Quality20:
How cn u b at home 24/7? Isn't there gym, worship centre,libraries etc

Cocao:


I was disconcerted by the smiling culture here. I was shopping last week and my cart mistakenly fell on a white girl. I rushed to the front in a flurry of apologies and felt so bad at my clumsiness. This lady was downright smiling at me. I was just apologizing and she kept on saying, it's okay it's not your fault. But I looked into her eyes and saw that she was pissed too (as should be) but the smile was still on her face. Obviously she was torn between choosing to be angry or maintaining her cultural upbringing. Her eyes gave her anger away but she was still smiling.

havilla:

anyone that has lived abroad even for a year would know that you dont live abroad, I would advice you stop talking too much about things you know nothing about and wait to experience it yourself. Approaching a white girl when she is listening to music isnt wise as most people with their earphones abroad dont even want to be approached, you would look like a weirdo and freak of nature. Just keep quiet.

doxijaw:


Europeans had 100 years of war, first and second world wars all based on the fight for dominance in the acquisition of power to control more resources. Even the Brits fought the Americans , who technically are also Brits. ; that's tribalism

Racism is are you human or not ?

Big difference!

Cousin9999:


No. It was not.

Mcslize:


Randy91 nice one

stubbornman aka neurosci do you see this. This is someone living abroad. I told you it's your fault that you ain't approaching white babes.

Feeling inferior or feeling dreaded of ladies who are humans like you with the " how will she react" is a mere lack of confidence.

If you are not good at talking to women due to low self esteem, dine with friends that are good at it so you learn from them.

Black men seem sexy to whites girl. They believe they have big below if you know what I meant. You don't even need to have sexy body to woo a woman. Just get sweet mouth and you can make any woman giggling and laughing her ass out.

And once you are able to pull out that smile, and keep things spontaneous, she won't mind being your gf right there and right at that spot.

CamusMidas:

Then go ahead with the app idea and see that you need people to sign up to use it, and this people you have to control on what they choose to do after getting someone from your app.

Dybala11:

I see your tactics, it's easy to sit behind your keyboard in Nigeria and type whatever you like. It's easy to make assumptions on the cultural and behavioral set up of the whites even without having a direct contact with any of them. A guy who claims that he's living with those people have given you both a first hand and research proof of what is happening there and all you can do is dismiss his whole argument however factual it seems with just mere assumptions from your thought. Typical Nigerian, I do that too at times though so I understand quite well.

Babaloko02:
I really relate with this. Makes me remember one of my experiences in Dubai while trying to use my phone to take a picture when I saw 2 oyinbo ladies at my back, just wanted to use the advantage as a good background. You needed to see the way they both looked at me as if I am a kind of nuisance. No body teach me again to always mind my business

BadRadio:
dont worry ... I know ur best wine collection. Dom perignon, Armand de brignac, don julio and more

CamusMidas:

Wrong, there are different breed of dogs, they are all dogs but some dogs are considered better than the other for one reason or another. But at the end of the day they all dogs.

If they don't think he was human he won't have been United States President, I don't have to mention his name because that a whole lot of human that nobody can point at not being human.

You make it sound like they see all blacks as primitive, of course some do but that's not the kind racism we are taking about.

You are bringing the bar of racism back to 40 years ago.

MantisShrimp:


Believe that guy at your own peril. His statement is just full of exaggerations and ridiculous assumptions. Ask him the country and area he stays and see if anyone else living there will support his claims that is if he is even abroad.

neurosci:


Good explanation. And to add to it, racism comes from the place of white supremacy; tribalism does not. For example, if you're Igbo and you lost a job in the Yorubaland, that does not mean that the Yorubas think they are smarter than you or they have better IQ or are more evolved. Your job loss simply comes from a place of hate on their part. An igbo employer will fire a Yoruba man in the east too, soon, and the cycle continues. You don't suffer any impostor syndrome from being of a different tribe.

In racism, a black man loses his job because they believe he is inferior or sub-human, especially when he works in a white dominated field. He has to work twice harder and be way better than them to prove himself. He should dare not make a mistake, otherwise he invalidates his skills. The people think he is less smart because he is black. It only takes a while before he starts to feel this: impostor syndrome. People still believe that black people scientifically have a lower IQ. Nobody thinks so of any tribe in Nigeria. If anything, each tribe thinks so of the other which is fair game.

Take for example, in Nigeria, do you ever walk into a hospital to see a patient and on sighting you, he says, I don't want to see an Igbo doctor? How does he even know you're Igbo just by sighting you? Now, imagine being a black doctor and upon sighting you, the patient says they don't want to see you. The worse is covert racism, where the patient welcomes you with a smile and you have a wonderful, satisfactory conversation only for them to never return and go to a white doctor the next time. Some might even include in their report that you weren't good enough, even when you thought you had a great time with them. Here is an experience of a black doctor who has seen it all:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zi_EGJyAmGk&t=52s

And then when it comes to racism, there is something universally known as "white privilege". Imagine if a white girl lands in Nigeria today - maybe in a crowded market in Oshodi - does she get treated the same way a black girl who lands in Norway would be treated. Once instantly becomes an idol, while the other? Is there also something called "Hausa privilege" or "Igbo privilege"?

stubbornman:


Guy when you get abroad you can really contribute to this conversation ,don't just sit in your house in Nigeria and form scope master.

Mcslize:


don't mind the guy. I didn't even bother to ask him which of the abroad he is in.

LordOfTheGame:



congratulations to you my guy.

LesbianBoy:
It amazes you because you never travel.

When you travel you will understand

If you are a jaiye jaiye type of person abroad is not for you. You can be living in a place for years and don't even know who your next door neighbor is

Mcslize:




And another guy debunked his claim. Didn't you see it? A guy living abroad who lives in that same abroad has debunked that stereotype claim. That's why I said it is an individual something. Not everyone is good with women. When they can't woo or simply say hi to a woman, they write themselves off and heap the blame on white girls hate black guys. They don't do black guys. Who said so? That person simply sucks with women or lack self confidence.

In that same abroad,we have lots of pick up artists (PUA) who woo women on a daily basis.

Let's stop putting the blame on white girls not giving black guys attention.

Mcslize:


don't mind the guy. I didn't even bother to ask him which of the abroad he is in.

Buliwyf:


it is hard to know who is here and who isn't but what neuro sci and others are saying is mostly the truth whether you and that mantisshrimp believe it or not.

Cocao:


You sound so ignorant. It is a pain reading your comments.

Mcslize:




And another guy debunked his claim. Didn't you see it? A guy living abroad who lives in that same abroad has debunked that stereotype claim. That's why I said it is an individual something. Not everyone is good with women. When they can't woo or simply say hi to a woman, they write themselves off and heap the blame on white girls hate black guys. They don't do black guys. Who said so? That person simply sucks with women or lack self confidence.

In that same abroad,we have lots of pick up artists (PUA) who woo women on a daily basis.

Let's stop putting the blame on white girls not giving black guys attention.

Mcslize:


No it's just that you are just too biased seeing the truth in my comments.

Carrying your Nigeria mentality abroad where you always expect men to approach you won't help you.

Get out of your comfort zone and approach a man to prevent you from being in loneliness. How hard is that?

flokii:
While it looks like blessing to put in all your life savings to acquire Visa, work permit etc. and migrate to obodo oyinbo.. when you get there, the oyinbo people will see you as disturbance and uninvited guest, you won't have friends or people to bond with, loneliness, boredom and feeling of regret would then creep in.
It's only married ones with kids that tend to feel loved, not the singles.

If we had good leaders in Africa in general, who would want to run abroad and live in deep freezer? you sef reason am na.
As a guy, your penls will start to shrink like it's no man's business out of cold and sickness.

havilla:

As in I feel like entering the screen and knocking some heads lol

neurosci:

The last time I heard a hiss was in Nigeria; I don't even think that exists here. But still, all na fake. I prefer realness to fakeness. I want a genuine smile, not something you just do because it is the norm. At least when you frown at me, I know you hate me and I can avoid you. And when you smile, I know you like me and I can approach you. But these ones that smile whether they like or hate you, how do you deal with such people?

Dybala11:

But a lot of people living abroad also supported his claim, or do you think that their views don't count?
Of course there may be exceptions, but you can't just dismiss a claim that some Nigerians living abroad are making based on your own assumptions without concrete fact, what you're doing is called "fallacy". The guy's argument has more credibility compared to yours cos he gave both a supposed experiential proof and a research proof, while yours is based solely on your belief and personal hypothesis without proof. All through your argument, only one person living abroad have supported your assertion while others said otherwise.
How do you expect me to take your assumptions concerning how people live their lives abroad to be true when you've never been there and majority of those living there that contributed to this argument said otherwise, is that normal sir?
Anyway, maybe just maybe they're all wrong and you're the only one that is right?

Quality20:
How cn u b at home 24/7? Isn't there gym, worship centre,libraries etc

Mcslize:



Taaaah! I don't live abroad but stop looking down on yourself before the whites.

Most of you are simply having low self esteem. Knowing how to talk to people is not a hard thing to do. There is a way you talk to someone, she will definitely give a positive feedback. Weirdo you said? Who give a bleep? That's the condemnations I mentioned earlier. You already condemned yourself that the person you want to talk to won't answer you politely.

It's more like applying for a job and just before you are invited, you already condemned yourself as not fit for the job. That's low self esteem. Why not make an attempt first before writing yourself off?

It is the same mindset that is preventing many from reaching out to people. You feel someone will take you as weirdo just by saying Hi or reaching out to them. Confidence men don't give a fvck about the reply ladies give them.

As far as I am just being myself, how a lady view a man doesn't matter to a man who knows what he is doing.

Weirdo indeed!