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Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:40pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
chiommy123: Yes, she's dealing with a lot too... Just like me. Thanks |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by alterego17: 1:41pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Guy just chill...stop punishing urself n dat lady unnecessarily..... u can't just give up n b creatin negative aura insyd ur home by hating wifey cos no baby go enter that kinda negative aura homestead...enter this site firstly n call up d doctor gardennaturalhealth dot com Bless up dude! 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Ecbatana: 1:42pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by meetme01: 1:44pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Are you a man at all? At this age, you are putting blame on your wife who with good intent opened up her heart to you for a peaceful home. And this is all she can get? Swear with your future that she met you a virgin. You have also slept with few ladies before marriage and because they didn't get pregnant means you are smart. Okay, I put it to you.. One of those ladies you once slept with is the cause of your predicament. Any man that sleeps with her and fail to marry her will never give birth until she gets married and birth her child.. The lady in question is yet to get married or dead.. If I hear Mogbe penren. Now, you are to be blamed for your woes. Brother, because you don't have child yet shouldn't make you despise your woman. Don't make her regret her past. Don't make her cry for just giving you true love. If option A, & B does not work, opt for option C. Life sha must go on. Man we born, na pinkin go bury am. The man wey no born, na pinkin sef no bury am. You won't be the first neither the last on her. Your pressure and negative thoughts is also a factor of the results you have been getting. Be positive in life..! 21 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:48pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
evil1: Thanks. I understand. However, we have sought premium medical helps in doing upto 5 (five) failed IVF cycles... In three different states . And if you should know, i was OK.. but she had issues reason the doctors are now resorting to surrogacy... So thanks again as I consider the seperation. 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by adadike(f): 1:49pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Dear intentiontremor, you go born. For you to be this frustrated, trust me your miracle is on the way. I was born after almost 10 years of childlessness. Please start loving your wife. Forgive her I beg you and forgive yourself as well. Start praying , go into intensive prayers and fasting. Pray ceaselessly. God is still waiting for you. You will not die neither will your dad even if he is a 100, he will carry his grand son. Boil the roof of fertility tree and let your wife drink the water consistently and with prayers , she will conceive 5 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Exmilitant(m): 1:51pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Get yourself a girl who will birth your children. Abram did it when Sarai was slow. Jacob did it when Rachel was slow. At least you belief the bible, The list is endless there. Life is too short to please others. Your vision and mission in this life should take precedence over every thing and person, parents, wife and children included. Talk to your wife, about your decision, she would be pained at first but it doesn't matter. Your vision matters. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 1:51pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
alterego17: Thanks. It's not easy to act OK when you're not sincerely. I will check him out and revert to you. Thanks |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:00pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
meetme01: You cracked me up big time...blaming me for my troubles. Thanks. I was no virgin neither did I sponsor any abortion. I was more optimistic than her until the failed third IVF... The first IVF was my idea after allowing her process it two years after I suggested... Cause she has always confessed she will carry her babies naturally etc. Yes I am under pressure right now and that's why I'm speaking up here before I lose my mind. 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by alterego17: 2:03pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Nice one...dz year still dey early n u. Must carry ur own child naturally only if u start believing n also kill all doze negative vibes u hv been generating Insyd ur home |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:04pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
adadike: Amen. Thanks. I have forgiven but things are not how they used to be. Pray. Fast. I need you to help me do those cause its been long I did those . 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by DontBullshitMe: 2:05pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Fiction. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:07pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Exmilitant: Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:09pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
DontBullshitMe: I would say same if I were you. Thanks stopping by though 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Winneygirl(f): 2:10pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Anigreat: What about the men who impregnated the women and rejected the pregnancies? Please what fate do they deserve? Or are they innocent? 4 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Winneygirl(f): 2:17pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: There is a TTC thread and an IVF thread in the health section. They provide support for one another. There are more women than men there, but they'll be glad to assist anyone. . I also do not think that the abortion she had has anything to do with the struggles you are going through now. Afterall, she carried a pregnancy to term. . You have not stated the cause of infertility. Knowing the problem is what leads you to a solution. 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by evil1: 2:19pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Alright. If your mind is made up on the separatin, you can contact me via email. I can't give you legal advice here but just know that Separation and divorce are two differnt things and both have different legal effects. IntentionTremor: 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:24pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Romanoff: Yes , wifey is a strong woman I must say going through all the rigors of each cycle 5 crazy times! I cried at the hospital when we lost the first natural 9month preggy. She didn't blink. Only cried when the 1st IVF failed reason I had us go outside our state of residence for a weekend. But she started loosing faith after the 4th failed but braced up for the 5th which was the worse so far! Right now she's stronger than I am. To be very true to my innermost self, if the abortion was for me I would chill and carry my cross. If she was a virgin as well, no challenge. But the sad truth that the nigger who caused the damage is happy somewhere while I'm grinding and spending is making me mad. God help me anyways. Thanks. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by mariahAngel(f): 2:25pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Have you considered adoption? |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:26pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
evil1: Thanks! |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:27pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
mariahAngel: Please don't go there. Thanks. 6 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 2:29pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
This should be a lesson to guy's who nurse the idea of getting married.... "Look before you leap" "Ask questions during courtship" "Take your stand as a man" 4 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:36pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Winneygirl: Ya, I am also on that thread with my main moniker, followed the topic some years ago and still following. I got a lot of encouragement and network from that thread during our IVFs. The solution to the infertility is a HYSTERECTOMY. Just so you have a picture of what it's like. Spare me the diagnosis for the internet's sake. I verbally abused the gynaecologist the day he told us that in his office. 3 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 2:37pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Winneygirl: Ya, I am also on that thread with my main moniker, followed the topic some years ago and still following. I got a lot of encouragement and network from that thread during our IVFs. The solution to the infertility is a HYSTERECTOMY. Just so you have a picture of what it's like. Spare me the diagnosis for the internet's sake. I verbally abused the gynaecologist the day he told us that in his office. If the past is related to the present predicament I don't know. But my mind tells me if the abortion wasn't done this whole thing wouldn't have been there in the first place.. 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by meetme01: 2:38pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: I did for you to avoid the blame game. It will give you another angle to see how it could be sometimes. She's also feeling the pressure if not from your family but her environment. I understand your plight. As a man, you should be the one to encourage her more. If you loose guard, and anything untowards happen (divorce, death, trying it outside etc), we both know, life will go on.. The fertility centers used, did you change at anytime. What about a through review? If you didn't change, can you give a last shot in any location..? I understand the cost and stress implication. There sha must be a way forward. If the above is what you tried, have you considered adoption or surrogacy.? Yes, it's new to our environment but people have made it their last resort if A & B has failed. Kindly consider other options. Having a child might be demoralizing with lots of implications but you shouldn't loose your sanity to this. Keep hope alive by considering other options. Pls 1 Like |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Romanoff(f): 3:09pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: You need to forgive her for the abortion, that is why you're being resentful towards her and it's possible the abortion isn't the cause of what you are both going through. It is probably easier to blame her for it. .if you two can hold on to God and ride this wave together, trust me, there is nothing you both won't be able to conquer together. God has already forgiven her, I hope she has forgiven herself and I pray you can forgive her. Having children doesn't guarantee happiness in marriage. Many have children that they regret having cause those children ended up being a boil in their butt. Many had children and lost them all in a day. I don't wish you bad, I'm just trying to give you perspective on how you can hold on to the love and companionship that you both have, use that as a force to have joint faith and keep trying. If it's okay with both of you, also consider adoption. Giving a child love might open doors for you, you never can tell. Don't put away your wife like some children are advising you to do, more than half of them don't even know what marriage is and also don't know God. Please, be wise. The devil chooses our darkest hour to strike us down. 5 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by adadike(f): 3:15pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor:I will fast and pray for you. You can go to a neutral thread and send me your wife's name or yours. If you no conceive in 3 months, call me a liar |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Nobody: 3:18pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
The two clowns above me.... 5 Likes
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Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Winneygirl(f): 3:27pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: I still don't see the abortion as the cause of the infertility. People struggle even without having terminated a pregnancy before. A hysterectomy is quite final. Have you tried alternative medicine to treat uterine issues? I don't mean roadside medicine. Also, is she weighty? 2 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 3:30pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Romanoff: Thanks . I already forgave her. God has too. But the reality starring me in the face is beyond words. Adoption is not an option for me. Children should complete the marriage for me. Even if they bring troubles, I will deal with it than deal with not having them in my home. Thanks 5 Likes |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by Romanoff(f): 3:33pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
IntentionTremor: Do you think you'll be unable to love an adopted child? And it seems your last option is surrogacy. I'll suggest you take it seriously. It is not as expensive as the rate charged outside the country. I pray you're blessed enough to be able to afford it. Look beyond your reality, it's what is limiting you. |
Re: Childless For 9 Years: Help! I'm Losing My Mind To Depression! by IntentionTremor: 3:37pm On Mar 07, 2021 |
Winneygirl: Abortion related or idiopathic, the childlessness is not nice at all. Even virgins have fertility issues. Yes. But this case has got to the end point as it were - surrogacy! Alternative medicine? For assisted reproduction? I don't have any ideas though. You can share. She's not weighty. |
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