my sake, that I am not helping him. He said when he finally have money it is me that will enjoy, that whatever I do now is what I will reap. he is also not contributing to the welfare of our child

https://www.naijalogic.com/forums/how-can-i-deal-with-my-ingrate-husband.

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pbae:
It looks like this site has some eye catching stories

I will be 46 years this year and my marriage will be 5 years this year. I have been paying bills ( Nepa bills, house rent, putting food on the table, etc) since we got married in the spirit of a supportive wife. Although we are both civil servants with the salary of 44,000 and 55,000 respectively. Unknown to me, he has accrued huge debt before I met him despite the fact we did a lot low key wedding without reception (which was my idea, in my mind I don't want to stretch his financial capacity so that we can enjoy our after wedding). He keeps telling me things will get better even though I supported him going back to school which he will complete by God's grace this year. The Lord blessed us with a bouncing baby girl last year( she is 4months now ) unfortunately, I couldn't not lactate so I had to formula feed. Which I have been financing alone all with no effort from him. I have told him to please look for side hustle so as to relieve me of the burden but he said I should wait till he finishes his HND and he is been upgraded to Senior staff. Recently when we had misunderstanding, he told me whatever assistance I am rendering is for my sake, that I am not helping him. He said when he finally have money it is me that will enjoy, that whatever I do now is what I will reap. he is also not contributing to the welfare of our child

https://www.naijalogic.com/forums/how-can-i-deal-with-my-ingrate-husband.

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Nitah1:
They are discussing marriage issue here not boyfriend and girlfriend.



Excuse pls.

Nitah1:
Are you married?

Softboy001:
The fact that you came here on Nairaland to call your husband ingrate and made it the topic of your post shows to me the kind of woman you are...

No wonder you got married at 41, only God knows what you did to guys at age 23,24,25,26,27,28,29,30,31,32,33,34,35,36,37,38,39,40.

Spit on thread...

Bennysam:

You should be doing it with full happiness, a man look at you at age of 41 and you’re here talking trash, you’re the one ungrateful idiot

pbae:
It looks like this site has some eye catching stories

I will be 46 years this year and my marriage will be 5 years this year. I have been paying bills ( Nepa bills, house rent, putting food on the table, etc) since we got married in the spirit of a supportive wife. Although we are both civil servants with the salary of 44,000 and 55,000 respectively. Unknown to me, he has accrued huge debt before I met him despite the fact we did a lot low key wedding without reception (which was my idea, in my mind I don't want to stretch his financial capacity so that we can enjoy our after wedding). He keeps telling me things will get better even though I supported him going back to school which he will complete by God's grace this year. The Lord blessed us with a bouncing baby girl last year( she is 4months now ) unfortunately, I couldn't not lactate so I had to formula feed. Which I have been financing alone all with no effort from him. I have told him to please look for side hustle so as to relieve me of the burden but he said I should wait till he finishes his HND and he is been upgraded to Senior staff. Recently when we had misunderstanding, he told me whatever assistance I am rendering is for my sake, that I am not helping him. He said when he finally have money it is me that will enjoy, that whatever I do now is what I will reap. he is also not contributing to the welfare of our child

https://www.naijalogic.com/forums/how-can-i-deal-with-my-ingrate-husband.

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Truvel:
B4 I Contribute, Is Dis Ur Story Or Someone's Own?

Kobicove:
Always do a thorough due diligence on your partner before you get married so that you avoid unpleasant surprises

Bola146:


I guess this is the husband. Face front

Bola146:


See one of them, na them . Op voice out