Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders. Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.
I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills). Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back. Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.
Thanks.

Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders. Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.
I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills). Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back. Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.
Thanks.

Omihanifa:
How did she arrive at that point that your mother is fetish?

Do you guys always notice any strange occurrence after giving your mother money ?

If your answer to the second question is YES, I will advice you to experiment with what she said. Give her the money and let her send it to her by herself.

Don't just discard her observations yet until you have a strong evidence that she's wrong.

That's my own opinion tho

MejiLoyon:

I want to address the fetish level

Hold one hand over your head, raise the other hand up, raise one leg and start hopping on your other leg. Now say after me, oh lord, allow me to have sense. Deliver me from the spirit of mumuism.

Your mother CAN NEVER be the cause of your misfortune. Else she would have flushed you from day one. Having taken care of you,through shit and piss. Sickness,school,food everything one woman go come say she dey fetish. If she is let her be fetish. If that fetish level no kill me and I still dey okay,dear mother dey do am dey go. I don't like divorce but as for your wife,it's left to you

2015 felele in Ibadan I was attending one cele church. I was born a celestian so make una no talk say I go find jazz. In any case one wooli do sharamantakaya come my side say spirit dey run am. I just dey look. Mid prophesy na him he mention say na my mama dey do me. Na that time I believe say spirit dey him body true true because the way I looked at him he stopped prophesying. I calmly walked to the Shephard and told him to warn that prophet. If he try am again he go collect. Apology accepted I left and never returned. If my mama dey do me and I dey this okay,please mommy, continue to be doing me.

nonen:


Holding to her opinion is already pitching him against his mum. Some women are bad, but not for a total stranger(your wife) who barely knew her for a few years to come and convince me that a woman whom I’ve known and supported me for decades is suddenly fetish in a few years.

BigDick70inch:


Just imagine!!!

What useless advice r u seeking??
Yo mum was not fetish............while spending her hard earned money on u...........to see u prosper..........but now dat u lil bit okay now..........

One daughter of jazabel,daughter of a thousand dad............is somewhere trying to pit u against her abi??I hate dull brain!!!!

Think dummy!.....

Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders. Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.
I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills). Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back. Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.
Thanks.

Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders. Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.
I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills). Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back. Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.
Thanks.

Omihanifa:


I agree with you, but don't also forget that this is Africa and the fact that somebody is your mother doesn't mean she can't harm you. There are so many cases of mothers being behind their children's problem. Either as a result of disagrement over choice of wife or husband or even money or property

That's why am saying he shouldn't just discard what the lady is saying. He should take his time to observe first before arriving at a conclusion.

It's possible that maybe she's been observing a particular trend whenever the man gives his mother money.

Chuxx84:

I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back. Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? .

Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders. Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.
I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills). Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back. Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.
Thanks.

pocohantas:


Your mum is fetish and she is not scared for her own life? Na im your mama never tie her womb throw inside fast flowing river?

Your wife is the fetish one. Fear those ladies that jump about from one prophet to the other, because I am sure that is where she got this nonsense from and more would come.

Anyway, na as goat take stand for market them dey price am. Na you give her effrontery to say such. Toor!

Richy4:
I'm just imagining how a wife will stand before me and proclaim my mother fetish... It's also amusing that you were asking us if your mother was fetish ... we will have to google that for u.....

OP, I'm Just curious..... So if the money passed through her to your mother, the charm holding you people's progress will not work on you anymore or what?

Was there incantations or prayers said before handing the money to your mum?... Is she a prophetess, "dibia-ress or Babaaláwo-ress"
It's just amazing the bitter pill some people swallow just for peace to reign in the name of marriage