kingasap:
I'm a man in my early twenties. I think it's only natural to want to date. The thing is I am attracted to women that know how to hold a proper conversation on various topics. Alas such women seem extinct. I would like to know where I can meet such women.

StacyO:
Same people that can't hold a simple conversation are the ones complaining.

kingasap:
I'm a man in my early twenties. I think it's only natural to want to date. The thing is I am attracted to women that know how to hold a proper conversation on various topics. Alas such women seem extinct. I would like to know where I can meet such women.

peacesampson:
maybe I will start by asking what discussion interests u?

Truvel:
U Don Settle Ur Matter With Dat Guy? I Won Come Chop Rice O.

pansophist:


Girls your age are at the peak of their smv, and the cost of dating most will be so high for you to afford (unless your papa sef get money). If you have a sister or any young girl as a friend, let her show you her social media inbox, so you can have an idea of the multitudes and calibre of guys you're competing with when you talk to the average girl. All you know is the channel between you and her, but to her, she is comparing you with hundreds of other guys and at your age, you're most likely to rank low. The fact that you haven't a girl and asking on NL is a proof to this fact.

So yes you may want to date, but the odds are stacked against you, it just the way it is for young boys. Though, it gets better as you get older. My younger cousin of 21 doesn't even check her fb inbox anymore, she showed me what boys, including married men are doing there in their hundreds, and I weep. Funny enough, she is interested in fine boys kind, think of Justin Bieber and C Ronaldo. The girls you're interested in will probably be like that. So if you're not fine, start looking fine. The key is not to chase, but be the kind they will chase. If you're tall, slim, can speak clean English, dress well and act confident with no simp qualities, your chances increases.

Also, your eye should not be on the super hot kind, you'll get them later as you grow older and have more status, and they grow older and desperate to settle down, just calm down , and at that age, you'll have the status to cast your net on younger ones, time is your best friend. Now it their time, later it would be yours. Just don't have pot belly, no matter what. Those women that seems unattainable now, you'll run from them when you have a lot of things going on for you. So leave women and make yourself desirable first.

Sixfeetbelle:


Exactly my point.

85% of Nigerians can't hold proper conversations to save their life, so I always wonder when people come online to complain about this issue.


As a typical Nigerian, your education is below par when compared with the World's standards for 'intellectually gifted persons'. If you're attentive, you'd discover that the actual gifted Nigerians we read about on a daily mostly had their education elsewhere. Only very select few spent their entire lives continuously in this country. It's like a 1% thingy.

Hence, in a nutshell, only few persons can actually have and coordinate proper conversations in its entirety.

StacyO:


Yeah.

I terminated the whole thing.

StacyO:



True.


I believe majority of Nigerians contribute to discussions with the application of Emotions(EQ) instead of intelligence(IQ). Though "research" has it that it's a gender thing.

I can't really confirm the authencity of that cause 75% of males I've come across judging from the non physically aspect had nothing intellectual to offer me.
While offline,It appeared slightly above average.

Females on the other part aren't left out cause,I've held conversations with just few and I noticed how interesting the conversations got.


In a nutshell, I can seal up this hypothesis by stating that people can only engage so much a sail through discussion with you if only they find you worthy enough,familiar or have interest to bring such a chat into light.



**Here on nairaland,it's all about EQ**





An average Nigerian depends on what he hears and what he is made to believe.


Why the urge to research and argue intellectually without involving emotions is going into extinction.

pansophist:
Girls your age are at the peak of their smv, and the cost of dating most will be so high for you to afford (unless your papa sef get money). If you have a sister or any young girl as a friend, let her show you her social media inbox, so you can have an idea of the multitudes and calibre of guys you're competing with when you talk to the average girl. All you know is the channel between you and her, but to her, she is comparing you with hundreds of other guys and at your age, you're most likely to rank low. The fact that you haven't a girl and asking on NL is a proof to this fact.

So yes you may want to date, but the odds are stacked against you, it just the way it is for young boys. Though, it gets better as you get older. My younger cousin of 21 doesn't even check her fb inbox anymore, she showed me what boys, including married men are doing there in their hundreds, and I weep. Funny enough, she is interested in fine boys kind, think of Justin Bieber and C Ronaldo. The girls you're interested in will probably be like that. So if you're not fine, start looking fine. The key is not to chase, but be the kind they will chase. If you're tall, slim, can speak clean English, dress well and act confident with no simp qualities, your chances increases.

Also, your eye should not be on the super hot kind, you'll get them later as you grow older and have more status, and they grow older and desperate to settle down, just calm down , and at that age, you'll have the status to cast your net on younger ones, time is your best friend. Now it their time, later it would be yours. Just don't have pot belly, no matter what. Those women that seems unattainable now, you'll run from them when you have a lot of things going on for you. So leave women and make yourself desirable first.

StacyO:
Same people that can't hold a simple conversation are the ones complaining.

Sixfeetbelle:


Exactly my point.

85% of Nigerians can't hold proper conversations to save their life, so I always wonder when people come online to complain about this issue.


As a typical Nigerian, your education is below par when compared with the World's standards for 'intellectually gifted persons'. If you're attentive, you'd discover that the actual gifted Nigerians we read about on a daily mostly had their education elsewhere. Only very select few spent their entire lives continuously in this country. It's like a 1% thingy.

Hence, in a nutshell, only few persons can actually have and coordinate proper conversations in its entirety.

seguno2:


Excellent post on relationships as usual.
Do you think that the type of girl who is versatile on different topics, and is likely to be a bookworm can still be interested in him now, rather than later

Sixfeetbelle:


Exactly my point.

85% of Nigerians can't hold proper conversations to save their life, so I always wonder when people come online to complain about this issue.


As a typical Nigerian, your education is below par when compared with the World's standards for 'intellectually gifted persons'. If you're attentive, you'd discover that the actual gifted Nigerians we read about on a daily mostly had their education elsewhere. Only very select few spent their entire lives continuously in this country. It's like a 1% thingy.

Hence, in a nutshell, only few persons can actually have and coordinate proper conversations in its entirety.

GeneralPula:


Kindly define this.. ?

DkJay:


Hey, let's hook up. I'm a damn good conversationalist and I love your vibes.

GeneralPula:


Kindly define this.. ?

StacyO:



Flattered




Thanks a lot.

kingasap:


Social commentary. Psychology, Finance, Tech. I enjoy a good mental sparring session. Challenge my ideas, intellectual back and forth. That sort of thing.