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Smh

You never dey ready for marriage. I'm guessing it's a boy that wrote it.

I will tell you a secret you may not now. Go home relay your part you typed above to your mum and female friends. Then go and do thorough research on this short statement I'll make below from different people


A man will carry a cross for a woman he chooses to marry. Some heavy financial burden, alot sickness. I can boldly tell you that 3 to 4 out of 10 ladies fall sick like this regularly into marriage but when you see them dressed up you don't know.


Marriage before now, the husband then increases his affection and love for his intending wife or wife over the sickness so he has more reasons to want her inspite of shortcomings.


Do your research 40% of women fall sick like this even well into marriage. If you no fit carry the load, leave am. Marriage isn't companionship alone. It's a mixture of strengths and weaknesses but much women will bring in bulk weakness. That's why the notion stand strong as a man was invented. You must be ready for the journey and to fight and fight..
I know this cause I've fought for many ladies today. Thankfully, many of them scaled through fully at the end.

Take am easy...if you like the girl her health issues shouldnt be much of a problem o. Just take her back to the hospital and really get the doctors to find the root of her constant sickness so they could fix it. It is well o. And you should look into getting yourself a health insurance too incase it's going to be for the long haul. Shes now your wife biko.

By the way, I find the whole arrangement sorta funny but I know it will be in absolute poor taste to laugh right now. All will be well.

Tillman:
Hello good people of Nairaland,
I dated a girl since April 2019 till Feb 9,2021 before l paid the bride price ,Main traditional wedding extended to end of this year without definite date.l met her when she was at age 21 and leaving with her aunt in Abuja while l was in one of the Africa countries.lt's was more of an arranged marriage because my uncle and one of his friend were behind the arrangement.The girl left her aunt place in Abuja to the village in August same year after spending 4years with her, she returned very sick then.l asked her aunt why she returned,her aunt told me she(the aunt) can leave without her by then,that she was very hardworking girl and doesn't follow men bla bla,l then asked my girl why she returned,she told me her aunt no longer allowed her do any other thing apart from house chores,she felt like a slave to them.The aunt never told me of her been sick always.
Her stayed in the village,she always fell sick,l travel in December 2019 met with her and then proceed to see the parents telling them my intention before returning back to my base.Time to time she used to tell me that ,she was sick.one day,l asked her if always fall sick or it's normal sickness she is used to.she answered me,she was a very strong girl and don't fell sick always.
The problem now,l went Feb and paid the bride price she was allowed to came with me to know my place,but it's more of a secret celebration as no many numbers of people were present during the ceremony.
Ever since she came from one sickness to another,she stays at home,just yesterday l have spent more than 30k, her hair was 7,900,later in the night after she returned from market and l also came back from work, it's was stomach pain at the lower abdomen,l took to the hospital at exactly 3 am this morning 23 -24k gone already before 5 am,we are back home and she is fine.
I want to call either my uncle and his friends or my parents ( they force l must marry the girl because they feel she has good home training),or her parents to explain as things are going,l never love to share any problems with them this time but things are getting out hands.
I have spent over 50k for her hospital and etc in just Feb,majorly on drugs.

It is painful.
Your folks meant well.
They thought they were doing a favour.
What exactly is the issue?
What did the doctor say?
Don't just spend money on drugs without knowing the root cause.

portplus:


It is painful.
Your folks meant well.
They thought they were doing a favour.
What exactly is the issue?
What did the doctor say?
Don't just spend money on drugs without knowing the root cause.

very painful.she always fall sick,today back pain, tomorrow head pain,next either internal heat or stomach pain.l'm tired.l planned to her for full check up by Friday but after that lf her body continues these ways l will have no other option than to take her home,l'm feel betray because if have asked them before now.

This is why pre-marriage health tests are a necessary step before marriage, though she and/or her family should've been honest with you. Don't dip out on the marriage but help her get the right medical attention and continue your union.

Tillman:
very painful.she always fall sick,today back pain, tomorrow head pain,next either internal heat or stomach pain.l'm tired.l planned to her for full check up by Friday but after that lf her body continues these ways l will have no other option than to take her home,l'm feel betray because if have asked them before now.

Good step.
If you can't cope....better quit.
Follow your mind.
All the best.

narrate your experience to your NUCLEAR FAMILY (especially with the females) and hear from them.

then personally take her to a trusted hospital for full health check -bshe might have an underlying health condition that you are unaware of

anthonyuncle:
narrate your experience to your NUCLEAR FAMILY (especially with the females) and hear from them.

then personally take her to a trusted hospital for full health check -bshe might have an underlying health condition that you are unaware of

Noted, thanks uncle Anthony.

"She's always sick, she feels sick, she falls sick, I have spent over 50k on drugs, just yesterday, 30k gone...bla bla bla..."

Yet you don't know the nature of her sickness?? You've spent over 50k treating a sickness you don't know and somehow, you believe her family has all the answers you need? The answers your doctor couldn't give you? The answer you failed to ask your doctor?

You will make a good client to yahoo boys and scammers.

Acidosis:

"She's always sick, she feels sick, she falls sick, I have spent over 50k on drugs, just yesterday, 30k gone...bla bla bla..."

Yet you don't know the nature of her sickness?? You've spent over 50k treating a sickness you don't know and somehow, you believe her family has all the answers you need? The answers your doctor couldn't give you? The answer you failed to ask your doctor?

You will make a good client to yahoo boys and scammers.

maybe the way l narrated the whole issue, that's why you can't understand me well.l'm aren't a fool but a child trying to obey those he respect.

Tillman:
Hello good people of Nairaland,
I dated a girl since April 2019 till Feb 9,2021 before l paid the bride price ,Main traditional wedding extended to end of this year without definite date.l met her when she was at age 21 and leaving with her aunt in Abuja while l was in one of the Africa countries.lt's was more of an arranged marriage because my uncle and one of his friend were behind the arrangement.The girl left her aunt place in Abuja to the village in August same year after spending 4years with her, she returned very sick then.l asked her aunt why she returned,her aunt told me she(the aunt) can leave without her by then,that she was very hardworking girl and doesn't follow men bla bla,l then asked my girl why she returned,she told me her aunt no longer allowed her do any other thing apart from house chores,she felt like a slave to them.The aunt never told me of her been sick always.
Her stayed in the village,she always fell sick,l travel in December 2019 met with her and then proceed to see the parents telling them my intention before returning back to my base.Time to time she used to tell me that ,she was sick.one day,l asked her if always fall sick or it's normal sickness she is used to.she answered me,she was a very strong girl and don't fell sick always.
The problem now,l went Feb and paid the bride price she was allowed to came with me to know my place,but it's more of a secret celebration as no many numbers of people were present during the ceremony.
Ever since she came from one sickness to another,she stays at home,just yesterday l have spent more than 30k, her hair was 7,900,later in the night after she returned from market and l also came back from work, it's was stomach pain at the lower abdomen,l took to the hospital at exactly 3 am this morning 23 -24k gone already before 5 am,we are back home and she is fine.
I want to call either my uncle and his friends or my parents ( they force l must marry the girl because they feel she has good home training),or her parents to explain as things are going,l never love to share any problems with them this time but things are getting out hands.
I have spent over 50k for her hospital and etc in just Feb,majorly on drugs.

Before making any calls, just tell a Doctor to run a check all over her body including, blood test, urine test, poo test, liver test, kidney test, virginal swab and comprehensive test

Let's see the outcome, that's when you will be able to call any one to tell them how you feel about her constant sickness

I want to use this same channel to thank you all for your words of encouragements, criticism,etc
After l wrote this topic l went back with her for total check up at the General hospital that l took her there when she was down previously.I met with the doctor who ran test and took her blood the previous time,after the blood test he wrote some drugs for us to bought at a pharmacy,there was an injection they gave her too and everything calmed down for her.ln summary,we never ran another test.
She is doing well right now and we are fine.
Thanks to:
RedSquid
Sisisioge
Portplus
Anthonyuncle
Acidosis and
Frozen70

Tillman:
I want to use this same channel to thank you all for your words of encouragements, criticism,etc
After l wrote this topic l went back with her for total check up at the General hospital that l took her there when she was down previously.I met with the doctor who ran test and took her blood the previous time,after the blood test he wrote some drugs for us to bought at a pharmacy,there was an injection they gave her too and everything calmed down for her.ln summary,we never ran another test.
She is doing well right now and we are fine.
Thanks to:
RedSquid
Sisisioge
Portplus
Anthonyuncle
Acidosis and
Frozen70

thank God

Tillman:
I want to use this same channel to thank you all for your words of encouragements, criticism,etc
After l wrote this topic l went back with her for total check up at the General hospital that l took her there when she was down previously.I met with the doctor who ran test and took her blood the previous time,after the blood test he wrote some drugs for us to bought at a pharmacy,there was an injection they gave her too and everything calmed down for her.ln summary,we never ran another test.
She is doing well right now and we are fine.
Thanks to:
RedSquid
Sisisioge
Portplus
Anthonyuncle
Acidosis and
Frozen70

Halleluyah

RedSquid:




Halleluyah

Why Halleluya.?

frozen70:


Why Halleluya.?

Let's begin here lawyer. Why not?

anthonyuncle:


thank God

Amen

RedSquid:




Halleluyah

Amen bro.

Tillman:
Amen bro.

. Marry & Enjoy. Our own na to collect " tithe " here in form of give away

RedSquid:


. Marry & Enjoy. Our own na to collect " tithe " here in form of give away

RedSquid:



Let's begin here lawyer. Why not?

Who told you am a lawyer, am sure you must have been monitoring my responses, you try

frozen70:


Who told you am a lawyer, am sure you must have been monitoring my responses, you try

Na so


I be think say you wan follow me drag case na

Tillman:
I want to use this same channel to thank you all for your words of encouragements, criticism,etc
After l wrote this topic l went back with her for total check up at the General hospital that l took her there when she was down previously.I met with the doctor who ran test and took her blood the previous time,after the blood test he wrote some drugs for us to bought at a pharmacy,there was an injection they gave her too and everything calmed down for her.ln summary,we never ran another test.
She is doing well right now and we are fine.
Thanks to:
RedSquid
Sisisioge
Portplus
Anthonyuncle
Acidosis and
Frozen70

I am happy for both of you.
Wishing Peace, Prosperity and Fruitfulness in Jesus name!

portplus:


I am happy for both of you.
Wishing Peace, Prosperity and Fruitfulness in Jesus name!

Amen.