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Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:32pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
So I married this beautiful lady after dating for one year. Two years after wedding we had a still birth of our 9 month pregnancy! 9 years later we are yet to achieve another pregnancy naturally. Summarily, we have had 5 failed IVF cycles to our history of search for solution. It's all making me sick. Mentally sick! In 2 years we'll both be age 40!! And I am the only male in my family! Our last resort seems to be surrogacy! But I haven't had the sanity to give it a thought talk less of a try - even as she wants us to! It makes me more SICK! These fertility treatment failures have made me hate, resent and despise her so much that we are now flatmates. Because she had an abortion for her boyfriend while in school. I BLAME HER RIGHT NOW FOR THIS WHOLE SHIT. I WANT A DIVORCE? Yes or No? Talk to me. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 12:36pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
"Because she had an abortion for her boyfriend while in school" Dear IntentionTremor, So you are aware she had abortions for her boyfriend then but still went ahead to marry her and partake in the punishment nature is already dishing out to her? Young man, I will advise you get a second wife that can bear you children with an untampered womb.... If she don't accept you bringing in another woman, then divorce her. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Anigreat: 12:36pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
![]() Op please i have a question to ask you when did you know she had an abortion for her ex boyfriend? Did she tell you in the earlier stage of courtship or during the failed pregnancies? IntentionTremor: ![]() I won't blame her, because she opened up to you from on set and I won't blame you either for marrying her , because the new love shag and blinded you. It can happen to anyone even me. You knew nothing about the abortion, why suffering with her? opt out of the marriage immediately if you love your life , also if you want to sustain your father's lineage as you said, you're the only male child and age is no longer by your side. Even though the abortion your wife had may not be the reason for the failed pregnancies, but she deserves to suffer for killing an innocent child , and every woman who took a life of an innocent child in the name of abortion deserves worser fate than this. I can only pity the innocent man that will later pick her as a wife as he may suffer from what he knew nothing about as the op. God bless the new woman you'll pick as a wife, and make her womb fruitful. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 12:37pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Some can born but they have no man Some have man but they cannot born We don born we no get wife Glory be to Jah Jehovah Oya so pe ti e So pe ti E EMI Gaan Gaan mo ma so pe temi..... If you like divorce If you like no divorce All I know is you've made your decision You're here for validation No be me go spoil person own. 6 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:40pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Anigreat: While dating |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Cutehector(m): 12:40pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Lmao..this story is as fake as zzor. 3 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by ILoveDemMANNA: 12:40pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Prayer is the master key 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:42pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Cutehector: Hard facts my dear. I used a new moniker to keep my ID |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Misterone: 12:43pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:recite your marriage vows once again. call her and do it together. 4 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:45pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
ILoveDemMANNA: True. But it's very difficult to pray right now for me to be sincere, I've not prayed in a long long while... I stopped when the third IVF failed... 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Righteousness2(m): 12:47pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
My Brother, Divorce nor Hating your wife is not the answer! You need to Calm down. You need to understand certain things; Children are Gifts From Above. It's GOD that gives kids. No matter how skillful and Fertile you are, if BABA does not release HIS gift to you , Forget about it. You Cannot have it. Instead of Hating and Planning to Divorce your lovely wife, why not see this time as an opportunity for you to draw yourself and your Home Closest to GOD and HIS Word. Why not see it as an opportunity to cement your relationship with GOD. Do not mind what people say! People will always talk! Love GOD with all your Heart! Love your Wife. Forget about the issue! Fix yourself in GOD and treat your wife right! Ensure your path is right! Pray Prayers! In due Season BABA will Settle you guys! 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:49pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
MejiLoyon: All correct. But typing these things here have a way of helping the tension I feel. Your song though... Lol |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by ILoveDemMANNA: 12:49pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:I know how you feel. I will put you in my prayers personally and tell the brethens in church to pray for you too. Nothing difficult for God to do. Never give up. All of us here on dis forum will be here to celebrate with you when the good news arrive. Believe in God. 13 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by ILoveDemMANNA: 12:49pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
MejiLoyon:Is dis supposed to be funny? 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:52pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Misterone: And what happens next? We travelled to another state to rebond after the first failed IVF... ate out after the second failed... But since the third and most recent failures, it's been sth else. I wish this recitation will make it happen for us. Thanks |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 12:53pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
JidennaJason:Why are you this heartless,did you consider the woman's pain before typing this, 99percent of Nigerian men reason same way you do,give me some white men any day anytime. smh 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 12:56pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Zzor:It will do you good to avoid me in this forum, I am not one of those imps who struggle for your unnecessary mentions and I will advise you keep your distance cos I am not a nice person. Now get lost, dummy. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Mogadishuu: 12:56pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Very Tragic |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 12:57pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
ILoveDemMANNA: Thank you so much. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:03pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
JidennaJason: Thanks. These have been my torment and regret! Like why I didn't call it off on finding out. Well I thought she won't be the first to have done it.. and many do and still have children.. so? Alas ! Mine wants to kill me.. I'm really considering your thoughts.. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 1:07pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:Do not allow the mistake (sins) of your partner to hinder you the joy of fatherhood.... Look for a responsible lady whose womb is still intact and reproduce with her. Do not let anyone deprive you of your happiness, not your spouse, not your parents. A word for the wise is enough. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by ILoveDemMANNA: 1:09pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:You are very welcome. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Romanoff(f): 1:10pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Who is to say another woman has not aborted for you? There is an option, surrogacy. Why not explore it? Then why did you get married to this woman, is it solely for children? 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by evil1: 1:11pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: chill man I understand the whole age concept stuff but don't use her mistakes been a weak point against her. It will cause more emotional trauma to her. Stop having sex like your fucking. go on vaction with her, make passionate love, love making every day, yes I mean everyday like shes new in your life. The best advice is for you to separate if you can't love her during these trying times. You knew she had done an abortion before doesnt mean she won't conceive. Not everyone wether virgin or not is or will be so lucky enough to conceive during first few years of marriage. The problem might even be from you or possibly not any of you. Marriage is not something you endure but a long term commitment you have to enjoy. If you still want to continue in the marriage to enjoy it, seek medical help, pray like pour your heart to God and tell him what you want. Prayer and fasting is the key bro. If you can't hold on for your time then divorce or separate from the marriage. contact me anyways if you want to file for divorce or separation. 4 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:16pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Anigreat: I asked during the courtship. Like you said, I was love struck.. that's why I went ahead to the altar. My brother the only male thing in the family drives me crazy the most. Again, if the abortion was for me, then it's a different ball game...maybe I would have been less agitated. I am really really thinking harder about going out of this marriage for my progeny and sanity. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by chiommy123(f): 1:21pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
I don't even know how or what to advice you but know that she feels more pain than you'll ever do so make sure she is always happy in what ever decisions you take. God will remember you in Christ name Amen 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:23pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Righteousness2: Thanks. God is love and I still love HIM. I don't love my wife the way I used to because of all these ish. But I feel I have disappointed my father whenever I visit him. He doesn't pressure me about this issue except I initiate a convo. But the looks on his face every other time we visit speaks VOLUMES. I just want him happy seeing my children before he leaves in death. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:31pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Romanoff: I make bold to say NO WOMAN HAS ABORTED FOR ME. Surrogacy in my case also needs an egg donor plus the surrogate mom! Thinking about it gets me so angry. While dating I always stated I wanted CHILDREN early that's why I was getting married early.... I was less than 30 when we even married cause of how much I wanted to have the kids early! Alas! 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Righteousness2(m): 1:32pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:My Brother! Seeing your wife happy should be your Pirioty! Yes! I agree your dad will love to see his grandchildren but you must understand that it is a Gift From GOD. It is not by Struggle! You don't Struggle for a Gift! Calm Down! Worrying does not bring Solution! Find the space to Love your wife. I Stand in the Gap For you and your Family! I Bind Delay in your life! No matter the cause, I Break the yoke in JESUS Name! I Decree this year will not Pass you guys by! I Decree b4 the End of this year 2021, if JESUS Tarries, your wife will be set to put to bed in JESUS Name.. It is Settled! 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:33pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Mogadishuu: .. story of my life |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:34pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Righteousness2: Amen. Thanks. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Romanoff(f): 1:38pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: For the fact she was able to get pregnant means she wasn't barren. Infertility is a serious thing and most women aren't at fault. Is she incapable of having healthy eggs? For her to have gone through up to 5 IVFs, I can guarantee you that she is also going through pain. From hormone shots to extractions and implantations, it's quite a painful journey. Look into surrogacy, if you need a fertility clinic, people could make recommendations for you. You fit marry another woman now or try give another woman belle wey e no go work and you'd even hate yourself more. Still hold on. There are people who married for even up to 15 years and still no children. There's someone very close to me who has been married for 13 years, they lost the only child they had after a month of being born, two years ago. He married his wife as a virgin and he has chosen to stand by her and defend her from the persecution of his family and I believe the God that gave them the one that died is still in the business of giving babies. Hold on to God. 20 Likes |
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