Mcslize:


That's why I am still being lenient with her. If it is to be ladies they won't care how the guy will feel. But here I am considering how she will feel.

A lady will break up with a guy without considering how the guy will feel. They are heartless, but when the coin is turned the other way round, the guy will think about it day and night how the girl will feel if he breaks up with her.

Guys are more sympathetic than ladies. When you love a girl that's when they will Bleep you up. But when you don't love them, that's when they will treat you like a king.

Life no balance at all.

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

cchub:
he loves you and wants more for the 2 both of you.
60k in this economy is nothing. when you guys marry and responsibilities starts to pile up, it might not be funny.

Y'all can start doubling up now....start trying some new business ventures and all.

shadeyinka:

That is an exception to the rule. The average man will prefer a sex based non committed exclusive relationship. Men don't need to love to have sex, most women find it difficult separating sex from love.

Not withstanding, it is not impossible that a marriage focused exclusive relationship cannot break up due to other reasons!

PoliteActivist:


It is funny how people don't see that many things they think is nature is merely local conditioning. Women love and benefit from sex just as much as men. Define "non-commited exclusive relationship"

shadeyinka:

Women DON'T love and benefit from sex just as much as men. It takes as little as 2min for some guys while for the average girl is 15minuite. In other words, based on frequency of demand, most women will take the INADEQUATE 5 minuites from the men in exchange for other things. What is the statistics of women able to have their orgasm within 5minuits?

A "non-commited exclusive relationship is a boy-friend-girl-friend relationship.
-Exclusive because it is illegal to fling sexually with others.
-Non-commited in the sense that there exist no definite commitment for (permanence of relationship) marriage

PoliteActivist:


What does what you said have to do with "love sex" and "benefit from sex". How many videos have we seen of women crying they need prick durring the lockdown

Non-commited exclusive is an oxymoron

Descortes:
I don't like you anymore

Zzor:
Did you ever like me Oga?coming from someone who derives joy in insulting me unnecessarily, INA RU WA NA

UjuJoan2:


I never said that money was in exchange for sex. Both man and wife enjoy sex so that’s not the issue.

But the roles are clear. The man provides, the woman tends to the children and keeps the home.

Will you wash plate? Wash the toilet? Bathe and feed the children?

Most Nigerian men consider these duties degrading and insulting. And yet they expect the woman to do all this and still provide financially. It doesn’t seem fair now does it?

shadeyinka:

Of course!
A non-commited exclusive relationship is a FAT contradiction AND only a stupid girl get herself into one.

Why should a girl get into an exclusive relationship that has no future?. Who is going to loose?

Once a lady crosses 28years of age, it becomes increasingly difficult for her. The reverse is for the men, at 40, a man can find a girl and marry her in 3 months

Descortes:
sorry o. I should've just minded my business.
Take care

PoliteActivist:


Once again, funny how people think their local conditioning is from nature. What you described applies only in places like Nigeria. Go to 50 plus dating sites in western countries, vast majority of the posters are men. Yahoo Boys pretending be be girls dupe men all the time

darmilolah:
So many people have been shouting 8yrs relationship forgetting that the have been dating since undergraduate days.

I want to believe they went to same school. If that’s the case, the real relationship stated after school and post NYSC.

So this relationship is just 3-4yrs

Zzor:
lol where have you been

darmilolah:
So many people have been shouting 8yrs relationship forgetting that the have been dating since undergraduate days.

I want to believe they went to same school. If that’s the case, the real relationship stated after school and post NYSC.

So this relationship is just 3-4yrs

Descortes:
your head. And I found nothing

Descortes:
your head. And I found nothing

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

Zzor:
Part of the reasons I don't have eyes for young men like you,bombastic element.

12inchess:
I know a couple that dated over 12 years and since secondary school and married and had a kid last year. Everyone was always yabbing the lady and calling her lord of the rings etc. but it ended in joy for her. But for some people this kind of thing will end in premium tears. No one knows tomorrow. Even Chioma of assurance fame is still baby mama dey live her life. Anyone that is advising you cannot predict what will happen. So the decision is left to you. Aunty you are an adult and I have no advice for you on this.


Maybe you can tie him down with belle

PoliteActivist:


The opposite of hypogamy
Come on, we all know what it means

frank950:


this is so funny, wahala for who is considering her hypergamy and femininity.

so wait, what will be her role in your life if she can't support you financial when need be......

we give ourselves too much burden in this short life. Always placing ourselves in an overreaching pedestal to maintain our ego.

If a woman renders financial support to you and feel she doesn't need to respect you because of that, you shouldn't be in a relationship with her at the first place....

DEMZEE:


If u know then u will understand why it's stupid to make ur wife ur backup plan financially

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

PoliteActivist:


Nothing like back-up plan. You talk like you don't live in the real world. Don't we always read of women who supported or even carried their husbands till they became a real catch??