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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by abdsamad(m): 2:32am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Ardar: Dunno why people have refused to agree with this post. If you're traditional then you believe men work and pay for stuff and women stay home and work without expected input from the man. In that case, don't complain: just pay and enjoy your laundry being done for you. As long as she delivers on that, anything else she makes is hers. Being modern involves sharing financial and other responsibilities. In my own world view, this is the correct thing. Responsibilities should be shared based on what's reasonable and each situation should be judged on a case to case basis. The woman may be better at cooking and it'll be reasonable for her to then cook but is she also better at washing the dishes when both of you have just eaten dinner? If she slaves for hours to cook, you can at least wash up after. The man may also be better suited to washing her car. Help out where you can just as she helps out where she can. Nobody is a slave of anyone else, man or woman. You can't carry a pregnancy for her but you can maintain balance by paying for everything related to the pregnancy and some of her personal stuff which you may not have been doing. Afterall, if she wasn't slowed down by that responsibility she'd probably be able to work more and earn more. That's balance in my own opinion 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by capitalzero: 2:42am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Stockquality: Spending for a girl you are sleeping with is like paying prostitute. |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by capitalzero: 3:05am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Social construct. Society defines gender roles. For majority, men are to provide while women are to manage home. Now, men are failing to provide while women are not managing home. Chaotic. Men blame women and vice versa. Our traditional society is in conflict with modernity. And modernity is in constant conflict with nature. We should go back to the nature. Observe animals. Men and women should discharge their roles naturally. As a natural man, I provide for my family and plan for my future. I do what I can do. I expect nothing from my wife than her natural roles. Nothing more! Her money is her money. She should spend on her family and her family should not be expecting anything from me if she is not spending on my own family. No argument. Men should man up mentally. Most men now think of reproductive power than their mental and financial power. Men , wake up. Women are taking over. 1 Like |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by franchasng: 3:18am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Offpoint1:But my wife is so beautiful like a water goddess and she still have sense, as in big sense and gives me joy and peace of mind. She makes me so relaxed that I feel like marrying 2nd and 3rd wives cos I never knew marriage will be this sweet haven read and heard so many bad tales of married people My point is, bad character has nothing to do with being beautiful, though physical beauty makes some ladies abi girls to develop horrible character and personality which affects their life negatively at the end. In all these, guys are to blame. They ignore a lot of vital signs during dating and courtship in the name of love and out of youthful exuberance. Many guys also get carried away by sex and forget their sense of reasoning. During my single days, I dated girls I knew I would never marry even if it's for free with extra gifts lol. But what I do is to be at full alert and end it sharply as it started without giving her any reason. Even though you are Hot and need vagina to cool off as a guy, you shouldn't forget your senses and drown inside the red sea. Some girls are only good for one night stand sadly , and you must be at alert and protect yourself fully if you must dive. Some girls are only good as far from home runs, never allow them know your house, keep them far. Even some are only good for chop and clean mouth like Dbanj and 2face does. But some guys will develop love and start full relationship with marriage in view with any girl that crosses their path, no standard, no dream, no vision, no plan, anything goes 5 Likes |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Ikillbrokehoes(m): 3:18am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Guys any lady with this kind of messed up mindset,just dump the hoe, she doesn't deserves you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Fiscus105(m): 3:23am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216: abeg stop saying all Nigeria girls. Thats how all ur sisters be too. watch before you married you say no, wen you enter one chance you would be blaming all naija girls up and down. Did I not married the same Naija girl? From the time we are dating and til date, she willingly handed over all her passwords, take note of plural form of passwords o, to me. NB I married her at ripe age o, educated, working class etc. I also knw some of my friends wives who contribute significantly towards the family too, and they are all naija origin 2 Likes |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Ikillbrokehoes(m): 3:25am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Ardar: |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Fiscus105(m): 3:30am On Mar 16, 2021 |
CHoccolaTE: date good guy you say no! Why wont u continue meeting complete problematic guys. Cute , tall, six pack, rich are ur factors to be a good man, the day you u start focusing on inward rather than outward in man is the day you will start seeing Nigeria guys that are good. go to South Africa, S A girls dying to have naija guys as husbands. 2 Likes |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Lovejossy: 3:31am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Have you sat her down and discuss the issue with her? Women are emotional about everything, and you need to handle them emotionally. Say darling (after a round of emotion?) can we discuss something - I need you to help me take care of these petty petty stuffs so I can start saving for our kids. Or try this, send some money to her mom or siblings one month and see her attitude change. You guys of nowadays are stingy and that is what women hate most. No matter the amount a woman has, she still wants something from you just to show that you care for her. |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MrIcredible: 3:47am On Mar 16, 2021 |
[s] Ardar:[/s] See this one... Smh! Who raised you in the first place? Or deh. Who is talking about chores here? Don't you have brains? What about people that have helps? I pity the unfortunate man wey marry or who go marry you. 1 Like |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by aragonchuks(m): 3:47am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216:Not just Nigerian girls , women in general |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by fatboyslym007: 4:23am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Blame the business minded motivational speaker (a.k.a. Pastors, imams, spiritual father's etc) for this crazy mentality... |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by bezimo(m): 4:25am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Nazgul: I hope Guys are receiving sense not to end up unfortunate in life |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by bezimo(m): 4:27am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Offpoint1: I have never seen a 9ja girl with big nyash that is sensible..they are often rude,daft selfish and self entitled. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by specialmati(m): 4:28am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Labadi69:seriously i get you boss but see don't just marry any woman try your possible best to know the woman you want to marry and discuss everything you want with her.and dont forget the God factor.women can be funny atimes so know the person you are getting married to, to avoid stories |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MrIcredible: 4:31am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar:Muh muh When your forefathers married multiple wives, there was peace relatively. If your husband wants to marry more wives now, you'll be thinking of suicide and murder. Do you have sense at all? |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MrIcredible: 4:36am On Mar 16, 2021 |
knowhowk:I dey wait for your sister and daughter... One of them must accept this offer 1 Like
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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MrIcredible: 4:38am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar:Hmmm Your sister husband ... Your aunt husband... Your papa... I know where this is coming from now.... |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Jaqenhghar: 4:49am On Mar 16, 2021 |
EvilNeedle:That's the best you can come up with. Lazy ass nigger |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Jaqenhghar: 4:50am On Mar 16, 2021 |
YorubaLord:LOL. This thing really pain you. Go jump off a cliff. |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Jaqenhghar: 4:52am On Mar 16, 2021 |
MrIcredible:More sense in one thumb than your entire lineage. Men married multiple wives and took care of their business. Not waiting for the women to take care of them. |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Jaqenhghar: 4:53am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Raph3177: See who is calling someone toddler. SMH. Na you dey find you will nanny you and na you dey call someone toddler. |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Nobody: 5:07am On Mar 16, 2021 |
How everyone manages to miss the fact that this thread is fundamentally feminist at its core, is amazing. Even so-called red pillers seem to be supporting the op. Men are men. Their role in the home is to provide. Women are women, their role in the home is logistic. If a family is not doing well financially, it is always the man who is incompetent at his duties and solely to blame; and no wife is obliged to take up that responsibility from him. This is why the man has always possessed the authority. Authority only comes with responsibility. If you abdicate your responsibility as a man, be ready to also abdicate your authority. Your wife becomes co-leader. Only a feminist will preach this type of blurring of gender roles. What is next after shamefully making women work full time and still expecting them to be good wives at home? Are we going to start forcing our children to work as well, so that we can live up to our neighbour's lifestyle expectations? Will men not become even more useless in the house when each person is feeding him/herself? This is why no man could answer directly when a woman on another thread asked what it was that men bring to the table in a marriage. Men are effectively being rendered useless; with their own vociferous consent. Please go and take up your duties as men and stop blaming women for your financial shortcomings. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Skmoda360(m): 5:20am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216:This is too much ooo.....
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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Incognito403: 5:22am On Mar 16, 2021 |
missoreo:To be honest, Nigerian men have never been lazy even in doing the so-called house chores. The problem is many have a narrow definition of house chores. For example, washing the car is a house chore, clearing the garden is a house chore, clearing the gutters is a house chore, fixing basic plumbing and wiring in the house are house chores etc. |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Edusouls(m): 5:27am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Nigerian girls are not good people men are yet to understand this? I understood them long agoo, o stopped worrying about them 2 Likes |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MajorOvakporaye(f): 5:33am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Ardar: YOU BETTER SHUT UP THERE! VERY SENSELESS COMMENT |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by na2016: 5:36am On Mar 16, 2021 |
People are always quick to blame men when any marriage/relationship fails but they forget that things like this can cause serious problems. Some Nigerian girls are in the habit of doing what this OP wrote here. I must say that any man who allows this, will end up dying before his time. And unfortunately, the said woman will take anything left of the home to start another home with another man. While women keep saying men are scum, most of them should look at themselves critically, some of them (women) are worse than a plaque and Any man who wants to live long must avoid this set of girls. 3 Likes |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MajorOvakporaye(f): 5:37am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Nigerian girls are stupid 1 Like |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Kebbiprince: 5:38am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar:Don't think everyone is like your worthless and incapable father, check well no be your papa born u bc your mama played away match |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MajorOvakporaye(f): 5:39am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Nigerian girls are foolish 1 Like |
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Kebbiprince: 5:42am On Mar 16, 2021 |
ABANGWABOI:You said nothing but the truth, naija men killing themselves with responsibility |
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