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Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by authority2006(m): 8:39pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Chummynoni: He and his fiancée needs to sit and discuss about how to boost their income. For how long are they going to postpone the marriage? 8 years already after graduation. They could pull their little resources (savings) together and let either the man or the woman go into buying and selling while the other one continues with the salary work. The one with salary work can assist after closing hour. I got married with far less amount as salary but I quickly realised that I needed to change my orientation concerning work and income. I'm not there yet but the decision paid off. 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by frozen70(f): 8:40pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
abigail11: My dear sister, it's obvious he is not ready to settle down in another eight years, meaning he will be using you to satisfy himself and once you become pregnant, you are own your own Pls make up your mind and look elsewhere, Your time and his time are not in the same speed 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by eazyduzit: 8:40pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Come get me,am ready. 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Cachetdotng: 8:40pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
The men are stranded ![]() 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Nobody: 8:42pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
frank950:If the same guy were to impregnate someone else at this junction,he will gladly dump the op and marry the new lady. Hope you know that . ![]() 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by lushak(m): 8:42pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
[quote author=Zzor post=99579090]Anything wrong with the comment?we all have our preferences and we make our own choices too[/quoteu U are right anyway. Who am I to question ur choice! |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Laird(m): 8:42pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Let's forget sentiments Forget wedding ceremony Marriage Life needs money Money for Bigger apartment Money for pregnancy and antenatal and medical Pregnancy issues and baby issues It is not cheap even if You go to a government hospital Sometimes the pregnancy or the baby has health issues and the mother can't work. The man now carries the whole burden and inflation and prices are going up Marriage is a lot of duties, responsibilities and requirements and obligations. Time, effort and Money. If You are not ready, don't enter particularly for Men If You go to hospital without money, You would be insulted If You can't pay your rent, your landlord might insult You If You can't provide everything needed for Your family, You might not feel.happy within yourself and your wife might even start to disrespect You The Hard Painful truth I have been down that route before. I was not earning enough then and the breakout plan did not work out. I couldn't carry more than myself so a settlement was reached and that was it 3 Likes |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by letitrainnow(m): 8:44pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
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Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by EndRape2(f): 8:44pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Are there no other suitors coming? Leave him and accept other proposal s See a guy that trully loves you will be the one shouting for marriage, even without any money, he will not mind starting from a room because he does not want to loose you,. See the guy has alternatives , like there are other girls he sees as better choice, he is only waiting for you to go, so he can propose to them. even if you talk him into marriage you will not enjoy the marriage, he will still cheat on you. You have try, accept other suitors, But you can test his love by telling him, somebody is interested in marrying you, and watch his reply, if he should reply you with marry the person, it is a sign he has no interest in marrying you. Secondly you can stop sex in the relationship, and other wifey duty you are doing, hope you are not living with him, because living with him, is a big error, that will never make a man marry you, Stop all duties, like sex , cooking , washing,. At least you have done it for 8years no result stop it, and give your self , self respect. For eight years I am sure you have been removing pregnancy for him, What is his reaction when ever you are pregnant, did he say keep it, or remove it? If he has been saying remove it, sister run run run run from that relationship. If you grow old with him, when he dumps you, nairaland boys will call you old news paper,. Be wise , and act fast. 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Laird(m): 8:47pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
:- Don't go to the hospital with your pregnancy or pregnant wife without keeping Better money aside I have told You Oooooooooo. Ask your nurses and doctor and Pharmacy friends who work in the hospital even government hospitals. Don't make Yourself the subject of insult and ridicule. Don't even think of calling relatives or people.to Vail You out for delivery Hospital Money.. They might not talk but they most times would be resentful in their mind Marriage Pregnancy Children Wife Family All need money to keep things running smoothly Men.who has ears, let him.hear 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by OyinO: 8:49pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
What proposal are you waiting for? You're already married without dowry payment. Just tell him to go pay your dowry, and if he refuses, call it end of the road. 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by ogbonti: 8:49pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Godoverevery: she is a liability joor |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by frank950(m): 8:50pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Kingstanding: why is it that when issue of relationship is discussed in Nigeria, the only tangible thing people use to rate the woman is sex, elasticity of the pussy...... it says alot about relationship in this country and it's bad, really bad. The standard is so low; not great ideas, plans, intellectual engagement, career growth, or at least being at par with the other in terms of social live and exposure. It's always the issue of the man having enough coitus with the woman, or the woman's exceeding marriageable age. Or the woman trying to trap the man into marriage with pregnancy. There is need for more...... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by IKennaGabriel(m): 8:51pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Can't you wait for him to be ready too? ogbonti:Can't you wait for him to be ready too? |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Lomprico2: 8:51pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
abigail11: different strokes for different folks. my guy wants to marry his girl after 8yrs but she wants him to make millions first. Dude has proposed twice on different occasions and she turned him down that he has not made money enough. 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by authority2006(m): 8:52pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by eastgates1: 8:52pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Dear Abigail, trust this meets you well, i usually dont comment on sm but your pain can be felt. I also understand the young man, it's not been easy on them with the current economic situation. I know the pressures of time as you are not getting younger with your biological clock ticking coupled with your parents and friends asking questions, "when will you marry?" I would suggest to leave him,there are more opportunies waiting out there, men willing to start where they are and with what they have. I believe there are lessons this must have shown you about indecisive time wasters. I also know about the time, energy and resources invested but you cant get to canaan without leaving egypt and if you still want to wait because you believe in him and are sure he has integrity, its your call, weigh the options carefully, then make a decision quickly and stick to it. You are an adult now your life, your responsibility. I look forward to your wedding invite. Signed ... 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by UjuJoan2: 8:53pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
abigail11: You want to marry a guy earning 60k? I don’t understand? Are you rich yourself? Because that’s the only way the marriage will work. Do you realize how hard things are now, and to start a family with such meager income. Pls if you are not financially capable and ready to cater for your family leave that man alone. Don’t force him into making the greatest mistake of his Life. Why on earth will you even date a guy for 8years. And a poor one at that! Nawa. 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by UjuJoan2: 8:55pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Lomprico2: Wise girl. Not everyone is ready to suffer in the name of marriage!! |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by akanbiaa(m): 8:59pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
UjuJoan2:I respect your opinion but just want to also call your attention that there are many people in fact in the majority that husband and wife are earning 15k or less each monthly especially private school teachers, things might not be rosy for them but the are surviving. But it's always best to plan well and manage resources well. 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Lomprico2: 8:59pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
UjuJoan2: Hungry, gold digging girl like you. the guy was well to do, lives in a 2bedroom flat n drives a 2009 Camry. News flash, she is still single 3yrs after dumping him. 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by MrNipplesLover(m): 9:04pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
The characters on this NL na second to none. See comments. ![]() |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by timisquare82(m): 9:04pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Zzor:So you have been dating married men all this while because no man would still remain single at that age. So you are a home breaker? 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by UjuJoan2: 9:05pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Lomprico2: Okay . . . If you say so! |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by UjuJoan2: 9:07pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
akanbiaa: But what kind of life would they have? These people are graduates so already they should be at a certain level in life. Their kids too. I don’t know, but 60k to me is just too damn small. Maybe if they were BOTH earning 60k each . . . |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Ernesthugo(m): 9:08pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
abigail11:I think you ugly |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by laoludavid(m): 9:08pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
Realhommie: This should serve as lesson to upcoming husband that we should know the word 'I will cope with the little we have' is a statement from a desperate woman. A man should know that the moment he marries, he didn't marry only the woman but his in laws too which will add to his responsibility no matter how small it is. And truth be told 50k salary is very small to raise a family in Nigeria of today (especially if you come from a average family). My average salary with bonus is around 50k and believe me I hardly have any saving (tho i have a side investment and a little boy). Things are hard and we need to be very pragmatic in our decision (especially marital decision). 2 Likes |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by frank950(m): 9:10pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
DEMZEE: this is so funny, wahala for who is considering her hypergamy and femininity. so wait, what will be her role in your life if she can't support you financial when need be...... we give ourselves too much burden in this short life. Always placing ourselves in an overreaching pedestal to maintain our ego. If a woman renders financial support to you and feel she doesn't need to respect you because of that, you shouldn't be in a relationship with her at the first place.... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by Draei: 9:11pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
authority2006: E pass menopause.? Abegi! There is still ample of time in this case. |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by LordKO(m): 9:11pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
UjuJoan2: Ujujoan, use your church mind dash this young lady at least 10m naira so that she can help her man to arrange the marriage sharp sharp. Be a good sister to her. 1 Like |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by UjuJoan2: 9:12pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
LordKO: ![]() ![]() The lord himself . . . I hail oh!! ![]() ![]() |
Re: 8 Years Of Relationship And Not Even A Proposal From My Boyfriend by LordKO(m): 9:13pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
UjuJoan2: Lol. Na me hail pass. 2 Likes |
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