Then why do the traditional wedding and collect the young man's money?

BusinessCity:



Who collected your dowry or bride Price. The traditional system or the Lord. The Lord doesn't collect, neither is it about feasting, it's just standing before Him to honour nothing more. It's for select few who know their God. You can have a marriage without going before God. Ba da mu wa. But for his select few, marriage starts from standing in His presence before Him to honour Him.

Back your post with scripture pls. This is display of your own knowledge. I like it when someone is trying to express God’s view with scriptures not not his view without scripture.

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

so there is no God in a traditional marriage. God only exists in a "white" wedding?

BusinessCity:





Let it reach God for approval first. Thank you

So if I understand correctly my mom and dad that just did traditional marriage and currently have four children marriage is not approved by God.. Your a fool

We have 3 types of marriages recognised in Nogeria

1. Traditional

2. Court

3. Church

Each is a valid form of marriage. What the church seeks to achieve is simply a blessing of the union. They cannot claim this wasnt already done at the traditional level or that God wasnt at the traditional marriage

The insistence that until the white wedding a marriage cannot be consummated is baseless and just a culture, rather than validity

Softboy001:
What are you guys even saying self. The marriage has already been done. Bride price has already been paid and as far as anyone is concern she is already his wife.

White wedding is only the traditional marriage of the white man.

Wetin dey do Africans self. Who do una like this?

It will take forever before Africa will get it right that is if they will ever do. How can you bless a union, willing give out your daughter as a wife by accepting the dowry. Then tell the husband you will handover change of ownership after certain time. Goods paid for, documents received yet postpone delivery because of neocolonialism mindset.

zedegit:


You don't get it. Every Christian believes in church wedding before conjugation or intimacy.

Not that they don't do traditional wedding. Comprehension is your problem.

Tell them oh


It's not even the feasting.


If a pastor stand in front and they declare to God their intent even without anything else it's registered in Heaven as marriage. This is the real definitive of marriage in Christian sense

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

I pity the level of religion people are fed with. No wonder Jesus said you worship what ye know not. When you don't understand God's presence then you assumes that the approval of a pastor that guarantee God's presence. Where did you see Jesus or his disciples conducted church wedding in the Bible.

Church wedding, mosque or other religion wedding are nothing but ritual and borrowed culture. Traditional wedding is the real thing, once you pay the dowry and both families bless it that's all. The other one necessary for government recognition is court wedding.

You should have had only the traditional, but since you have a pending white wedding, you just have to finish it.
She isn't your wife yet since you have a pending ceremony.

Chilllllllllllllll!

dancewith:
We have 3 types of marriages recognised in Nogeria

1. Traditional

2. Court

3. Church

Each is a valid form of marriage. What the church seeks to achieve is simply a blessing of the union. They cannot claim this wasnt already done at the traditional level or that God wasnt at the traditional marriage

The insistence that until the white wedding a marriage cannot be consummated is baseless and just a culture, rather than validity

Conflicting ideologies. You're confusing yourself


Court wedding follows due protocols


Traditional wedding same dressing to eating to prayers then attires


But when it comes to Christian wedding, you say God was at the traditional wedding.


You'll only confuse valve elements like yourself.


Since God is everywhere, then every one should just pick a woman and proclaim her as wife without approaching any of the three institutions. Yeye

focus7:


I pity the level of religion people are fed with. No wonder Jesus said you worship what ye know not. When you don't understand God's presence then you assumes that the approval of a pastor that guarantee God's presence. Where did you see Jesus or his disciples conducted church wedding in the Bible.

Church wedding, mosque or other religion wedding are nothing but ritual and borrowed culture. Traditional wedding is the real thing, once you pay the dowry and both families bless it that's all. The other one necessary for government recognition is court wedding.

Conflicting ideologies. You're confusing yourself


Court wedding follows due protocols


Traditional wedding same dressing to eating to prayers then attires


But when it comes to Christian wedding, you say God was at the traditional wedding.


You'll only confuse valve elements like yourself.


Since God is everywhere, then every one should just pick a woman and proclaim her as wife without approaching any of the three institutions. Yeye


You picked the wrong person to debate with about scriptures. I tell you

BusinessCity:



Tell them oh


It's not even the feasting.


If a pastor stand in front and they declare to God their intent even without anything else it's registered in Heaven as marriage. This is the real definitive of marriage in Christian sense

That's good enough if the parties involved agree, they can opt for church blessing.

zedegit:


You don't get it. Every Christian believes in church wedding before conjugation or intimacy.

Not that they don't do traditional wedding. Comprehension is your problem.

I am not part of the Christians. no scripture back what you are saying up.

marvin906:




So if I understand correctly my mom and dad that just did traditional marriage and currently have four children marriage is not approved by God.. Your a fool

You are the bigger fool


Marriage honourable to God and marriage without his honour and approval doesn't cancel the marriage. It's an individual Christian belief and practice


God read for schools. You're resuming soon


Full

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

... Untill after which marriage

The one witness by both families is call what

Jesus only attended a wedding, till date, no one know the type of wedding He attended because, Bible did not specify.

The father has done the right thing. Is it not the right decision of the father that gave him the impetus to go for such a damsel? If the father had raised a carefree sex hawk would he have find her virtuous enough to want for a wife?
This is a generation that have been degraded to animal instinct because of uncontrolled sexual appetite, whats the essence of rushing to eat a food you will eventually eat and be tired of? If they both have agreed to have a church wedding then he should wait patiently until everything is culminated except he wants to stop at the traditional level which am sure is not the case here.

zedegit:


That's good enough if the parties involved agree, they can opt for church blessing.

Why it's so hard for them to take in is atheists and liberalised want to attack any concept of God to anything goes. The sheer hypocrisy is what I find appalling. If they hate Christian marriage, they should leave Christian ladies and families alone simple.


There are traditionalists everywhere 5hey can pick them as wives rather than force Christian women into their skewered reasoning.

THEN THE HUSBAND MAN SHOULD NOT HAVE ARRANGED FOR A WHITE WEDDING.

AS FAR AS THE FATHER IS CONCERNED, THE RIGHTS BTW MAN AND GOD HAS NOT BEEN COMPLETED..

MIND YOU.. THE DOWRY CAN BE RETURNED.. THE FATHER STILL HAS A SAY IN AS MUCH AS YOU ALL AGREED TO DO A CHURCH WEDDING TOO.

YOU WOULD HAVE JUST FIX BOTH WEDDING A DAY INTERVAL...

I MEAN FOR THE WIFE WEDDING, WERE IS THE DAUGHTER SUPPOSED TO COME FROM,?

THE HUSBAND HOUSE OR THE FATHERS HOUSE...


BORROWED TRADITION AS IT IS, YIU ALL ADOPTED IT AND SHOULD ABIDE BY IT....

IT NOT LIKE THE LADY IN QUESTION DOESNT EVEN VISIT THE GUY TO............

Enugupikin:

He should relax for the two months, if he has waited this far why can't he wait more,
There is this joy of making love to your virgin wife on the wedding night

Nd who told u she is a virgin?

BusinessCity:




Lies. So marriages where couple frolick around and have countless sex don't run into problems.

If he can't honour the girl's dad one last time before he assumes control, he can go away for a better person to take his place.

You lack ability to comprehend.
Who is talking about sex here?
My point focus on the communication gap between the two parties on issue of such importance in marriage.
How could a grown up man be going to pay his fiancee's bride price without having an understanding with the lady and the family as regards whether the girl will be going home with him on that day or not?
Is such a disagreement on a traditional marriage day not enough cause for alarm in the kind of relationship the two families are going to share thereafter?

eRex:
THEN THE HUSBAND MAN SHOULD NOT HAVE ARRANGED FOR A WHITE WEDDING.

AS FAR AS THE FATHER IS CONCERNED, THE RIGHTS BTW MAN AND GOD HAS NOT BEEN COMPLETED..

MIND YOU.. THE DOWRY CAN BE RETURNED.. THE FATHER STILL HAS A SAY IN AS MUCH AS YOU ALL AGREED TO DO A CHURCH WEDDING TOO.

YOU WOULD HAVE JUST FIX BOTH WEDDING A DAY INTERVAL...

I MEAN FOR THE WIFE WEDDING, WERE IS THE DAUGHTER SUPPOSED TO COME FROM,?

THE HUSBAND HOUSE OR THE FATHERS HOUSE...


BORROWED TRADITION AS IT IS, YIU ALL ADOPTED IT AND SHOULD ABIDE BY IT....

IT NOT LIKE THE LADY IN QUESTION DOESNT EVEN VISIT THE GUY TO............

One word. Kongi

BusinessCity:
The father is the father until after the marriage.. That's in God's presence, He that giveth the blessing in the marriage. Not in front of some ancestors in a traditional system. If some traditional elders are honored by presenting the intending couples before them, should God not get even greater honour?

I humbly beg to differ, our traditional African wedding is valid and recognize even b4 the law, while it is not objectionable to insist on a white wedding it should not be on the basis of invalidating the sanctity or legal standing of traditional marriages, in eggon land, Nasarawa State where I come from after performing some traditional marriage rites you are asked whether you are a taking your wife immediately along or subsequently after white wedding, meaning you can go consummate as you are fully married irrespective of church formalities, and yes Christian prayers are also offered there

May be he is a
deeper life member

Enugupikin:

He should relax for the two months, if he has waited this far why can't he wait more,
There is this joy of making love to your virgin wife on the wedding night

How did you know she's a virgin

Nothing much to say other than say Africa is doomed

mezico96:
Good day cuties and gentlemen of NL

Lemme just go straight to the point

I attended a friend's traditional wedding last year December and after all the stress and struggles to settle the bride price, the father of the lady forbade she stays with the husband until after their church/white wedding which is two months from now

So guys, is he right to say that?
What is your opinion?

Has the father collected the bride price

Please answer this before I say anything further

alizma:

You lack ability to comprehend.
Who is talking about sex here?
My point focus on the communication gap between the two parties on issue of such importance in marriage.
How could a grown up man be going to pay his fiancee's bride price without having an understanding with the lady and the family as regards whether the girl will be going home with him on that day or not?
Is such a disagreement on a traditional marriage day not enough cause for alarm in the kind of relationship the two families are going to share thereafter?

Guilt tripping. The things they want to do after the ceremony many have been doing before including communication


Ease off

BusinessCity:



Then why must the traditional take place before some old elements if Christianed marriage must be before God in like manner.


Ordinary food and offering , Moses left a law and said, the Lord will choose a place before which you will go before my presence to drop your gifts, offerings and likes. How much more for more serious concerns?


Abeg shift.

You don't even speak like a believer.

Church wedding is not Biblical..

Do it only If you can afford it.

alizma:

You lack ability to comprehend.
Who is talking about sex here?
My point focus on the communication gap between the two parties on issue of such importance in marriage.
How could a grown up man be going to pay his fiancee's bride price without having an understanding with the lady and the family as regards whether the girl will be going home with him on that day or not?
Is such a disagreement on a traditional marriage day not enough cause for alarm in the kind of relationship the two families are going to share thereafter?

Guilt tripping. The things they want to do after the ceremony many have been doing before including communication


Ease off.

By native law and custom,she is now his wife and can live in his house but the Federal Government does not recognize any marriage where a marriage certificate issued by the Federal Ministry of the Interior or authorized religious organs.
Besides will konji kill the man for two months?
Obey your father-in-law's wishes for just 60 days so that your marriage doesn't start off on a bad note.

It's not about waiting for 2months or not

The question is

Is it a right thing to do?

Softboy001:
What are you guys even saying self. The marriage has already been done. Bride price has already been paid and as far as anyone is concern she is already his wife.

White wedding is only the traditional marriage of the white man.

Wetin dey do Africans self. Who do una like this?

Anything white is right.. such is the magnitude of the mental slavery.