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Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by funshint(m): 10:52pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Revolva: See ediot talking...we are talking of baby triplets here not full grown children. 8 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by saajus: 10:52pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
You have a family now and you need to carry your cross. Go and learn how to pacify a woman. What you are dropping at home for four people is truly small. You need to know the stress of breastfeeding three kids, postpartum stress, cleaning and stuff. Hormonal changes in women alone after childbirth is enough to be crazy at every little thing. So, if you are not giving her enough money, you need to find a way to be calming her down. All her shouting is due to the accumulation of stress. You need to always rekindle her hope in you. You need to always show the things you are attempting to improve the income of the family. The deed has been done. You have three wonderful kids. Some people have all the wealth in this world and asking for just one but, the pregnancy is not coming. Keep selling hope to your woman every day and you will see how her attitude will change. Women like hope; won gbebo, dem dey bring am, dem dey bring am.. Show her some business plans that will bring millions, even if the money has not come, she will be so happy that her husband is making moves to change the situation. Don't jinx this for the sake of those three kids. Most women are not crazy. But, if you want to handle all situations with fire, they are always ready for you. They are incubators. That is, throw a stone at them, they will throw a rock at you. Speak one bad word, they will give you ten. Give them sperm, they will give you kids. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:52pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Lomprico2:LoL!! That's how poverty geta transmitted from generation to generation 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by LordOfTheGame: 10:53pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
OP the thing you will do is to call your wife one early morning and talk to her, possibly cry your heart out for her to see the truth in your eyes. It's not easy and you can't do much because the economic situation is not helping matters at all. Talk to her and make her to reason with you for the sake of those beautiful babies (I love and wish to have triplets). Also suggest the idea of her starting a small business no matter how small, it will help. And most importantly, welcome and rededictae your life and family to God. There is nothing He cannot do or situation He cannot change. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by erico2k2(m): 10:53pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Katier00:Pls re read it again, if Op give his wife 50% of his income and gives his Mum N10k how does he keep N20k for himself? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by dealslip(f): 10:53pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kriss216:You are heartless, you obviously don't know what it takes to care of a child let alone three. It's draining especially when you live in Nigeria and you get little or no support. She is obviously frustrated being a first time mother of three and could be suffering from post partum depression. 25k is nothing. Think about how much diapers cost first for three children in a month plus baby milk, obviously she can breastfeed three babies at the same time. Do you know that woman won't get enough rest at night feeding babies through the night. Parenting isn't an easy job. 7 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by gbengaeed(m): 10:54pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
You might not like my ideas but it will do you some good if you can borrowed from it. you need 3 things, 1 Peace; you and your wife need to be at peace its not anybody's faults that things are like this and if there is someone to blame its both of you. marriage is a responsibility and not a place of complaints. 2 Planing; guy you need planing not a one man show you have to plan how things should be in the next 5 years using your current reality. its this planing that will tight the bound between the two of you because the truth is that Nigerian economy is becoming something else and your children are growing. and when you guy plan for something don't betray the plan try to be open to her with your finance and make her contribute to the growth of the family not necessary finance, she could be the strategic person or the executor of action for the family. 3 You need to be Bold as a man, you must stamp your authority in the family, you must design the way and manner you want your family to be, not by fighting or by making noise but by bringing back your manipulating game the one you use to woo her. giving her intelligent ideas and showing her how the family will soon become independent if she follow the plan with you. One last thing no salary is too small to plan around. and no lottery win is too big to spend anyhow. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Naikkie(f): 10:54pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
25k for 3 pikin, mom and food. Egbami. Pls get a better job. You need more money. Ppl saying she should go and work are not living in reality. What is the cost of day care? If na me sef, I will nag hubby tire. Go and look for more money. 4 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Altrarecords(m): 10:54pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kestolove: Lmao why are you pretending condoms or birth control pills don't exist anymore? Nawa o |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Thomthom(m): 10:54pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Brother be patient with her... Or increase the money.. To become a man i s not a day job... just be patient pls or look for loan to open provision or food shop for her so that she will always leave the house to also hustle.. This is what I did and am happy. Am a civil servant my take home is nothing to write home about.. I just went to take some loan from bank and workers welfare and open a supermarket for her.. But today even if am not paid she run the home till when I will get paid and I will bring my quota.. upon all this, we still dey quarrel.. so I will advice you to be patient.. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by coldFLARES1(m): 10:55pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
oceanized25:Nice comment sir! Problem is that 55k is insufficient to run a home with three fragile babies (nor to talk of the 25k he recently reviewed it to). He needs to plead for more understanding from his wife while he consciously and urgently works on earning more. Else, the frictions would continue until she make good her threat. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Thistrendblog(f): 10:55pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
wow... that is really nice |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Altrarecords(m): 10:56pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kestolove: Lmao why are you pretending condoms or birth control pills don't exist anymore? So make person no bang again because e born? Nawa o 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by ednut1(m): 10:56pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Condom is 50 naira |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by 1x2x3: 10:56pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Righteousness2: Sorry to say but he needs a better Job. Pastors will always tell you you need Jesus for your finances to grow but when they need money for a project the same pastor will tell the church to contribute rather than calling on Jesus. 6 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:56pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
saajus:he's spending 20k on himself and expects the mother and 3 children to share 5k each? It is well Op no try at all. Instead of using pampers, let the mother use cloth nappies, she can save pampers money that way. Use pampers only overnight. Two breasts is not enough to feed 3 children at once. If things are not well handled, one or more of the children might die of malnutrition. This is how it starts. 5 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by erico2k2(m): 10:57pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
adedayoa2:Prayer without work is useless abeg,The man level is N50k the woman should learn to accept this fact and face reality, they are poor, at least she knows this b4 marriage. There are gatemen and drivers who earn N40k n are happily married, we nor dey hear pem |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:58pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Thomthom:3 KIDS at once is a thankless FULL TIME job. May these children not kill you and your wife before time. 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by cococandy(f): 10:58pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
erico2k2:if he’s staying up at night to breastfeed or bottle feed the babies. Or change their diapers. Or hush them when they cry, his sleeplessness will be relevant. Otherwise why does it matter? He’s sleepless doing what? Helping the family? 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by BLoomfrancs(m): 10:58pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
The time you were chooking her you didn't remember to use protection. Satan wan punish you you come score 3 once ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() You must take care of them. ![]() ![]() ![]() You brought this upon yourself. ![]() ![]() I tried to contact Amadioha on your behalf but my phone says he's not reachable at the moment. ![]() I am sorry bro there's nothing else I can do ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Katier00(f): 10:58pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
erico2k2:wife 20k, op 20k, mum 10k savings 5k. Later he increased the wife's own to 25k so what did I say wrong here |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by dealslip(f): 10:59pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Prospertochu: @OP, don't regret marrying her, you are in this together. You guys were not prepared at all. To get married you have to be prepared, financially, mentally, emotionally, socially. Please just live with the consequences of your choice, your young wife is exhausted and frustrated from taking care of three little children. It's not an easy job at all. You have to double your hustle as she won't be able to contribute for a while. She may also feel trapped as she virtually doesn't have a life for now. Encourage her to visit, a family planning home and get a check up, she may be prone to post partum depression which new mothers are usually susceptible to. You guys need tons of patience to navigate this period. You should give her some support with chores especially over the weekend. If you don't do that just expect to live with a mad woman plus she would resent you. Please at every given opportunity assure her of your love and support. She will start to calm down. All she needs is support with the children. This time shall pass. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Nobody: 11:00pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kriss216:It's not about marriage anymore. I'm sure if she knew better, she wouldn't have settled with him either. It's about three children here. Fvcking three and he's leaving 20k for feeding. Can he alone even survive on 20k monthly? He even said he saves 5k. Can you see the guy doesn't know what a mess he's found himself. He's at the middle of a huge financial mess and he's still bothered that his wife is taking caution about sex. If they couldn't stop pregnancy when they were not married yet, shouldn't he realised he'll get her pregnant again? I really pity the children because they, in fact, have very useless parents. 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Sterope(f): 11:00pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Is it too late to say don't have sex and don't have unprotected sex? 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Elliot2(m): 11:01pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
pozehnani:If women would take little responsibility for themselves, then this could have been avoided. Simply asking your man to wear rain coat, or taking other preventive measures would have averted this mess op is going through. But no, they won't. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Amaechi2023(m): 11:01pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
erico2k2:na why we dey encourage am to hustle Harder. na life circumstances nak am. if say na 1 pikin, things for easy but na 3 do e no go easy. problem must just dey. make him just endure and buckle up. with time, things go better.. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Fawklicant: 11:02pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Prospertochu: All the folks telling you here to let her go are not married and would not understand. To start with, 50k is pittance for a family of five. Any woman with triplets and presently out of work will not be happy wirh 50k monthly let alone 25k. Are you kidding me? I understand that you are angry and all, but you have no right whatsoever to push tge blame on her, none whatsoever. Your focus now ahould be finding ways to improve your finances. Thats all. If you didnt marry her and she was living with her parents, you would probably not give her that much and still complain. The problem is not your wife, its your finances. Unless your mother is sick or old and can no longer work, reduce her allowance to 5k. You, on your own part need to make serious adjustments to squeeze out more for the children. Trek when you can, starve when possible but make sure the children and thier mom eat especially if she is still breastfeeding. Part of the problem I am sensing from your post is that you feel like you are giving your wife money for herself not for the children. That is very wrong. Those telling you to let her go spend more than 25k on themselves alone monthly and they expect your wife to turn to professor peller abi ChrisAngel. Do not listen to them. Welcome to fatherhood. Now some of you may begin to appreciate your fathers more and understand the hidden sacrifices they made without ever complaining. Appreciating only mothers is partly why some men act the way they act, afterall they wont be appreciated so why bother. 5 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DarkJeddi(m): 11:02pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kriss216:25K is NOTHING in today's Nigeria.. Let's tell ourselves the truth.. The only cause of quarrel in that family is poverty and not the wife's attitude.. 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:02pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
coldFLARES1:when she makes good on her threat, things will be even worse for him. No outside woman or grandmother in her right will take care of his 3 pooping, crying responsibilities called babies with that money he is giving his wife. Theu will tell him to come and carry them back or worse still squander the money and maltreat the babies. 5 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by PrinceMajestic: 11:03pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Abeg update Barca match for front page. 4-1 victory |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by osazsky(m): 11:04pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
55k a month for 5 of you...hmmm..solve ur finances and your family is settled..i hope u are not using dipers on them...napkin for now..when do u close from work? Sir try to double ur hustle...atleat if u can be getting 2k a day it will help plus your 55k..for now she can't work..cuz caring for 3 children is already a job especialy if there is a son amongst them..God help u..me i pray my wife give birth to twins...2 girls... 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by oceanized25(m): 11:04pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
The feeling is mutual my friend Obason22: |
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