Mcslize:


Until I get there.

You have no single excuse not to dine with whites. You simply lack games.

Sharpen your sense of humour and social skills and you will find no hindrance relating with white babes that is if you are abroad cuz I know you are still in Nigeria.

Mcslize:


If you read some of the replies, you will see that up to 3 people who still live in that abroad had debunked the stereotype claim of whites always keep to themselves. You can not use that guy scenario to judge the rest.

Mcslize:


Exactly. Here in Nigeria, that notion of only guys should approach ladies had been inbuilt in most ladies. The kind of attention our women get here they don't get that once they get to the west world. Guys hardly approach ladies over there. It is mind your business lifestyle. All their lives, most of our ladies haven't approached a guy. They carry same mindset abroad hoping for men to be rushing them. When that is not forth coming, they go into depression comparing Nigeria to abroad.

Some times I approach ladies just for the fun of it. I don't think there is any lady I can't approach. People are scared of rejection and scared of being turned down when trying to socialise with the opposite sex. Who truly cares if a lady turn me down or not.

I walked up to a lady striked a convo, and requested her number, she simply said she just wanted to be left alone. That she doesn't want any man in her life oh my God just for asking of number. I simply told her ok have a nice day.

If I were some persons, I won't approach ladies again due to that rejection. The next day I saw another lady and I striked a convo as usual and boom she responded well, got her number and walked away.

People should learn how to approach and socialize. If you look deeply, you will discover the issue is not the society but them.

neurosci:

Yeah, I'm not saying it's bad. I don't even visit people anyway, unless they specifically invited me. I'm only trying to show the differences in both places in regards to how these friendship thing works.

neurosci:


Isn't it your inferiority complex in the first place that is making you want to make friends with white folks? Have you seen white folks thinking about how to make friends with black folks?

Ayrastarr:


You new here?
Or you just created this to serve a purpose?


Besides, I'm money depressed Lol!

Solatium:





How sure are you that those guy's live abroad?
An average White youth have more problem than you here, he's thinking about how he/she will pay back the educational loan,how to raise a deposit for their mortgage,pay car hire purchase and insurance,pick bills and save for a decent holiday,na your friendship dem go come dey worry about?
Mtcheew

Solatium:






So you can not speak authoritatively until you have experienced it.
i have experienced it,i have a handful of friends who are on it.
wait till your time,as far as I am concerned you are not even qualify to speak about this topic.
Good day

ThierryJay:


You are talking like a greenhorn. E.g at the emboldened, that's not the racism blacks are complaining about over there. Racism is you sitting down in a bus seat and the white person sitting near you standing up to go to another section of the bus no matter how uncomfortable. Racism is when you are the last person to be served in a restaurant simply because you are black. Racism is when fans throw bananas at black players on the football field implying they are monkeys. These are not cultural shocks as they are outright rude actions anywhere on earth. Please stop mixing issues up and argue reasonably.

There's a difference between what is ideal and the reality on ground. Of course you can choose to ignore or not give a f *ck about racism like you have stated, but this does not mean racism is not rampant. Sadly, that's the reality on ground and it is one you'd have to contend with if you are a black person living abroad, regardless of your confidence level.

DrAkpa:



[b] I don't normally respond to watery posts like this, but your desperation to continue to pass a point even when It is not what generally obtains abroad is appalling. You hide on top of your bed in one dingy neighbourhood in Nigeria with a tekno phone and begin to make statements that alludes to the fact that you think Hollywood is the same thing as what obtains abroad in reality.

You have never left Nigeria in your life, and you believe you can tell people who live there how white women perceive black men or interracial relationships. Are you normal?

Guy, you need to bind your fingers somewhere, because you have absolutely no idea of what you are writing. You just depict the average Nigerian who believes he has the ability to turn water into wine, but when given the opportunity eg. Buhari, they fumble big time.
Now let me pass this as a final rejoinders to your half baked unresearched fallacies... White women, especially the high achievers and very beautiful looking ones hardly date a black man, except for flings or sex which is very rare. Most black men you see who date white women, date the rejected and shapeless ones.

Except you are a black superstar or world renowned black man, no white woman on that high class level will agree to date you. Even our black men who manage to marry the available white ones, are able to achieve that, because most times, the lady is going into menopause and needs to have a child asap. I challenge you to send me details of hot white girls of 26years and below who date African immigrants who migrate in their late 20s.... Of course I know you will fumble.

Guy, once you migrate to the west at an advanced age as an African man, no be everything your eye see, you go fit get. Argue with me at your own peril. [/b]

Childofthelord:
This has nothing to do with self-esteem. Approaching people is not even the problem and striking up a conversation is not as difficult.
The issues are:
Are they interested in having a conversation with you? Do they like you enough? Would they foster a friendship from that short convo?
NO matter how you want to socialize it never works out well if its one-sided. When all the energy is coming from your end alone. When they make you feel like you are pestering, all in a bid to socialize.
Applying for a Job is different, there is a need and a want from both parties.
Its not about just reaching out to people, do they want to be reached out to?

You honestly have a lot to learn. Be open minded and you will understand things a lot more.

In Peace, I come!

MantisShrimp:


This guy is in the Caribbeans. Where in the Caribbeans we do not know. Most of the Caribbeans are black. And even more have a strong history with black people so you cannot use your experience in the Caribbeans to compare Europe or America. Most of those countries are poorer than Nigeria too. Leave that place first and then start boasting about your skills like you have been doing since the beginning of this thread.

Mcslize:


But you believed the guy complaining of not being able to approach whites lives abroad but those that debunked his claim don't right?

The average Nigerian has more problems than the average white.

Do you know in some western countries, the government pay those that are jobless? Do they complain of the usual basic amenities our government can't provide us here? The many issues we face here in Nigeria, do they face them over there?

Do you know the average Nigerian live below a dollar per day? Be real with yourself. So what problems are they facing there that make people never to make friends? The average white live the life of politician. Everyone can afford and live comfortably well.

In essence, you meant those abroad live like animals isn't it?

You are merely just being hypocritical.

neurosci:


What exactly makes all of you guys not in the states or canada think this entire conversation is about dating? We're talking about loneliness due to a lack of friendships like in Nigeria, and all you guys can think about is dating. Is this topic too difficult for you guys to comprehend or what? Did she tell you she's looking for a boyfriend? Does having a boyfriend or girlfriend solve the problem we're talking about? Damn, you guys ehn

Mcslize:


Up your communication skills and you will have no problem interacting with people of all sorts. And that inferiority feeling most of you have before the whites due to your skin is a mere delusion. You just need to overcome it.

Walk like a king. And be proud of your skin. Telling me your skin colour is preventing you from making friends with whites due to how they view you is a mere delusion of the mind.

Work on that and you will find no hinderance talking to whites. It must not end in friendship. Just talk to someone. There are people I talk to, laugh with but it all end there. No exchange of contacts.

Talking and communicating with people doesn't always mean it must end in serious friendship.

First learn how to communicate with people . When you master that, you proceed to the next.

I don't keep too many friends. There are people that know me. I can't remember how many times people holla at me when on the road. These are people that I laugh with or gist with when we see but I don't have their contacts.

Laughing with someone doesn't mean it must end in serious friendship. When you know that, you won't have issue talking to people whether you know them or not.

Solatium:






Western Countries citizens aren't like African's,they mind their business,they are use to not making friends with people,they don't care who you are, people who do not bother to call their families will be glued to you?


From which planet did you descend from?
I have friends who had been nin Europe and America since 1994,i mean guy's who went to college's and university there,they have lived greater part of their age there,yet they can't change it,but learn how to live with that situation.
You wet you dey Okokomaiko dey wait the day wet you go cut wan teach them.
Sorry to burst your bubble this ain't hollywood romance/comedy movie

Solatium:



Which communication skills, òyìnbó careless about how good your spoken English is,even when your words are as poor as that of jennifer they will still be patience with you to understand you.


English or whatever language they speak there is nothing other than language,they don't see how verse you are in it as anything.
No take that one fool yahself, eastern european,chinese,Somali and Afghan people full for london,dem no even understand much of english.



just go sit down
No think say you be one Superstar.

lefulefu:
IF u lonely out there what stops u connecting back with other nigerians or africans also hustling there with u
Will you die if you dont make friends with caucasians?
yet you get angry why some black americans tend to tag some of us africans as asslickers
it is some of this desperate form of acceptance that they see in u that make them look down on u
whereever u are if the locals there dont want to get on with you then stick to ur fellow group
the chinese they do it
the indians also do it
the arabs too they do it
so why cant some of u do it? I have never seen a chinese or indian guy crying on social media cos a white girl didnt give him the time of day or getting depressed because a white guy is not that interested into being his friend
so why the depression?
what is so special in having a caucasian friend that will be making u so depressed that u cant have one?
abeg stop this mumu desperate form of acceptance biko
u can make friends with the nigerians living where u hustling
It must be a white person

Mcslize:


Up your communication skills and you will have no problem interacting with people of all sorts. And that inferiority feeling most of you have before the whites due to your skin is a mere delusion. You just need to overcome it.

Walk like a king. And be proud of your skin. Telling me your skin colour is preventing you from making friends with whites due to how they view you is a mere delusion of the mind.

Work on that and you will find no hinderance talking to whites. It must not end in friendship. Just talk to someone. There are people I talk to, laugh with but it all end there. No exchange of contacts.

Talking and communicating with people doesn't always mean it must end in serious friendship.

First learn how to communicate with people . When you master that, you proceed to the next.

I don't keep too many friends. There are people that know me. I can't remember how many times people holla at me when on the road. These are people that I laugh with or gist with when we see but I don't have their contacts.

Laughing with someone doesn't mean it must end in serious friendship. When you know that, you won't have issue talking to people whether you know them or not.

neurosci:


What exactly makes all of you guys not in the states or canada think this entire conversation is about dating?

Solatium:






Why don't you be quiet for once and learn.
What you have in this part of the world is Dearth of Social Amenities, Yes they have it in abundance and it has been paid for by some people before you and some are paying for it and future generations will still pay.

Do you know that for you to be educated to the level of First degree you will be in debt of nothing less than £15k or DOLLARS? if you are unlucky and careless you will rack up around £20k.
When do you think such a person is gonna finish up paying?

Do you know they pay as high as 25% of their income monthly? You can't dodge it, it's taken directly from the source.

Do you know that that unemployment benefits that they are being given Comes from the sweat of some certain people? and it is not one fantastic money i think is about £35 a week or so in UK and you are not entitle to any unemployment benefits in the US if you haven't contributed anything? that is you must have paid income taxes at some point before you became jobless,that money is just to augment your savings before getting another job.


Before you show the indices of living in Nigeria and elsewhere.
How much are you owing your bank here as Mortgage repayment? how much are you paying back to the government on student loan? How much are you paying back on your car loan? Do you pay car or home insurance? How much do you pay as PAYE or business tax here in Nigeria?


I Don talk am severally na people wet never go Togo before dey always know how things work out in Western countries,they know more than those migrants who had been on the struggle for decades and yet to quit.

Una matter be like thief wet dem never catch,him go dey think say him wise pass those wey dem don catch,na when them come catch he go come know say na him mumu pass.

Carry your passport go Eleke crescent make dem stick Visa for you,enter Road come go perform all those magic wet you don rehearse for here.

Yèyé dey baff you

MantisShrimp:


It is very obvious you didnt understand the discussion going on in this thread or you are just deliberately confusing things. Your lying partner has gone to hiding after his lie was discovered. If they research you well and look beyond this your talk they will discover you are also lying and claiming what isnt. Bye.

MantisShrimp:
The Randy91 guy has deleted his account

People will just come online and be boasting and lying for no reason not knowing that this is a very small world and some ignorant people will believe them and be using that as an example. McSlize your role model has run away. Who will you look up to now?

Mcslize:


First of all, are you in abroad or you simply just being unreasonable with your assumptions?

If you are, what's still holding you back from coming back to Nigeria?

Be sincere with yourself.

Mcslize:


How hard is it for you to understand that's their way of life and culture?

Having friends doesn't mean speaking with them all the time. There are someone of my friends I have not spoken with for a year now. But I have their contacts. I am not white. There are people like that.

Even my own people complain I don't call them. But that's just me. I simply apologize and promise to make it up to them.

I can stay in the same compound with you, you won't even know I am around. You don't expect people to always bug you simply because they are your friends. If we speak once every six months that's enough for me.

Most people expect too much from friendship. Too much expectation. That complicates friendship, that's why they are feel like the person is not giving them the attention they want.

Keep it simple and you will enjoy any friendship you have with people.

Solatium:



You are jolted that i know all these?
Hahahahahah.
when I been telling you say you be learner wey no gree learn,you still dey tell me say na assumption,
Those things i wrote an in public sphere,let anyone challenge me if na lie I dey talk


Nairaland na one big classroom, don't argue about what you don't know or what you don't have full knowledge of.
You can learn so much more by keeping quiet.

DrAkpa:


Keep quiet

TheGift:
Have you been there to show your social skills ? It's beyond their social skills. Let's start with the fact that they have relocated from a highly communal society to a highly individualistic one.