Slynation:
A whole triplet....This one loud oO

Instead of quarrelling everyday with her, be a man of little words, no matter the level of provocation, do nothing/say nothing, just let it slide....

I'm used to saying "May my preeq never put me into trouble one day" but it has partially landed me into one, one day I will post my own story....!!

Since you've partially landed yourself into trouble, do well to deal with the trouble in a proactive and pragmatic way so that when it is time for you to tell us your story, you will not only seek for our advice, but share with us: the orgin of the trouble, consequences, and how you managed the situation and solved it and fully under your control.

Bottom line: We no wan hear and pity your pathetic condition, but we want hear how you man enough manage and deal with the problem.

Your mistake was not having additional means of income especially when you discovered you were having triplets. While your wife was expecting, you should have looked for other means of income to augment your 55k salary. How many people even sit down and relax on their salaried jobs nowadays? I know of so many people who are working in solid companies and earning very high, yet they have side hustles. You're there comfortably relying on 55k job even after realizing you're expecting triplets you still sat on this 55k job, now that the triplets are growing you're still on top this 55k job matter. Obvious you lack ambition and hustling spirit. All that must change. You have to look other sources of income.

Elliot2:
If women would take little responsibility for themselves, then this could have been avoided. Simply asking your man to wear rain coat, or taking other preventive measures would have averted this mess op is going through. But no, they won't.

1. carrying those babies to term instead of aborting them.
2. breast feeding them
3. changing thier diapers
4. waiting on thier every want and need.

That's accepting responsibility on her part. Ok?!

You just have to keep enduring, you shouldn't have impregnate her then.

Elliot2:
If women would take little responsibility for themselves, then this could have been avoided. Simply asking your man to wear rain coat, or taking other preventive measures would have averted this mess op is going through. But no, they won't.

Even if they had advised each other to abstain from sex pending when they are ready for marriage, all these would have been avoided. But no. They must do the do.

Altrarecords:


Lmao why are you pretending condoms or birth control pills don't exist anymore? Nawa o

you are pretending condoms dont burst and birth control dont fail.

Kriss216:
A woman you're giving almost 50% of your monthly income and she's still not satisfied is not the right one for you, bro.



Channel your energy, time, finances on your kids. That woman will never give you happiness.

oga go and sit down children everywhere..only today i spent 4k on food and diapers on my son..and my wife discovred he had 2 boils on his head..another 3k for drugs..before wed nxt mon food and diapers don finish..then multiply these expenses by 3...i wont take u serious for now..i will answer you when u get married.na u comment pass boy grow up

dominique:
Your mistake was not having additional means of income especially when you discovered you were having triplets. While your wife was expecting, you should have looked for other means of income to augment your 55k salary. How many people even sit down and relax on their salaried jobs nowadays? I know of so many people who are working in solid companies and earning very high, yet they have side hustles. You're there comfortably relying on 55k job even after realizing you're expecting triplets you still sat on this 55k job, now that the triplets are growing you're still on top this 55k job matter. Obvious you lack ambition and hustling spirit. All that must change. You have to look other sources of income.

he had like 6 months to prepare. It is well.

The only one that can help you with the right advice at this point in time is Jesus and right now you need His salvation. For the bible says in Matt 6 :33 " Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you. Then for you to receive salvation, read Roman 10: 9 - 10 , then 2 corinthians 5: 17. May you receive the right direction from the Holy Spirit IJN, Amen.

I read this in family section earlier
What a pity
Alaye
Marriage is not child's play
Farabale
Una go overcome am

Katier00:
wife 20k, op 20k, mum 10k savings 5k. Later he increased the wife's own to 25k so what did I say wrong here

yes you are wrong cos he said he uses N20k not save N20k,, so the only money he has is N5k, that's though, we might say the man is not hustling hard but Dangote can say the same for most of us here

Ma Fe Jo pamiiii

dealslip:

You are heartless, you obviously don't know what it takes to care of a child let alone three. It's draining especially when you live in Nigeria and you get little or no support. She is obviously frustrated being a first time mother of three and could be suffering from post partum depression. 25k is nothing. Think about how much diapers cost first for three children in a month plus baby milk, obviously she can breastfeed three babies at the same time.
Do you know that woman won't get enough rest at night feeding babies through the night. Parenting isn't an easy job.

he should change to cloth napkins. It will save diaper money.

Kestolove:
with triplet u still want to fvck and u only give 25k per month..some men are useless walahi

Anụmpama. How much are you yourself making?

He should be starved of sex because he was born in a useless country that doesn't reward labour abi?

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

Are you based in lagos?

Is she jobless

cococandy:
if he’s staying up at night to breastfeed or bottle feed the babies. Or change their diapers. Or hush them when they cry, his sleeplessness will be relevant.

Otherwise why does it matter?
He’s sleepless doing what? Helping the family?

You as a man can never sleep at night when there is a baby in the house, you must wake up. Speaking as a father i can put my hand on my chest and tell you this.

madridguy:
Stop condemning his wife and be truthful. You think the 50% is enough for the woman to care for herself and three kids?
50% of 45K because the OP is giving his mum 10K every month as well.

Reason before talking . People are begging to talk just for a day and u are wasting talk.

Did he have and he is giving her 25k? WTF are u talking about!! If I check u that is talking now is jobless or still eating mama thank u. The lady knew the financial situation before going in. If he has more and withholding it that's different but he is giving her 50% and she is still nagging. Her mate is hawking pure water to support carrying baby on their backs and she is talking trash. Just pack out out and leave her with thatose kids and her eyes will clear. Stop fighting her so that u won't one day mistakenly commit murder . Just leave the house and return only when she is decided to be reasonable and work with u.

To be honest. Let's divide 25k into 5. That is 5k each for 5 persons for 30 days.

Let's go further n divide 5k into 30. That's 167 naira per day for each of you.


Let's discuss divide 167 by 3. That's 56 naira per meal.


Bro you self think this kind thing. Your wife is just frustrated n depressed.

You both brought this upon yourselves. How dare you guys involve in premarital sex when u are not ready to shoulder what it comes with.


Just tell ur wife that you understand everything n explain to her that there is no money. As u receive ur next pay, give her 10k to start even though na fruit business. So that even if it's 500 she gain per day una go add up manage life.


But u self wey dey collect 20k for urself na for transport or wetin? Hope no be for flexing o

I hope you see this. My advice to you is that you take the big step of not being confrontational with her. Marriage also has its challenges but you must realise your place as the head of the home, so you must inform yourself that you can make your marriage work. So I advice 1. you never fight your wife no matter how angry she made you be 2. Learn to sit her down and explain things to her and also learn to allow her speak too, while you listen to her. That way you can explain to her that you understand that things are expensive in the market but you only earn 55k and you must also support your mother and your younger sister too, and you must listen to her to explain how difficult it is to feed the family with 25k. Here I will advice you not to temper with your savings of 5k but you can reduce the money you allot to yourself i.e from 15k to 10k while you add 5k to her. With simple talk like this, you will have a peaceful home as u carry her along. Also I will advice you to look for a side hustle so that beside giving money for just food alone, you will be able to increase your savings and buy things for your wife to make her happy; that's one of the way to make her not starve you of sex. Also chase after Jesus; the Prince of Peace ( very important), when you receive Jesus, introduce Him to your family and thank me later. God bless you.

pozehnani:


Even if they had advised each other to abstain from sex pending when they are ready for marriage, all these would have been avoided. But no. They must do the do.

You are so right. U need to see the extra carefulness and vigilance I put into lovemaking with the girls I bang. But there has never been a day any of them have asked that I use protection even though I sometimes try to test them if they would allow raw. There is no resistance; rather I see happiness in their eyes. And I wonder if they don't fear pregnancy or diseases.

25k to cook for a month for all five you How does she do it? The economic is too bad. Sincerely, she is trying. You need to increase it to 35k and cut your mom money to 5k. your mum has 10k while five of you has 25k. Enor balance now. At least your mom can get help from you other siblings until you have enough money or your wife start working.

nifemi25:
During your courtship, you should have known whom your wife to be is,, you would have noticed some nagging in her, just that you didn't focused on it....even do you gave your salary to her, am sure she won't still be satisfied...just pray God help you

she has 3x every right to nag o!!

DrFunmisticGlow:
when she makes good on her threat, things will be even worse for him.

No outside woman or grandmother in her right will take care of his 3 pooping, crying responsibilities called babies with that money he is giving his wife. Theu will tell him to come and carry them back or worse still squander the money and maltreat the babies.

Quite a sorry situation caused by no fault of theirs. Hope he pays greater attention to our reasonable suggestions to placate his wife while working to earn more.

If he realizes that what he tenders for upkeep is what some folks with lesser number of kids use to power generators in a month, then he would show more understanding for the frustrations coming from his wife.

God help him

Prospertochu:

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough.

I swear, I'm marrying an angel.

Damn! I earn over 500k monthly and I give her not up to 30k cash as monthly house keep (which she basically spends on snacks for our kids) while we shop together to buy other house needs yet she doesn't complain. Although, she knows how I spend the money including how much I save, she still supports from her meager minimum wage salary.

In fact, once I'm done with the project at hand, I will place her on 100k monthly allowance. May God help me.

Modified:
I forgot to advise the OP to hustle more and take responsibility of the situation because even the 55k is not sufficient for the 3 kids' care in a month. His situation should serve as a lesson for all. The woman is right. That amount is not enough at all.

DrFunmisticGlow:

1. carrying those babies to term instead of aborting them.
2. breast feeding them
3. changing thier diapers
4. waiting on thier every want and need.

That's accepting responsibility on her part. Ok?!

OK, plus nagging! I have taken care of babies myself and I know the stress involved. In my school of thought, taking responsibility means avoiding the act that leads to this.

BLoomfrancs:
The time you were chooking her you didn't remember to use protection.

Satan wan punish you come give you 3 kids

You must take care of them.

You brought this upon yourself.

I tried to contact Amadioha on your behalf but my phone says he's not reachable at the moment.

I am sorry bro there's nothing else I can do

satan dont give chilfren..it has happened it has happened...he cant kill his own children now..children are blessing..all i see here is poverty no issue at all..op try to double your hutsle ur wife is a good woman...pls do something about this and nerver think of d past..the future is male...go and hustle ..if thar 55k job is eating ur time stop the jobs..menial jobs can give u more than 100k a month if u are prudent especially in lagos and edo..

Elliot2:
You are so right. U need to see the extra carefulness and vigilance I put into lovemaking with the girls I bang. But there has never been a day any of them have asked that I use protection even though I sometimes try to test them if they would allow raw. There is no resistance; rather I see happiness in their eyes. And I wonder if they don't fear pregnancy or diseases.

That should tell you that is how they allow other men to enter raw. Spreading disease everywhere.

I weak for this generation. It just sucks!

Toks2008:


Why can't she find something to do at least to assist the family?

I don't understand.

Suggest what she can do with 3 babies that needs round the clock attention.

Kriss216:

So, what is the wife contributing to the family? A man shouldn't care for his mum cos he got married to a senseless lady?

If 50% of the guy's income ain't enough for the wife, then, nothing in this world would be enough for her. She's inconsiderate and she's not a woman to bring happiness in a man's life.

His wife should not nag if the OP is not in control of the situation. True. But this not really the time to talk about making the man happy. Let us be practical. Everything does not revolve around making the man happy and men should known when to leave the spotlight. The only thing that matters now is the set of babies. This is not a matter of being considerate. Did the OP say she spends the money on unnecessary things? What kind of magic would make 25k take care a woman and 3 babies? Have you ever priced babies' stuff in Nigeria? And you're asking her contribution, really? What is the lady taking care of three babies while doing other "wife duties" at home contributing to the family? Are you married? Have you ever taken care of a baby? Sir, please, don't say that.

OP and his lady brought this upon themselves. He can't turn his wife into a money doubler and his wife can't turn him into a money tree. However, he must quickly find a way to bring in more money even if it means begging. The wife should also beg her own relatives since she can't work for now. There is no sugarcoating it, 25k is not enough. You won't kill your babies cause you want to make the man happy.

RedSquid:
If you are old enough to have an erection, have fun, why bother the world

Tomorrow if those triplets are Davido, Burna and Wizkid, you'll disturb the whole continent

My friend would you buckle up and be a man

. Just kidding. Now on a serious note, the first place of solution is your mind. You need to have a solid grasp of your mind so you can come up with sharp and accurate solutions to your urgent needs.



The first is finance. Plan around the new reality you have so you can get the needed resources you need for the family.


1. Plant her in a church and in a service unit where she will get recognised and will ultimately turn out to an avenue for getting help like job etc from time to time.



2. Your reality is your reality. Put pen to paper on your financial earnings and plan with it first while you strive to make more.

Fool
You can advice without taunting.
Fool

Hotguy27:


I swear, I'm marrying an angel.

Damn! I earn over 500k monthly and I give her not up to 30k cash as monthly house keep (which she basically spends on snacks for our kids) while we shop together to buy other house needs yet she doesn't complain. Although, she knows how I spend the money including how much I save, she still supports from her meager minimum wage salary.

In fact, once I'm done with the project at hand, I will place her on 100k monthly allowance. May God help me.

Bravo! This is what every man should experience, an understanding woman, one who does not have entitlement mentality. Men are willing to spend more in this case. You don't have to nag a man to death when you know he is putting his best but not enough, a little appreciation and encouragement does it magic.