Goodlyhrt:
You become weird, you can't even figure your self out talk less of other people.

You lack social skills.. And people thought this is cool... Menh! Things could escalate quickly because you are keeping bootled emotions which is rather detrimental towords your relationship with other people.

This is just me and I hate this feeling. I could get so angry but you wouldn't know because I can't voice it out. I could kill!!


Somebody save me!

You're not alone brother.. But if you have a sense of purpose about your life. Your introvert nature will be an advantage over others.. Spiritually, emotionally and otherwise

jelel6:


Mhen, are you really sure you know what you're talking about? Introverts don't lack social skills. There's a BIG difference between can't do and won't do. The former is about Ability while the latter Preference. Introverts just prefer to do things in small groups or have few friends. It doesn't mean they'll die around thousands of people or aren't able to lead, or be funny.

You seem to confuse introversion with shyness. The two are not the same and aren't linked.


But give introverts a break if they prefer not to engage in small talks. Some of us just arent cut out to analyse what Davido and Chioma did in WizKid's birthday bash or What Tonto Dike wore to a Nightclub. Those are all small talks and their likes constitute 90% of what people usually discuss in those 'social gatherings'.



You're sure just doing all you can to appear pitiable. And that's shameful

One time, I was in a gathering with a fellow cousin and she asked to use my phone to take pictures since it's clearer than her's. Unfortunately, when she returned the phone back to me the screen was terribly cracked. Apparently, as they were dancing somebody struck her hand and the device fell on the hard floor.

I was like, 'shiit, shiit, shiit. Damn it' I collected the phone and told her it's okay. I could see she was sorry and disappointed. So I encourage her to forget about it. Shit happens.

She actually told me a few weeks later she had expected me to be very angry and shout at her. That she kinda feel I was not being honest by telling her it was okay. I'm sure you'll say I bottled my anger and died in silence.

Of course, I was naturally not happy about my phone. But I rationalised that she didn't mean to damage my stuff. A mistake that could have happened even if the phone was in my hands.

So, do I have to call her careless, or stupid, or be emotional to show that I was not happy about my phone or not bottling anything up?

(1)
Proverbs 19:11
The insight of a man certainly slows down his anger, And it is beauty on his part to overlook an offense.
Proverb 14:17
A quick-tempered man acts foolishly and without self-control, And a man of wicked schemes is hated.
(2)
"Don't bottle your anger"
"Me i no dey hide my feelings or anger oo"

Highly respected international diplomats confirm the wisdom of number 1

Number 2 has lead to unending individual and international setbacks, mostly to the detriment of the adherent.

Be angry
Be Wise

[quote author=Goodlyhrt post=99838243]You become weird, you can't even figure your self out talk less of other people.

You lack social skills.. And people thought this is cool... Menh! Things could escalate quickly because you are keeping bootled emotions which is rather detrimental towords your relationship with other people.

This is just me and I hate this feeling. I could get so angry but you wouldn't know because I can't voice it out. I could kill!!


Who I overcame mine is simple, I gave my life to Christ and started reading my Bible and books, both spiritual and motivational books. And started talking to my friends about Jesus. If you see me no you will think am extroverted cos am now loud.

I'm an introvert too, my only limitation is socialising , I like to be alone to myself, don't make friends but I'm in good relationship with everyone I know unless those that decided to make themselves my enemy. I don't nurture anger within me I allow it to burst immediately and that's it, I won't remember it anymore.
People use to see me as being weak but I know I'm not.

IDIGANLEBEH:
dude you need to fuck_!

A lot!

debaj10:
most billionaires today were introverts, growing up.
most geniuses are introverts.
most novelists, same.
ur problem isn't being an introvert; it's lacking purpose.
find it and u will h8 disturbance!
also, stop being a narcissist-
laugh at urself and make others laugh.
(starting with ur family and ur only friend, lol).
cos whatever ur traits, only u can make u happy.

what a reasonable reply

Above every other thing anyone will tell you.....


STOP PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!!!!

If you can do that, I promise you that 85% of your issues have been solved.

And if you haven't started yet... Pls in the name of God, dont start!!

From the look of things you're suffering from social anxiety and you lack healthy self esteem.

Most introverts with a healthy self esteem, can speak from their minds regardless of who is listening.

Don't follow the ideas of people saying you need to bleeb, because that doesn't solve the main problem.

I advice you to visit QOURA.COM
There are endless answers to different questions you're looking for.(because it comes from experiences people have had in the past).

Darkseid:
When people lack social skills, and suffer from social anxiety coupled with shyness, they'll come online to claim introverts. You're not an introvert, you just need therapy.

please leave out the sarcasm and take these words seriously it's the plain truth. are you a shy guy? most people have develop social anxieties due to shyness you have to work on your self.

Ginaz:
I'm an introvert and I love it. The inner peace ,I won't trade for anything. The o.p sucks but won't fix himself so he got to blame it on being an introvert.

To all introverts in the world, love and light to y'all.

you don't look like an introvert to me

Real talk, but sometimes being an introvert is also cool too

Erojepromise:

true that l am an introvert but l do well socially....op should seek psychological help and evaluate his emotions, know what's wrong with him

even you

Don't mistake anxiety and depression for introversion.

debaj10:
most billionaires today were introverts, growing up.
most geniuses are introverts.
most novelists, same.
ur problem isn't being an introvert; it's lacking purpose.
find it and u will h8 disturbance!
also, stop being a narcissist-
laugh at urself and make others laugh.
(starting with ur family and ur only friend, lol).
cos whatever ur traits, only u can make u happy.

I agree...

SegFault:
There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, introverts are usually smart because they have the time to think deeply about themselves and usuallu live their lives free of collectivism, so enjoy your introversion.

That's what they use to deceive themselves. Being an intorvet is the same as being dumb shy and it's a very bad attitude.

blazepascal:
issorite. if you are an introvert pls work more on your self ambivert is even better or omniverted

I remembered when I was an introvert the worst part was that I was also shy I could not express my feelings with my speech I was always silent even when I was being cheated I still remained silent when girls came around I would look like a dumb person I could not utter any thing I was scared, shy ,always silent. even if I see my friends from a far distance I will take another route so we won't meet our selves


well it was when I left home for university that was when my live changed luckily for me i was surrounded with the bad guys asin the confident guys the alpha males I hanged out with them and I was getting my confidence back they would tell me to approach any girl and woo her although I was scared but I wanted to prove to them it was a minor thing I faked my confidence most time

then ..I hated eye contact if you were having a conversation with me I would look away my guys would always insult me how can I be talking with a lady and be looking else where.. I later realize making eye contact while talking was important ..so I practice faking eye contact. I faked everything.. now Im used to it haha no more shyness no more introversion.

Lucky you.

OneKinGuy:
Lucky you.

I swear

Na P Buhari regime lead to the high rise of introverts in Nigeria.

Problems shared are oftentimes complicated by family and friends.
I love my space without intruders.
Some people always sing discordant tunes and call it advice that cannot hold waters.
My wall of defence and my buffer segregate and are ever sure to put busybodies at bay .

I'll choose introversion any day, any time over any other personalities.
Read the post below.

I'm an introvert.

I compose my own music.
I play the violin.
I play the piano.
I teach Maths, Physics, Furthermaths, Chemistry, Biology.
I've written lots of poems.
I speak flawlessly most of the time.

I smile a lot. I love being alone.

I'm presently trying to create my own animations and understand the science of complex human motion.

I just feel like I can go on knowing, knowing and knowing.

try having sex, it will give u some sort of confidence and air beneath ur feet. Thank me later

[ Na wah for you! You want him to kill the girl with all this bottled up anger unleashed on her! You're bad.

uotehor=IDIGANLEBEH post=99838319]

shut up!!!! the solution is go and fuck_ pussy_!!!![/quote]

maximizer61:
exactly, people thinks I'm too serious, so they don't near me

Smiles yes bro we are in this together
Am also facing the same challenges
So am also learning from the comments to find solution to my problem also

better sort yourself out, you not the only introvert. if you are broke go hustle for money, if you get money call a friend & hang out, channel your energy and anger to something that will add value to your life. avoid negative thoughts. & try to have a girlfriend if you don't have any.

How

The op is going through another thing that is different from being an introvert, perhaps he's going through depression, he's shy, or he's suffering from low self-esteem and lacks confidence?
Introvert isn't as bad as some of you are saying. I'm an introvert and I'm a little weak socially but that doesn't mean I don't engage in it, tho not as much as extrovert's. I don't argue or talk unnecessarily, I'm always extra careful when I'm talking because of the quality of my voice, which is dark, deep, and heavy, so it makes public speaking to be a little difficult for me.
People often see me as awkward but they would overall describe me as gentle, accepting and a good man.
Yes, introverts are very knowledgeable, intelligent, peaceful and smart.
But we overthink, hates noise and can be so unpredictable.
Of course, we need all the attention we can get inorder to be creative.

Op, build confidence but not "overconfidence", enough confidence that would get things done for u.

blazepascal:
issorite. if you are an introvert pls work more on your self ambivert is even better or omniverted

I remembered when I was an introvert the worst part was that I was also shy I could not express my feelings with my speech I was always silent even when I was being cheated I still remained silent when girls came around I would look like a dumb person I could not utter any thing I was scared, shy ,always silent. even if I see my friends from a far distance I will take another route so we won't meet our selves


well it was when I left home for university that was when my live changed luckily for me i was surrounded with the bad guys asin the confident guys the alpha males I hanged out with them and I was getting my confidence back they would tell me to approach any girl and woo her although I was scared but I wanted to prove to them it was a minor thing I faked my confidence most time

then ..I hated eye contact if you were having a conversation with me I would look away my guys would always insult me how can I be talking with a lady and be looking else where.. I later realize making eye contact while talking was important ..so I practice faking eye contact. I faked everything.. now Im used to it haha no more shyness no more introversion.

You are a very funny guy

Goodlyhrt:
You become weird, you can't even figure your self out talk less of other people.

You lack social skills.. And people thought this is cool... Menh! Things could escalate quickly because you are keeping bootled emotions which is rather detrimental towords your relationship with other people.

This is just me and I hate this feeling. I could get so angry but you wouldn't know because I can't voice it out. I could kill!!


Somebody save me!

Sounds more like you're either depressed, have a low self esteem or inferiority complex. Introverts are reserved and thoughtful. They don't have murderous thoughts and are quite confident and okay with staying on their own. I think you need some professional help.