Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by olaolulazio(m): 12:48pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Give him support and try getting him a job too.
Naija isn't the solution o |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Nobody: 12:48pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
This was exactly what saved my bro. Take heed of this advice. Let him leave the kids for now. UK marital laws aim to terrorize men RisenPhoenix1: His mistake was not seeing the signs early enough. If you insist on keeping your wife and family with you in the UK, you need to take financial precautions; like keeping the bulk of your savings in offshore accounts that she is not aware of, including her name on the mortgage papers and getting your kids acclimatized to staying with your parents in Nigeria. So as soon as you see signs of her misbehaviour, you pack up and leave her hanging. The court cannot award her what they can't find. Well, too late now.
Tell him to suspend the search for a job until the court case is all wrapped up. There's very little she can gain from him now; the court cannot order a jobless man to either pay alimony or child support. After that, he can relocate to another town, pick up the pieces and try to get visitation rights. Over time, it will resolve itself. 7 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Henvest: 12:48pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
"Marital rape, drugs, child abuse, adultery .....e.t.c" Just a case of giving a dog name to kill it. I wonder why we black man still don't understand that marriage , divorce or marital law.. I don't know the Bleep they call it...is just one of many tools and system put in place to keep black men down, in this case using their wife. The same way they use media , religion, culture , politics e.t.c is the same way they are using women in marriage to bring and keep men down.
Meanwhile it has been proven that women, mostly Nigeria women are like Lion cub . No matter how lovely and cute they look at young age once they become independent they turn into a monster. And u will surely be their first victim after U have help them grow. If you must train them make sure u trim their jaws and finger from time to time. Lastly never allow society to push you into taking your wife abroad to live with you in order to be a real man.. The story has never end well unless God is on your side. All the systems they interact with there are design to brainwash them into being a willing tool for your down fall 33 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by ngadaAwo: 12:49pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
doxijaw: Refer him to the redpill section of nairaland.
Advice him to..
Find a job , build back home, get a non Nigerian easy going female for companionship , avoid the ex like a plague. please where's the section |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Cleanworld(f): 12:50pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
ASUNDER: My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.
He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.
I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.
Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?
Thank you. Are you sure it wasn't the wife that was paying the bills before? if not then he should be able to bounce back . most sit at home Dad's will suffer much in this situation but only time heals every wounds. My2cent |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by baddosky1: 12:50pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Love a Nigerian lady= Big Mistake
Marry a Nigerian Lady= Bigger Mistake
Marry a Nigerian Lady and relocate abroad with her = Biggest and worst mistake that will eventually kill you 30 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by TechCapon(m): 12:51pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
babythug: Divorce is an unfortunate situation to be in. Nonetheless it’s not the end of the world . Both himself and his former wife are to blame . He should brace up and try the following:
1. Dust himself and be ready to start over . 2. Face his career or job 3. Determine to be at peace with his ex no matter the level of provocation or otherwise 4. Be the best father he can be to his children given the circumstances. Pay whatever bills as deemed necessary and pay extra where possible 5. He should document any payment made 6. He must not bring the kids into the divorce by relaying what their mum has done or not done to them 7. ur advice is not a good one as it puts all the burden on the man 7 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by RunzMAN: 12:53pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
incogni2o: Lesson for Nigerian Men trying to travel out with Family.
Please make sure you know your Wife 100%
Whites are more Individualistic.
Try to be the worst Man you can be for a while and see Her worst Character.
I appreciate Women being independent too, But with reason knowing there Husband is thier Head Anyday, Anytime.
I don't beleive in Men being oppressive but that the Wife should Know she has to be under her Husband.
We have a lot of ways to vent our frustrations here in Naija, but over there, no much way, Hence the many cases of Mental Issues and Depression.
Naija Man, Please be Wise.
One sure thing, If you can Make it abroad, You'll make it in Naija. Life is not easy anywhere, The Devil has no restricted zone on Earth.
@Bolded.....abi u talk am with clear eyes? 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Nobody: 12:53pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Sound advice!!! Tats:
There is really not much he can do about it. The law favours the woman especially if they have kids. My white neighbour and his wife who are a relatively young couple have two children and when they had marital disagreement, he was the one that had to move out of the house. Luckily for him, his parents do not live far away so he moved to their house. He has a job so can at least fend for himself. Many Nigerian men are in the same boat as this man and are really struggling and that's why there are so many single and divorced older men here. He may even be the one still paying for the mortgage in the house that he is not living in and the lady could bring another man to the house to stay. He should focus on himself, but if he doesn't have a good job, then his life will be one of continuous struggle as he will not be able to get a new mortgage and will be living from hand to mouth or will be depending on the Government for pittance. To be honest, it is a difficult decision but if he thinks there is really no hope, maybe he should return to Nigeria and try to make something out for himself. His children will look for him when they are older. If he remains here he would need to work really hard to turnaround his situation. |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Hideki(m): 12:53pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Michelle55: How do people who vows to take the forever steps together suddenly turns against each other overnight? Just how? ![](/faces/huh.png) when you start making cool money, life will seem lighter |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Twelfthman: 12:54pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Nah so we see am o Michelle55: How do people who vows to take the forever steps together suddenly turns against each other overnight? Just how? ![](/faces/huh.png) |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Shokoloko(f): 12:54pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
TundeChris:
He should not move back. Encourage him to stay back, fight what he can fight and rebuild his life. You cannot give up your life because of some woman. Rebuild and bounce back, it will all be a story in a few years.
I have an uncle who got divorced years back. The woman collected his houses in the uk successfully, he literally lost everything. That was many years back, today he is successful again, even though single, he owns businesses in the UK and in Nigeria.
DONT GIVE UP!!!!! Great advice. He should not move back. He should stay and build his life again. His children will look for him. Kids are not stupid- they understand. If he is innocent they will look for him 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Ianmaduka(m): 12:55pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
I ve happened to me but first of foremast relocate to avoid drama then delete her from your life for now.then you re good to bounce again ✌� 5 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Fiscus105(m): 12:55pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Michelle55: How do people who vows to take the forever steps together suddenly turns against each other overnight? Just how? ![](/faces/huh.png) When they pay more attention on different styles of fucking and less or no attention on characters, which is the key factor that will keep marriage going 15 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by mofedamijo(m): 12:56pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Sonnobax15: ![lipsrsealed](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/lipsrsealed.png) After reading this story,I don decide say na to manage our Nigerian women no matter how useless they are nai sure pass..
Honestly,the kind of divorce stories we hear about the west will make you wonder if marriage was really meant for both man and woman or for women alone..
A time will come when women from the west will end up marrying themselves because there won't be any man who'd wanna be a victim of their manipulation....
Na dat time e go be like "Africa na blessing in disguise for us wey be the no nonsense men![](/faces/huh.png) Lol, my brother. Nigerian women do the worse in the u.s, African women, damnnnn...... They will gallantly betray you. The whites and other nationales are used to freedom and living their lives, but an average Nigerian woman on arriving the u.s and discovering she can go partying without you controlling her will eventually Bleep you up. If a white woman/african american parties before you met her, she is likely to continue, and if she doesn't, she is likely never to. However, a Nigerian woman discovering she can do as she wishes will frustrate you life. Ever wonder why their Nigerian husbands have been killing them in the u.s ![](/faces/huh.png) Betrayal. A good woman/man is all we should pray for..... Nationality, race or color are inconsequential. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Tokskob2008: 12:56pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Why can't he ask his family members for support and all or he is like one those people whom after to the abroad starts to shout "ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY " forgetting the people who were there for them back home before relocating ![](/faces/huh.png) Now the so called wife he dedicated everything to is showing him pepper right now in the abroad. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Nobody: 12:57pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Did you read the story at all? babythug: Divorce is an unfortunate situation to be in. Nonetheless it’s not the end of the world . Both himself and his former wife are to blame . He should brace up and try the following:
1. Dust himself and be ready to start over . 2. Face his career or job 3. Determine to be at peace with his ex no matter the level of provocation or otherwise 4. Be the best father he can be to his children given the circumstances. Pay whatever bills as deemed necessary and pay extra where possible 5. He should document any payment made 6. He must not bring the kids into the divorce by relaying what their mum has done or not done to them 7. |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by richie240: 12:58pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
NoSentiment: That's the price u pay for marrying there. The bright sparks from Naija when they arrive uk go to any length to marry British women not knowing the implications. Women and children are the most protected group of ppl in the uk. It is as though the powers that be there have sworn to avenge the past centuries of abuse of women and children there. Many responsible men never touch women with a badge pole in the Uk They are all d same. Even d 'Mgbeke' u marry in one corner of one village here in nigeria, d moment she gets there and gets to know about these lopsided matriachic laws, goes over her head and in due time activates those laws against her husband. Its the Asians that usually don't get infected with this 'virus'. 14 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by nashito(m): 12:58pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
babythug: Divorce is an unfortunate situation to be in. Nonetheless it’s not the end of the world . Both himself and his former wife are to blame . He should brace up and try the following:
1. Dust himself and be ready to start over . 2. Face his career or job 3. Determine to be at peace with his ex no matter the level of provocation or otherwise 4. Be the best father he can be to his children given the circumstances. Pay whatever bills as deemed necessary and pay extra where possible 5. He should document any payment made 6. He must not bring the kids into the divorce by relaying what their mum has done or not done to them 7. Stupid ways a Nigerian woman thinks, someone is at the point of breaking down cos it's a man you idiots don't feel an iota of pity. Pay extra? Someone that can barely pay for a room. I really don't think marriage is what any man should consider this days, this women are not loyal and will not be, I think baby Mama is a way to go. No wonder there's so much homicide case in US. Just watch The ID channel on your Dstv and see how men are murdering this heartless women and burying their bodies in bushes. Maybe you'd think twice about your statement 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by doxijaw: 12:59pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
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Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by Milant22(m): 12:59pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
[quote author=ASUNDER post=99685442]My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.
He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.
I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.
Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?
Thank you. What is Visa state in uk if has its is stay he he should stay and fight. 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by ofuonyebi: 12:59pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
WHERE ARE THE NIGERIAN DIAPORA MINISTRY WHO USES BILLIONS OF MONEY TO TAKE CARE OF OVERSEAS DESTITUTES? DESTITUTES OF MARRIAGE ABUSE, DESTITUTES OF DRUGS, DESTITUTES OF LAZINESS...BUT WNT TO LIVE IN LONDON! 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by KingAzari: 1:05pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Marriage is a scam. Nobody should ever get married if not to have kids. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by xinorkmataz(m): 1:06pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
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Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by JONSYN7154: 1:08pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
ASUNDER: My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.
He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.
I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.
Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?
Thank you. Where's is the wife from? |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by ibuildstuff(m): 1:10pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
babythug: Divorce is an unfortunate situation to be in. Nonetheless it’s not the end of the world . Both himself and his former wife are to blame . He should brace up and try the following:
1. Dust himself and be ready to start over . 2. Face his career or job 3. Determine to be at peace with his ex no matter the level of provocation or otherwise 4. Be the best father he can be to his children given the circumstances. Pay whatever bills as deemed necessary and pay extra where possible 5. He should document any payment made 6. He must not bring the kids into the divorce by relaying what their mum has done or not done to them 7. Did u read the thread, how can he be a good father when the woman already prevent him from seeing the children. 2 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by PresidentBuhari: 1:10pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Firstly, was he a MUMU husband? Does he have any savings ? This is the time to put those funds to work. He needs to calm himself down and distract himself a bit, for example he should find a temporary job, he should try to go for his kids at the wife's residence without any form of harassment or aggressive behaviour, the wife can call the police a million times but since there is no judgement prohibiting him from having access to his children, the police have no right to lay a finger on him. Everytime he goes, he should make his presence known by calling any of his children, the children are smart and they can instantly figure out the wife is the problem. Secondly, he needs to go see a lawyer asap and file for joint custody, unfortunately he has to prove he has a home for the children to reside for joint custody. He should take his mind off the attitude of the woman and focus on life as a single parent. ASUNDER: My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.
He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.
I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.
Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?
Thank you. |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by dominique(f): 1:11pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Are the allegations true or the woman decided to wake up one morning and file for divorce with heaps of allegations against him? 5 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by ibuildstuff(m): 1:12pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
NoSentiment: That's the price u pay for marrying there. The bright sparks from Naija when they arrive uk go to any length to marry British women not knowing the implications. Women and children are the most protected group of ppl in the uk. It is as though the powers that be there have sworn to avenge the past centuries of abuse of women and children there. Many responsible men never touch women with a badge pole in the Uk U will be surprise that the woman is a Nigerian. Something like this happened to my uncle, a woman he came to Nigeria to marry did this to him. 2 Likes |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by lekki1444: 1:13pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
ASUNDER: My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.
He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.
I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.
Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?
Thank you. yeaH thats a man who got destroyed by his lower self. his lower self being his wife. and so it is his karma playing itself out. well seeing as he is divorced from the woman it means he is a lucky man and his karma is paid off but he needs a restart and Nigeria is exactly what he needs. he needs to leave the UK prison and return back to source aka Nigeria and he will bounce back and be increased even much more thn he was in the UK. if you have his and his wifes date of birth ii will like to explore their ORI ( their spiritual nature ) |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by VerySolid: 1:15pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
babythug: Divorce is an unfortunate situation to be in. Nonetheless it’s not the end of the world . Both himself and his former wife are to blame . He should brace up and try the following:
1. Dust himself and be ready to start over . 2. Face his career or job 3. Determine to be at peace with his ex no matter the level of provocation or otherwise 4. Be the best father he can be to his children given the circumstances. Pay whatever bills as deemed necessary and pay extra where possible 5. He should document any payment made 6. He must not bring the kids into the divorce by relaying what their mum has done or not done to them 7. Where’s your number 7 |
Re: How Did You Survive Your Divorce In The UK? by SweetDipBenny(m): 1:15pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
Hope is not from his village Things d happen |