onyinye2:

Trust me. . . . after 103 minutes of some of that. . . . you will be lucky if you remember how to spell your name.

almost 2 whole hours when daylight is only 12 hours?
please I don't have that much time to spare all at once
take alittle more than 30 mins,I'll want to watch Judge Mathis
do you know that too much sweating and wrestling is bad for our hair?
after paying akata $100 for a do,I don't want it messed up in a single night

onyinye2:

That doesn't cut it. You should tell her that at any given moment it is her right to say NO to her man.

My dear that may be you style.
It's like me telling someone don't do it but here this is a condom, in case you need it.

KarmaMod:

Chei I meant 103 seconds.
Who dash them 103 minutes?
Do I even have 103 minutes to give when there are other things to be done LOL

KarmaMod:

If your husband wasnt flattered by the attention osisi, he would have reported her. This isnt Nigeria, the woman would get a warning for such. Sure if it were reversed case it'D be a bigger deal but with the new laws, whether a woman or man commits such an offence, either one will get punished

which man wouldn't be
You now how they are?
obviously he's flattered but he like most men would do nothing about it.

onyinye2:

Osisi. . . . . you've got to be kidding me. So you who tell this to your own daughter if she was in this compromising position?

I'll tell her not to go to a secluded corner with a man and take off her clothes willingly.
That's a better piece of motherly advice

4 Play:

Women should count themselves lucky that sex often lasts up to 2 minutes.

Can you now imagine a woman trying to cut it off at the 103rd minute?

onyinye2:

So what do you suggest her do. . . . lie there like a casted mummy and except every hump her rapist gives her?

I said it earlier.
She should bite her lips and count to 10 multiple times till it's over
she invited the guest in and she should let the guest leave without throwing them out when the visit is over

next time she'll be more specific and make up her mind from the beginning

4 Play:

Haba,you don become even more hardline. Few minutes ago,you drew the line at where the man is a couple of minutes from coming,now you are suggesting the commencement of penetration. Unless you are implying that the usual duration of intercourse-from penetration to ejaculation-is 2 minutes.    

ROFL
Isn't that funmi's theory.
That most of all y'all land the same time it takes to cook a minute rice
I'mjust going by average figures dear

I believe a lot of men have been labelled because of some vindictive women.
There's a secretary at my hubby's place of work that obviously has the hots for him
and has made many remarks to him that are obviously sexually harassing.
Turn it around if he were the female and she was the male,he could lose his job and tarnish his records for things like that.
Women know how to manipulate these laws at will and then dock under the cover of "I'm a weaker vessel" when it suits them.

If she says No before penetration and he continues that is rape.
If she says No after penetration,that is no rape in my books, perhaps a mistake

4 Play:

You are confused. Incongruity between your old fashioned Onitsha mentality and the sheer horror of rape.    

Udi n'eke udi!
wait till your madam shouts no in the middle after saying yes
any man that can withdraw and come down, was certainly never at attention in the first place.

KarmaMod:

and if the No No starts before that?

Of course that is rape.
no questions asked.

4 Play:



What exactly is your point? If a woman's behavior contributed to her rape,are you suggesting the rapist should be let off or given a lighter sentence?

I hate it when people just jump into a thread  after several pages without taking time to read the thread.
In this particular case,we're talking of a woman that willingly goes with a man in a secluded area,they turn each other on, he brings out his koboko, sshe maybe even puts it in, then at some point in the act, she remembers she's a choir member and asks him to stop when he's just a couple of minutes from landing.
If he hangs in for arrival, my brother I wouldn't blame him.
She asked for it.
They had reached a point of no return,she ought to deal with it
That is no rape
That is my point

Hannibal:

It aint about being numbskulls.
Testosterone is the KEY.

You babes forget one thang. . . . .

A woman can switch off at any moment before and even during sex.
For a man, there's a gunline.
Once u let him get to that gunline and refuse. . . . . .You are asking for trouble.
The moral of the story is. . . . . .Don't SMELL what u won't EAT.

Gbam!!
Women ought to start taking responsibility.
And stop playing victim in cases where they obviously contributed
they are more likely to get STD's from a man than a man is to get it from them.
They end up with the unwanted pregnancies and often end up alone raising the kids and cursing the man.
Isn't it just simple common sense that the ought to guard their "Jerusalems" more jealosly?

bia TOH,what's your take on all this discussion

noetic:

which is?

My dear use your tongue and count your teeth

Igbos say that when you explain the meaning of a proverb to a fellow,the dowry the father paid to marry that fellow's mother ,was a waste.

Any northerner in power has only one agenda.
We must never forget that.
Thank God he passed on before having a chance to cause us any harm

DeepZone:

He's a core northerner. Which kain south?

core aboki with flenty flenty froblem

It's amazing when people discuss issues that happened before their birth (like david).
I'm older than you folks and I was still in me diapers when the dude died.

uche2nna has a pretty good signature.
it says "akwobeghi beans,moi moi n'esi"

meaning

them never grind the beans ,moi moi don begin smell

me

Hannibal:

Rape Isn't Always Criminal.

Of course, 60% of the time, rape isn't criminal.
When these chics get high, they are Hot and they want IT.
At dawn, they think about the whole saga and feel used especially if the guy gets cocky about the whole shenbang.
She wants vengeance and dials 999. . . . . . I WAS RAPED!!!

I knew you'll come in and change the whole topic.
but you're right
dunno about the percentage though

Ruby_Pearl:

Lol! You still don't get it.
Listen, you can't just turn something off like that!
I think Queenisha explained it with the car drive.
Do you know what a blue ball is?

She'll get it someday.
In her twenties

Baxilexi:

onyin, thats the point the oven doesnt cool down immediately.

Exactly ma point.

onyinye2:

[i](I'm not condemning people who do such) [/i]But a person should be able to fire that oven knowing good and well that any point and time it can be shut off.

Once you realise the consequences of sticking your hand into a 400 degree oven that has just been turned off
no froblem

tpia:

come oh.

Her daughter's pregnancy is a private matter.

Private matter for where?
This is politics.
The moment she stepped onto that platform,she lost her privacy

This is good news for our camp.

onyinye2:

LMAO!!!
I'm sorry but that is rape. In any point in time she says No and he continues. . . . he is a rapist. Simple as that.

Like someone already said,don't put yourself in that situation.
Don't fire the oven when you're not ready to cook.

AO FOSTER:

wait till you become a victim, then you will know the difference

If I willingly followed a man into his hotel room,laying on his bed and watching TV then we start handling one another, I have become awilling participant.

onyinye2:

I'm sorry but i can't except that. If i was with a dude and i saw things were getting hot N' heavy, then i might pull the plug and say i aint going to do it. I would hope the guy would understand in ALL circumstances.

It looks like we're talking of different things.
If all she wanted was petting and not sex, she should make it clear and if he forces her it's rape.
I'm talking of a situation where sex is on both of their minds and after the man has inserted she says no.
That is a point of no return
Let her grit her teeth and count sheep _{or goats}

Baxilexi:

onyin, noting in life stops abruptly not even machine.

Exactly.
In driving school,you're taught of "points of no return".
While driving at 40 miles and hour and the light ahead of you suddenly turns yellow then red,i t's often impossible to stop especially when it's raining, you simply go on.
That's the same thing here.

HR.hotness:

@ topic

I spse what she's driving at is that women shdnt put themselves in that situation. . .

if u don't want a guy, why lead him on. . . mean r pretty open with what they want anyways, so d idea that u didnt knw shdnt even arise. when u make it clear to a gut that you're not interested in sex and take away all opportunities for him to take advantage, then d issue of date rape will not even arise.

Exactly!
women have to take some responsibilty
It's afterall their bodies

onyinye2:

But Queen. . . . isn't no the most important aspect. I mean if she says NO, then it means NO. And if he is continues to conclude his sexual desires it is rape. So what do you want her to do, bring out her camera phone and videotape the act so it will show some proof?

see what someone responded in that article

IF WOMEN EXPECT " NO MEANS NO " AS A INVIOLATE ABSOLUTE.

THEN MEN CAN EXPECT " YES MEANS YES " AS A INVIOLATE ABSOLUTE.

and I totally agree

Ruby_Pearl:

But how can a woman know that her thing is too small or just enough?

what are you talking?
women daily give birth to 10 pound babies without problems.
Tolotolos are very elastic.

Sisikill:

The word NO in itself is not should not be used to judge a rape situation in some cases. It's sad how many men have their names on the sex offender's list because of situations like this and once someone's name is there, there is not erasing it.

And guys should also know the kind girls they are dealing with. Not everyone who comes batting their eyelashes at you is inviting you to come sex 'em up.

Nigerians girls usually say No when they actually mean "beg me alittle harder, I don't want to appear cheap"