Chummynoni:

What is he meant to do?
I can learn from your advise as well

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

frank950:


at this age and time, you still think that getting g pregnant for a guy will force him to marry you... lol...
The only thing that can make a guy commit to you after a long time is of he really loves you.
Every lady knows a guy that loves her .... when you are confused on whether or not he loves you, clarify things with him and move on.

Godoverevery:
what is your contribution towards this financially.

Marriage require alot.....him marrying you isn't the prob but life after wedding is the issh.

Just this week alone .....money I drop for feeding have double....my fiancee went to the market yesterday and i had to spend almost double of what I normally spend... cost of living is too high.

if he is on 60k and you can come up with 30k you have a shout but if you aren't contributing just free the man abeg.

Kingstanding:
. For good eight years? I hope he married you later if not the person that will marry you in future I pity am. And he had been making love with you for that right years? I swear if I didn't marry you your future husband cannot meet good thing there anymore. My candid advice is to leave that guy, he can not marry you I swear, he will just be posting you.If guys really love a lady it's the guy that will be begging that please marry me na if money no dey today money go come tommorow because he will do anything just to convince you. The guy in question is tired of your pussy I swear the truth is bitter. Majorities of relationship that is more than two years na cry dey end am. You have used your body to play betnaija.

ogbonti:

she is a liability joor

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

Draei:


"Who gave you timetable.?"

I like that question, most girls need to hear this.

siryolo4:

I love that question... "who gave you time table"?

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

Lomprico2:


different strokes for different folks.
my guy wants to marry his girl after 8yrs but she wants him to make millions first. Dude has proposed twice on different occasions and she turned him down that he has not made money enough.

UjuJoan2:


You want to marry a guy earning 60k?

I don’t understand? Are you rich yourself? Because that’s the only way the marriage will work.

Do you realize how hard things are now, and to start a family with such meager income.

Pls if you are not financially capable and ready to cater for your family leave that man alone. Don’t force him into making the greatest mistake of his
Life.

Why on earth will you even date a guy for 8years. And a poor one at that! Nawa.

UjuJoan2:


Wise girl.

Not everyone is ready to suffer in the name of marriage!!

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

Lomprico2:


Hungry, gold digging girl like you. the guy was well to do, lives in a 2bedroom flat n drives a 2009 Camry. News flash, she is still single 3yrs after dumping him.

akanbiaa:
I respect your opinion but just want to also call your attention that there are many people in fact in the majority that husband and wife are earning 15k or less each monthly especially private school teachers, things might not be rosy for them but the are surviving. But it's always best to plan well and manage resources well.

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

Realhommie:
Hehehehe... I was just laughing reading that part, lol.

My sister called me yesterday and was telling me about one of her husband's extended family relation whose wife is frustrating now ehn, to the extent he's become a drunk.

His salary was 50k, the girl was working too and she was an angel, lol. Cajoled the bobo with loyalty and an overdose of sweetness, saying we'll manage and all. Now his 50k can't do nothing anymore coz they have a kid together who's a few months old. He's been borrowing to float his family and he's become a laughing stock to his in-laws. He's frustrated.

My sis was almost crying when she was telling me coz of how close this guy is to her husband. That the guy called her husband and was crying seriously, a mature man. But i blame him coz he gave in to pressure to get married.

No man should ever attempt to get married if he isn't financially stable, otherwise he'll struggle for life and it will take God's mercy to maybe liberate him. So forget all this "we'll manage, I'll manage" which they always say. Once you marry them and can no longer meet up to your responsibilities then respect goes out the window, you become a rag, your life becomes a living hell.

The dude is a very sensible dude with a good head over his shoulders, I like him for his stand. It's either she exercise more patience or move ahead rather than worry the young man for marriage.

DEMZEE:


Don't u get my point

Women are hypergamous and will always seek a man who has high value And his value is higher than hers for mating and for commitment.

Women hate building with a man because she will be forced to b masculine and she detests entering the masculinity essence. It kills her femininity bro

Only a weak and useless man will depend on his wife for financial support or use his wife as backup plan for finances!!!

authority2006:


God gave them timetable, a biological timetable. May be you and the one you quoted didn't know that.

UjuJoan2:


Wise girl.

Not everyone is ready to suffer in the name of marriage!!

LordKO:


Ujujoan, use your church mind dash this young lady at least 10m naira so that she can help her man to arrange the marriage sharp sharp. Big a good sister to her.

UjuJoan2:




The lord himself . . . I hail oh!!