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Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Emu4u2c: 11:30am On Jan 22, 2021 |
chrisj2: So in essence, do you mean the woman should not ask for what is rightfully hers? You should know dowry is paid so as to protect the woman's dignity and also to let the Man know he did not purchase a slave but got himself a wife ( which the woman covered up for him).... If OP get mind make he just try repeat that divorce threat twice and Watch a good woman walk away. I can bet my Balls the woman is already tired of OP even If the woman had considered the O.P financial status I don't think she would have agreed to his marriage proposal.She is only Trying to motivate the poverty stricken O.P to get the Man out of his comfort zone OP wasn't and still not ready for marriage.He should be taking care of Himself seeing he could not even afford a place to stay prior to the marriage. The woman's isn't at fault in any way here. OP should wake up from his slumber 4 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Lenient001: 11:32am On Jan 22, 2021 |
OP, in account of all what you wrote up here. Your wife is impeccable while you're the one guilty of all these mistakes. You'll enjoy such a lady if you wisely use your head with heR. Because I observe she's a person that will always be there for you whensoever you are in need of it. Moreso, thinking of using that huge amount to purchase a land instead of letting an apartment is a foul thought. Just be patient with her she will makes your dreams come true. 3 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by udomonday: 11:34am On Jan 22, 2021 |
malcom1X:where on earth do they pay the dowry to the woman?its like paying a prostitute in advance for sex. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by clevybrown(m): 11:35am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Xisnin:Bro thumbs up... U just said it all. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by fayomim: 11:37am On Jan 22, 2021 |
JudgeKronos: You are thinking my thinking 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by lakefist(m): 11:38am On Jan 22, 2021 |
DEmejioba1: You're just over reacting. This attitude is typical of women irrespective of their upbringing. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you or careless about your feelings. Countless times, when i am angry, i told my wife if marriage doesn't work we should go our separate ways. It is not a new thing. Your marriage is young expect different arguments and fights for the next 1-2 years. You guys will be alright |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Beze992(f): 11:39am On Jan 22, 2021 |
This looks like a poorly fabricated story. However, in the event that there's any element of truth in it, I quite agree with the others that you had no business getting married in the first place, but, it's never too late for a self reappraisal and doing the right thing. Firstly, you need to right all the wrongs from the very beginning, start being the man of the house and a husband to your wife, the reverse shouldn't be the case. I'm assuming you're suprised about the reactions you got here, pretty sure you expected the usual women bashing in this case, that's to tell you that you didn't try at all. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Steveagro: 11:39am On Jan 22, 2021 |
I'm glad you realized your financial mistake but I'll advice you to do the following 1. pay her dowry to her since you promised to do that 2. Stop borrowing money from her, if she wants to contribute or take up responsibilities on her own let her do it otherwise let her be 3. She knew your condition before marrying you so Stop borrowing money unnecessarily to please her 4. Get new skills that can increase your income stream 5. Have a sincere discussion with her on the way forward and decide if the marriage is worth it 6. Avoid careless statements All the best |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Reex12(m): 11:40am On Jan 22, 2021 |
nawoo marriage no be child's play oh it is well |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by SmartyPants(m): 11:40am On Jan 22, 2021 |
malcom1X: It used to be that women cried of oppression. Now I ask myself what crime did we commit to be born men? lol...So a man cannot even expect to have help from his wife, then what is she a wife for? Sex alone? You people don't have sense. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by solonubinho(m): 11:40am On Jan 22, 2021 |
My man do you really want to hear the truth? If I tell you the truth, it will seriously pierce your heart. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by lakefist(m): 11:40am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Lenient001: God bless you. He is just over thinking. It is normal to have such arguments in your marriages. I can bet the woman loves him so much, he is not just seeing things from there. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Stubborn82: 11:41am On Jan 22, 2021 |
The problem with newly married couple is that, they tend to believe that marriage should be rosy like the nollywood thing. The truth is that you have a good wife who want to push you to achieve extraordinary success, a wife that is supportive and here you are complaining. Haven't you heard about some cases like, you have to send my brother to school before my family would allow us to marry? Similar cases like that. Am a man who like thinking big and go getter to achieve things that are bigger than, but I have not fortunate enough to meet a woman like yours, I only get a woman who are dependent, opportune and feel entitled. Bro, my advice is this, you will never know what you can achieve if you don't visualize it and take step, when you married, don't run your marriage with single mindsets, that is where alot of marriage have problem, many men are running the marriage as if they are still single. When you married properly, am not talking about cohabiting here, I mean, married according to the law and customs of tradition, government and God, things will change, you will need to enlarge your mind and coast to be able to fit for the change. After years of marriage if things didn't change for good then you can start to worry. All in all, I think you have a good wife sha 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by coolakins(m): 11:41am On Jan 22, 2021 |
malcom1X:If I am to follow this your advice, may be I for don go be with Lord. As per I cannot calculate how much I have borrowed from my wife. It will run into millions. May be other guys can do it alone but me I cannot. May God bless her for me. 2 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Solexgzy(m): 11:42am On Jan 22, 2021 |
DEmejioba1:you are not in control because of your pocket |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Gfash22(m): 11:42am On Jan 22, 2021 |
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Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by braunny(m): 11:45am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Xisnin:u r so damn right.....he no dey capable instead of looking for ways to augument his salary e dey blame wife... |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by MOTOPARK: 11:53am On Jan 22, 2021 |
slawormiir:I’m equally interested in the land acquisition, if truly it’s that cheap. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by TOPCRUISE(m): 11:53am On Jan 22, 2021 |
DEmejioba1:My thought is that your wife is managing you. You don't deserve her 3 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by samwillyco1(m): 11:55am On Jan 22, 2021 |
I don dey fear to marry ooo, with all this kind stories. House please I need advice, I have this girl that am planning to marry by next year by Grace of God but is like I will leave her. Here is my reason: l gave this girl 50k last year to add up and rent a shop which I told her that she must pay back and she agreed to pay back within two months, but after everything she paid 20k back to me and asked for more time but to my greatest surprise when I asked her last week, how much are you owing me now, she told me that I am the one that suppose to pay her and I have been thinking about it since then. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by nymphomaniac(m): 12:01pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
DEmejioba1:where the hell is a flat 100k in Nigeria? Omo in truth you had no business marrying with such low funds. Being that you have reached the rubicon, let these slide and just work on the union. Tell her u don’t like her attitude with money and let her let you take major decisions. Good luck. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Ytea(f): 12:01pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
All these problems you listed, it's money that's causing it, plus you married because you thought age was no longer on your side when you should have hustled and made money more. If she's holding on to your word on going separate ways, you can't blame her, hopefully she forgives and forget. Money isn't everything in marriage but in your own case you didn't have enough and you borrowed without hope of refunding, o wrong now. This is the first time I'm hearing a bride collects dowry, is it no longer a father's decision? |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by BarrElChapo(m): 12:04pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Pay her dowry. You also shouldn't have made that statement about separation in the first place, it makes me wonder if you were ready for marriage in all aspects (mentally, emotionally ...) Find a way of taking the lead in your marriage, don't do more than you can and later be heard complaining as your wife should be helping you pursue towards the vision you have for your family. Most importantly take care of your family it is your primary responsibility as the heard. Good luck |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Babaibe: 12:06pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Oga zero your mind and try to b very strong. I am not asking you to divorce her but she might elope with another man going by some of the assertions she made. Many are doing well earning figures with six or five zero's before marriage and few years into marriage despite being prudent with their savings are financially down. Should they kill themselves. Any woman who will disrespect his husband because of the cash that was used jointly and not even squandered by the guy on frivolities, should not bear that title wife. Try to braze up cos with little cash such wife will open her legs to another man |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
I am sorry about your experience. But you apparently were not financially prepared for marriage. Neither you nor your wife was ready. You made a terrible mistake and I personally do not blame your wife. Marriage is a practical system and you need more than a raging hormone or age consideration to get married. As a man age is not supposed to be a factor for you. If you had paid attention to your own self development you wouldn't be in this mess. You should have allowed her to go on with her life instead of capturing her into an arrangement that may likely further consolidate poverty for the both of you. And she too exercised lack of judgment by getting married when she was also poor. DEmejioba1: |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Sonoyom(m): 12:12pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Old people marriage ehhhh |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Lenient001: 12:13pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
lakefist: Thank you bro. He failed to believe humans are not God (we can't have it all). 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by chukadiho1(m): 12:15pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Marriage this days is scary. Oga cut ur coat according to your size. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by KanuSE: 12:16pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
[s] Kapilta:[/s] Easy tiger - how easy to bash the weak and the downtrodden. Easy ok. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Regex: 12:17pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
RisenPhoenix1: Omo.... When I saw the thread the answer to all these analogy hit me which is the answer to ops problem. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Yankee101: 12:24pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
I no read am finish but obviously you got married when you could hardly take care of your own self You are a selfish person to say the least, if true You are the major problem, not her. She's just reacting to your nonsense. If you can't afford a home with wife and kids don't start one |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Nobody: 12:24pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Land 150k, 2 bedroom 100k abeg where be the place? |
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