Safitu:
Most women have cash in their bank accounts. Most women are in school/ trading/ doing some kind of business/hustling. The truth of the matter is that, if a man must come into your life, he must have something to offer. That doesn’t mean I don’t have my own money, but as a man you must show your capability to provide for me. That’s what makes you a man. How can I be paying for all my bills, and you call yourself my boyfriend? What is now your role in my life? Just to be looking at me and wasting my time? Ah beg jare.

You are a fool

I am really interested in the comments but it seems nobody is commenting. At the OP, have you gotten the Infor you need? I intend building something similar but have no idea how much it will cost me. If you can share with me I will be grateful. Many thanx

frozen70:


Don't just build a room and parlour for you intending marriage

But two apartments so that you can have a neighbour


If you have money, buy
20tones of sand,
5tones of granite
300 blocks can take you to window level or linted level
50 bags of cement will take you to same level

Take a break and plan for roofing and pvc ceiling noggin

Take a break, while on break get an aluminium guy to get the cost of windows and prepare them down

When you are back from break, fix the windows, get a plumber to do the piping, electrics connection too and plaster the entire house, that will cost you another 50 bags

Take a break and come back to fix frames then do tilling of the floor and fix doors

Any time you can save up to? 200,000 go to site with it.

Many thanx for this detailed input. However, could please give a rough estimate as to how much you think could build this proposal?

I bought a double plot of land which I don't intend starting building on just at the moment (I am low in cash even though my monthly income is over 350k).
Instead, I intent building just a room and parlour (self con) in a different small plot of land I own so I could marry in it. Please let me know like a rough cost of how much it will cost me. Note, the land there is very good for building, if possible u could attach a pictures for me.
Please help a brother.
Many thanx for the contributions

Guys please comment.

I intend to paint my car soon as the color fades. Yes I know painted car depreciates the value of a car but still I choose to paint. Here is my delima now. What type of paint will be suitable. What are the pros and Cons of autobase, oven baked and the regular car paint. Please contribute

saxoholic1:
Go to adamawa state.....or gombe state....

Where in Adamawa state or gombe

I would say obudu is nice. However, as you pointed out, it might not be appealing as it used to be due to poor maintenance culture. Last time I was there was 2012 and was still beautiful then.

Ladyhippolyta88:
When that person is happy with him/her self.
When that person can look back at the things he or she has done and be well pleased.With little or no regrets as to some of the decisions he or she had made.
Our realities and experiences are different.
So therefore the definition of success varies among individuals. So I cannot speak for others and say if they are successful or not.
Other people's view or definition about success in the life of another individual should not matter.

I would learn towards more of contentment than successful based on your explanation. I do agree however, the success varies among individuals

bukatyne:


A fantastic one, yes.

Do we consider people like don jazzy as unsuccessful

bukatyne:


Why don't you want marriage and kids?

You consider marriage to be part of success

CrazyPros:
The most miserable life one could live is allowing others define success for them.

Adults should define heights they wish to attain at each age bracket and work towards it.

Each age bracket presents its challenges, the objective should be to emerge from it with the least possible damage to body and mind.

I agree with your assertion that individuals should define their own success heights.
From the society's eyes, what do they see as the definition of success

I try to explain to myself what a successful person entails. Is it money, satisfaction, happiness et al.
I then realise that success is endless and formless. It could mean different things to different people.

In the Nigerian context, when do we say someone is successful looking at it from the perspective of monthly income, life luxuries etc. Using age bracket of 27 - 35.

Thanx for your comments.

I 'd like some financial advice from nairaland family on possible financial investment I could go into especially at my age (28) and still single.
I am based somewhere in the northern part of the country. I have 500k spare that I need to invest in. I thought about different ideas and settled for this two. My type of job wouldnt allow me to run and supervise my business properly, hence the choice of investment . Which would be the best for me: forget about the grammar.
Do note that I don't really have much idea about how TB works. What will be the current return of TB worth 500k and from month will I start earning.

Thank you for your contributions

Shedrack777:
I've attended and witness cousins weddings in plateau, Kaduna, kano and katsina. Heard it is happening bauchi, borno. I'm sorry if you're hurt, but if you're a Hausa tribe, you can go ask your family or pastor

Hurt? Mumu.

Shedrack777:
No! In the northern Nigeria here, the Hausa Christians do practice it, but my culture Urhobo, forbids it. But a pastor once told me the Bible doesn't forbid it. How true is this? Pls more contributions needed

Shut up! Which Hausa Christians. Fucking liar

Olatoman:


A standing Fan, Laptop and phones.
The Lumos will power the above devices with ease, my only concern is what size your fan is, and the make of your laptop.

I use the Lumos, watch TV with it, charge my phone and laptop with it, it always takes like 3/4 hours before it drops to 65% and honestly, can't recall the last time I switched on my Gen.

Let me know the size of your fan/laptop, if possible attach pictures.
A neighbour if mine got same but his laptop energy requirements was beyond the Lumos, lenovo(the high end variant) .

I have a 32inches TV, plus rechargeable fan. How long do u think it will last the night

High points: Jumped from level 6 to level 10 in multinational organization. Made some good investments (bought lands and a car)

Low point: UTI catch me. I almost died coz I taught it was HIV.

Over to you

Mine are:
Careless about people's opinion and engage with what makes you happy.
I also learnt that failure is good. Be a risk taker. Your life is the present. Friendship needs care. Respect everyone. Never ever give up in the pursuit of your dreams. Travel expose and expands you. Do not look at things from just your perspective ( you are not always right). Make mistakes.

Let's hear yours

edoman2016:

What are you saying? Most big businesses today were started by the owners when they were single. Is it Google, Facebook, Microsoft, Apple, WhatsApp, Twitter etc were all started by the singles? Marriage brings stability to a man or woman.

The advantage of being single is that you don't give a damn about stability. You will just want to explore, be creative and daring. Many married have brilliant ideas that they can't implement because they have to consult their partner for consent.

Some times having a second opinion esp from ur partner could be diff between success and failure.

Even though I am single, I have this distant believe that success is achieved more with a partner. Sometimes, family motivates you to achieve more, dig deeper. The fear of failure when having a family will make you more smarter when it comes to making choices, thus.......
When I am married, I will know better. But just my thought

There could never be wrong or right answer to this question but rather personal opinion and as well as experience of the individual.

The bachelor:
You focus solely on your business or career, you could take risk and yes go straight into recession. You are at liberty to try new things even when you are not sure of, your freedom as well etc..

Married:
I feel this will require a great deal of commitment both financially and time wise. You tend to be more careful, thus highly calculative when taking risks knowing that you have huge responsibilities at home. On the otherhand, you will get emotional support from ur family which could even motivate u to try harder. The joy of coming back home to ur family after a stressful day is compared to non.

One thing is sure: some happens to be more successful when single while others up to the next level after marriage.

Over to career people, money making gurus, singles and married.

You goto have a backup first just as you asserted.
What I would do:
Start a business while still in your job: This will give u some hint as to where to improve more when u resign and concentrate on the biz.
Keep aside basic expenses for a year: Yes a year. This translates to house rent, school fees, and Sundry ( You never know when you will start getting returns).
Quit only when you've acquired experience in the business you are planning to venture.
Quit only when you have a solid plan.


Know this: it will get rough, might get even bad but there will always be light at the end of the tunnel if u have a good plan

Look around your environment and figure out needs that are not met. Boom, business is born. This is the ideal business advice you could give someone.
However, I want to hear specific business ideas that will yield you good dividends and is sustainable. Your contributions please. I am posting it here so as to get mature contributions.

Its such a shame that managers like these do exist. To begin with, a good leader uses the word "we" and not "I" when talking about his dept. I don't know the best advice to give you, but I recommend you keep your head down and continue to do your work properly. Always sends him a formal mail in any work you've done, which ordinarily he will take credit for. You can seldomly cc someone superior. By this, your work will start to get appreciated more without u even knowing.
I myself, a finance manager. I always make sure to use the word we, and always accord the thumps up to my subordinate. It motivates everyone to do better and brings about good team work.
Wish u the very best

anitasoll:



Online businesses are the best, you are your own boss, you can work from anywhere provided you're with your phone or laptop. Because of your schedule you could try affiliate marketing or dropshipping

Thank you for the great ideas. Things like watches, women simple shoes etc. Could u drop ideas of what u think will be easier to manage

Hello house,

Pleasant evening and hope everyone is coping well.

I am here needing for ideas regarding any legit type of business that can fetch me 30-50k a month.

Before then, I work from Mondays to Fridays (8am -6pm). This tells u that I really don't have time to supervise the business. Hence, the business will be maintained by a different hand. I am based in one other the northern States.
My salary is cool, so I am not considering resign to go into business full time. I just want to reach a stage where I can be able to save 80% of my salary and feed on the 20% + business inflow.

So over to you, please suggest some good ideas. 200,000 I will be willing to invest. (50,000 additional).
Looking forward to reading bright ideas from all.

Sylver247:
So lately I have been seeing posts around companies that treat their staff poorly and owe salaries with no work life balance.

I've also read comments about bad bosses who don't give a damn about their staff.

But I know their are great companies in Nigeria who really treat their staff well. Not just in terms of salary, but more importantly other benefits.

Benefits like:
* A clear career plan and path
* Constant training and development, sometimes abroad.
* A good health management program (HMO)
* A collaborative atmosphere between staff and management, no office politics or bickering.
* Daily lunch in the office.
* Care for family of staff

I know some companies that have facilities like gym, tennis, library, and even bar for their staff.

So have you ever worked or heard about these companies? Let's hear from you.

NB: Not necessarily foreign or multinational companies. There are good Nigerian companies to work in.

This is an interesting thread.

Although NGOs wouldn't give you all of the highlighted points above, u would be comfortable working there bar the street that comes with it.
Depending on the position u are occupying but there is a clear career path.
Not too constant but there are trainings and sometimes, outside the country.
Health medical coverage
Good working atmosphere between junior staff and mgt.
No lunch.
Health care coverage for you family.

On a scale of 10, I rate them 7.

mantosa:
When you go to Obudu, you’ll understand that the hills are really alive.

Despite the fact that it is called Obudu Plateau, it is actually located in the Obanliku local Government area which is about 60km from Obudu town. It is on these mountains that the famous cattle ranch was built.

To get to Obudu, there are two options as flights are not currently going there directly. You can either fly to Calabar and take a drive down for about 8-9 hours or you can fly into Enugu to cut the road trip down to 4 hours.

Once you get past the numerous checkpoints and bad roads along the way, you finally get to the plateaus and you are welcomed by the figure of a cow head perched on a ‘gate’. This is the beginning of many picture worthy moments as you are wowed by the mountains and the clouds that are within your reach.

Day 1

After arriving at the ranch and settling in your accommodation, have some lunch and begin your first activity of the day.

This is a tour of the Becheve nature reserve. This reserve is home to various plants/vegetation and also has a canopy walk.

At the end of the canopy walk, you climb a tower and you get to view the numerous plants available on the mountain and some mountain peaks are also highlighted.

The thrill really is the canopy walk and if you have mischievous people like I am, you’ll have some jumping and scaring the living daylight out of you.

After you get off the canopy walk, specifically asked to be taken to the Fern tree grove within the reserve. Some don’t get to visit but trust me it’s worth it. It’s almost like walking into an enchanted forest and has the most amazing white lilies. Not only are these lilies pretty to look at, they also smell divine. I likened the smell to talcum aka baby powder. There’s also a little river running through the middle and if you didn’t know any better you would think you were in a place right out of a fairy tale.

After walking round the enchanted forest, take a walk round the grounds of the resort built on the Obudu Mountains but before that, don’t forget to take a picture infront of the Becheve signage as a way to show you were really there.
As you walk round, you will notice the facilities that belong to the resort – basketball courts, restaurant, steak house and more importantly, the locals.

You can end the night playing board games with your group if you packed some or just watch TV till you’re tired and you call it a night.

Day 2

If you’re a morning person, 6 am is the time to set out. This is to go bird watching. Obudu is home to various species from the yellow bird to the red long claw bird. During the sightseeing, you see the various accommodation options such as the mountain villas, African huts, the conference room and also the presidential villa which is perched at the top of a hill in all its glory.

The most exciting part about this is while looking for birds, you literally go through the jungle. Like someone in our group said, it was like walking into Jurassic park. It was just us, bushes, the sound of streams and the birds. A couple of people will fall on their ass because the soil might be wet but it made for a couple of laughs.

When you get out of the jungle, you realize you went in the middle of one mountain and came out of the other side. It’s astonishing because if anyone points out to you that you would walking in the middle of mountains, you would chime in that it’s impossible, but alas it can be done.

After coming out alive on the other side, take some pictures at the top of the mountain you’ve just conquered and head on home because remember, you haven’t had breakfast. However keep an eye out for the most amazing valley views. It was breathtaking. We all had to stop and marvel at its beauty. Just in case you’re wondering, it’s on the left side of the presidential lodge so now you can’t miss it. Thank me later.

While birdwatching seems like child’s play, it takes about 2 hours and if you’re a budding photography this could easily be 3 hours. So be ready to be on your feet for that long.

After birdwatching, head back and have breakfast, shower, gist, rest and then it’s time to head to the grotto falls.

Grotto falls is one of the many waterfalls in the mountains and probably the most famous. It has a resting point, a little pool and people often grill food there if they’re having a party. If you’re lucky, before you enter you’ll see a horse and a ride can be organized. You can have a picnic there but if you’re just there to see it, after about 20 minutes you’ll probably be itching to go. I don’t blame you, many more things await you.

One thing a lot of people don’t mention is that there are villages in the mountains and 7 of them are easily accessible. This means after grotto falls, you can do a tour of the village.

From Opaganza (banana village) to little Cape Town, you meet a variety of indigenes who are separated by streams or stones. These people are friendly. A few of them are skeptical about why you’re taking their pictures but in general they’re very welcoming. You’ll hardly pass a villager without hearing good day or ‘yangukle’.

During your walk through, make sure you buy something from them. It could be palm wine, bananas, ube (purple pear), corn, etc but by doing this, you’re contributing to their economy and empowering them.

After this, it’s time to head back home and enjoy evening. Besides you need to sleep early as the next day is about to be hectic but lit!

Day 3

Day 3 is the most exciting day. You will be walking in the clouds on a mission to see the border between Cameroon and Nigeria. Make sure you wear a swimsuit underneath your hiking clothes and pack a small towel in your back pack. You’ll see why later. Also, pack some water, carry your speakers and set off with your friends. This hike is intense but my oh my it’s so worth it. The excitement when you hear you’re 1603m above sea level is honestly next to none.

After crossing this personal best, you start to notice Fulani settlements. I couldn’t believe it, settlements at the top of the mountain? We were amazed.

However what was more amazing was that we entered the first settlement and the Fulani women welcomed us like they had been expecting us. We sat on their stools, they brought out nunu (yoghurt) and some meat. It was the most thoughtful thing ever and continues to add to the notion that don’t judge a tribe by everything you hear on the news.

Even if you don’t do anything while you’re in Obudu make sure you do that. After visiting the Fulanis and you step out, you start to see the Cameroonian Mountains and if the clouds aren’t there you’ll see all of them clearly. This will be your reward for being patient.

When all this is done, you can start your descent. For an extra treat, you take a different route which leads you to beautiful waterfall that not a lot of people know of. This means you have the whole place to yourself. The waterfall forms a natural pool at the bottom and if you’re a good swimmer, you should jump into into it. Trust me it’s safe as 4 of us did it and I’m here to share the story.

If you can’t swim, stay at the top which is nicknamed the kiddies section. The water is cold but it offers such a relief from the hike you just finished. I know I said seeing the Cameroun border is your reward but I lied. This is your real reward. You’ll be shocked that you jumped into a natural pool in Nigeria. I mean you only see these things on TV.

When you think you’re done, dry off and continue back home as you still have the Holy Mountain to go to.

The Holy Mountain is named so because apparently when the missionaries first went to Obudu this was where they camped. It’s also believed that if you pray there, your prayers will get answered. We all had one thing or the other that we need sorted out so why not just give it a try.

From the top of Holy Mountain, you see the waterfall you just jumped into and if you’re in no hurry, just sit there for a few minutes and soak in the beauty and magic that mountains and clouds create when they are put together; God is really the master artist.

It then starts to dawn on you that your time at Obudu is coming to an end. With a bit of sadness, you start to head back to your cabin but on the bright side, you’ll have a bonfire and barbeque which is the tradition.

The bonfire is filled with barbecued food from corn to plantain, ram to chicken. Drinks are flowing, music is blaring, spirits are high and it’s a way to end your Obudu trip with a bang.

The next day at 6am you depart to catch that 1.50 flight back to Lagos from Enugu airport.
You leave with memories and pictures that will last a lifetime and you’ll also be able to boast of visiting Nigeria’s famous mountain ranges.

Now this isn’t just a story I’m telling, its based on my personal experience and because I love you guys, I decided to help you get the most out of your Obudu trip.

For accommodation, I stayed in a private cabin owned by the Obudu Conservation Centre. They are independent of the resort and their job is to protect the wildlife and plants on those mountains. I highly recommend their cabins as they give a vantage view and they are literally in the clouds. They all come with kitchens for each cabins, heaters in each room and a generator.

Holler at them or me and we can hook you up.
So my question is, when are you off to Obudu?

Source: http://tushmagazine.com.ng/spend-4-days-3-nights-obudu-mountains/

What should your budget be if you intend spending 3nights there? Your answer will be greatly appreciated

Oyindidi:
Report yourself to your family

My family isn't the issue.. The won't have choice than to accept my decision after the insults.. She's hellbent on abortion, and I am not comfortable with that.. Too risky for me,..convincing her is the issue here then the best way to bring myself to her family. The pregnancy is 4weeks old

nahzyla:
How far gone is the pregnancy

Almost 4weeks now