castro316:

How can you bring such here, when the solution is in your hands. It's called practical teaching. You have a cousin like that in your house it is better she came to your house. Why not buy good clothes for her and burn the dirty ones she has. Some of these kind of people have not seen cleanliness routine in their lives. Take a scrub at show her how to scrub the toilet floors and let her know how frequently she needs to do it. Let her know that it's not by going to church that her problem will go. Get her perfume and spray it on her. Ask her how good she smells? Inspect her toilet everyday and remind her to flush do this for a year and see how far she has gone. I had a dirty girl live with me for the holidays this is what I did without criticism. She dresses well I will praise her like like is saw a goddess. Imagine me faking a faint because of her looks the day she came out with bumshorts for the first time. Haha
Well things took a new shift when she said I must be the one to disvirgin her as gratitude for the change I imparted in her. She was already fallen in love with me. Well I did after many refusals. Before this girl smell so badly that you can't stay in the same room with her. Her wrapper which she uses to sleep she hardly washes. We share the same toilet so she no fit tr this one your cousin dey do. I for beat!
Need I add here that she is Yoruba. Hehe...
But she wants to learn my language as new family tins. I look at her now and see a full transformation. Now she calls me to tell me that where she is in lekki. Guys don't let her rest. She wasn't the type before that will give out her phone number and get replies but now her phone is always beeping with calls. Na me dey chase men... Men o from her life. She succeeded in getting pregnant because she don't know about the wickedness of men and their lies, we took care of the pregnancy. I am looking for a responsible Yoruba guy who will treat her right. She gather for back but small breasts. She's fun to be with and she has hand work. Sewing. Pm me if you are interested

TayusKilzEasyjay:


You get mind sha. Make we come date person way you disvirgin

TayusKilzEasyjay:


You get mind sha. Make we come date person way you disvirgin

Danhoys:


28 years? She's much older than me, though we might look like age mates. I've tried advising her but it doesn't yield any result.

JustCruise:
Is she Yoruba?

Danhoys:
I thought I knew what dirtiness was until my cousin's sister started living with us. We gave her a room, a roof over her head until she finds her bearing.

She's an orphan, almost going to 28 years, and sells food on Sundays for cash.

But, looking at her, she's the replica of the word 'unappealing.'

Her hair is always shabby, dirty, and she never attempt to even braid it to keep it in order. Black is beautiful, but hers comes in brown patches and acne.

She doesn't even care.

We have a water closet, and she's ready to keep popping without an attempt to flush. The last time I traveled and left the home for a week, the toilet was beyond what I could comprehend.

To the point I had to do renovation, repainted the wall, and had to hire a cleaner to help wash the toilet thoroughly.

I couldn't risk catching a disease doing it myself. That was how bad it was.

After doing all these, she stopped using the toilet, but would prefer to pop in the compound with a black nylon at night.

Sometimes, she even forget to throw them away. I had woke up very early in the morning. Saw her bucket and wanted to use it, what I saw changed my day.

I saw her feces, and since then I vowed never to touched a bucket that is isn't mine.

Aside from her protruding stomach which she does little to hide, the wrapper she wears every evening have never seen water in months.

Women are supposed to be conscious of their unclothedness, but not this cousin of mine.

She can avoid all the bathrooms, and choose to bathe outside in the open at night.

Like, around 8 to 9 pm when everyone is still very much awake.

Sometimes children will bump in on her unintentionally, and the kid will run away traumatized by what he or she have seen.

I dare not go into details to recount how she prepares the food she sales, and how dirty her coolers and kitchen utensils can swim with maggots for 6 days before she finally washes them on Saturday and prepares food on Sunday for her esteemed customers.

She's not beautiful facially, nor wear makeup or earrings since it's against her belief.

Doesn't wear clothes that suit her. If she dresses like an mbeke, that wouldn't be a problem. I just don't understand her dressing at all, coupled with her dirty look.

When it comes to religion, hers is the worse, jumping from one church to the other. And worse, we hardly sleepy at midnight.

She is always in battle with demons, with her speaking of tongues that don't just sound ridiculous, but deafening and irritating.

She's just 28, and I doubt if any man has ever stopped her on the road, and I still suspect she have never laid with a man before.

She's not mentally unstable if that is what most of you might think.

She's lively, knows how to joke and hold conversations like we all do. But when it comes to her body, grooming, overall cleaningness, she's zero.

There are grades of dirtiness, but when it comes to a stage where someone now dines and wines with feces, then there is a problem somewhere.

She's shapeless and doesn't want to do anything about it despite my numerous advise. She eats junk, like...

She runs to the backyard, gets some vegetables and fry it up with some concoctions and food is ready.

I know all their foods, and the things she cooks is nothing less than a concoction. I've eat her food once and my stomach testified.

A thoroughly analysis of her personality fascinates me to some extent. Is this her personality? Something that is genetically engineered into her that she has no control over?

Can she change?

Do you think I can help her, how?

Danhoys:


I love her very much, no hatred toward her. I only wish there is a way to help her. She definitely could be going through a lot, who isn't.

I'm practically an orphan myself, and I know what it means to struggle alone from a tender age.

We all have our stories. But does it warrant this magnitude of dirtiness? Her only problem is marriage, and I don't think there is anything else.

SeriouslySense:
Take it easy on her,
She can not change just like that, it can only happen gradually, She has to be willing to change, i think what is most critical, are the toilet hygiene, and diet.

But She is also stressed out, so don't raise her stress exponentially by throwing so much at her, if she is not yet ready to receive so much criticism concerning herself.

Found this funny quote on Quora, imao.

Why do people keep their house messy?
Keep their house messy? Messiness is the natural order of things, a result of the Second Law of Thermodynamics. This fundamental physics law says that disorder is far more probable than order; as the other laws of physics operate, confusion and randomness increase in the universe. This is often described as the inevitable increase in entropy.

Then how do some people manage to keep their houses unmessy? There is a loophole in the Law. It only states that the entropy of the universe must increase, not local entropy. So you can keep your house neat by spreading confusion elsewhere. This is typically done through work which results in heat (infrared radiation) being emitted (ultimately) to space. The disorder in this heat, if sufficiently great, can overcome the desired decrease in entropy of the house.

The real mystery is not why people keep their house messy. They don’t have to “keep” it that way; it is the natural order. The real mystery is how people manage to throw out the disorder into deep space and keep the entropy of their house from its otherwise natural increase.

jy2kbeyond:

Chai, and one innocent man will be eyeing her already o.

Danhoys:


I love her very much, no hatred toward her. I only wish there is a way to help her. She definitely could be going through a lot, who isn't.

I'm practically an orphan myself, and I know what it means to struggle alone from a tender age.

We all have our stories. But does it warrant this magnitude of dirtiness? Her only problem is marriage, and I don't think there is anything else.

Danhoys:


Not at all... She's not eating my food. Although her dirtiness makes others uncomfortable, but purpose of being here to find a way to help her.

And I can't get that help without painting a vivid picture of how she is...

SirDelight:
Considering your doubt whether she's ever been laid or not, it sounds like she's not a promiscuous lady. If poverty has not stopped my manhood from raising head at the moment, I would have asked for her contact coz I can manage such a lady. She would definitely adjust,,, may not be 100% change though.

You may still need to sit her down & talk some sense into her. May God help you both.

She still dey learn where some girls dey oo



Se o fi ori gbale?

Se mo mo e ri ni ?

You see mi ri

michbax:
As ridiculous as it sounds, that young lady is going through a lot, being an orphan and having to Carter for her every day need could be challenging and depressing.

in all of this, she's family, and family should be shown love and intense care.

And love covereth all fault.

slachtoffers:
The cousin sister is not a thing. She is either your sister or your cousin.

Unless you are telling me that your father is your mother's blood brother.

Nigerians should stop this cousin sister cousin brother shit.

Dpaul:
oga show us prove, how can u present ur case in court with evidence and u expect to win.

Danhoys:
I thought I knew what dirtiness was until my cousin's sister started living with us. We gave her a room, a roof over her head until she finds her bearing.

She's an orphan, almost going to 28 years, and sells food on Sundays for cash.

But, looking at her, she's the replica of the word 'unappealing.'

Her hair is always shabby, dirty, and she never attempt to even braid it to keep it in order. Black is beautiful, but hers comes in brown patches and acne.

She doesn't even care.

We have a water closet, and she's ready to keep popping without an attempt to flush. The last time I traveled and left the home for a week, the toilet was beyond what I could comprehend.

To the point I had to do renovation, repainted the wall, and had to hire a cleaner to help wash the toilet thoroughly.

I couldn't risk catching a disease doing it myself. That was how bad it was.

After doing all these, she stopped using the toilet, but would prefer to pop in the compound with a black nylon at night.

Sometimes, she even forget to throw them away. I had woke up very early in the morning. Saw her bucket and wanted to use it, what I saw changed my day.

I saw her feces, and since then I vowed never to touched a bucket that is isn't mine.

Aside from her protruding stomach which she does little to hide, the wrapper she wears every evening have never seen water in months.

Women are supposed to be conscious of their unclothedness, but not this cousin of mine.

She can avoid all the bathrooms, and choose to bathe outside in the open at night.

Like, around 8 to 9 pm when everyone is still very much awake.

Sometimes children will bump in on her unintentionally, and the kid will run away traumatized by what he or she have seen.

I dare not go into details to recount how she prepares the food she sales, and how dirty her coolers and kitchen utensils can swim with maggots for 6 days before she finally washes them on Saturday and prepares food on Sunday for her esteemed customers.

She's not beautiful facially, nor wear makeup or earrings since it's against her belief.

Doesn't wear clothes that suit her. If she dresses like an mbeke, that wouldn't be a problem. I just don't understand her dressing at all, coupled with her dirty look.

When it comes to religion, hers is the worse, jumping from one church to the other. And worse, we hardly sleepy at midnight.

She is always in battle with demons, with her speaking of tongues that don't just sound ridiculous, but deafening and irritating.

She's just 28, and I doubt if any man has ever stopped her on the road, and I still suspect she have never laid with a man before.

She's not mentally unstable if that is what most of you might think.

She's lively, knows how to joke and hold conversations like we all do. But when it comes to her body, grooming, overall cleaningness, she's zero.

There are grades of dirtiness, but when it comes to a stage where someone now dines and wines with feces, then there is a problem somewhere.

She's shapeless and doesn't want to do anything about it despite my numerous advise. She eats junk, like...

She runs to the backyard, gets some vegetables and fry it up with some concoctions and food is ready.

I know all their foods, and the things she cooks is nothing less than a concoction. I've eat her food once and my stomach testified.

A thoroughly analysis of her personality fascinates me to some extent. Is this her personality? Something that is genetically engineered into her that she has no control over?

Can she change?

Do you think I can help her, how?

Iatrogen:


So in other words, we are all disorganized and untidy by default. It's just our duty to ensure & enforce order right?

michbax:
As ridiculous as it sounds, that young lady is going through a lot, being an orphan and having to Carter for her every day need could be challenging and depressing.

in all of this, she's family, and family should be shown love and intense care.

And love covereth all fault.

codedphyness:
e b lyk say dis UE cousin na Yoruba babe

Danhoys:


I've talked to her numerous times, and it has yielded nothing.

Danhoys:


Not at all... She's not eating my food. Although her dirtiness makes others uncomfortable, but purpose of being here to find a way to help her.

And I can't get that help without painting a vivid picture of how she is...