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Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by zacwale(m): 1:15am On Mar 16, 2021 |
You need wire thunder Pad for children na 5000 or 5500 not a child na three children meaning for one month 5500*3=16500 plus bike 500 total 17k Food for children like 8k or 10k in one month 24k Let me stop from here My brother double your hustle or your income Or if you can sell two children for me I will buy them Thank you Prospertochu: |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by jaxxy(m): 1:16am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu: U are a good a responsibile man. U took responsibility for ur kids and even married the stupid gal u call wife. The problem with most gals is they are very poor managers. Ur husband gives u his money and u can’t put it to good use, even if u notice it’s not enough u know he’s doing his best u should look for away to find solutions to ur family/hubbys financial issues bt instead she nags and complains and even threatens to live u with the kids. Is this not a stupid woman? A highly irresponsible gal turn wife?? Look bad company corrupts good manners, if u move with fools u will soon become a fool. Disassociate urself from that nonentity. Give her responsibilities to do. Set up a business if possible for her and monitor it because I know she’s useless. Atleast right now Don’t give up hope yet. God will help u make right decisions regarding ur family. Cheers. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by focus7: 1:17am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu: It's not too late if she's not ready to cooperate with let her go, send the children to your mum and add the 25k you are giving her to what you are giving your mum |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by CSTRR: 1:26am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Earning 55k and fuckkking without condom. Even me wey dey earn more than triple of your salary no get mind to fucckkkk raw. Ladies wey dey find who go take care of them. You just fall enter their hand. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by faste: 1:28am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Lucrativress:You have a point..the babies are innocent! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by chrizzyace: 1:29am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Gerrard59: True, environment matters in a child’s upbringing. However, that shouldn’t stop us as parents to implant and groom them with a positive lifestyle. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by faste: 1:35am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Imagine the op still asking for sex..no go tie your blokos! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by olaodun: 1:38am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Many people had given good advice but to to add my own 1 Both your wife and you should know God and be grateful many millionaires are childless 2. Both of you should face the reality and take up the challenges to bring up your children in Godly way and give them the best you can afford 3 problem came due to lack of planning, start panning now by fire by force . 1 increase your income base by adding small businesses eg selling online, set up you wife to be selling something at home as she is caring for the babies 4 Join good churches and cooperative for necessary support 5 Finally live with your wife with understanding and be prayerful |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Nnefada: 1:46am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216:Hey dear, the 50% isn't for the wife alone, it is for the whole family of five........she, the op and their triplet. In this time we are, #25k can hardly do anything for a family of five. The op should do something about it. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by TheCongo2: 1:47am On Mar 16, 2021 |
haulagehandlers: Can't understand this |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by 2mch(m): 1:49am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Go and bring your mother to help. Why are you sending 10k to her to live somewhere, when your family is struggling and can use the 10k? Let her come and help with care of triplets so your wife can find a job. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by mercyymai(f): 1:49am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Come to look at it, the Nigeria we are now, everything is costly o. Apart from the fact that she should understand that your source of income is not more 55k and try to bear with u pending the time. She care for a triplet and so the cost for baby food in a month will be more than 5k, diapers for triplet too will be more than 5k too. So let's assume she spend 12k on the children alone for a month. Bros unless u dey buy foodstuff at home, 8k can not be enough for house upkeep. I will advice, one the babu are of age, advice her to go look for Job at least her salary will help take care of her personal needs and some little things in the house. You too Sir, u need to work hard more. Get a side business. 55k can never be enough for the family of 2 not to talk family of 5. Becos sending children to sch is now very expensive. Ur triplet will start sch very soon and I hope ur 55k can not send them to a good sch. Lastly you need Jesus in your home. His presence in a home give peace. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Nnefada: 1:50am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Dear op, do not regret marrying her. That woman is really trying. If your triplets are already in school, you should encourage her to get a job or learn a trade/crafts. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by SweetCunt97(f): 1:51am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Elliot2:I stock carton of noodles and crate of eggs at home regularly. Ive really passed that stage. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Ashirioluwa: 1:53am On Mar 16, 2021 |
You knew you not ready for marriage but you were having free sex without protection. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by CanadianNaija: 1:59am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Lucrativress: Give him money if you want, it's your money. I'm not one moved by sob stories like we see here on Nairaland. I speak for myself when I say I don't reward irresponsibility, if that's not politically correct that's the headache of whoever it pinches the wrong way. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by sandygechy(f): 2:03am On Mar 16, 2021 |
I want to understand something.Which wife should prepare breakfast and lunch? Same wife taking care of triplets without a housemaid? Odiegwu.... Jossyfine: 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by nwikpab: 2:12am On Mar 16, 2021 |
veave: Only me as a man if I want chop satisfy myself for the month, 25k na small money. The woman dey try no be small. Weytin dey anger the woman na be say she don push the man to go hustle another thing but the guy no dey gree. My brother and his wife had similar experience. I dey dey house dey hear how the wife dey draw map for success. That one na one pikin o. Make the guy buckle up and hustle more. Freedom lost indeed for now. God bless us oooo so our women no go use us play. sandygechy: Inside life. That time na their two enjoy the f*ck oooooooooooooooooo. The guy dey pose that time with 55k dey buy things for the girl and mama. The girl no tell am say invest in so so so and so. The man no no say 55k with monthly investment of 15k in kindle direct publishing or other online business can take him a long way and make him bigger man. Now, woman wey dey cook well de guy dey chop well no want cook again. Time never pass cha. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Fxwarrior: 2:22am On Mar 16, 2021 |
oceanized25: None of you advisers are even asking for the wife to get something doing to augment the income... |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by NoToPile: 2:35am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Joejonah: See sharing formula |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by NoToPile: 2:45am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Fxwarrior: Simply because if she doesnt have an established business with a sales girl or a good job theres no point, she can't start anything now because of the triplets. Those children are the main jobs, even if she looks for work, they have to pay for daycare which they can't afford. Under normal circumstances one individual shouldn't be taking care of triplets alone, its the begining of mental breakdown now add insufficient funds to the mix, its not a very palatable one. Even those who get the money dey sweat. She is a superwoman 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Jimmyubah2: 2:46am On Mar 16, 2021 |
thelish:Oh sorry. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by cococandy(f): 2:48am On Mar 16, 2021 |
erico2k2:so you do have butterflies waking up at night to nurse and take care of your babies then? Is that what I’m understanding? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by TemmyM(f): 2:48am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Some replies here really amazes me though. I realized most people on this forum are just kids with free access to data. People still under their parent roof being fed and cared for, so they have absolutely no idea what’s really going on. That woman is trying you have to be in her shoes to understand what she is going through. Some people suggested him taking the kids to the mom, the same mom that collects 10k even without 3 kids with her? And you feel she would be able to manage 25k? I know some mom who would rather reject that 10k and ask you to add up for the family upkeep and even try to support in anyway that she can. Taking care of one kid with 25k is not even easy in this present Nigeria not to talk of a family of 5. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your wife trust me, she’s trying so hard not to have a mental breakdown hence the constant nagging because you still have the strength to request for sex when she might have been so exhausted. She obviously doesn’t even get any assistance. Please Op try and find other means of income, that energy you use in requesting for sex, try wiring it into looking for other means of income. If the kids are still small there is absolutely no way she can work now. Always try to appreciate her effort, talk to her gently. You both should sit down and strategize on how to go about the little income for now, I also believe in prayers, suggest you both pray together. Your job can’t be a Monday to Sunday kind of job, those times you ain’t working try other side hustle like Uber, keke like someone suggested. I know it’s not going to be easy but these are sacrifices you need to make for your family. You are in this already instead of regretting and complaining find solution to ease the burden. When the kids starts growing your wife can also find means to support. Honestly is not easy ooooo I pray you find favour. 4 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by cococandy(f): 2:49am On Mar 16, 2021 |
sandygechy:didn’t you see how that was regarded as a great post People and their innate desire to see women suffer. It’s well. 2 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by franchasng: 2:56am On Mar 16, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: Your comment got me rolling on the floor I feel for the OP, and I feel more for the wife and mostly the innocent babies. I am a father and I know the amount my baby alone consumes which got me moody reading through the op's story; 25k for wifey, triplets and op, oh no it's too small for the woman to manage. Too too small honestly. That lady is trying big time. Op please give your wife some kudos, she has suffered in your hands, you need to make peace with her and apologize to her for all the quarrels. I and my wife have just one child right now and she has a Nanny that comes to work in the day and go, and whenever I am around and I watch how the baby disturbs both my wife and even the Nanny, I just pity them. It's not easy taking care of toddlers or newborns oh. I tried doing it some time out of fun, mhen it was not easy. They always want attention. They wake up at midnight and start crying for no reason lol, especially when your sleep is in the sweet mood lol Breastfeeding a single baby is not easy talk more of 3, ah that's way too much for that woman she need peace and of course more money to take care of herself and to replenish her energy through adequate food diets, fruits, milk, yogurt, etc. OP made a huge mistake from the beginning, they were not prepared at all and he didn't put in much work or maybe he did and mother nature didn't bless his hardwork, life , OP please if you come across my comment, please you need to go and apologize to your wife firstly. Secondly you don't need to be giving your mom any monthly upkeep as it stands now. Remember I am an advocate of caring for moms and showering our mothers with love and care as their children but not at this stage of your life when you are struggling to provide for your kids. Increase your wife's upkeep to 35 to 40k. Forget about saving any money now because your income is not enough to live a decent life to talk of saving. And thank God your father built a house and you don't pay rent, I think this may have contributed to your being lazy and probably shooting your girlfriend raw without thinking about the consequences. The first thing you need to do now after making peace with your wife is to think radically on how to increase your income. One way to do that now is to use your spare time, maybe weekends or when you are off duty from work to go learn how to drive Keke. After learning, make friends with the riders at the park and tell them you need a Keke to drive so when they see opportunity they recommend you. Riding Keke is far more better than that your work. Keke riding can be fetching you a 100k monthly if you live in a crowded city like Lagos, Aba, Kano, Onitsha, Ibadan, PH, Warri, etc. So think about this. You really need to think out of the box to survive this, so think. And with the level of your life challenges, sex should never be on your mind at all. Your dick ought to respect itself at this stage to avoid impregnating your wife again oh. You don't need any other child at all. Just plan on how to increase your income and train your triplets. In summary : - Stop giving your mom upkeep for now - Increase your wife's upkeep to 35 - 40k - Stop any savings it doesn't make sense now - Increase your income at all cost cos you need it - Apologize to your wife for the quarrels, she is right - Cancel sex from your mind completely, if you cannot hold yourself masturbate and let your wife be for now. 3 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by friday2011(m): 2:58am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216: Leave the woman alone, the guy should go out there and look for more money... You think 25k every month can take care of 3 kids? I am very sure you are not married yet not to talk of having kids... Op, you better use your brain and pacify your wife to be patient with you while you double your hussle. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by NoToPile: 2:59am On Mar 16, 2021 |
osazsky: Honestly your posts sounds harsh but there's some element of truth in it. The bolded parts got me LOL. I actually find it amazing that the guy is saying wife is starving him of sex, in all these sex still crossed his mind . Nawa. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by GrandFinale2021(m): 3:02am On Mar 16, 2021 |
dominique:hi there's a moniker I want to report. Her real moniker was banned due to her incessant insults and abuse of nairalanders on this forum. Now she has used her alternate Account Saphiere to login and start throwing insults up and down. her other moniker is Sapphiere with a double P. please do the needful and save the reputation of this forum cos she has violated rule 19 thanks |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by sunnyfats: 3:14am On Mar 16, 2021 |
What your wife is going through,you may never know, Bro, it is not easy to raise one child not to now talk of triplets.....brother please take it easy. Taking care of those children is already a job on its own.. Your problem is finance, you need more income.. And please cut down on what you give your mother for now....you need to quench the fire in your own home first. On the other hand... This is why you need Jesus.... Jesus says.. Matt.11.28 - Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. . Bro you need rest, find God and you will experience a difference. Another benefit is that, when you become a member of a believing church, there is no how that will not share this burden with you. Not only will they give you counsel, they will see to it that your family is doing well... Trust God on this..... You need to find him first..... May God help you. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by hmhameed(m): 3:21am On Mar 16, 2021 |
You have insatiable wife and a bad mother inlaw. I pray you find peace |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Lovejossy: 3:21am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Hello My friend, this is my point of view: You have a very good wife N25 k is NOT enough to take care of 5 people Your problem is that you are NOT open, you are "forming" - a boss and secretive. Show her your whole salary and ask her for advice on on how to spend it. Do this and thank me later. I had a problem like that before and the above was what I did and my wife went to her family to get money to augment our income until thing got better. |
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