qtguru:

Glad someone said it. Though I'd reply with sorry I'm broke and if she is acting anyhow I focus in the hustle. Times have changed sha

Drsnives:
Cloth

doggedfighter:


Times have changed indeed, dearie. He should be asking how to overcome challenges he's facing so as to graduate and make something out of his life but no , it's woman problem that's bothering him

And he said I am frustrated for telling him the truth

Akamariner:

Coat

Drsnives:
Cloth. Go call police

Everrich96:
I'm just disappointed at how some people come into your life genuinely at first and in the long run they try to run you by blackmailing you emotionally because they've got this strong entitlement mentality.

Below is attached, screenshots of the chat I had with a lady who posed to be a "caring friend".
We met barely 3months ago, and in one week she was already making demands , cuz when she met me , I might have given off a notion of being successful cuz things were really working fine with me. She asked me to take her out , I tried to ignore cuz I was loyal to my girlfriend, now EX. Eventually after black mailing me emotionally, I gave in.

There were times she really cared and there were days when I tested her patience whenever she requested for financial favour and I didn't give in, she became mean and impatient. Recently , things have been really hard for me, and I can't even pay my rent, and I lost so much money to bad investments and I can't even afford a good meal. I'm just a final year student singly helping myself and no one's helping out , i've got exams by the corner and my girlfriend just broke up with me. So much heartbreaking events . She claimed to be my friend yet she kept looking for means to extort me, and She's got a boyfriend .

Just Last week, she called me for the first time in 2weeks since . She was acting all caring and next she tells me she's broke and she's looking for capital to buy make up kits , I tried to ignore. Next thing she starts saying " you cant ask me how much I need.. bla bla" , I then told her all the aforementioned problems I'm going through...She started crying that truly I was going through alot.

Fast forward to this night , she flashed me and I called her back . She started saying stuffs like she's craving Shawarma etc. I ignored , she complained. She requested other stuffs which I ignored and tried to skip the convo. She said she would come see me , but I've got to book an Uber. Had to remind her of my current status and things aint funny anymore , but I can book her uber when she would leave only if she came using a public trans. We ended the convo..


Moments later, she chatted me on Whatsapp to recharge her phone. I couldn't take it, I had to give her a piece of my mind, she felt offended and she blocked me. Like, why make it an obligation to always try to take something from me? The least or most you could be as a "friend" is to be supportive than being a parasitic leech!!

Akamariner:

YOU!

And not love must be blind.

doggedfighter:


Times have changed indeed, dearie. He should be asking how to overcome challenges he's facing so as to graduate and make something out of his life but no , it's woman problem that's bothering him

And he said I am frustrated for telling him the truth

SmellingAnus:
Everrich96 This one she dey bill you like say na every day you dey bang her? But wait o... Is it just a platonic friendship?

Everrich96:



Boss just platonic friendship o ..

etrange:
Lol... this escalated too quickly and that's probably what you get when you fill your head with the things NL boys say onhere to the point that you make a mountain out of everything (not saying that's OP's case).

Asking for something is not entitlement mentality. Anybody can ask for anything including your male friends. Entitlement mentality is when she starts to misbehave simply cause she didn't get what she asked for; that's when you say she's feeling entitled. The lady might have the so called entitlement but you didn't give her the chance to expose herself. You sped into accusing her of not caring about you and thereby insinuating she's a gold digger. Perhaps this was the last straw that broke your camel's back cause it was almost as if you were waiting for an opportunity to call her out. I don't know how you were expecting her to take it but only a few people would take that without feeling offended. Now, there's no telling how she would have reacted if you had just said you didn't have. Next time, just say you don't have.

The OP expected much from the lady.
You know at times, you expect your friend to pick you up when you are down. But the lady always put herself first.

What are friends for if they can't help each other in time of need.
#MyOpinion

Everrich96:
It didn't end there.i had to pour out my heart via my second WhatsApp line before equally blocking her off...

Qatar2022:

So with what you read you don't see selfishness on the girl part? I don't really understand how some of you comprehend atimes

AwesomeStormy00:
I am sorry i disagree with you on this one, if a guy is telling his girlfriend what he is going through he is telling her because he wants emotional support, a shoulder to cry on, someone to listen to him and gives him moral supoort.

Personally in my opinion this girl show no emotions ni sympathy not even empathy to her boyfriend. All she wanted is food, then £££, then topup credit, then money for uber etc. She is a parasites and he is the host to feed on. What i dont understand is are all Nigerians girls like this ni? If they are then they are worst than prostitute.

Op, no love here having said that i hope.naija still get honest girls out there with genuine love.if not then the future is bleak.

WoundedLamb:


I think you are looking at the chat alone. In that case, I'd partially agree with this. Except there were other things that led to the OP's reaction, telling her how she doesn't care about you cause she asked for some call credit makes it look like it's a crime for people to ask their partners for stuff. But then again, the OP's reaction shows the request came at the wrong time cause he was (maybe still is, lol) broke and that was probably the source of his anger. Of course, I wouldn't have responded that. I would have told her I didn't have and then let her reaction détermine the next line of action.

However, from the chat, you can tell it was an over the counter kind of relationship. The way they "talked" to each other shows the two were in for benefits and nothing more.

OnlyDeCapPlease:


My guy. Females are not interested in all this epistle. With most females it's all about ME ME ME ME. She's the one that is supposed to be "pouring her heart out" not you, as far as she's concerned. What you've done in your chats is make her feel guilty. It doesn't matter what she has done, no matter how serious. Her problem here is that you made her feel guilty/bad so YOU are the one in the wrong and it overshadows any thing that she might have done.

Females are not really concerned with the contents of what you have to say or how well you put it together. What matters to them is HOW you say it, WHEN you say it, HOW it comes across to her and, most importantly, HOW it made her feel.

etrange:
Lol... this escalated too quickly and that's probably what you get when you fill your head with the things NL boys say onhere to the point that you make a mountain out of everything (not saying that's OP's case).

Asking for something is not entitlement mentality. Anybody can ask for anything including your male friends. Entitlement mentality is when she starts to misbehave simply cause she didn't get what she asked for; that's when you say she's feeling entitled. The lady might have the so called entitlement but you didn't give her the chance to expose herself. You sped into accusing her of not caring about you and thereby insinuating she's a gold digger. Perhaps this was the last straw that broke your camel's back cause it was almost as if you were waiting for an opportunity to call her out. I don't know how you were expecting her to take it but only a few people would take that without feeling offended. Now, there's no telling how she would have reacted if you had just said you didn't have. Next time, just say you don't have.

#MyOpinion

eduj:

shawarma, Uber, recharge cards. All through that exchange she was asking,asking and asking-she never showed any intention to give.And when the op came forward,she resorted to emotional blackmail and bulshitting.
Your man is down, do you need an Uber to come over to cheer him up? He is broke and she actually asked for a snack of close to 1k- who does that?
Biko op, you did the right thing, she isn't matured enough for a meaningful relationship and focus on your hustle, Jehovah will see you through

Everrich96:
It didn't end there.i had to pour out my heart via my second WhatsApp line before equally blocking her off...

stanliwise:

Don’t do what you did again

Everrich96:



What's that

etrange:



You guys probably missed my point. I'm not defending the girl. I'm also inclined to believe she was there for the money (like I acknowledged in my post). I'm only saying the OP didn't give her the chance to expose herself. OP's reaction gave her a soft landing. I just feel "I don't have" would have gone a long way to make her show her true colours with nothing to hide under instead of the emotional outburst. Saying "I don't have" and waiting for her to fall into his net would have made the case an open-and-close one. But moving to attack her cause she made a request (strictly going by the chat) only gave her something to hold on to. Personally, I'd have been more logical that emotional in this case. But it would seem the OP was already set to end things.

Karleb:


Even though the OP is going through challenges, it shouldn't stop him from loving.

The way you people talk about love and relationship online, one would think it is for those without problems in life.