flokii:
While it looks like blessing to put in all your life savings to acquire Visa, work permit etc. and migrate to obodo oyinbo.. when you get there, the oyinbo people will see you as disturbance and uninvited guest, you won't have friends or people to bond with, loneliness, boredom and feeling of regret would then creep in.
It's only married ones with kids that tend to feel loved, not the singles.

If we had good leaders in Africa in general, who would want to run abroad and live in deep freezer? you sef reason am na.
As a guy, your penls will start to shrink like it's no man's business out of cold and sickness.

even in the same nigeria there many ppl who still cry about being lonely
some ladies in nigeria still cry that no man has their time and they have been so lonely for yrs that they even beg their pastors to give them husband
some don become constant for shiloh sef
some guys tool also complain that no matter how much they beg a girl for attention and friendship she still ignores them
someone created a thread yesterday about having difficulty in making friends with the opposite even though he has a good paying job and he is very generous and yet na naija im dey
it has nothing to do with your locality
it has nothing to do with nigerian govt
but it has everything to do with the person in general if he or she is finding it hard to make friends

really

Dybala11:

So your take is that all the individuals that talked about difficulty in building friendship with whites easily are all suffering from "inferiority complex". You're beginning to dismantle your opinion with your choice of words sir, oya tell us more.

My point is that they cry too much like babies. Why should a black give a bleep about what a white human being thinks about him or her?

Those abroad should stop crying foul for every little encounter they have with the whites.

Even here in Nigeria, people mind their business. They receive a casual stare from an albino, they will attribute it to racism, we are not wanted here. I am black that's why. Oh my employer didn't answer me this morning cuz I am black. Oh my neighbour gave me an angry stare yesterday, I want to go back to Nigeria.

They should stop crying like babies. Thy should learn to cultivate that I don't care attitude and stop making a mountain from every mole hill.

That's how I live my life. I don't give a bleep. Whether I greet you and you refuse to answer me or not, I keep living on. That should be the mindset of every black living abroad.

It's not today people start keeping to themselves. In that same abroad, there are some people whose friends are just whites all through.

Black abroad cry too much over the culture they experience abroad. That's culture. They should adapt rather than crying foul.

lefulefu:
my bro just been busy
this lonliness of a thing in a foreign country i believe na women dey get the issue pass guys cos if u get open open mind u can socialise with any lady of any race or culture as a naija man but it seems for naija women dem just prefer tagging only with men from their tribe or nationality when abroad and maybe na dis one dey cause the lonliness

They are used to this *too much attention* guys in Naija give to them

When i see most of them, i dont even SAY HI thats how BRUTAL i can be


Our mumu stopped in NAIJA

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I don't think a white girl will slap or react badly simply by asking her what song she is listening to when catching the bus or train. That's how black guys land white girls as gfs.








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lol not to wise to approah a lady when she is having earphones or plugs on except its something very important.and by the way u shouldnt just restrict yourself to only oyibo girls.In short you might not too consider white girls that attractive if you come across other women of different eithnicity..except whitey is just your thing sha

Quality20:
How cn u b at home 24/7? Isn't there gym, worship centre,libraries etc

Nigerians don't do all these things. Even just to take a leisurely walk in the serene park to clear one's head, Nigerians will say its a waste of time. Meanwhile sometimes that is where your idea comes.

jesmond3945:
typical naija man.

That's why if you grow up in Naija, there should be no place in this world where you can't survive. We adapt to anything and any culture.

Our Naija folks should stop that crying and complaining attitude of every little thing they experience abroad. If their country is good, they wouldn't have travelled abroad.

Crying over little things that shouldn't even bother one, simply show some are deceiving themselves.

They should come back home where loneliness does not exist.

They have everything a good society should offer but still finding fault with everything they encounter.

I am simply asking those that ain't finding it funny with the whites to come back home. We will receive them with opened hands.

Mcslize:


You are doing well but fail to understand that you can't use a single scenario to make a generalization. Are you truly not lonely?

The issue is from you making a mountain out of nothing.

Okay. Thank you for your advice.

Randy91:



They are used to this *too much attention* guys in Naija give to them

When i see most of them, i dont even SAY HI thats how BRUTAL i can be


Our mumu stopped in NAIJA

for here a woman can flirt with you if she likes what she sees
if a nigerian guy is outside nigeria and he still complains that women no get im time then he has to check his physical appearance
something might be off that chases the women away
if u dey nigeria its normal for you to use money to bribe a woman to accept to be with u but outside naija when u have such mentality na only ashawo u go dey carry

COMPAQ:


Nigerians don't do all these things. Even just to take a leisurely walk in the serene park to clear one's head, Nigerians will say its a waste of time. Meanwhile sometimes that is where your idea comes.

but we attend churches nau
at least a nigerian guy can use a church to seek friendship for the opposite sex if he hates going to the gym or public parks.there are lots of african churches in other foreign countries.

Mcslize:


You are doing well but fail to understand that you can't use a single scenario to make a generalization. Are you truly not lonely?

If you keep to yourself as a person, you still living in loneliness.

The thing about most of you that live abroad is you make too much of simple things. A white man smile at you, you call it racism.

You greet a white women and she refuses to answer you maybe she is engrossed in something else a d couldn't hear you out, you call that racism and an avenue to stop talking and relating with people.

Don't use yours to judge others. There are people in that same abroad that have Bunches if white friends.

If you can't be tactical to know how to live and relate with the whites, don't use that as an avenue to paint them bad as people with fake smiles.

The issue is from you making a mountain out of nothing.

Leave that babe...

SHE is VERy LONELY...i can bet ALL My savings on it

The truth is *the attention they enjoy back home, no one here will even GIVE 1bit of it to them* After a while, their eye go clear,,

Many of dem Ladies, Kill their bordomness/Loneliness by opening YOUTUBE Channels

90% of guys dont face LONELINESS !

lefulefu:
for here a woman can flirt with you if she likes what she sees
if a nigerian guy is outside nigeria and he still complains that women no get im time then he has to check his physical appearance
something might be off that chases the women away
if u dey nigeria its normal for you to use money to bribe a woman to accept to be with u but outside naija when u have such mentality na only ashawo u go dey carry

Leave those guys saying they are LONELY

If one of my friend can travel a distance equivalent of Abuja to Lagos Monthly to Goan be with his white babe(because most white babes love the guy coming to their house and not the other way round)..Then i dont see why other guys cant just move out maybe via church(Not Nigerian church oo) but a mixed church, then volunteer to serve in a UNIT in the church, then from there make GREAT FRIENDS

flokii:
While it looks like blessing to put in all your life savings to acquire Visa, work permit etc. and migrate to obodo oyinbo.. when you get there, the oyinbo people will see you as disturbance and uninvited guest, you won't have friends or people to bond with, loneliness, boredom and feeling of regret would then creep in.
It's only married ones with kids that tend to feel loved, not the singles.

If we had good leaders in Africa in general, who would want to run abroad and live in deep freezer? you sef reason am na.
As a guy, your penls will start to shrink like it's no man's business out of cold and sickness.

Until the loneliness is enough to make you come back, you no get case.

Randy91:



Leave those guys saying they are LONELY

If one of my friend can travel a distance equivalent of Abuja to Lagos Monthly to Goan be with his white babe(because most white babes love the guy coming to their house and not the other way round)..Then i dont see why other guys cant just move out maybe via church(Not Nigerian church oo) but a mixed church, then volunteer to serve in a UNIT in the church, then from there make GREAT FRIENDS

hahahahahahahaha so u will also avoid nigerian churches ?

flokii:
While it looks like blessing to put in all your life savings to acquire Visa, work permit etc. and migrate to obodo oyinbo.. when you get there, the oyinbo people will see you as disturbance and uninvited guest, you won't have friends or people to bond with, loneliness, boredom and feeling of regret would then creep in.
It's only married ones with kids that tend to feel loved, not the singles.

If we had good leaders in Africa in general, who would want to run abroad and live in deep freezer? you sef reason am na.
As a guy, your penls will start to shrink like it's no man's business out of cold and sickness.

So what about us that were born here? What should we do?

My penis has not shrinked by the way... i have being fuccking (if that is what you mean) all kinda girls/women since during my college days and after college, women are full in da clubs ready and happy to have sex.


It is just that some of you who came to live here love to work, work, work, work, work and work. And never have time to party, hook up with women for sex or go to clubs and pubs.

COMPAQ:


Nigerians don't do all these things. Even just to take a leisurely walk in the serene park to clear one's head, Nigerians will say its a waste of time. Meanwhile sometimes that is where your idea comes.

They just sits at home eat, eat, eat, eat and eat. And work, work, work, work and work.

SarkinYarki:


That's one thing I hate about Nigerian ladies , you can't even just be friendly with them for minutes without them trying to bring financial problems to you once they sense you are comfortable ... Even a lady that greets me daily at a place I frequent and she recently collected my phone number only to greet me twice on what's app and then next thing she starts telling about her visa issues and how she is short of money to complete it ...I just taya again , I sent her the money and immediately blocked her ..no time for people with such baggages right now

Oboi you try when will guys like you go start helping men?

Randy91:


Una get time ooo

One thing to do once in Abroad is to KEEP AWAY from NAIJA BABES...most of other African babes like kenya, cameroon, Ghana, etc are COOL

Kenya ? They're the worst. Stay away.

LordOfTheGame:


Awww love is on the air. Go for it girl, Congratulations in advance.

Hahaha, you are looking for gist. Lol

LordOfTheGame:


Hahahahahahah Hahahahaha
Nairaland is the land of the crazy and weirdos....
Lols...@Epistle

Haha lol that's why the forum is so sweet man

Childofthelord:
It's looks quite easy from your end. "they don't make an effort to socialize" lol this is not Lagos. Everyone minds their business here, just chit chat and move on, no time for committed relationships or friendships except they are particularly interested in you, even your co-workers like to keep it professional. Its not just the environment, it's the people, their preferences and way of life. You as a foreigner, you cannot change that. There is really no place like home.
Peace

Very easy. Enter next flight make another person go..

Mcslize:


That's why if you grow up in Naija, there should be no place in this world where you can't survive. We adapt to anything and any culture.

Our Naija folks should stop that crying and complaining attitude of every little thing they experience abroad. If their country is good, they wouldn't have travelled abroad.

Crying over little things that shouldn't even bother one, simply show some are deceiving themselves.

They should come back home where loneliness does not exist.

They have everything a good society should offer but still finding fault with everything they encounter.

I am simply asking those that ain't finding it funny with the whites to come back home. We will receive them with opened hands.

what of chinese and other europeans who their country is good but they migrate to uk or canada for better opportunities? Why can't Nigerians do same?
Is it fair treating someone as sub human because of skin colour? Why not travel and see how it feels. That's why black americans hate us with passion. We downplay this terrible experiences but will not stop begging them for dollar and pounds. Would tell your brother schooling in Uk to leave and come back home when he is not done with studies yet?

Randy91:


Bro, very true(There is no place like home)..This also happens to everyone who migrates to a new country...You will definitely miss home...But the loneliness part of it IS DEPENDENT ON INDIVIDUALS regardless of the white man culture of "minding ur business"...

If white peeps no agree for you, there are other African groups one can join to meet great people.

Exactly. If one is not good with whites, there are other blacks from Africa countries one can mingle with. At least they won't cry foul of the color of their skin.

It is simply an individual thing as you rightly said. No matter the culture of a place, there must be persons one can make as friends. If people work Monday to Friday, weekend is always a good time to meet and reach out to others. Except those that are doing over time at work.

So no one will give an excuse of not having time to meet others. Weekends are mostly for reaching out and balling in the west.

Any guy feeling lonely abroad is his fault. For ladies, their matter dey their hands. They are still waiting for the Mr right to come approach them instead of reaching out to other Africa guys in their cities.

neurosci:


Man, I'm done with this. Get here, do stuff then message me back. Don't tell me about YouTube.

D vibe u r giving is like guys should avoid white girls entirely which is WRONG or d grass is not greener on d other side which is TRUE.

Chatting up a girl regardless of color is still a game of numbers, lose some, win some. It doesn't matter if u CR7.

N yeah, white girls r more polite but it doesn't mean they r interested in u. In d same vein, approaching a girl lies on d skills of d guy. U can't use ur success or failure as a benchmark. Neither can you even use any of your research findings.

It's just girls. White or black, none is necessarily easy but at least a white one usually doesn't need your money n will still be chatty with u even if she won't talk to u d next day.

But d above paragraph is also bullshit cos there r lots of great black girls too.

Let d guy be if he believes he can get any girl. He probably can

OnlyDeCapPlease:


Nope! No gym, church gatherings or library since dec 2020

In UK lockdown means LOCKDOWM

Yinmu!!!

In abroad everyone lock himself up,U can randomly visit person except on invitation,in a bus everyone mind his or her biz,start up a conversation no one will engage U,some white dnt even acknowledge greetings,blacks are viewed with suspicion,unless U join a club or U are among your race.couple with covid-19 lockdown people avoid people like virus.

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CamusMidas:

Why not educate him than just calling him a ignorant.

Educate him?
The other people educating him nkor?

Your ignorance reigns supreme

My verdict, those of u complaining about loneliness should come back home, and come receive fake smiles in abundance, u never appreciate what u have until u lose it,who told u hatred is not here, even among ur families. White are good people compare to black, black character makes white people hate them, we wicked abeg.

Ayrastarr:



Educate him?
The other people educating him nkor?

Your ignorance reigns supreme

I don't take people who are lonely and depressed serious on serious issue.

Childofthelord:
Honestly, you wouldn't have explained it any better. Been in Vancouver for 3 years now and I could not agree less. I usually engage myself with volunteering, community service, church choir and taking swimming lessons and post my random thoughts on Nairaland. That alleviates the boredom a little, but the loneliness is unmatched. You better learn to enjoy your own company before coming over. Don't overdo things or try to be too friendly, they'll see you as a pest.

Peace

An i'm here praying to go to Canada someday