Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

1. Her money is her money
2. Your money is her money

Read 1 &2 again and digest it

Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

mumu small na. na your time shabi na you girl friend its nothing na alot of guys was once like you but now they are wise.so na your turn you go soon wise dont worry you are fine.

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She gives you kpekus and you want more. Why are you so greedy. Is she your wife?
Mr Tipper investor, you have not seen anything yet.

You don't sex her?

Have seen enough answer here for you to be wise enough to know the right thing to do but should incase you still don't get it here is my quota...
First you need to start to let her know that you guys are still dating not married so there are some things you need to stop doing for her all in the name of lie lie love.. you can still be giving her tfare at least twice in a week or you stop it patapata
Secondly you said you house your gf. Have you ever reasoned things like "what if" something happen to her badly somewhere else and she comes back to your house and God forbid dies
Since shes your gf and you decide to move her in please do the needful even if it is just knowing some of her people mind you you can't house someone and not responsible for feeding and some other things to make your housing comfortable for both of you
You might love her but not leaving the necessary things behind and start indulging in things that are not necessary! You need money You spending on her while she's keeping hers Brother use your head to think and love with your mind not your brain

I'm so shocked that of all the comments, no one has told this young man that living with a woman who isn't his wife is abominable. You are living with a woman you aren't married to and you are seeking advice so that you will sin very well. And no one could tell him anything. This is the level of moral decadence in our society now. Evil has become a norm and is accepted as normal.
Brother, you are committing fornication and its a sin that can and will destroy you if you don't change. God frowns at it and if you don't change that, you are dammed already. But that shouldn't be so. Jesus died for you so that you can live a better life. Ask him into your life now, ask him to forgive you your sins and to help you live a life of obedience to his Word and commands and to also use your to manifest his glory to this dying world. And you'll see that there's a better life waiting for you. Don't let immorality ruin your life and destiny and inevitably send you to hell. Let Jesus in and I can tell you sir, you will never regret it. Same to every other person who is seeing this.

God bless you all.

Fornication that won't allow your brain work well, so you can have ample time to plan well for your future home. With a regular sex from a live-in-lover which is rarely not the case, you are bound to focus more on the non-essentials. Reasons some people court for donkey years, engagement in mind blowing sexcapse, but immediately after consumation of the unholy matrimony; the devil they groom over time suddenly goes wild. When God warns against premarital sex, unholy relationship and fornication among young people, he sure knows what he's saying, for its all for our good both here and in eternity.

1 Corinthians 1:25
Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men.

Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

Take it gradually...........
There's nothing to discuss with her over the table

For a start.....
Don't give her Tfare for the coming weeks till month end and observe her reaction and probably her responses to you......

If it gets to the point of she insulting you whatsoever.......do not respond back at her. Just be cautious of yourself and smile.

One step at a time. One day at a time.

See you by months end.

Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

Come Out Plain. Do U Wanted A Share 4rm Her Salary? By D Way, If U Don't Want Dis Expenses U Made, Why Did U Even Allow Her To Live With U In Dsame House?

Don't be confused and angry. Keep satisfying her financial needs and demands. That's your responsibility. That's the burden you drew to yourself as helper. After all, you guys are living like husband and wife doing what they do on the bed, in the kitchen, etc.

I hope Elon Musk install a sense autonomous chip inside your brain and let it run on autopilot.

My fellow men will never sieze to amaze ne,simps everywhere all because of pussy...
A lady you are not married to and you are footing her bills hoping for what in return..
When will this foolishness stop?

mosdii:

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

This niggarr is back.

I could secretly kiss you for this. What a brilliant response. A firm, decisive and useful advice coming from a healthy brain.

doggedfighter:
So you are now a married man?

The kind of advice you people seek on a daily

basis here makes wonder what is happening to our boys. Is the condition of the country affecting the common sense of our boys?

You saw a girl helped her and that's not enough , you carried her wholesale and started shouldering her responsibilities

And I know you must be telling your folks at home that you are broke.

That was how the one of yesterday wrote that his wife said his OWN mother is fetish and he rushed here for advice


Now we are to advice you on the sharing formula of her salary or help you ask her why she didn't tell you.

For a guy that's having financial difficulties who should focus on himself but chose not to do so.
YOU'RE A BIG SHAME.

Oh mother nature , never give me these as sons !

doggedfighter:
So you are now a married man?

The kind of advice you people seek on a daily

basis here makes wonder what is happening to our boys. Is the condition of the country affecting the common sense of our boys?

You saw a girl helped her and that's not enough , you carried her wholesale and started shouldering her responsibilities

And I know you must be telling your folks at home that you are broke.

That was how the one of yesterday wrote that his wife said his OWN mother is fetish and he rushed here for advice


Now we are to advice you on the sharing formula of her salary or help you ask her why she didn't tell you.

For a guy that's having financial difficulties who should focus on himself but chose not to do so.
YOU'RE A BIG SHAME.

Oh mother nature , never give me these as sons !

Abeg use style ask am for em address...then sent d address to me pls..d guy need 6konk n 4 kickslap..

RisenPhoenix1:


Her finances are none of your business just as your finances are none of hers. This status persists even after marriage. After marriage, beyond home expenses which you are fully responsible for, none of you should have any say over the other's income or expenses provided that they do not infringe on your marital rights. Separate finances make for a much happier home, believe me.

You have no right to be either confused or angry. You kept her posted and spent on her of your own free will. You cannot force her to reciprocate because that is not of her own free will. Be a man, leave her money alone.

Chief, that's not a better way to advise him. One thing I can see here is that her met her (lover) and decided to assist her. But mind you life isn't that too balance because when your brought her from the street she was a nobody but planning herself towards achieving a certain goal if she secures a job opportunity.

One of the mistake about the person in question is that he should not be angry with her either way. You have asked her what you want to hear and the answers are right at your doorstep.

Since she is collecting her hard earned salary, then you too come up with a plan of you trying/wanting to invest into something else with your money which will not enable your to render the assist you have always been from inception. Then this will make your see her countenance towards you whether she loves you or not.

From a said cleared advise here, a lady is to assist/help you save/ plan the way you spend your money, and if she isn't that type that will do this then brotherly just be yourself. Instead of wasting that on her, I guess your mum is the best woman to spend that for which will come with abundant blessings when she lashes prayers on you.

You met and think you are nurturing a lady but mind you she has her game plan before you met which o feel is what she is pursuing.

Wise up and learn how to differentiate between love and lust.

If you can provide the food for the home then it's okay but as for the upkeep and tfare, mbanu!!

Cheers

Why should she tell you? Did she ever ask you for financial help? Don't ask don't tell. What did she ask for? Free the babes before you commit murder or suffer heart attack .... simple matter you can't manage.

Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

Double her tfare and add launch money (everything na double-double ooo).

doggedfighter:
So you are now a married man?

The kind of advice you people seek on a daily

basis here makes wonder what is happening to our boys. Is the condition of the country affecting the common sense of our boys?

You saw a girl helped her and that's not enough , you carried her wholesale and started shouldering her responsibilities

And I know you must be telling your folks at home that you are broke.

That was how the one of yesterday wrote that his wife said his OWN mother is fetish and he rushed here for advice


Now we are to advice you on the sharing formula of her salary or help you ask her why she didn't tell you.

For a guy that's having financial difficulties who should focus on himself but chose not to do so.
YOU'RE A BIG SHAME.

Oh mother nature , never give me these as sons !

What's wrong in seeking advice when one is not certain about the next step to take. We should be careful of what we type here. With this your insensitive comment, some would have difficulties posting their challenges here. Pls be guided

Lmao. I love the question.

Only God can understand what is going on with these boys.

doggedfighter:
So you are now a married man?

The kind of advice you people seek on a daily

basis here makes wonder what is happening to our boys. Is the condition of the country affecting the common sense of our boys?

You saw a girl helped her and that's not enough , you carried her wholesale and started shouldering her responsibilities

And I know you must be telling your folks at home that you are broke.

That was how the one of yesterday wrote that his wife said his OWN mother is fetish and he rushed here for advice


Now we are to advice you on the sharing formula of her salary or help you ask her why she didn't tell you.

For a guy that's having financial difficulties who should focus on himself but chose not to do so.
YOU'RE A BIG SHAME.

Oh mother nature , never give me these as sons !

Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

The truth is, the girl doesn't give a flying fvck about you. She is just with you because of the benefits she is getting from you and she believes you are getting your own benefit from her from having sex with her and therefore she feels she doesn't owe you any other thing aside the free sex she gives you.


What to do

Let this be a lesson for you in life; don't spend your savings or income on a woman you are not married to, it's a waste. Yes you might feel if you don't spend on her she would leave, let her leave so you can focus on your life and spend your money on yourself to develop yourself to become a desirable quality man and watch great ladies who would even spend on you willingly come around naturally without much stress from you.


The thing is, many black ladies are selfish, only few are exception and very good, and those few good ones preserve themselves waiting for quality man to love and shower with care. So work towards becoming that quality man good ladies are searching for, don't squander your little income impressing ingrates who feel sex is all they should offer to any man they are dating, they are disaster to any man they are dating or married to, flee from them.


I am advising you as a married man and a one time playboy who rocked ladies of all kinds while single.


Quality ladies keep themselves for quality men. What makes a man a quality man you may ask Unfortunately your financial status and carriage as a man makes you a quality man in the eyes of ladies.


Didn't you read how ladies were lending Ubi Franklin millions as mere girlfriends and FWBs, they did same for JIM Iyke, and most other buoyant men but when they meet struggling guys, they lock their purse and form broke and dying just to finish the poor guy.


I have a financially buoyant friend who is still single, you need to see how ladies pay for his flight ticket, buy him gifts. Some even lend him millions he pumps into his business even though he has more than enough but the same ladies will meet a struggling guy and will never buy him ordinary coca cola drink.


You really need to understand how black women reason to survive with them.


Spending on black women doesn't make them loyal, you can only spend to get them and cut.off the spending after you have gotten them and set the rules. That's how big guys do. They use their financial status and influence to attract the quality ladies and thereafter they cut off the spending and watch the ladies do the spending and caring. If you continue to spend your meager income on ladies, they will continue to take you for granted so spend it on yourself to become a better man great ladies would rush after.


Please cut that lady off. She is minus

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr

Isoright.....bros op don't know what he has put his hand into
Na now bros op dey know say our girls nor dey want disclose about their money......but they get excited to spend guys own

Even my baby sisters at home derive pleasure in spending my money.....
They will keep thiers for those their unreasonable things like plaiting different hair styles like chuku , Ghana weaving, dreadlocks, Bob Marley, twisting, kinky ball, fixing eye lash , wearing waist beads, piercing their nose or vaginal and fixing nails ( especially that glow in the dark)...mixing expensive creams
Funny enough.....money dey come into their account as if say them dey work for cbn.....if you doubt then synchronize the email link to their bank account to your device....you will be shocked to see 3k , 2k and 5k dey fly into their account non stop...
Then in the night....they will surround you like ogbanje and mami water to switch on your hotspot and deplete your data.....your room will be thier eating and playing ground

Sadly, I can relate.
The data and room part are the most annoying but what can one do. Las Las new wife go reset their brain

I had the same experience recently during endsars riot. Even though no vehiclar movement, some are able to get Okada to their various destinations though very expensive. I met this gorgeous sister trekking, I enquired when she was heading to, she said Iyana ipaja from there to sango where she based, what? From Igando to Iyana ipaja under hot sun, then I look for a bike and paid the Okada guy to take her to Iyana ipaja. She requested for my number which I reluctantly gave her.

A week later she got a job at odo eran closed to igando, she chatted me up that she needd to move to her sister's place at Igando because of her job... She asked for assistance for food and tfair to work. In total, I transfered 20k...10k, 5k, and another 5k... This girl collected salary and she didn't even tell me anything, 2 months later, she called me she need 2k to go to work. I asked if they're oweing her salary, she said no, so what have you done with 70k you were paid, 35k monthly, she said she bought clothes and other things. I just looked at her and shake my head. Courtesy demands you buy me even if it's ordinary malt to appreciate me for helping a total stranger like you without asking for anything in return.

I just tire for naija girls

Basemann:
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Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

This is a very simple issue as you guys are still at a very young stage

First of all, tell her she should be taking care if her transportation to work from next month, meaning she most have collected the second salary, that's means from April 1st no more transport fare

Secoundly, calculate what you think will sustain you guys fro a month and give her half of it, let her support with the rest

Thirdly, give her enough time for you to be sure if she is the type that will be open to tans support you in a family way

Lastly is she is nit responding as expected and you have given her enough time to prove herself worthy, simply tell her that your mum is relocating to your house and she needs to get be at her place through out the period

Relationship is two ways if she doesn't worth it no need keeping her in queue, same is applicable to a man

Kobicove:


Just stop giving her money for transport fare!

Gbam! You nailed it, simple as ABC.

She is very selfish and wicked..send her away from your house asap.

If she can't contribute nothing or support you financially then she is not worthy of the relationship.

I hate stingy woman, the annoying thing is that she may have another guy she is spending on.

Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

Stainlesssteel:
Hi please forgive the grammatical errors.

I have a girlfriend and I do everything within my powers to support her even though I am going through difficulties in my finances. I stay on the island and she stays on the mainland. She came to my house late January and I suggested she gets a job and she sounded excited because she lost her previous job due to covid-19. I had travelled when she was called to resume.

Due to the distance, she moved to my house though I traveled, I left my keys for her and had been sending her Tfare and upkeeps. Now I am back and still doing it.

Just this morning, I was wondering if she's worked up to a month so I asked and she said yes then I asked if they owe salaries and she said she had been paid long ago. I have been doing everything including giving her transport and feeding and all that for her. I was so angry because the least she could have done was to tell me about it.

Now, I am confused and angry. I don't know what to do. Please I need sincere and matured advise.

Why do you think she did that and what should I do?

She don see you as a ' mumu man'..........


Her money is her money, your money is una money.....

Relationships in Nigeria are very sad. If you find a good one, hang on tight.
I’m hanging in to mine.

Una too they find advice for women mata for this forum.All this una story truly they happen self ?abi na fiction?.stoopid

Wittyglam:
Have a round table discussion with her, I know most women believe it's the duty of a man to finance all their needs but their money is not his business which is wrong. She can contribute by buying little things but it all depends on your foundation, how did you start this relationship? Are you both completely honest with each other?

Hit the nail on the head!!

.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr

Isoright.....bros op don't know what he has put his hand into
Na now bros op dey know say our girls nor dey want disclose about their money......but they get excited to spend guys own

Even my baby sisters at home derive pleasure in spending my money.....
They will keep thiers for those their unreasonable things like plaiting different hair styles like chuku , Ghana weaving, dreadlocks, Bob Marley, twisting, kinky ball, fixing eye lash , wearing waist beads, piercing their nose or vaginal and fixing nails ( especially that glow in the dark)...mixing expensive creams
Funny enough.....money dey come into their account as if say them dey work for cbn.....if you doubt then synchronize the email link to their bank account to your device....you will be shocked to see 3k , 2k and 5k dey fly into their account non stop...
Then in the night....they will surround you like ogbanje and mami water to switch on your hotspot and deplete your data.....your room will be thier eating and playing ground

Howfar ma Niggarr, I really don't mind shouldering the responsibility of one of your sis, especially the one in the first pic... Real recognizes real.