Please help me. This may sound funny but it's simply the truth.
I am 28 and I have never been in a relationship before. I mean I have never had a girlfriend.
Initially I ignored this issue and tried to focus on my education and building my future, thinking that it will happen in it's time. But it never happened.

Now, indeed God has blessed my hustle so much this days that I am now contented and ready to settle down and build up a family.

But I have now realized that what I waved away earlier as a minor issue is currently a serious problem to me. I can't find a girl. None of them seems to be interested in me.

All the ladies I have approached seems not to be interested in dating me. I am not that handsome, but I don't think I am that so ugly. ( Atleast those I am better than have one)
I have also been so benevolent and cheerful just to woo them, yet I always meet rejection.

This is seriously weighing me down and affecting me seriously, especially my business. I have prayed, I have tried and I have done all I could, that I now think it's not ordinary.
Infact, the last pastor I have visited, told me my wife is around. It's been 7 months now, and nothing happened.

Please what should I do. Is there anything wrong with me. I need help

Maybe you are Shallow, Go for your type.

falcon01:
Maybe you are Shallow, Go for your type.

Please can you explain better. What do you mean by being shallow

I have also been so benevolent and cheerful just to woo them, yet I always meet rejection.

Here lies your problem.




Learn to guard your pocket diligently. You met rejections cos you allow your pocket to speak for you hence they see "money miss road" in you.

Watch how girls flock around the moment you learn how to judiciously spend your raba.

Veltan40:
Please help me. This may sound funny but it's simply the truth.
I am 28 and I have never been in a relationship before. I mean I have never had a girlfriend.
Initially I ignored this issue and tried to focus on my education and building my future, thinking that it will happen in it's time. But it never happened.

Now, indeed God has blessed my hustle so much this days that I am now contented and ready to settle down and build up a family.

But I have now realized that what I waved away earlier as a minor issue is currently a serious problem to me. I can't find a girl. None of them seems to be interested in me.

All the ladies I have approached seems not to be interested in dating me. I am not that handsome, but I don't think I am that so ugly. ( Atleast those I am better than have one)
I have also been so benevolent and cheerful just to woo them, yet I always meet rejection.

This is seriously weighing me down and affecting me seriously, especially my business. I have prayed, I have tried and I have done all I could, that I now think it's not ordinary.
Infact, the last pastor I have visited, told me my wife is around. It's been 7 months now, and nothing happened.

Please what should I do. Is there anything wrong with me. I need help

don't rush, there's time in everything.
maybe your right soul is not available at the moment so you need to calm down. and also pray for GOD to grant you a better woman.

Kriss216:
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Pls say something valuable.

She's truly around but you are not seeing her. ..you have expensive taste in body structure that has made you blind to your own life partner around you.

Life is more than yansh,fine face and big boobs.....that is what is keeping you from proposing to that girl you see everyday.....

I lie

Veltan40:
Please help me. This may sound funny but it's simply the truth.

Please what should I do. Is there anything wrong with me. I need help

You are chasing after slay Queens brother that is why they loose interest when you mention marriage

Well maybe you r looking for Mrs perfect to get good girls in 9ja now na war just try to associate with girls not necessary you go direct one’s u have enough female on your contact be friend with them once in a while wen de upload dere friends pic ask about d friend n ask for her contact move from there n try to go to cinema mostly on Sunday u go c den plenty

Jeon:


don't rush, there's time in everything.
maybe your right soul is not available at the moment so you need to calm down. and also pray for GOD to grant you a better woman.

A better woman, for this 9ja



You must be joking. We never see good woman and you're saying better woman.

The better women died during the Aba women riot, na your type full country like this.

Veltan40:


Please can you explain better. What do you mean by being shallow

ok, let's say on a scale of 100 you tota benchmark scorel Body physique + looks+ financial capability all totalled to lemme say 40, and you sir are chasing a girl with a 70 or 80 benchmark score they can never be interested in you you need to lower your standards come down to 40, 35, 30 hell you might even go for 45 to 50 if you are up for a challenge. So Ma guy don't follow girls above your standards you don't know your standards because you never dated, start small then move up you skipped that process because you should have done that when you are in your early 20's so its gonna be hard for you just find a 40 40 and Rock on. Ciao!!!.

falcon01:
ok, let's say on a scale of 100 you tota benchmark scorel Body physique + looks+ financial capability all totalled to lemme say 40, and you sir are chasing a girl with a 70 or 80 benchmark score they can never be interested in you you need to lower your standards come down to 40, 35, 30 hell you might even go for 45 to 50 if you are up for a challenge. So Ma guy don't follow girls above your standards you don't know your standards because you never dated, start small then move up you skipped that process because you should have done that when you are in your early 20's so its gonna be hard for you just find a 40 40 and Rock on. Ciao!!!.

Oga stop saying rubbish.

Lower his standard cos of kpekus?


No vagina is higher than a man, stop deluding yourself with your low esteem.

Kriss216:


Here lies your problem.




Learn to guard your pocket diligently. You met rejections cos you allow your pocket to speak for you hence they see "money miss road" in you.

Watch how girls flock around the moment you learn how to judiciously spend your raba.

For your mind you don advice somebody abi?..no single sense in this your advice I swear...

Ever8090:

For your mind you don advice somebody abi?..no single sense in this your advice I swear...

You ended up not advising him.

Kriss216:

A better woman, for this 9ja



You must be joking. We never see good woman and you're saying better woman.

The better women died during the Aba women riot na your type full country like this.

ahaha kinni?

meaning ur mom no be better woman?

Take things easy

If you use money to get a woman, you'll end up with a gold digger and put us through a sad post of your experience.

Get friendly with whichever one you fancy, most especially if she's close by (church, neighborhood, work area... etc) then indirectly flaunt your little achievement at her and watch her fall for you irrespective of whatever you're good looking or not.

As crazy as this sounds it's the sad truth, girls don't fall for guys because they love them, they fall for his achievements, and love and respect him because of it cos that's what secures their comfort in that relationship/marriage.

Kriss216:

A better woman, for this 9ja



You must be joking. We never see good woman and you're saying better woman.

well not the fault of this country, it's obviously u lack vision [your are eyes are at faulty ]

Approach more women..you go soon get better woman..go for the old ones they have nothing to loose they must accept you..they are many here on nairaland looking for marriage

Kriss216:

Oga stop saying rubbish.

Lower his standard cos of kpekus?


No vagina is higher than a man, stop deluding yourself with your low esteem.

not kepkus nah.. he wants love, he wants a life partner. which kind low self esteem?? he clearly doesn't Have esteem when it comes to woman.. besides I know your kind una carry women like Boxers

falcon01:
not kepkus nah.. he wants love, he wants a life partner. which kind low self esteem?? he clearly doesn't Have esteem when it comes to woman.. besides I know your kind una carry women like Boxers

GOOD NINE.. NIGHT

Romanoff:
If you use money to get a woman, you'll end up with a gold digger and put us through a sad post of your experience.

90% of Nigerian girls are gold diggers the remaining 10% are married..

From your story up there, you made me laugh when you said that "you're Benevolent and Cheerful to them ladies and you still get rejected"

I'm sure that by you being "Benevolent" there, you were "Spending" better money thinking that it's by Spending you'll get a woman


Oga even if you like buy Heaven and Earth for a woman, you can never buy a woman's Love

lilvicky68:
Approach more women..you go soon get better woman..go for the old ones they have nothing to loose they must accept you..

Old 1ce self get choice and their shakara no b here!

johnpaschal:
She's truly around but you are not seeing her. ..you have expensive taste in body structure that has made you blind to your own life partner around you.

Life is more than yansh,fine face and big boobs.....that is what is keeping you from proposing to that girl you see everyday.....

I lie

Thanks for your opinion.
But I think I am not too selective. Recently, I decided that what I needed to do now is to break the jinx, so I started going for any of them, no matter how. That last lady that really broke my heart was a single mother working around my area. I approached her, collected her number and we got talking. I proposed to her along the line and all of a sudden she went blank. She stopped picking my calls and started ignoring me. And she refused telling me what the problem was.
I later heard she is dating one married man like that, with two wives.. It's so depressing

Kriss216:


Here lies your problem.




Learn to guard your pocket diligently. You met rejections cos you allow your pocket to speak for you hence they see "money miss road" in you.

Watch how girls flock around the moment you learn how to judiciously spend your raba.

Thank you sir. I will try that

johnpaschal:


You are chasing after slay Queens brother that is why they loose interest when you mention marriage

Where do I meet the proper types please?
And please don't tell me church, because I have had couple bad experiences with the church girls that I will not have space to start narrating here

Veltan40:


Thanks for your opinion.
But I think I am not too selective. Recently, I decided that what I needed to do now is to break the jinx, so I started going for any of them, no matter how. That last lady that really broke my heart was a single mother working around my area. I approached her, collected her number and we got talking. I proposed to her along the line and all of a sudden she went blank. She stopped picking my calls and started ignoring me. And she refused telling me what the problem was.
I later heard she is dating one married man like that, with two wives.. It's so depressing

Bro with all sincerity the woman you seek knows you better than you think...infact sef with what I see ,if not cus of dignity of a woman she would have approached you already for a relationship....

I think what you need do now is to stop searching and start working on your state of mind.... always put on a smile while interacting and chatting with neighbors...she loves your jovial you but your recent change in attitude concerns her mbok

Smile bro like you have no worries and watch her unveil herself to you ....take my advice ....you cannot seek happiness with a sad face and a sad countenance....go back to being you ...you'd be surprised who she is because she'd say that the you she likes is back...

Veltan40:


Where do I meet the proper types please?
And please don't tell me church, because I have had couple bad experiences with the church girls that I will not have space to start narrating here

Bro be at rest what you are hungrily seeking is right before your very eyes ....stop searching and start discovering.....and be open minded

Tell that pastor to bring her nearer to you....


He already knows her

No one is worth your peace of mind.

Well, you could allow your family to arrange a nice young lady for you. If you can go with that.

.....Its not always about love, you know.