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Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by emmnprince(m): 11:05pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Slynation: Since you've partially landed yourself into trouble, do well to deal with the trouble in a proactive and pragmatic way so that when it is time for you to tell us your story, you will not only seek for our advice, but share with us: the orgin of the trouble, consequences, and how you managed the situation and solved it and fully under your control. Bottom line: We no wan hear and pity your pathetic condition, but we want hear how you man enough manage and deal with the problem. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by dominique(f): 11:06pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Your mistake was not having additional means of income especially when you discovered you were having triplets. While your wife was expecting, you should have looked for other means of income to augment your 55k salary. How many people even sit down and relax on their salaried jobs nowadays? I know of so many people who are working in solid companies and earning very high, yet they have side hustles. You're there comfortably relying on 55k job even after realizing you're expecting triplets you still sat on this 55k job, now that the triplets are growing you're still on top this 55k job matter. Obvious you lack ambition and hustling spirit. All that must change. You have to look other sources of income. 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:06pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Elliot2: 1. carrying those babies to term instead of aborting them. 2. breast feeding them 3. changing thier diapers 4. waiting on thier every want and need. That's accepting responsibility on her part. Ok?! 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by mechanics(m): 11:07pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
You just have to keep enduring, you shouldn't have impregnate her then. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by pozehnani(f): 11:09pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Elliot2: Even if they had advised each other to abstain from sex pending when they are ready for marriage, all these would have been avoided. But no. They must do the do. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:09pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Altrarecords:you are pretending condoms dont burst and birth control dont fail. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by osazsky(m): 11:09pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kriss216:oga go and sit down children everywhere..only today i spent 4k on food and diapers on my son..and my wife discovred he had 2 boils on his head..another 3k for drugs..before wed nxt mon food and diapers don finish..then multiply these expenses by 3...i wont take u serious for now..i will answer you when u get married.na u comment pass boy grow up 8 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:09pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
dominique:he had like 6 months to prepare. It is well. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by MichaelUweh(m): 11:10pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
The only one that can help you with the right advice at this point in time is Jesus and right now you need His salvation. For the bible says in Matt 6 :33 " Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you. Then for you to receive salvation, read Roman 10: 9 - 10 , then 2 corinthians 5: 17. May you receive the right direction from the Holy Spirit IJN, Amen. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by LyfeJennings(m): 11:10pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
I read this in family section earlier What a pity Alaye Marriage is not child's play Farabale Una go overcome am |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by erico2k2(m): 11:10pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Katier00:yes you are wrong cos he said he uses N20k not save N20k,, so the only money he has is N5k, that's though, we might say the man is not hustling hard but Dangote can say the same for most of us here 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by ghidhehorn(m): 11:11pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Ma Fe Jo pamiiii |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:11pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
dealslip:he should change to cloth napkins. It will save diaper money. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Firstnebo: 11:12pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kestolove: Anụmpama. How much are you yourself making? He should be starved of sex because he was born in a useless country that doesn't reward labour abi? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:12pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Prospertochu:Are you based in lagos? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Nobody: 11:14pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Is she jobless |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by erico2k2(m): 11:14pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
cococandy:You as a man can never sleep at night when there is a baby in the house, you must wake up. Speaking as a father i can put my hand on my chest and tell you this. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by chuksbogus2001: 11:14pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
madridguy: Reason before talking . People are begging to talk just for a day and u are wasting talk. Did he have and he is giving her 25k? WTF are u talking about!! If I check u that is talking now is jobless or still eating mama thank u. The lady knew the financial situation before going in. If he has more and withholding it that's different but he is giving her 50% and she is still nagging. Her mate is hawking pure water to support carrying baby on their backs and she is talking trash. Just pack out out and leave her with thatose kids and her eyes will clear. Stop fighting her so that u won't one day mistakenly commit murder . Just leave the house and return only when she is decided to be reasonable and work with u. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by jamesbridget13(f): 11:14pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
To be honest. Let's divide 25k into 5. That is 5k each for 5 persons for 30 days. Let's go further n divide 5k into 30. That's 167 naira per day for each of you. Let's discuss divide 167 by 3. That's 56 naira per meal. Bro you self think this kind thing. Your wife is just frustrated n depressed. You both brought this upon yourselves. How dare you guys involve in premarital sex when u are not ready to shoulder what it comes with. Just tell ur wife that you understand everything n explain to her that there is no money. As u receive ur next pay, give her 10k to start even though na fruit business. So that even if it's 500 she gain per day una go add up manage life. But u self wey dey collect 20k for urself na for transport or wetin? Hope no be for flexing o 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by giddy10(m): 11:14pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
I hope you see this. My advice to you is that you take the big step of not being confrontational with her. Marriage also has its challenges but you must realise your place as the head of the home, so you must inform yourself that you can make your marriage work. So I advice 1. you never fight your wife no matter how angry she made you be 2. Learn to sit her down and explain things to her and also learn to allow her speak too, while you listen to her. That way you can explain to her that you understand that things are expensive in the market but you only earn 55k and you must also support your mother and your younger sister too, and you must listen to her to explain how difficult it is to feed the family with 25k. Here I will advice you not to temper with your savings of 5k but you can reduce the money you allot to yourself i.e from 15k to 10k while you add 5k to her. With simple talk like this, you will have a peaceful home as u carry her along. Also I will advice you to look for a side hustle so that beside giving money for just food alone, you will be able to increase your savings and buy things for your wife to make her happy; that's one of the way to make her not starve you of sex. Also chase after Jesus; the Prince of Peace ( very important), when you receive Jesus, introduce Him to your family and thank me later. God bless you. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Elliot2(m): 11:16pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
pozehnani:You are so right. U need to see the extra carefulness and vigilance I put into lovemaking with the girls I bang. But there has never been a day any of them have asked that I use protection even though I sometimes try to test them if they would allow raw. There is no resistance; rather I see happiness in their eyes. And I wonder if they don't fear pregnancy or diseases. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Mayflowa(m): 11:16pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
25k to cook for a month for all five you ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:16pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
nifemi25:she has 3x every right to nag o!! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by coldFLARES1(m): 11:19pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
DrFunmisticGlow:Quite a sorry situation caused by no fault of theirs. Hope he pays greater attention to our reasonable suggestions to placate his wife while working to earn more. If he realizes that what he tenders for upkeep is what some folks with lesser number of kids use to power generators in a month, then he would show more understanding for the frustrations coming from his wife. God help him 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Hotguy27: 11:19pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Prospertochu: I swear, I'm marrying an angel. Damn! I earn over 500k monthly and I give her not up to 30k cash as monthly house keep (which she basically spends on snacks for our kids) while we shop together to buy other house needs yet she doesn't complain. Although, she knows how I spend the money including how much I save, she still supports from her meager minimum wage salary. In fact, once I'm done with the project at hand, I will place her on 100k monthly allowance. May God help me. Modified: I forgot to advise the OP to hustle more and take responsibility of the situation because even the 55k is not sufficient for the 3 kids' care in a month. His situation should serve as a lesson for all. The woman is right. That amount is not enough at all. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Elliot2(m): 11:20pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
DrFunmisticGlow:OK, plus nagging! I have taken care of babies myself and I know the stress involved. In my school of thought, taking responsibility means avoiding the act that leads to this. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by osazsky(m): 11:21pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
BLoomfrancs:satan dont give chilfren..it has happened it has happened...he cant kill his own children now..children are blessing..all i see here is poverty no issue at all..op try to double your hutsle ur wife is a good woman...pls do something about this and nerver think of d past..the future is male...go and hustle ..if thar 55k job is eating ur time stop the jobs..menial jobs can give u more than 100k a month if u are prudent especially in lagos and edo.. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by pozehnani(f): 11:23pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Elliot2: That should tell you that is how they allow other men to enter raw. Spreading disease everywhere. I weak for this generation. It just sucks! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Mindlog: 11:23pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Toks2008: Suggest what she can do with 3 babies that needs round the clock attention. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by WoundedLamb: 11:24pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Kriss216: His wife should not nag if the OP is not in control of the situation. True. But this not really the time to talk about making the man happy. Let us be practical. Everything does not revolve around making the man happy and men should known when to leave the spotlight. The only thing that matters now is the set of babies. This is not a matter of being considerate. Did the OP say she spends the money on unnecessary things? What kind of magic would make 25k take care a woman and 3 babies? Have you ever priced babies' stuff in Nigeria? And you're asking her contribution, really? What is the lady taking care of three babies while doing other "wife duties" at home contributing to the family? Are you married? Have you ever taken care of a baby? Sir, please, don't say that. OP and his lady brought this upon themselves. He can't turn his wife into a money doubler and his wife can't turn him into a money tree. However, he must quickly find a way to bring in more money even if it means begging. The wife should also beg her own relatives since she can't work for now. There is no sugarcoating it, 25k is not enough. You won't kill your babies cause you want to make the man happy. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by November24(f): 11:24pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
RedSquid:Fool You can advice without taunting. Fool |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Elliot2(m): 11:24pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
Hotguy27:Bravo! This is what every man should experience, an understanding woman, one who does not have entitlement mentality. Men are willing to spend more in this case. You don't have to nag a man to death when you know he is putting his best but not enough, a little appreciation and encouragement does it magic. |
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