Michelle55:
How do people who vows to take the forever steps together suddenly turns against each other overnight? Just how?

U don't know how this women in Europe brag about how much they got as alimony after divorcing their husbands, is a business there and a source of wealth

Tell him to put himself together and remarry a nice/rich/working single mother lady in the UK.
Were lama fi nwo were.
Once he remarried , his new marriage / new responsibilities will be considered in the judgement.
His wife will calm down once she knows she has lost out to another woman.
Single mother knows what she suffered before, she will do everything to support and retain your friend.

sarutobi:


My chairman, do you remember me? I still got your laptop ooo.

LOL. Which of the laptop? The screen touch or the core i5?

grafixdon:
My brother had the same issue with his wife some years ago... Unfortunately for him he was deported back to Nigeria without a penny after many years in uk. Meanwhile, he was the one who took his wife to the uk.

After he was reported, she doesn't even allow him to speak with his kids (2girls) on phone. He later suffers depression, always on drugs, he couldn't work or do anything meaningful, totally useless... Today, the guy is in rehab in Yaba, he's shadow of himself as I speak...

Deported ke!! He must have done something very bad .We know about men losing everything as a result of divorce but I don't know about deportation except he must have done something unlawfully .

grafixdon:


LOL. Which of the laptop? The screen touch or the core i5?

cant remember bro. I think corei5. That was long time a go.

it has happened to me b4, he should just go and shag another and make his feelings go. if not he can die of depression which can bring in stroke

LongNipple:
My Uncle in United States just came out of a Divorce. It's was TERRIBLE. And I mean Terrible!!!

His wife filed for a Divorce stating she is tired of the marriage and she wants him to be paying her Child Support. The Court took his House, His Cars. Sold the house and gave 80% of the money to the wife.
During that period, he lost his job as well. He almost went into Depression. He wasn't seeing his Child cos the court ordered the wife to take the child becos she is underaged.
He was back to square one.

We kept on encouraging him during that period. He managed to get a Car on hire through someone and was using it for UBER. Tried applying to work a Hospital (according to them, they say thats where money is at least) but was unsuccessful cos he is not a Medical personnel.
He slept on the streets. In his car. In people's stair cases. Kept his remains property in a place where he pays weekly for its safety.

The large chunk of his properties such as TV, Fridge and other, the court asked them to sell and share the money equally. The wife then demanded for CHILD SUPPORT. He started paying for Child Support with UBER work. Come and see suffer. Any money that enters his account will be wired to his Ex-Wife.
It got to a time his female lawyer started using style to side his ex-wife and her lawyers during round table court hearings cos she's is also a divorcee.
Life was hard for him mehn.
He started falling sick everyday. Sometimes he would call us and want to start crying. I felt for him but there was a limit to what I could do.

But like they say, it's only GOD that has the final say. We started doing prayers for him here in Nigeria. After some months, He got a job at a Hospital. He started collected small money. He got a small Apartment. Paid for the Car he used for UBER. Things started taking a new turn.

Right now, the 20% proceeds from the sale of his house has just been released to him after 2 years and he has bought himself a decent house. He still pays for children support with the money he gets from his hospital work.

He came back to Nigeria and he has remarried. The wife would be joining him over there soon.

He is about to tell the Lawyers to release his daughter to him cos he now has a female figure who can take care of her and her wants his daughter to be with him as the father.

He is happy Now. No more sicknesses like before. When the ex wife saw that he is now progressing. She started using style to come back to him shamelessly but he told her to keep off.

It's only a matter of time. God will always stand up for his own. We just need to be strong and have faith in him for every negative thing we are passing through right now will one day become a story we all will look back at and be glad we never gave up.

This ur friend is the cause of his misfortune in life, I mean after all he went thru he still went ahead and brought anyoda girl t the US, after he will say is village people that's doing him, idiot!

Heathrow44:




U don't know how this women in Europe brag about how much they got as alimony after divorcing their husbands, is a business there and a source of wealth

That's why over 70% of divorce were initiated by women in usa.

There was one woman that advised women to take it all during divorce in Steve Harvey show and the women in the show stood up and clapped for her.
I was just pitying those men in that country. Dem don render them useless.

Marriage for West na cash out plan for women.

Henvest:
"Marital rape, drugs, child abuse, adultery .....e.t.c"
Just a case of giving a dog name to kill it.
I wonder why we black man still don't understand that marriage , divorce or marital law.. I don't know the Bleep they call it...is just one of many tools and system put in place to keep black men down, in this case using their wife.
The same way they use media , religion, culture , politics e.t.c is the same way they are using women in marriage to bring and keep men down.

Meanwhile it has been proven that women, mostly Nigeria women are like Lion cub .
No matter how lovely and cute they look at young age once they become independent they turn into a monster.
And u will surely be their first victim after U have help them grow.
If you must train them make sure u trim their jaws and finger from time to time.
Lastly never allow society to push you into taking your wife abroad to live with you in order to be a real man..
The story has never end well unless God is on your side.
All the systems they interact with there are design to brainwash them into being a willing tool for your down fall

So you are suggesting that the man stays abroad alone while his family remain here in Nigeria ? Then why marry at all ? Its either he remains here with his family or he marries over them and be with them .It make no sense for a man to be abroad while his wife and kids remain in a different country apart . Why marry in the first place ?

Anyway ,it's seem painful & unfair when men are at the receiving end of social injustice in the U.K. .But over here in Nigeria ,women have been abused and maligned for crying out for injustice by thier husbands and our society will tell them to go back home and be a dutiful wife so that the man would be of good behavior .
Men would cheat on thier wives ,bring home-deadly diseases, due to thier philandering ,beat up these women if they dare stand up to protest against thier husband and take thier children away from them, if they dare ask for divorce .Especially when the wife is not financially independent .

I sympathize with these men that are going through hell in the U.K, due to thier divorce from thier wives . But I still believe Nigerian men still export thier alpha male tendencies with thier wives in the U.K. They should know that over there in the U.K. the woman is king but here in Nigeria they are subject and powerless .
They should learn how to adjust accordingly depending on the country they are .

MansoryMX:



As a man If you get married outside Nigeria, know your boundaries with your wife, always make sure your name is not written in your wife’s book of death or else if y’all go through divorce path, you are definitely losing everything. If I were you, I will advice my friend to make peace with his wife, tolerate her and get back everything, plan on how to leave her with the kids back to Naija afterwards. Same thing happened to my wife’s elder brother in the UK but he was smart enough to outsmart the wife, sold off everything they have secretly and liquidated the money into bitcoin, did travel papers secretly and before she returned back from work one day, house is emptied and her husband already back in Naija with their two kids. The woman has refused to come back yet to Naija despite her own family plea fo her to come and face family meeting.

I'd rather stay single than walk on eggshells just so I don't offend a woman, nonsense,

wahala for who no sign prenuptial agreement

This should serve as a lesson to all the Nigerian men living abroad who invest all their life savings and income abroad thinking they are now Barrack Obama.

Always think home.


If he had used the money he invested in acquiring that house his covetous wife has taken over now in building houses in Nigeria, his life wouldn't be the way it is now because he can always fall back to it to stand back on his feet.


As a married man, any house you build or acquire in US, UK, South Korea, Canada, Australia, and most European countries indirectly belongs to your wife should any marital issue arise in future.


So as a Nigerian bred man living abroad, before you buy a house abroad, make sure you have built at least 2 mansions in top 2 Nigerian cities as a backup for tomorrow.



This was what messed up former football star Emmanuel Eboue in the UK.


Black African men refused to learn and they will keep paying the price.


Think home, forget all the noise nobody is ready to fight another civil war in Nigeria, so forget that thinking that Nigeria will burn tomorrow, it won't

I won't judge cos this is a one-sided story. One thing I have observed in many wives is that they can suppress pressure so much. But, when they explode, may God help you. We've not heard from the wife. But, don't be surprised that the man may be the one that brought this misfortune upon himself. I remember a video circulating around a few months ago of a Nigerian man in the UK that his wife threw his belongings out. People were raining curses on his wife. Later the truth came out that the man is extremely wicked. The man left his real wife with three children and move in with a side chick. The side chick was the one that threw his belongings out.

Don't take your wife for granted. If she's ignoring or pardoning your bad deeds, she's not a fool. If you continue your bad ways, she will explode someday and you will regret ever being born.

For now, his friends should rally round him. Help him so that he won't injure himself.

Keshinr0:


Am more certain about US, they do provide prosecutors for those who can't afford one.
But UK I don't know

US is a little bit more fairer than UK when it comes to divorces!!! UK's own and mostly Europe is so damn annoying

sarutobi:


cant remember bro. I think corei5. That was long time a go.

Long time ago? In Lagos?

omoharry:
So you are suggesting that the man stays abroad alone while his family remain here in Nigeria ? Then why marry at all ? Its either he remains here with his family or he marries over them and be with them .It make no sense for a man to be abroad while his wife and kids remain in a different country apart . Why marry in the first place ?

Anyway ,it's seem painful & unfair when men are at the receiving end of social injustice in the U.K. .But over here in Nigeria ,women have been abused and maligned for crying out for injustice by thier husbands and our society will tell them to go back home and be a dutiful wife so that the man would be of good behavior .
Men would cheat on thier wives ,bring home-deadly diseases, due to thier philandering ,beat up these women if they dare stand up to protest against thier husband and take thier children away from them, if they dare ask for divorce .Especially when the wife is not financially independent .

I sympathize with these men that are going through hell in the U.K, due to thier divorce from thier wives . But I still believe Nigerian men still export thier alpha male tendencies with thier wives in the U.K. They should know that over there in the U.K. the woman is king but here in Nigeria they are subject and powerless .
They should learn how to adjust accordingly depending on the country they are .

You are talking nonsense, I personally sent my wife and baby away to a saner country for a purpose.


Most wealthy men all over the world don't spend much time with their family, only broke and insecure men glue on to their wife daily humping her and manufacturing babies yearly.


How many days does Bill Gates and Melinda spend in a whole year when he is busy touring the world for business and philanthropy


Stop thinking like ancient men.


You can actually live in a different country from your wife and still enjoy a blissful marriage than those who live with their wife. I am a living testimony to that okay

I will usually not reply to many things here but in order to help you and make you understand that it is not the end of the world, I will share my experience and a little advice
I had a similar experience and it is a common scam in the UK. I went through a divorce 6 years ago and I know a friend who is going through one at the moment too
Do not mind the people calling you names - most times, things happen in spite of our cleverness and good intentions -m just listen here

So in my own case - I tried my best to make the marriage work, I put my ex in nursing school - scratch that - college to gain qualification for nursing school then nursing school. I also helped sort out her immigration issues. Those two things cost a lot of money for those who know

I was already a top-ten percent earner in the UK( that starts at £100,000 p.a as at then BTW), never cheated, watched out for her best interest and I was a Christian leader as at then. In fact, she was the only reason I couldn't buy a property earlier than I did, I wanted her to rise to meet similar financial status as mine. She and her mother used to call me "oloore mi" - my helper translated from Yoruba

Then as soon as she started making a little headway she became really nasty, setting me up every time, throwing me out of the house at will.
I, all of a sudden became a stingy man( funny enough I am nearly sure I was among the highest-paid all around us then and all income went into the marriage and I even took money from my mother at times)
My mum became a witch to her (it was my mum that encouraged me to put her in nursing school o, she herself being a nurse. )
I became the lazy guy to her- meanwhile, I was paying an au-pair £700 per month to look after her and our kids whilst I worked o(an aupair is the UK equivalent of house help in Nigeria ) aupair clened cooked etc, she sat pretty

- to earn £100k, you have to wake up really early to go to the city and come back late oh - and loads of traveling

I was thinking, I'm a Christian I didn't want to get a divorce. You see, I worked for a multi-national Oil and Gas firm, and being a friendly and humble guy, I will usually go downstairs to chat with the dinner ladies and among them a very beautiful, mixed race 23 years old who really liked me and wanted to date me then even but genuinely I wanted to honour God, despite going weeks without sex as a married man

Then I bought a house. I genuinely wanted to add her name but because she hadn't attained her PR status banks refused(she had exceptional leave) and then the set up was now too much
one day I don't know what happened but my younger daughter got locked inside her room - I wasn't even there ( I believe she orchestrated it BTW) and usually you break the door by your self or called the Fire marshalls at worst but she called the Police - whilst I was trying to break the door
The police came and started asking if I was attacking them. At that point it became clear to me, my life was in danger so I was praying nonetheless
Then one day I traveled to work and came back, she was gone with the children. Imagine how devastating and then I started begging( whilst aware that she started dating someone else - Aupair told me o

Then social services got involved( you are finished the moment social services gets involved in any case) the social services guy was from the same Nigerian town as her and for whatever reason(I have my guesses though) he lied against me in his report - several lies and said I admitted to things that even if I had done them(I didn't) no one with a reasonable IQ would agree to
Eventually, I filed for divorce, and then only then she didn't want divorce again. She was calling my friends, hiding from the court bailiff - here is someone trying her hardest to tarnish my image with lies and set up but I pushed
Crucially, she got a non-molestation order( that order is called the liar order as you don't have to prove anything - just that you are scared of someone and they will issue it - almost always against a man)
In total Police came 5 times( I called them once) but crucially, I was smarter - there was no reason for me to be warned or arrested so no record against me
Now the part you can learn from

I paid for court bailiffs to track her down and serve her papers and she asked for about 70% of everything I owned( 60% of the equity of the house in the UK and my property in Nigeria).

My lawyers were saying I should go to court blah, blah but I was smarter. I was able to work things out

Sometimes, lawyers are looking after their pocket not you so you need to be smart. If I went to court, I will have to pay for my lawyers(£100 an hour) and her lawyers( £100 an hour) and that can last months so the differential is always not going to favour me. Besides, there is no way she won't get a chunk of it in a UK court despite that I owned them 100% so I agreed.
Again she took ages to come back, she didn't respond for 8 months as truly, I had treated her very well and at that point reality must have dawned on her so I kept pushing and I will travel all over the world to take my mind off things.

I had one issue then - how do I get 60% of equity to pay her off - I was broke and tired. I had carried everyone on my head - her, her mum, her family, kids, au pair - hoping that she would finish her studies, appreciate and support me. If only I knew that my struggles were just beginning then
But I had one thing going for me. Prayers
then I got a contract that paid like double what I was earning - so it turns out that God was working for me - in the time that she was stalling, I was getting paid double and met my current wife who is 20,000 times the person she was( of course my opinion)
so eventually her lawyers responded after I kept hassling them and she thought I wouldn't be able to pay her off. She was ready to move back into the house
All in all, it cost me about £70,000 plus regular maintenance for the children. It would have been double if I went to court
I am far richer than she left me though. Far richer and in a much better place

However, I won every time we went to the family court for the children. So I have access
If you are the one in the right, somehow God will find a way to reward your faithfulness
I can offer to train you in IT for free and you will get a good job. It will help to redirect you to a better place
Don't go to Nigeria though. Stick it out
travel on vacation
You will be ok

Heathrow44:



US is a little bit more fairer than UK when it comes to divorces!!! UK's own and mostly Europe is so damn annoying

Lol, looking at it the future would be tough for women.
Daily men are getting uninterested in marriage.
Taking bezos as an example, imagine he never married. It would be an Herculean task for Elon Musk to meet up so quick.

nashito:



Stupid ways a Nigerian woman thinks, someone is at the point of breaking down cos it's a man you idiots don't feel an iota of pity. Pay extra? Someone that can barely pay for a room. I really don't think marriage is what any man should consider this days, this women are not loyal and will not be, I think baby Mama is a way to go. No wonder there's so much homicide case in US. Just watch The ID channel on your Dstv and see how men are murdering this heartless women and burying their bodies in bushes. Maybe you'd think twice about your statement

Guy cool down na!Haba!! It happens to both both sec . In Nigeria ,the man is king and the woman goes through all manner of injustice and in the U.K, the woman is queen and the man suffers the same fate like thier counterpart in Nigeria .Maje una chill Abeg .
I watch ID too ..Most of the murder cases are cause by greed (due to life insurance ,which they will benefit on the spouse demise ) and it happens both ways . It not enough to justify why a man should take A life

ednut1:
all his money will go on bills (,his own plus kids and ex wife own). Na die he dey

Yeah, I get it now. You are correct

Keshinr0:


Lol, looking at it the future would be tough for women.
Daily men are getting uninterested in marriage.
Taking bezos as an example, imagine he never married. It would be an Herculean task for Elon Musk to meet up so quick.

Whether u like it or not, the future would be female sooner than u expect, cos a lot of men have turn to be feminists in Nigeria, u see a lot of men in seminars about girl child education, domestic violence, IPV, u see them in protests about women rights, u see yayaha bello of kogi advancing women's rights and overseeing that they are empowered, u see tony elumelu making sure girls get education without giving a hoot about males and u say the future isn't female, is a bitter truth, I must say, the future is indeed female unless men stand up to advance men's rights and be conservative!

drlaykay:
That's how a random woman called me from canada pleading for a medical report.
Said the content should be that when she was in Nigeria 2016, she was admitted in my hospital because her husband beat her while she was pregnant and that she lost consciousness for some days.
I asked what she needed it for, she said nothing that she only wanted to keep it. She offered me 200k, I rejected it without thinking twice.

Na so she go use am go destroy another person life. I will never be an accomplice to someone else's downfall. I can't sell my conscience for money.

People in Canada have become experts in getting various types of letters (financial, bank accounts, IOU, medical) from Nigeria to back up their divorce cases and the Canadian courts take those letters very seriously. So I am not surprised about what you wrote.

Heathrow44:
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[b]Marry a woman in Europe aka feminist= suicide

the dude did not get the memo yet

drlaykay:
That's how a random woman called me from canada pleading for a medical report.
Said the content should be that when she was in Nigeria 2016, she was admitted in my hospital because her husband beat her while she was pregnant and that she lost consciousness for some days.
I asked what she needed it for, she said nothing that she only wanted to keep it. She offered me 200k, I rejected it without thinking twice.

Na so she go use am go destroy another person life. I will never be an accomplice to someone else's downfall. I can't sell my conscience for money.

jesus!

mogbe

Keshinr0:


Lol, looking at it the future would be tough for women.
Daily men are getting uninterested in marriage.
Taking bezos as an example, imagine he never married. It would be an Herculean task for Elon Musk to meet up so quick.

Jeff bezos would eventually get married again someday!

Heathrow44:




Whether u like it or not, the future would be female sooner than u expect, cos a lot of men have turn to be feminists in Nigeria, u see a lot of men in seminars about girl child education, domestic violence, IPV, u see them in protests about women rights, u see yayaha bello of kogi advancing women's rights and overseeing that they are empowered, u see tony elumelu making sure girls get education without giving a hoot about males and u say the future isn't female, is a bitter truth, I must say, the future is indeed female unless men stand up to advance men's rights and be conservative!

Word, really love this.
Gradually the society is neglecting the male child
The more educated a woman becomes the more difficult to have a stable marriage.

Built2last:


Get him to sign up to universal credit so he can pay his rent and feed first. He needs to pick up the pieces and move on.

I will never fight over children. When they grow up, they have a way of looking for a missing parent. that vacuum is always there in them

I'm not sure universal credit can pay his rent. he needs to go to his council and declare homelessness. He can go onto the housing register but his turn will not reach for the next 3 years to be given a single flat because a single man is the least priority on the housing list. Sick and vulnerable people, single parents, families, single women all have higher priority on the list. A single man is the least priority on that list. With homelessness, that is the only way council can give him money for rent and that will be for one room in a shared house or apartment at no more than about £500 a month is what councils can afford.

Heathrow44:


Jeff bezos would eventually get married again someday!

His problem

Heathrow44:


Jeff bezos would eventually get married again someday!

na you go give am wife
abi na you go carry him finger sign marriage documents

ohhh

Keshinr0:


Word, really love this.
Gradually the society is neglecting the male child
The more educated a woman becomes the more difficult to have a stable marriage.

not true though!

all these cases involving Nigerian men are majorly with the less educated ones.

RisenPhoenix1:
His mistake was not seeing the signs early enough. If you insist on keeping your wife and family with you in the UK, you need to take financial precautions; like keeping the bulk of your savings in offshore accounts that she is not aware of, including her name on the mortgage papers and getting your kids acclimatized to staying with your parents in Nigeria. So as soon as you see signs of her misbehaviour, you pack up and leave her hanging. The court cannot award her what they can't find. Well, too late now.

Tell him to suspend the search for a job until the court case is all wrapped up. There's very little she can gain from him now; the court cannot order a jobless man to either pay alimony or child support. After that, he can relocate to another town, pick up the pieces and try to get visitation rights. Over time, it will resolve itself.

Many ladies do their homework about all your assets before the "show" begins. If any hidden assets not declared are made known to the courts even after the divorce proceedings are over, the case may be reopened and you will pay dearly for not declaring it.

baralatie:

not true though!

all these cases involving Nigerian men are majorly with the less educated ones.

You meant, educated naija men don't face divorce