Dated over 3yrs, due to tribal concern and family non acceptance, we agreed to do court wedding in May 2020,
She got pregnant June/July and everything changed.
She stop having sex with me and told me until bride price is paid wen it was her family that concelled wedding fixed.
She went out for work in Lagos here, so my cousin came visiting ... She said she can't stay in same house with him and went to put up in hotel.
I visited and next morning before work bought her food.
She called for paracetamol while at work, rushed back to get for her only to enter her room and met used sachet of condom on the floor.
I took note and did as if I never see anything.. went out and before coming back she picked the sachet and hid it.
I left she never brought it up for over 5 days.
She's back to work...I asked and she said she tot the condom sachet dropped from my pocket hence she never asked.
I've stopped all communication and currently trying to move on...
Gotten new apartment and wanna pack out of the house before I made head news...
I told her paternity of her pregnancy is questioned but she said after a year the baby will know her father...
The point is while sleeping with another man with 8 months pregnant of pregnancy she claimed is mine....
Kinda confused!

Mod help a brother..
Kindly push abeg lemme learn!

All

This is really serious!

However, let me clarify what you just said. So you are married via court wedding, but yet to complete the traditional marital ceremony due to her family cancelling the planned event?

If that's so, my guess is that your wife is probably carrying someone else's baby. Well, I think you should wait and carry out a DNA test to ascertain if the baby is yours.

However, regarding whether to continue your relationship with your wife, that is a great matter for you to unravel yourself. Was she insistent to the end that the used condoms is not connected to her? Is she showing signs that she still treasures her marriage with you, or is she merely shrugging her shoulder with attitude that says that 'you can go and hug the transformer for all she cares'?

How has she been behaving before this discovery of yours, apart from the 'no sex again before bride price' ultimatum stuff?

Answers to all these questions, and more probing and diligent soul-searching from your side would help you decide if she can still be your wife.

I can almost deduce from your narrations that she doesn't care much for you. Maybe you forced yourself on her and she was really interested in some other person.

Well, May God help you out.

Noted

I just weak like dodo.

Your wife is a liar and a cheat (no shame at all). Her type is capable of anything. Glad you found out on time before its too late. You've just escaped the danger of fathering another man's offspring.

Why are these people always so untrustworthy?

Women are a disgrace these days.

Few years back my ex fiance had told me that she'd be participating in a Christian camping program the coming week. I was almost fooled but what gave her away was my laptop that she was using to watch movies before the battery drained out.

When I later made use of the laptop at work, She had logged onto her Facebook account but was unable to sign out before the battery drained. I passively went through her wall and chats and noticed that the supposed camping date was a ploy to have a free weekend with a guy who she'd been communicating with online.

The guyman is based in Germany. He had already spent close to 2 weeks in Nigeria since he came back and was ready to travel back to Germany but scheduled being with my Girlfriend for the weekend.

I foiled the "camping", I sent a friend request to the guyman with a message, he promptly accepted and we started communicating. Luckily he's not a woman wrapper. I told him my history with the girl and how she's trying to play the two of us. We agreed to meet and our meeting sparked a wonderful friendship and trust that is still in existence till today. For me I was done with the relationship. Though it really pained me but I needed proof.

We agreed to play along. He invited her to where he was lodging. I had wanted her to pass the night in my place but she said it will ruin her program that she and her fellow campers would take off to Camp of Faith in Okigwe before noon. I "bidded" her farewell for the camping programme. She even called me to tell me that they were taking off and 3 hours later she called to say that they had arrived. She sounded so convincing that you wouldn't believe that she's not in the same city with me. The more she lied the more I am ending the relationship in my mind.

Well I kept tabs with my guy. They had agreed she'd would come over to his hotel at 6pm. I was at the bar of the same hotel trying so hard not to get drunk. My guy chatted me up around 7.40pm signaling me. I went and knocked, behold my fiance opened the door she was wearing her finest nightie, without bra, flaunting her fine legs and hour glass shape. My pain was nothing compared to her shock.

In summary she lost the both of us. She tried everything possible to get back into my while blaming the devil but her efforts were futile.

Here's the solution :
The solutions to not being a victim of their dissimulation is:
IF SHE'S NICE TO YOU PLEASE GO EXTRA MILE TO TREASURE HER BUT IF YOU SENSE ANY TRAIT OF SUBTLENESS:
1. Learn not to trust them.
2. Tune your level of emotional attachment to them so low.
3. Invest little or nothing in them so you don't have much to lose.
4. Sex is not worth paying for and don't get hooked to any particular hole.
5. Always have a spare tyre.
6. Pay back in their coin whenever possible the most effective way is to fvck her friends, relatives or colleagues. If she does same to you don't be pained, you have nothing to lose, a key that can open many doors is a master key.
7. Pay more attention to your hustles. HUSTLE hard, make more money and even more money and even more
They are terrible liars and con artists.

She brought the idea of staying in a hotel just because of what she'll be collecting, women sha

She tot the used condom fell from your pocket


Wondafu

. "she thought the condom fell from your pocket" sorry my brother. Your matter is really a serious one

Haba

Some farm tool ain't loyal

FEAR woman

If the used condom fell off your pocket like she claimed, she wouldn't have hidden it and all hell would've let loose. She hid it and concealed the matter means she is guilty as charged. A woman duly wedded in court that could sleep around with 8months pregnancy is a devil incarnate, I advise you to run and never look back. Never let them put your name in the baby's birth certificate until you get DNA result done.

your wife is seeing another man, she may end up giving you a second hand baby as yours, be smarter than her.

Speechless

Men has been suffering since the time of Adam

*Light my Kpoli

You are an idjot, visiting and buying food for your wife that refused to stay In the same house with your cousin, u even rushed to get her Paracetamol, omo what kind of weak men do we have these days


If this your story isn't made up, then you are the dumbest person alive, deM don't shine your wife Congo inside hotel room, hoi even bought her food to refresh her and paracetamol to ease her headache , ahhhh oluwa oo


She even accused you of the used condom, women

Khd95:
You are an idjot, visiting and buying food for your wife that refused to stay In the same house with your cousin, u even rushed to get her Paracetamol, omo what kind of weak men do we have these days


If this your story isn't made up, then you are the dumbest person alive, deM don't shine your wife Congo inside hotel room, hoi even bought her food to refresh her and paracetamol to ease her headache , ahhhh oluwa oo


She even accused you of the used condom, women

He will still fall victim again because people like him don't learn

Dupalmer:
Few years back my ex fiance had told me that she'd be participating in a Christian camping program the coming week. I was almost fooled but what gave her away was my laptop that she was using to watch movies before the battery drained out.

When I later made use of the laptop at work, She had logged onto her Facebook account but was unable to sign out before the battery drained. I passively went through her wall and chats and noticed that the supposed camping date was a ploy to have a free weekend with a guy who she'd been communicating with online.

The guyman is based in Germany. He had already spent close to 2 weeks in Nigeria since he came back and was ready to travel back to Germany but scheduled being with my Girlfriend for the weekend.

I foiled the "camping", I sent a friend request to the guyman with a message, he promptly accepted and we started communicating. Luckily he's not a woman wrapper. I told him my history with the girl and how she's trying to play the two of us. We agreed to meet and our meeting sparked a wonderful friendship and trust that is still in existence till today. For me I was done with the relationship. Though it really pained me but I needed proof.

We agreed to play along. He invited her to where he was lodging. I had wanted her to pass the night in my place but she said it will ruin her program that she and her fellow campers would take off to Camp of Faith in Okigwe before noon. I "bidded" her farewell for the camping programme. She even called me to tell me that they were taking off and 3 hours later she called to say that they had arrived. She sounded so convincing that you wouldn't believe that she's not in the same city with me. The more she lied the more I am ending the relationship in my mind.

Well I kept tabs with my guy. They had agreed she'd would come over to his hotel at 6pm. I was at the bar of the same hotel trying so hard not to get drunk. My guy chatted me up around 7.40pm signaling me. I went and knocked, behold my fiance opened the door she was wearing her finest nightie, without bra, flaunting her fine legs and hour glass shape. My pain was nothing compared to her shock.

In summary she lost the both of us. She tried everything possible to get back into my while blaming the devil but her efforts were futile.

Here's the solution :
The solutions to not being a victim of their dissimulation is:
IF SHE'S NICE TO YOU PLEASE GO EXTRA MILE TO TREASURE HER BUT IF YOU SENSE ANY TRAIT OF SUBTLENESS:
1. Learn not to trust them.
2. Tune your level of emotional attachment to them so low.
3. Invest little or nothing in them so you don't have much to lose.
4. Sex is not worth paying for and don't get hooked to any particular hole.
5. Always have a spare tyre.
6. Pay back in their coin whenever possible the most effective way is to fvck her friends, relatives or colleagues. If she does same to you don't be pained, you have nothing to lose, a key that can open many doors is a master key.
7. Pay more attention to your hustles. HUSTLE hard, make more money and even more money and even more
They are terrible liars and con artists.

very interesting, hope u allowed the Germany guy to have a taste of the honey

Immediately you found the condom sachet, you should demanded for explanation. Turning a blind eye and waiting after some days to bring it up was where you goofed.

When @mosdii said All Nigerian Girls Are Useless, girls were calling the mods on him. SMH. The thing is that they keep proving what he says about them being useless. LMAO!

Mr Man, visit the Red Pill thread and change your life. You're so weak in dealing with women. If you're good at making money and managing money but poor in how to deal with women, you'll fail. Don't let a hoe play you.

I just hope this is just one of those stories if not eh.....you are weak! Very weak! How do you guys date ladies you can't handle? You are supposed to raise the condom issue immediately! Is she the one feeding you? Or she's the one managing your destiny? Cos I don't understand what I just read. You met used condom in her hotel room and waited for days to raise the issue. Make I keep my vex for something better abeg....

Joelrichman:
Dated over 3yrs, due to tribal concern and family non acceptance, we agreed to do court wedding in May 2020,
She got pregnant June/July and everything changed.
She stop having sex with me and told me until bride price is paid wen it was her family that concelled wedding fixed.
She went out for work in Lagos here, so my cousin came visiting ... She said she can't stay in same house with him and went to put up in hotel.
I visited and next morning before work bought her food.
She called for paracetamol while at work, rushed back to get for her only to enter her room and met used sachet of condom on the floor.
I took note and did as if I never see anything.. went out and before coming back she picked the sachet and hid it.
I left she never brought it up for over 5 days.
She's back to work...I asked and she said she tot the condom sachet dropped from my pocket hence she never asked.
I've stopped all communication and currently trying to move on...
Gotten new apartment and wanna pack out of the house before I made head news...
I told her paternity of her pregnancy is questioned but she said after a year the baby will know her father...
The point is while sleeping with another man with 8 months pregnant of pregnancy she claimed is mine....
Kinda confused!

She is a callous being

But how can another man be sleeping with a preggy woman

You all are not intelligent.
I see sachets of used condoms in almost every hotel I lodge.

That's might honestly be from another person who used the room last and the hotelier carelessly couldn't clean it up well

This is simple!! She said when the baby is a year old, he/she will know the father. Good!! So you now see that the real father of the baby came to top up the pregnancy at the hotel.


Baba, no be your wife. Move on

If na me ennn I go just Dey bang her dey go. Until when I’m tired of fucking her then with pictorial proof I’ll just send her

Dupalmer:
Few years back my ex fiance had told me that she'd be participating in a Christian camping program the coming week. I was almost fooled but what gave her away was my laptop that she was using to watch movies before the batte
They are terrible liars and con artists.

Yes, we fixed our wedding last year her family concelled it that they don't want her married to Yoruba man... She's an Igbo lady... So we both agreed to do court wedding and leave our lives pending wen they will change our mind... The pressure from her was much as she said that's only guarantee that to secure the relationship... I gave in and do the court marriage
She once told me the child will be dark and won't resemble me...
She doesn't give a damn... Very confident and never bothered... Infact she's giving me ultimatum to leave the house I paid for that she's taking it up...
She said the child will know his father after 1 year..
It's been a difficult time for me... Just needed all the gist to move on...

CarlsJaz567:
This is really serious!

However, let me clarify what you just said. So you are married via court wedding, but yet to complete the traditional marital ceremony due to her family cancelling the planned event?

If that's so, my guess is that your wife is probably carrying someone else's baby. Well, I think you should wait and carry out a DNA test to ascertain if the baby is yours.

However, regarding whether to continue your relationship with your wife, that is a great matter for you to unravel yourself. Was she insistent to the end that the used condoms is not connected to her? Is she showing signs that she still treasures her marriage with you, or is she merely shrugging her shoulder with attitude that says that 'you can go and hug the transformer for all she cares'?

How has she been behaving before this discovery of yours, apart from the 'no sex again before bride price' ultimatum stuff?

Answers to all these questions, and more probing and diligent soul-searching from your side would help you decide if she can still be your wife.

I can almost deduce from your narrations that she doesn't care much for you. Maybe you forced yourself on her and she was really interested in some other person.

Well, May God help you out.

She has already told you that the pregnancy is not yours.