CamusMidas:

You have point I have to give you that, but the bolded is not rightly placed, because even some small royal family in a small ethnic group here in Nigeria won't take it likely if someone from another ethnic group is coming to marry there son. And you are taking about the oldest, richest and populous monarchy.

Yes, I have been to Mutaritala airport for a local flight and never being abroad. But as a graduate from a minority ethnic seeing clearly the nepotism going on in Nigeria. I rather look my black skin and own it as a uniqueness to who I am and knowing fully well that when I put in the work and qualified for it and I have more open doors without knowing anybody there. Compare to the fact that just your name can deprived me of opportunities here in Nigeria.

What's my business with how someone choose to see me or downgrade me without knowing anything about me, sorry but that's not even the type of person I would I want attract.

Your argument collapses if you can answer this question objectively.

Will the British have as much problems with Megan if she was a swede?

Tribalism is not the same as racism, tribalism is based on the fight for the equitable distribution of resources, whilst racism is based on the fight for humanity.

Eg who is human or better yet who is the most evolved human?

lekki1444:
really ? as you walk down the streets of nigeria people can tell you are ijaw ? or itsekiri ? or idoma ? This is my point about the annoying nature of people who have not not smelt muuritala mohammed airport before. comparing minor tribal entitlements to the situaton of a visibly black man existing in a white world where he is rated as trash and yet he cannot hide his skin color andso he has to live with this hatred from everyone everyday. this why even the famous micheal jackson tried to turn himself to white to escape from all this hate put on blackness. its lonely and depressing being a visibly blackman existing n a society where black is despised. and you know the funny part ? everyone who is not black has been so socialised to the point that they will hate you even worse than the white man hates you. they are programmed to hate you more. the hispanics will make your life a living hell, the chinese, the indian, the pakistani, the korean, etc etc. Its tough being black outside of africa.

I Contemplated Suicide - Meghan Markle Accuses British Royals Of Racism

Calm down bro.
A black man became US president
A woman of African descent is current US VP

the cup is half full or half empty. Make of each geographical location what you will but nowhere have it all sorted..... neither naija nor abroad

Randy91:



You just summed it up...INFERIORITY COMPLEX and Lacking confidence !

Since i migrated, first babe(Mexican) got her through a get together party...She has big yansh and you know MOST white dudes are scared of BIG YANSH because of the size of their GBOLA

Second Gf(white too with big yansh), got her when i visited a friend,,she stays in my friend neighorhood..

D truth is i have NEVER seen a Naija man in my region suffering LONELINESS...most of them are into serious relationships with oyibo babes

Randy91 nice one

stubbornman aka neurosci do you see this. This is someone living abroad. I told you it's your fault that you ain't approaching white babes.

Feeling inferior or feeling dreaded of ladies who are humans like you with the " how will she react" is a mere lack of confidence.

If you are not good at talking to women due to low self esteem, dine with friends that are good at it so you learn from them.

Black men seem sexy to whites girl. They believe they have big below if you know what I meant. You don't even need to have sexy body to woo a woman. Just get sweet mouth and you can make any woman giggling and laughing her ass out.

And once you are able to pull out that smile, and keep things spontaneous, she won't mind being your gf right there and right at that spot.

Mcslize:



If you believe that black guys date white girls then you will agree with me that they did that simply by talking to those girls. You can't keep mute and expect to have a good woman. In the process of talking to women of all sort, you will meet the one that suits you.


Why not give it a try? Try and talk to a white girl every forthnight. Don't be concerned about rejection. Just do it for fun.

Exchanging pleasantries with a girl in the bus won't take a thing off you. So pay less attention to how she will react.

I don't think a white girl will slap or react badly simply by asking her what song she is listening to when catching the bus or train. That's how black guys land white girls as gfs.

You must learn to talk to someone. It's not a sin to talk. Who give a fvck about how she will look at me?

The issue is that most guys outrightly condemn themselves even before they utter a word to a girl.

They feel a girl will react badly and the girl will look down on them and all of those unncessary condemnations.

Not so many white girls are as intelligent as blacks. Some don't even know anything aside their countries. So, why should a black guy feel intimidated approaching white girls.

You killed no one by doing that. You are simply expanding your social circle.

anyone that has lived abroad even for a year would know that you dont live abroad, I would advice you stop talking too much about things you know nothing about and wait to experience it yourself. Approaching a white girl when she is listening to music isnt wise as most people with their earphones abroad dont even want to be approached, you would look like a weirdo and freak of nature. Just keep quiet.

neurosci:

The culture here is that people are very friendly but are not committed to friendship. Yes, you can walk up to people, strike conversations and all that. They will respond very enthusiastically, smile, ask questions, and be very involved. You will think you just made a new, wonderful friend. However, the moment you exit that conversation, it all ends there. They won't stay in touch or anything. It's weird because sometimes you might even see them the next day and they would act like they don't know you. This was someone you had a friendly conversation with yesterday. So, even though they are very friendly and you had a great conversation, you'll realize that you still have no friend because friendship requires commitment and staying in touch, but they are not interested in that. This will happen repeatedly and you'll later get used to it. That is why I call it the culture. And it has nothing to do with gender which is why in surprised everyone here thinks it's about dating.

Now, this is different from Nigeria where, once you have a great conversation with someone, you'll usually stay in touch and remain friends. So, in essence, people here are friendlier and more polite than Nigerians, but you will find it easier to make friends in Nigeria.

Plus here, you're different - you're black - that's a whole topic for another day.

Point eloquently stated and understood.

At the bolded, is it the skin colour that brings about the lack of interest for them to commit to the friendship with you? Will I need your answer to that, but I would go ahead and put in thought down.

As stated earlier I believe it has to do more with private space, some of us here in Nigeria are like that.
Is not everybody that I would and chitchat and share contact that I intend to be friends with or continue checking on them. Some people need their space and less drama to focus on their shit, that doesn't mean I won't be supper friendly to a stranger outside, not my fault when the person see it as an invitation to invade my privacy.

neurosci:


And you know what's funny? I can tell you that no girl will ever frown at you here! I have never seen an oyibo guy or girl frown at me or anyone else EVER since I came here. Unless you do something extremely terrible. The weirdest part is, even when you offend them or say something mean, they will still smile at you. But if you take that for friendship, you're on a lonnnng thing. In fact, my first culture shock when I arrived in the US was the smile. Right from the airport in New York, there was this girl who just kept smiling at me. Initially, I thought maybe she knew me from somewhere, but it was less than an hour since I arrived so she couldn't have known me anywhere. But she just kept smiling. Bro, I can write a whole book about this smile issue in America. But trust me, all that smile na wash. I would rather earn someone's smile than get a fake smile.

Honestly, since I've been abroad that fake smile is one thing that I hate. Whenever I see any of them throwing a fake smile at me, I quickly changed my face to let them know that it's not welcome. If you've lived abroad long enough, you would recognize and know the things behind those smiles sometimes.
In those days, I have seen foolish men sent to jail over their fake smiles.

Ignore the other guy, he doesn't know what he was saying.

Mcslize:


There are still guys here who are dating white girls. White girls are friendly than our black ladies.

A white girl will be so willing to help you out than your fellow black girl. Don't tell me you don't know any of your friend who is dating a white girl if you live abroad.

You sound so ignorant. It is a pain reading your comments.

Donspicey:


And another mistake most of them make is not having anything to fall back to should incase things go south over there...


Can't imagine myself working in overs which i detest even here.If you are not financially bouyant don't expect not to be feeling lonely in any strange environment....


Naija is Blessed my Brother..


Truely no place like home....

What makes a place a home? The right to piss anywhere?

shegun4sur:



With masters it would've made more brain to get a more reasonable job. Coming back solely because of such flimsy reasons is plain stupid

In the end, let him do wat makes him happy. It’s not your happiness

neurosci:

If you read every one of my post carefully, you will know I never said Nigerians/black men don't date white girls. But anyway, let's forget about this and move onto something more productive.

You have tried to make your point and I appreciate the effort. However, notice that this particular person will not listen.

I am interested in the research you mentioned. I think it is related to my thesis and I'd love to check it out. Do you have a link for this?

neurosci:


Man, I'm done with this. Get here, do stuff then message me back. Don't tell me about YouTube.

All the YouTube videos is talking about are just skit. Which he failed to understand

Just allow am make him come here.

LordOfTheGame:


I can feel your excitement now that she have accepted your email request, every other babe no go get skills for your eyes now...Lols... continue my guy, it's allowed but don't fail to invite us for rice chopping and mineral drinking. I know say you no get money to buy better wines wey I dey like.

dont worry ... I know ur best wine collection. Dom perignon, Armand de brignac, don julio and more

doxijaw:



Your argument collapses if you can answer this question objectively.

Will the British have as much problems with Megan if she was a swede?

Tribalism is not the same as racism, tribalism is based on the fight for the equitable distribution of resources, whilst racism is based on the fight for humanity.

Eg who is human or better yet who is the most evolved human?

If there is any greater sense of humanity among the ethnic groups, tribalism won't exist.

neurosci:


And you know what's funny? I can tell you that no girl will ever frown at you here! I have never seen an oyibo guy or girl frown at me or anyone else EVER since I came here. Unless you do something extremely terrible. The weirdest part is, even when you offend them or say something mean, they will still smile at you. But if you take that for friendship, you're on a lonnnng thing. In fact, my first culture shock when I arrived in the US was the smile. Right from the airport in New York, there was this girl who just kept smiling at me. Initially, I thought maybe she knew me from somewhere, but it was less than an hour since I arrived so she couldn't have known me anywhere. But she just kept smiling. Bro, I can write a whole book about this smile issue in America. But trust me, all that smile na wash. I would rather earn someone's smile than get a fake smile.

I was disconcerted by the smiling culture here. I was shopping last week and my cart mistakenly fell on a white girl. I rushed to the front in a flurry of apologies and felt so bad at my clumsiness. This lady was downright smiling at me. I was just apologizing and she kept on saying, it's okay it's not your fault. But I looked into her eyes and saw that she was pissed too (as should be) but the smile was still on her face. Obviously she was torn between choosing to be angry or maintaining her cultural upbringing. Her eyes gave her anger away but she was still smiling.

Buliwyf:


Dude you don't know what you are talking about. Leave Nigeria first then you will understand it's not just about skill. It's as much about the other person than whatever you have to offer.

I have seen white girls dating very ugly black boys and when you walk up to them they tell you they are in a committed relationship. When you ask the guy how he got her he will say they attend a class together and she just took an interest in him.

I have seen cases where white girls will help you, give you money and even cook for you but won't date you for any reason. If you take those gestures as a sign that you have skills, you are in for the rudest shock of your life when she tells you that she is just your friend and doesn't want anything more.

Dey there dey deceive yourself.

All what he wrote there in his comment sounds more like him forcing himself on someone that doesn't want him.

ratiken:


Calm down bro.
A black man became US president
A woman of African descent is current US VP

the cup is half full or half empty. Make of each geographical location what you will but nowhere have it all sorted..... neither naija nor abroad

You can say that again, nobody is saying that there is no racism but definitely not as they are exaggerating it to be.

CamusMidas:

If there is any greater sense of humanity among the ethnic groups, tribalism won't exist.

Europeans had 100 years of war, first and second world wars all based on the fight for dominance in the acquisition of power to control more resources. Even the Brits fought the Americans , who technically are also Brits. ; that's tribalism

Racism is are you human or not ?

Big difference!

CamusMidas:

That was the intention of many popular dating app before the USERs turn it to a hook up app. Example Hi5 and Tinder.

No. It was not.

Cocao:


You sound so ignorant. It is a pain reading your comments.

No it's just that you are just too biased seeing the truth in my comments.

Carrying your Nigeria mentality abroad where you always expect men to approach you won't help you.

Get out of your comfort zone and approach a man to prevent you from being in loneliness. How hard is that?

Honestly, I plan on spending atleast one month in Nigeria this year ending. I’ve been here since 2019 and I find Canada very boring. If no be say person no get wetin to get back to for Nigeria, I for don go back. But like this, I would make she I visit Nigeria regularly to curb this loneliness. I never marry, so travelling no be big project. When you add the cold here

havilla:

anyone that has lived abroad even for a year would know that you dont live abroad, I would advice you stop talking too much about things you know nothing about and wait to experience it yourself. Approaching a white girl when she is listening to music isnt wise as most people with their earphones abroad dont even want to be approached, you would look like a weirdo and freak of nature. Just keep quiet.

He was just giving an example it is all about the moment, and the manner the person listening to the music is going about it that would give you an idea on whether to approach or not.

This are basic concept and has less to do with race, don't pick comment out of context to score a cheap point.

neurosci:


Did you answer my question at all? Have you lived abroad? The US or Canada specifically. If you have not, leave this topic for those who have. When you get there, try the things you said and then come back to tell me how it went.

What you don't understand is that what you're describing above is more of a cultural thing as opposed to a mere skill. Have you ever wondered why people don't cold approach the opposite sex in the streets here like they do in Nigeria? Have you ever entered a public bus or train here and seen how people are quiet, heads locked down on their phones? Why do you think dating apps are the main means of finding relationships here as opposed to just walking up to strangers?

Your writing shows you've never been here, otherwise you would not have said what you said regarding a white girl smiling at you. When a white girl smiles at you, take it seriously at your own peril.

Innocently naughty. Smh

I really relate with this. Makes me remember one of my experiences in Dubai while trying to use my phone to take a picture when I saw 2 oyinbo ladies at my back, just wanted to use the advantage as a good background. You needed to see the way they both looked at me as if I am a kind of nuisance. No body teach me again to always mind my business

jeffdaniel:


Honestly, since I've been abroad that fake smile is one thing that I hate. Whenever I see any of them throwing a fake smile at me, I quickly changed my face to let them know that it's not welcome. If you've lived abroad long enough, you would recognize and know the things behind those smiles sometimes.
In those days, I have seen foolish men sent to jail over their fake smiles.

Ignore the other guy, he doesn't know what he was saying.

Tell a story of what really happened, don't just through statement like that.

Mcslize:


No it's just that you are just too biased seeing the truth in my comments.

Carrying your Nigeria mentality abroad where you always expect men to approach you won't help you.

Get out of your comfort zone and approach a man to prevent you from being in loneliness. How hard is that?

I am doing very well honey and not lonely at all. You on the other hand is far, far far away from reality.

Cocao:


You sound so ignorant. It is a pain reading your comments.

Why not educate him than just calling him a ignorant.

Ahmed4002:


All the YouTube videos is talking about are just skit. Which he failed to understand

Just allow am make him come here.

Not all are scripted.

chatinent:
“Come back make another person go.”

Mahd o.

doxijaw:



Tribalism is not the same as racism, tribalism is based on the fight for the equitable distribution of resources, whilst racism is based on the fight for humanity.

Eg who is human or better yet who is the most evolved human?

Good explanation. And to add to it, racism comes from the place of white supremacy; tribalism does not. For example, if you're Igbo and you lost a job in the Yorubaland, that does not mean that the Yorubas think they are smarter than you or they have better IQ or are more evolved. Your job loss simply comes from a place of hate on their part. An igbo employer will fire a Yoruba man in the east too, soon, and the cycle continues. You don't suffer any impostor syndrome from being of a different tribe.

In racism, a black man loses his job because they believe he is inferior or sub-human, especially when he works in a white dominated field. He has to work twice harder and be way better than them to prove himself. He should dare not make a mistake, otherwise he invalidates his skills. The people think he is less smart because he is black. It only takes a while before he starts to feel this: impostor syndrome. People still believe that black people scientifically have a lower IQ. Nobody thinks so of any tribe in Nigeria. If anything, each tribe thinks so of the other which is fair game.

Take for example, in Nigeria, do you ever walk into a hospital to see a patient and on sighting you, he says, I don't want to see an Igbo doctor? How does he even know you're Igbo just by sighting you? Now, imagine being a black doctor and upon sighting you, the patient says they don't want to see you. The worse is covert racism, where the patient welcomes you with a smile and you have a wonderful, satisfactory conversation only for them to never return and go to a white doctor the next time. Some might even include in their report that you weren't good enough, even when you thought you had a great time with them. Here is an experience of a black doctor who has seen it all:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zi_EGJyAmGk&t=52s

And then when it comes to racism, there is something universally known as "white privilege". Imagine if a white girl lands in Nigeria today - maybe in a crowded market in Oshodi - does she get treated the same way a black girl who lands in Norway would be treated. Once instantly becomes an idol, while the other? Is there also something called "Hausa privilege" or "Igbo privilege"?

Cocao:


I was disconcerted by the smiling culture here. I was shopping last week and my cart mistakenly fell on a white girl. I rushed to the front in a flurry of apologies and felt so bad at my clumsiness. This lady was downright smiling at me. I was just apologizing and she kept on saying, it's okay it's not your fault. But I looked into her eyes and saw that she was pissed too (as should be) but the smile was still on her face. Obviously she was torn between choosing to be angry or maintaining her cultural upbringing. Her eyes gave her anger away but she was still smiling.

Would you prefer she gave you a dirty slap?

CamusMidas:

Not all are scripted.

Yeah. But at least 90 % of such are.

Cocao:


You have tried to make your point and I appreciate the effort. However, notice that this particular person will not listen.

I am interested in the research you mentioned. I think it is related to my thesis and I'd love to check it out. Do you have a link for this?

If you're referring to my research on feminism, I didn't publish that. I just did it for a psychology class I took back then. Hopefully I can start publishing stuff in the near future.

Quality20:
How cn u b at home 24/7? Isn't there gym, worship centre,libraries etc

Everywhere been close down na