Bbbwings:

this is the genesis of your problems
nairalanders i beg you dont make this type of mistake. make we dey use our senses small
bros, what happened to using condoms or postionor

E don happen.
Solution ie way forward is the koko.

Elliot2:
If the story is genuine, methinks capable people should try to help this family out. Advice and criticisms are great, but they need more than that now.

Exactly
I've counted far more than 100 people here now
If everybody can drop 1k each
Let someone trusted see to the authencity of this story.
Let us send the money somewhere
Then think of a very good business approach for them
Probably use the money to open a Provision shop for the Wife in their area..
While the Husband starts thinking of a side hustle
The truth is that he is choked,only money can solve this problem, that woman is frustrated, so don't let us just proffer solutions but try to action them.
Or a POS Center in their compound, or something..
Provisions will still give her ample time for her kids and she'll be relaxed..
For the man ehn
Let him also sit down and calculate his expenses again
Let the both of them draft out their spendings,let them both know wassup,we can't always be a Superman abeg..

Bebson007:
my own take is the money given to her is too small and u still feed frm stuffs she buys out of this small money. Get her a small job even if its 30k so she supports u and also see that its not easy.

If she gets a job now, who would take care of the triplets when she leaves home or would the firm/individual she will be working for allow her bring the triplets to work?

can anyone help this man improve his net worth in Nigeria?
55k in too small to take care of 3 children
any advice
Bitcoin investing if still legal
uber driving if he can get a car
helping his wife set up a shop so she can make money for her children or linking her with a job that pay at least 60k a month
anyone that link this brother a job that pays as least 100k should help him in Naija

Lucrativress:

Exactly
I've counted far more than 100 people here now
If everybody can drop 1k each
Let someone trusted see to the authencity of this story.
Let us send the money somewhere
Then think of a very good business approach for them
Probably use the money to open a Provision shop for the Wife in their area..
While the Husband starts thinking of a side hustle
The truth is that he is choked,only money can solve this problem, that woman is frustrated, so don't let us just proffer solutions but try to action them

Aye! That would be great.

You have been judged unfairly by people who clearly.do not have triplets, nor earn N55k at the same time.

The problems you have are nothing new. The aggression from your mother-in-law are mirrored on your wife.

Her frustratios of managing three children is hard enough.

I suspect you are never there during the day to walk the same journey with her.

Bottom line...you need to be earning more, even if it means working a side hustle on the weekend to bring in the extra bread.

I wouldn't suggest you rush intro planting hey in a church...you may lose her if she's easily influenced.

Finally, been married 14yrs.....a woman will naturally mirror what you throw at her. Man-up and be the man....speak calmly, show care, pacify your anger...pacify hers...never rise to any insults, even if she baits you. Rather than complaining about the difficulties out there....be the one to give assurances....

When you have spent the next 3 months turning your personality around, finding a second job or business....calmly thing through issues...then, do church...but the right church.

My brother your wife should be the one regretting marrying you, 25, thousand to feed 5family, with expenses, like buying fuel, biscult for children and other things? Minus expenses let us say you are giving her like 15k for food, for family of five, and you have the guts to come on nairaland to seek advice, you are mean and wicked, go and look for another job, or get extra side hustle, also let your wife, look for somthibg doing, the entire 55k is not enough for family of 5, you still have the guts to say, you are saving out of it, and also giving your mum from it, are you normal like this, if I am your wife I will leave the money for you, I will not touch it, or ask you, I will allow you go to market your self with the money and use it to cook so you will know it is not enough for a week, hope you are using protection inorder not bring in another child into that malnourished home,
which kind dirty sex are you talking about, with children on ground that you can not feed your are very meant for saying you regreat marrying that woman that is suffering in your hands. Your are ranting your mother inlaw force you to marry, did she force you to have sex without condone will you allow an idiot impregnant your daughter and keep her at home, the mother inlaw did the right thing an average Mother will do, you better tell your wife to so family planning or you use condone, two of you should go look for money, and stop suffering those children, 55, thousand is not enough to take care of one child ,talkless of five family .


U are supposed to give her 50k then send 5k to your mum, and look for other hustle to give you money for personal use and savings.


And must you send money to your mum, for now, why not force your daddy to take care of his responsibilities why you take care of yours


Honestly you are wicked and suffering the woman and children with you.


Nonsense coming here to seek for advice that will finish you.

NIGHTMARE0O7:


She is a nursing mother , u dont expect her to do anything at the moment..
Its not easy to look after 3kids and still keep up with any work.

Like I said he should Go to his church and solicit for help . depending on the church he attends , beoz I know some churches do help their members in dire need

its her level i n life,My mum had three kids and she was working still, from teh look at things so if she was working she will stop work cos she had kids right? or if she has a shop, shop will close down cos nah she first born, abi if she dey cook food sell she go close cos say she born piking abi?.
This is one of the reasons why a man must not marry a jobless woman, life is tough!

cooltola:
can anyone help this man improve his net worth in Nigeria?
55k in too small to take care of 3 children
any advice
Bitcoin investing if still legal
uber driving if he can get a car
helping his wife set up a shop so she can make money for her children or linking her with a work
anyone that link this brother a job that pays as least 100k should help him in Naija

No
I believe we all can do this together
There is power in many
If this story is true
Let's all contribute 1k each or #500
If anyone can do more fine..
That provision shop for the woman will really help,will keep her mind at ease also,it'll also help the man to calm down and reason..
Then we can start proffering solutions for him..
OP better go and do that medical stuff to freeze your eggs for the main time,cause it can happen again ooo....

EndRape2:
My brother your wife should be the one regretting marrying you, 25, thousand to feed 5family, with expenses, like buying fuel, biscult for children and other things? Minus expenses let us say you are giving her like 15k for food, for family of five, and you have the guts to come on nairaland to seek advice, you are mean and wicked, go and look for another job, or get extra side hustle, also let your wife, look for somthibg doing, the entire 55k is not enough for family of 5, you still have the guts to say, you are saving out of it, and also giving your mum from it, are you normal like this, if I am your wife I will leave the money for you, I will not touch it, or ask you, I will allow you go to market your self with the money and use it to cook so you will know it is not enough for a week, hope you are using protection inorder not bring in another child into that malnourished home,
which kind dirty sex are you talking about, with children on ground that you can not feed your are very meant for saying you regreat marrying that woman that is suffering in your hands. Your are ranting your mother inlaw force you to marry, did she force you to have sex without condone will you allow an idiot impregnant your daughter and keep her at home, the mother inlaw did the right thing an average Mother will do, you better tell your wife to so family planning or you use condone, two of you should go look for money, and stop suffering those children, 55, thousand is not enough to take care of one child ,talkless of five family .


U are supposed to give her 50k then send 5k to your mum, and look for other hustle to give you money for personal use and savings.


And must you send money to your mum, for now, why not force your daddy to take care of his responsibilities why you take care of yours


Honestly you are wicked and suffering the woman and children with you.


Nonsense coming here to seek for advice that will finish you.

Talk is cheap if you like go to your husband's house with no JOB or Business Ok!

God bless you, leave the uncle to be seeking mumu advice, can 55k be enough for him alone in a month, talkless of five people,

He still gives his mum 10k out of it, and save 15, to him self, the guy is wicked






quote author=dominique post=99919116]Your mistake was not having additional means of income especially when you discovered you were having triplets. While your wife was expecting, you should have looked for other means of income to augment your 55k salary. How many people even sit down and relax on their salaried jobs nowadays? I know of so many people who are working in solid companies and earning very high, yet they have side hustles. You're there comfortably relying on 55k job even after realizing you're expecting triplets you still sat on this 55k job, now that the triplets are growing you're still on top this 55k job matter. Obvious you lack ambition and hustling spirit. All that must change. You have to look other sources of income. [/quote]

erico2k2:

its her level i n life,My mum had three kids and she was working still, from teh look at things so if she was working she will stop work cos she had kids right? or if she has a shop, shop will close down cos nah she first born, abi if shecook food sell she go close cos say she born piking abi?.
This is one of the reasons why a man must not marry a jobless woman, life is tough!

Have you checked the times we're in presently?
I believe if they set that woman up in a place that's comfortable, she won't say no

Kriss216:
A woman you're giving almost 50% of your monthly income and she's still not satisfied is not the right one for you, bro.



Channel your energy, time, finances on your kids. That woman will never give you happiness.

Stop saying rubbish,wot is he himself doing with 20k monthly...and why given d mom a whole 10k monthly,wot happens to 6k....?

Mindlog:


If she gets a job now, who would take care of the triplets when she leaves home or would the firm/individual she will be working for allow her bring the triplets to work?

Her concerned Mum can help, that's what grand parents are for!
After all nah she hold grand say gunman must marry!

bigpicture001:


Stop saying rubbish,wot is he himself doing with 20k monthly...and why given d mom a whole 10k monthly,wot happens to 6k....?

So who pays the electric bills? who pays for his transport?health? clothes?kerosin/gas? lunch during brake?

heendrix:


Mehnn ion know if na Devu or Baba God but one of them served him and served him cooler full

aswear if you dy tell them make they calm down they will not listen.

What are you saying, there are millions of women with children working, is she the first to have children, let her put them in after school care, school closed by 4pm, she can get a job that closes by 4pm, also, or use after school care services till she comes back from work.

EndRape2:
My brother your wife should be the one regretting marrying you, 25, thousand to feed 5family, with expenses, like buying fuel, biscult for children and other things? Minus expenses let us say you are giving her like 15k for food, for family of five, and you have the guts to come on nairaland to seek advice, you are mean and wicked, go and look for another job, or get extra side hustle, also let your wife, look for somthibg doing, the entire 55k is not enough for family of 5, you still have the guts to say, you are saving out of it, and also giving your mum from it, are you normal like this, if I am your wife I will leave the money for you, I will not touch it, or ask you, I will allow you go to market your self with the money and use it to cook so you will know it is not enough for a week, hope you are using protection inorder not bring in another child into that malnourished home,
which kind dirty sex are you talking about, with children on ground that you can not feed your are very meant for saying you regreat marrying that woman that is suffering in your hands. Your are ranting your mother inlaw force you to marry, did she force you to have sex without condone will you allow an idiot impregnant your daughter and keep her at home, th


Nonsense coming here to seek for advice that will finish you.

Please don't talk like this
Responsibilities can be choking,not to talk of an impromptu one,not everyone have strong minds to reason so fast,that man can get damn frustrated and end his own life..
Ko easy,we'll just have to be smart about it,I really really pity his condition, there's big depth of frustration and tiredness in it,we shouldn't blame him,they both made the mistakes,it's just too bad they're not going about solving it properly

Lucrativress:

Have you checked the times we're in presently?
I believe if they set that woman up in a place that's comfortable, she won't say no

The times I was remembering that made me make such statements were harder than now! my take, MEN do not marry a woman who has nothing to bring to the table, this is the harsh reality!

erico2k2:

So who pays the electric bills? who pays for his transport?health? clothes?kerosin/gas? lunch during brake?

The whole family comprising if uncle pay electric bills, 4k can cover ur monthly transport, he is poor and shldnt b a show off with clothes, d woman buys d kerosene and he eats at d cheapest places for lunch breaks.....

15k is better for him

EndRape2:
What are you saying, there are millions of women with children working, is she the first to have children, let her put them in after school care, school closed by 4pm, she can get a job that closes by 4pm, also, or use after school care services till she comes back from work.

Do we know her qualification's??
After School care
A very cheap one self might not collect 20k or 30k for those 3
Setting her up to me is the best o
That's killing a stone with 2 Bird's

Lucrativress:

Please don't talk like this
Responsibilities can be choking,not to talk of an impromptu one,not everyone have strong minds to reason so fast,that man can get damn frustrated and end his own life..
Ko easy,we'll just have to be smart about it,I really really pity his condition, there's big depth of frustration and tiredness in it,we shouldn't blame him,they both made the mistakes,it's just too bad they're not going about solving it properly

You are right, the man can get vexed and go sit down in his village, and won't be arrested!

broz, look for means to let her leave the house, hustle more think of what else you can do for extra income.... focus on the kids, beg the woman to go, you will see how your life will turn around.
If you ₦1million and give that woman ₦500k monthly, she will still complain and claim you are stingy, dont kill yourself or die before your time. Pls beg her to go and start experiencing happiness

erico2k2:

The times I was remembering that made me make such statements were harder than now! my take, MEN do not marry a woman who has nothing to bring to the table, this is the harsh reality!

The sadder reality is that,it has happened..
Resilience in those times are different from now
We just have to understand that to work hard right now,you still need a foot stool..
Makes you work faster and the results show faster
They need a foot stool..
Don't let us keep comparing and throwing blames biko
I see a man who took up impromptu responsibilities here..
That alone is a motivation, he just needs to think better,that's all

Try to earn more money.
Nothing is too little.
One option is you can be home teacher for kids.

bigpicture001:


The whole family comprising if uncle pay electric bills, 4k can cover ur monthly transport, he is poor and shldnt b a show off with clothes, d woman buys d kerosene and he eats at d cheapest places for lunch breaks.....

15k is better for him

you are missing the point, no money coming from him is enough even if he gives her the whole N55k it won't be enough.So since we know its not going to be enough what's the point of stressing the man who is trying his best? What she should be doing is praying and encouraging her husband to do well and be lucky..You are underestimating the power of positive thinking!

erico2k2:

You are right, the man can get vexed and go sit down in his village, and won't be arrested!

Not even vexed,choked and it seems like life isn't worth living
This man needs a platform and a good adviser
The deed is done already
That man can decide to not give a Bleep you know..
This is another reality
OP well-done okay
Well done

No be only contribute, if we all bring our problems here, you will run, let him ,meet his friends or family members to give him loan to set up side business, , let him just stop asking for sex without condone ooo.






quote author=Lucrativress post=99920123]
No
I believe we all can do this together
There is power in many
If this story is true
Let's all contribute 1k each or #500
If anyone can do more fine..
That provision shop for the woman will really help,will keep her mind at ease also,it'll also help the man to calm down and reason..
Then we can start proffering solutions for him..
OP better go and do that medical stuff to freeze your eggs for the main time,cause it can happen again ooo....[/quote]

Lucrativress:

The sadder reality is that,it has happened..
Resilience in those times are different from now
We just have to understand that to work hard right now,you still need a foot stool..
Makes you work faster and the results show faster
They need a foot stool..
Don't let us keep comparing and throwing blames biko
I see a man who took up impromptu responsibilities here..
That alone is a motivation, he just needs to think better,that's all

Look my gate, Man earns N45k, he has 5 kids him dey manage Oh.But He has his wife doing little bits to support the front!

Altrarecords:


Lmao why are you pretending condoms or birth control pills don't exist anymore? So make person no bang again because e born? Nawa o

condom no b sex, dat one na rape..e no dey sweet nd we ladies don't like it

cococandy:
that’s actually good. Now when you’re awake, do you help? And I use help loosely for want of a better word because you’re their parent too and you’re not supposed to be “helping” rather it should be part of your job.
Do you take turns to soothe the baby so that the other parent can catch a nap?

have you had a child B4??