MantisShrimp:


Believe that guy at your own peril. His statement is just full of exaggerations and ridiculous assumptions. Ask him the country and area he stays and see if anyone else living there will support his claims that is if he is even abroad.

I DONT HAVE ANYTHING to prove to you !

I am NOT sorry,,,the African system of proving "who you are" to someone does not run in my blood anymore...

If you are NOT comfortable with my comment,, coman collect my phone

Mcslize:


I believe the guy. Knowing how to approach people is an individual something. If someone can't do it, it doesn't mean another can't. It is a matter of having self confidence and not giving a bleep about the any reply a lady gives you.

But you chose to discredit many individuals saying otherwise right.

Mcslize:


I believe the guy. Knowing how to approach people is an individual something. If someone can't do it, it doesn't mean another can't. It is a matter of having self confidence and not giving a bleep about the any reply a lady gives you.

As much as approaching people the right way is important, don't you think that becoming friends/reciprocating friendship is a two-way thing?
Or your own idea of friendship is only dependent on you alone?

Mcslize:


I approach women on a daily basis that's why I debunked his claim.

His claim is solely based on the fact that people keep to themselves over there and I debunked it that even at that, that shouldn't stop one from reaching out to people. Walking past someone and saying hi is not a crime.

If I stop reaching out to people simply because I believe they won't talk to me if I say hi to them, don't you think that's a mere generalisation? Mind you, are all whites created the same? Do they have the same mind? Are they created with the same dealings and doings?

If I reach out to one and she refuses to reply me, that shouldn't stop me from reaching out to another. Being put off by the doings of one person and making a generalisation off it is like living in denials.

If we go by his claim, it shows that all whites are created the same. Will you say they are all created with same dealings and doings irrespective of how each individual relates with others?

But you're using the same basis to judge two culturally, socially and economically different societies sir. As much as I believe that there will always be exceptions, but you can't just dismiss the proof of many people experiencing the life you're making assumptions about cos it doesn't fit your hypothesis. I won't reply you again sir, ciao!

shegun4sur:



With masters it would've made more brain to get a more reasonable job. Coming back solely because of such flimsy reasons is plain stupid

With masters you said, in a country where people with phD drive dangote trucks, teach in primary schools, you think masters in nigeria is something Hmmm

shegun4sur:



With masters it would've made more brain to get a more reasonable job. Coming back solely because of such flimsy reasons is plain stupid

Masters you said? In a country where people with phD are driving dangote trucks??

Randy91:


I DONT HAVE ANYTHING to prove to you !

I am NOT sorry,,,the African system of proving "who you are" to someone does not run in my blood anymore...

If you are NOT comfortable with my comment,, coman collect my phone

Typical thing a liar will say. You were talking about gbola and other childish things when everybody were having a serious mature conversation. I should have known you wont have anything better than that to contribute. Bye.

@Mcslize he has given you the answer you need.

U will always be lonely in a strange land if after work or classes u lock urself inside ur room

LordOfTheGame:



E be like all of them na the same ooh. I be Igbo, met one Igbo girl from my local gov't on Facebook and she lives just the next city after mine. Started talking as a normal guy and gradually drew her attention to my intentions. Babe humiliated me like say I no follow, even asked me to state my residential status and all necessary proves. She literally told me that I'm like a job seeker to her so I should follow her rules.... I was like woooow. After I noticed that she's just an attention seeking baby mama, I politely declined and ghosted her. She didn't know that I have two accts so I saw one of her posts where she's complaining that to get a serious man is a big problem. When you get a religious one, he's not romantic and when you get smart one, he lies a lot etc... then I used my second acct and blasted her to the surprise of other commenters and she didn't know that I was the one.

Una get time ooo

One thing to do once in Abroad is to KEEP AWAY from NAIJA BABES...most of other African babes like kenya, cameroon, Ghana, etc are COOL

Quality20:
How cn u b at home 24/7? Isn't there gym, worship centre,libraries etc

they prefer being locked inside their room than going to the gym or library.they will argue that they are introvert and when loneliness hit them they will be complanin

ednut1:
I dont take them serious because they are not serious. Keep staying in your house complaining and dont make effort to socialize o. For many its the validation and toasting they get in Nigeria. But all of a sudden no one sends you again lol

who get that time to dey toast and chase woman for street
It's only in nigeria I see such kind of behaviour
If u are a nigerian lady in nigeria and u have that mentality that men should be rolling on the dust and begging for ur attention cos u wear makeup and bone straight hair ..omo if such a lady travel abroad then loneliness go kill her

Dybala11:

As much as approaching people the right way is important, don't you think that becoming friends/reciprocating friendship is a two-way thing?
Or your own idea of friendship is only dependent on you alone?

My point is if one person does not reciprocate your gesture, move on to the next. I don't deal with people that don't reciprocate ftiendship. I simply move on to the next.

Having talked to so many people, I discovered no two persons are the same.

I am the type that don't use another man situation to judge another.

If a girl turn me down today, I see it as nothing cuz I have met so many of them. I won't use that to judge the next girl I will meet simply because one turned me down. That's how I operate.

I ask someone for something and he turned me down. Oh I will start feeling bad and all that. I don't do that. That's low self esteem. I don't cry like a baby over people opinions.

If I talk to a lady who is having a bad day and she flared up at me, I will simply say sorry madam, try resolve whatever you are experiencing, the lord is your strength and I will move on. I won't dwell on that and prevent myself from talking to the next girl I fancy.

At this juncture, I believe you get my point.

Don't give a bleep about how people respond to you when you approach them being negative or positive. And trust me, I get more positive replies than negative ones.

A simple "oh damn! is this the figure 8 I have been hearing about for years or figure 9? has landed me a babe in the past.

That's how simple my approach are. Not every lady will gingle over that but majority do.

An approach need not be complicated especially when it involves a lady you fancy. Mind you, we talking about loneliness. Don't forget the title of the thread. Meaning we are dealings with the opposite sex in this context.

So you are the girl they have been telling me that will born me triplets eh? I have caught u today Has landed me a babe too. The last babe I dated. Those are the simple things I utter to ladies and strike a convo.

I don't complicate things for myself. And they all reciprocate.

I rest my case.

MantisShrimp:


Typical thing a liar will say. You were talking about gbola and other childish things when everybody were having a serious mature conversation. I should have known you wont have anything better than that to contribute. Bye.

@Mcslize he has given you the answer you need.

Hehehe do you usually write a CV when approaching the opposite sex? The context of the thread is loneliness. Which implies not having someone to talk to.

Are you married, if you are not, do you have a girlfriend? How did you approach her? Did you by any chance woo your woman? Who did it for you? Did you preach the gospel to her or sweet talked her?

How were you able to achieve that if you didn't talk to her?

Your answers to those will highly be wwlcomed.

ASUNDER:
Well for any Nigerian lady who is lonely and lives in England or Wales, I am a good fun 5"8 professional hight value millenial guy who is fun loving. I WILL NOT MARRY YOU AND WILL NOT BE EXCLUSIVE. But if you are nice, cheerful and open minded, we can regularly enjoy each other's company. My DM is open

I LOVE that *BOLDED*

Reex12:
guy mcslize pls keep quiet your posts irritate me with your ojuelegba view

youve never left the shores of nigeria neither have you experienced racism, yet you think its black and white,confidence and shyness
you cant force yourself on someone who doesnt want you.

If you take a trip to russia you would understand better, your just blabbering

Confident men don't force themselve on others. People force themselves on them.

Have confidence and you will give no bleep about what white think about you. You guys should stop crying like babies for racism. The tribalism you experience here in your own country isn't it more than racism?

lefulefu:
they prefer being locked inside their room than going to the gym or library.they will argue that they are introvert and when loneliness hit them they will be complanin

My guy !

Where art though since yonder

Romance Nairaland Section don finish u

Childofthelord:
It's looks quite easy from your end. "they don't make an effort to socialize" lol this is not Lagos. Everyone minds their business here, just chit chat and move on, no time for committed relationships or friendships except they are particularly interested in you, even your co-workers like to keep it professional. Its not just the environment, it's the people, their preferences and way of life. You as a foreigner, you cannot change that. There is really no place like home.
Peace

Then go back to 9ja na... why complaining?

abroad is lonely and frustrating, naija dey hungry Nigerians abroad

this " I Wan travel, I Wan travel, I Wan travel" is just a hype, just 6 months abroad, you'll become depressed, except some countries like Malaysia and Indonesia where Nigerians have made another Nigeria

as for Spain where I lived, there was no joy, especially if you were an extrovert in Nigeria, the life will just disappear the moment you step your foot in white man's land

79733139:
Most of them didn't develop their social skills. They basically don't know how to make friends and they don't know how to approach (and take rejections) the opposite sex.

In Nigeria, their social life was structured and for guys, money might have played a big issue in dating. However, in western countries, you need to be proactive about your social life and having money doesn't give you a big edge when it comes to dating.

We also have Nigerian females who believe women shouldn't try and approach a guy to spark his interest.

I dey always laugh each time I read this sort of ignorant comment.
You wet never live for ilu òyìnbó dey tell those wet dey there say dem no get social skills?

Let me Simplify it for you.
Their clock runs 24hrs meaning they work round the clock,it means when you are on duty your wife might be probably be at home and when you are close from work,her own shift begins,it means you might not even get to see your wife for the better part of the day/week, that is the closest person to you that live under the same roof with you.

How do you want to then visit/ talk to someone who is just a friend or a random person?

Obodo òyìnbó no be where everyone dey close by 4pm and we go jam for house and so sure of seeing on weekends

If you can't cope please come back home

BadRadio:
jeez !!!

one word for them guys

lastchild:
abroad is lonely and frustrating, naija dey hungry Nigerians abroad

this " I Wan travel, I Wan travel, I Wan travel" is just a hype, just 6 months abroad, you'll become depressed, except some countries like Malaysia and Indonesia where Nigerians have made another Nigeria

as for Spain where I lived, there was no joy, especially if you were an extrovert in Nigeria, the life will just disappear the moment you step your foot in white man's land

Bro, very true(There is no place like home)..This also happens to everyone who migrates to a new country...You will definitely miss home...But the loneliness part of it IS DEPENDENT ON INDIVIDUALS regardless of the white man culture of "minding ur business"...

If white peeps no agree for you, there are other African groups one can join to meet great people.

Let me pitch my tent here to learn.

BadRadio:
jeez !!!

one word for them guys

It feels like an ant that feel in a honey jar.

Cocao:


I am doing very well honey and not lonely at all. You on the other hand is far, far far away from reality.

You are doing well but fail to understand that you can't use a single scenario to make a generalization. Are you truly not lonely?

If you keep to yourself as a person, you still living in loneliness.

The thing about most of you that live abroad is you make too much of simple things. A white man smile at you, you call it racism.

You greet a white women and she refuses to answer you maybe she is engrossed in something else a d couldn't hear you out, you call that racism and an avenue to stop talking and relating with people.

Don't use yours to judge others. There are people in that same abroad that have Bunches if white friends.

If you can't be tactical to know how to live and relate with the whites, don't use that as an avenue to paint them bad as people with fake smiles.

The issue is from you making a mountain out of nothing.

Quality20:
How cn u b at home 24/7? Isn't there gym, worship centre,libraries etc

you think its Nigeria you goto gym and pay 25k? idi00t you know no say things dey expensive here? more so, you dont even know if his paper work will allow such, guy if you have freedom thank God

Randy91:


My guy !

Where art though since yonder

Romance Nairaland Section don finish u

my bro just been busy
this lonliness of a thing in a foreign country i believe na women dey get the issue pass guys cos if u get open open mind u can socialise with any lady of any race or culture as a naija man but it seems for naija women dem just prefer tagging only with men from their tribe or nationality when abroad and maybe na dis one dey cause the lonliness

Living abroad is totally different from living in Nigeria. I can beat my chest and say that it is lonely indeed. I made a youtube video about my loneliness experience in UK. My youtube name is Adaeze Ani incase you want to watch it. Even to date na real wa

flokii:
While it looks like blessing to put in all your life savings to acquire Visa, work permit etc. and migrate to obodo oyinbo.. when you get there, the oyinbo people will see you as disturbance and uninvited guest, you won't have friends or people to bond with, loneliness, boredom and feeling of regret would then creep in.
It's only married ones with kids that tend to feel loved, not the singles.

If we had good leaders in Africa in general, who would want to run abroad and live in deep freezer? you sef reason am na.
As a guy, your penls will start to shrink like it's no man's business out of cold and sickness.

Lol...Deep freezer

Solatium:




I dey always laugh each time I read this sort of ignorant comment.
You wet never live for ilu òyìnbó dey tell those wet dey there say dem no get social skills?

Let me Simplify it for you.
Their clock runs 24hrs meaning they work round the clock,it means when you are on duty your wife might be probably be at home and when you are close from work,her own shift begins,it means you might not even get to see your wife for the better part of the day/week, that is the closest person to you that live under the same roof with you.

How do you want to then visit/ talk to someone who is just a friend or a random person?

Obodo òyìnbó no be where everyone dey close by 4pm and we go jam for house and so sure of seeing on weekends

u can make ur wife your best friend then nau
haba
u two can make time and go out and spend some time together
go on a run together in the morning or on weekends
go on a hike
u must not have company of friends
if na only ur wife u fit identify as your best friend then u still a social being

Mcslize:


You are doing well but fail to understand that you can't use a single scenario to make a generalization. Are you truly not lonely?

If you keep to yourself as a person, you still living in loneliness.

The thing about most of you that live abroad is you make too much of simple things. A white man smile at you, you call it racism.

You greet a white women and she refuses to answer you maybe she is engrossed in something else a d couldn't hear you out, you call that racism and an avenue to stop talking and relating with people.

Don't use yours to judge others. There are people in that same abroad that have Bunches if white friends.

If you can't be tactical to know how to live and relate with the whites, don't use that as an avenue to paint them bad as people with fake smiles.

The issue is from you making a mountain out of nothing.

typical naija man.

neurosci:


I don't understand what you wrote up there, can you please type it in English?

Hahahah

Always fascinating watching a person who cannot do a thing telling a person who has been doing it that it is impossible.

Humility requires that you find out HOW people do what you cannot do instead of remaining in ignorance.

Go to YouTube and type in Wode Maya and watch a very dark skinned Ghanaian stopping Chinese girls on the streets of China and collecting their numbers. To add insult to injury on your rant-he even asks some for a hug and they oblige him

neurosci:


Did you answer my question at all? Have you lived abroad? The US or Canada specifically. If you have not, leave this topic for those who have. When you get there, try the things you said and then come back to tell me how it went.

What you don't understand is that what you're describing above is more of a cultural thing as opposed to a mere skill. Have you ever wondered why people don't cold approach the opposite sex in the streets here like they do in Nigeria? Have you ever entered a public bus or train here and seen how people are quiet, heads locked down on their phones? Why do you think dating apps are the main means of finding relationships here as opposed to just walking up to strangers?

Your writing shows you've never been here, otherwise you would not have said what you said regarding a white girl smiling at you. When a white girl smiles at you, take it seriously at your own peril.

Innocently naughty. Smh