The issue of pornography as we have discussed earlier is one we can’t overlook. Its effect may not be immediate but its consequences show up later. Like every other addiction, pornography may start out as a way of getting excited about sex but gradually it will have the opposite effect. It may give immediate gratification and pleasure and seem harmless but it slowly and destructively eats into the very fabric of your relationship. It will affect intimacy when you finally marry that person and will lead to betrayal which my take a long time for your spouse to get over and in some cases, the spouse never gets over it.

Most people are likely to blame themselves when they discover their spouses are addicted to pornography and masturbation. The truth is that your spouse’s addiction may have nothing to do with you. His/her addiction may never be about weaknesses or deficiencies but about his/her struggle or choice. An addiction rewires the brain and changes the addict’s overall outlook. Even when the spouse is sexually attractive, because pornography sometimes makes actual sense more effort demanding, the idea of sex with one’s spouse looks more like work! Unlike actual sex where the focus is in meeting one’s spouse’s sexual need and satisfaction, pornography focuses on self-satisfaction and in cases where there’s still a desire for actual sex, pornography becomes the main source of sexual arousal.

Since addictions aren’t developed overnight, likewise breaking free will also require time. Here are few steps to breaking free from pornography.
1. Admit your addiction to pornography: As long as there is self-denial, you will not find a reason to crave change. So the first step is to recognize that you have a problem you need to deal with just according to the old saying, a problem known or disclosed is half solved.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/dealing-with-pornography/

A person with high need for achievement likes to take personal responsibility: When he undertakes a task, he prefers to have clearly understood that he’ll see it through. He wants the credit for the success of the undertaking, but he is equally prepared to accept the blame should he fail. The high achieving individual, the entrepreneur is not a “buck passer”. When he is unsuccessful, he does not rail against the unkind fates, nor lay the fault at his superiors, competitors, subordinates or the government.

He likes games of skill, games of chance do not appeal to him because he feels he has no control over their outcome.He likes to take moderate risks; He does not like either excessive odds against his success or too easy a task.The reasonable possibility of failure excites him to increase effort. He wants to stretch, to exert extra effort, to achieve his goals. The person with low need for achievement prefers an easy task where his likelihood of succeeding is quite high, or, at the other extreme, he attempts goals which are clearly unlikely of attainment. In either case, his insecurity leads him to avoid the reasonable chance of failure. If he cannot be sure of succeeding he wants it clear to all the world that the task was so difficult that no one could really have been expected to succeed.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/characteristics-of-persons-with-high-need-for-achievement/

This post is a continuation of yesterday’s post “Making Your Marriage Affair-Proof” Like we have said, an affair doesn’t happen overnight…it starts from somewhere! Here are some tips you can employ to make your marriage affair-proof.
1. Have a good and vibrant sex life: sex shouldn’t be a routine but something that is enjoyed in marriage. Find ways to make your sex life exciting and fun! Keep your spouse satisfied and he/she won’t look for satisfaction outside your marriage.

2. Make yourself attractive: The main person you should look attractive for is your spouse. Child bearing and other factors will have its toll on the woman’s body, nevertheless do whatever is needful to be fit and get back to shape! Likewise the man needs to become fit and in shape too. Whoever will catch your hubby’s attention will definitely not be in wrapper or in grandma’s nightie, so get rid of the wrappers and droopy nightie and get into something sexy at home. Remember your body and everything in it is for him. To the men- pot belly is going out of fashion! So get down with the push ups and get a four packs or at least a flat tummy even if you can’t make six packs! The question is: will your spouse be attracted to you the way you are now if she wasn’t married?Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/making-your-marriage-affair-proof2/

Curiosity is one of the factors that lures most young people into pornography. The curiosity of what exactly sex is and what it entails. The curiosity and the initial thrill gradually drags them into consistent viewing and finally becomes an overwhelming habit.

Firstly, what the young guy or lady does not realise is that pornography is unconsciously changing his/her perspective about love and sex and will eventually have an influence on his sexual expectations. The unrealistic depictions in porn where women are always hot with perfect airbrushed bodies and the men have well sculpted bodies often time leads to unrealistic sexual expectations. The truth is that an average lady’s or guy’s body isn’t like what you see on the TV or internet. Those men and women with perfect bodies were specially selected for the job.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/the-single-and-pornography/

Your child is no longer a kid anymore, take it or leave it!!! He/she can now to an extent make some life decisions on his/her own. Though you still see him/her as that child of yesterday and hence you want to shield him/her. You start to raise your eye brows as regards the types of friends he/she brings home, curfew, type of clothe worn etc. Here are five mistakes parents make with teens.

1. Expecting the worst: Most parents believe that they can only look on as their unpredictable loving children turn into monsters. Actually most times, we get what we see and this applies to the issue of these teenagers too. Why think they will just go on and rot?

Focus on your child’s interests and hobbies,even if you don’t understand them. You could open a new path of communication, reconnect with the child you love, and learn something new.
2. Depending on too many parenting books: I doubt if there were books on parenting for the parents in the 70’s yet majority of them were able to bring up their children properly but these days, parents want to turn to books instead of focusing on their inner instincts. It’s not that reading books on parenting is bad but it shouldn’t be too much.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/some-mistakes-parents-make-with-teens/

One of the most devastating events that can happen in a marriage is an affair.Most people don’t usually plan to have an affair neither does anyone wakes up one day and suddenly decides to have an affair! Affairs don’t happen overnight but rather it’s a gradual process.

Whatever drives a woman or man to cheat(emotionally,sexually or both), be it fear, loneliness, or anger, it is important to know that infidelity or having an affair is a personal decision you make irrespective of the shortcoming on the part of your spouse, Your spouse’s shortcomings or weaknesses shouldn’t be a strong reason to cheat on him/her. Your vow to your spouse was “I promise to forsake all others and cling to you for better and for worse!” Your marriage needs you most in both good and worst moments.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/avoiding-infidelity-in-marriage/

One question youths alike trouble themselves on is “how can I marry the right person?” Even though that sounds like a very valid and important question, it’s been observed over the years that the question is often times backed by fear- the fear of marrying the wrong person!

Everyone wants to live in the bliss of a happy ending and looking for the prince charming or sleeping beauty. Reality is that they are simply fairy tales. Oops!!!Did someone’s bubble just got busted? Sorry about that. It’s very difficult to attract the right person when you are not the right person. I believe single men and women need to change focus from looking outward to focusing inward. Let’s do a little explanation

A lot of singles worry so much about finding the right person that they lose focus of themselves. What are your values? What are your dreams? What exactly are you living for? How secured are you in yourself? How emotionally balanced are you? Quit looking for the right person and you will attract the right person for you. So focus on becoming the right. Develop yourself mentally, move in the direction of your passion, live your values, pursue your dreams and live life to the maximum. Often times we appeal to and attract the people who are on the same path of passion with us. Become an emotionally balanced single. Emotionally imbalanced people depend fully on their spouse for emotional security and acceptance, as a result they tend to stay on the receiving side and may drain their spouse emotionally.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/finding-mr-and-mrs-right/

Love is simply an emotion of strong attraction, affection, admiration and feelings.The primary reasons we fall in love with people is because of the feelings, what we feel about them, which get us attracted to them. Everyone in one form or the other has experienced these feelings towards others before. But some people get more admirers than others. Some don’t even get admired for a very long while.
It was argued by researchers, some said it’s as relative to beauty other said it’s as to do with one’s conduct, appearance and attitude. A research was carried out to ascertain these believe by the researchers.

They took two ladies to a busy street, with lots of people from different backgrounds,orientations and belief. One of the ladies was very beautiful but was made to be untidy with unpleasant smell and sat carelessly. The other was not as beautiful as the former but was made up very neat, was composed and her smell was inviting. The untidy lady was by far more beautiful. The research showed that most men, who came across the untidy lady just stirred at her and moved on, only few went close, some of these few turned back on getting very close to her. Those who spoke to her did casually and did not get her contact.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/shes-very-beautiful-but-not-attractive/

Sometimes thinking like a diligent business man, would save your marriage from divorce, your partner who loved you before now is no longer interested in you. He loved you because he saw something in you. Has that thing changed? Maybe it needs improvement. That’s your selling point.Your selling point can be illustrated with the analogy below:

A business man who owns a restaurant in a motor garage in an express way asked his staffs what they sell. They all said food. He decided to make out questionnaires to customers, many customers took and filled the questionnaires. Analysis of the information he got from the survey showed that most of the customers who took part, said the food was just there. The answer they gave for the reason why they will always come back was that the restaurant’s rest
room is always kept, and even if they are not hungry, they will come for convenience.

The business man asked his staffs again if they really think they sell food. They said yes. He said but, most of the customers are not coming here because of our food, they are coming for convenience. Yes we think we are selling food, but our customers are buying convenience in the name of food. We will loose them he said, if we focus more on what we think we sell. Convenience he said is our selling point, if we must keep our customers we must maintain or improve the standard.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/your-selling-point-can-keep-your-partner/

Running is a terrestrial locomotion allowing people and other animals to move quickly on foot. Running can also be done with the aid of some machines like a car. Humans run for numerous reasons, mostly for a prize or running to catch up with something. A man who is running earnestly for no reward or for no reason will be regarded as a mad man. If the reason for running is this important, then the way, manner and the direction at which we run is a determinant to getting the reward.

People still run and pursue earnestly for things that have little or no reward. Those are the people who run very fast in the wrong direction. Yes they get there, but for nothing. Those who run very fast towards the wrong direction are people who never cared about those who were applauding them and those who were yelling at them to make them loose concentration and reduce their running tempo. If they had listened,to those who are for them, they who’d have noticed the sorry wave “No no no! turn back” or the laughter of those who are not their supporters would have as well made them think and say “is anything the matter”. It’s important we watch and listen while we run, this can simply be referred to as feedback, it’s the return of information about a result or an action.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/running-very-fast-in-the-wrong-direction/

There are four types of cloud computing deployment models,which include private, public, hybrid and community cloud computing.
Private cloud: Private cloud also referred to as internal cloud,[Zhang et al. (2010)] is exclusive to the internal use of an organization. It is either managed by the organization itself, or managed by a third party. (It provides the highest form of control over reliability, performance and security).

Public cloud: Involves making services such as application,hardware and servers available to the general public [Dillon et al.2010]. Some of the applications are made available for free, to the public whilst others are accessed on a pay as you go service. It is easy, and inexpensive, to deploy because it requires no capital
investment on infrastructure and cloud service providers are solely responsible for making policy, profiting, cost and value as regarding it.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/cloud-computing-development-model-for-business/

Parenting is hard work, irrespective of a child’s attitude (a good or a bad child), it’s not easy to train up a child. Listening and talking to a child is a good way to communicate and chastise a child. Some parents spank their children with canes, but in most cases the children get use to their beatings and become worst.In 49 countries around the world, it is illegal for a parent, teacher, or anyone else to spank a child, and 124 countries prohibit corporal punishment in schools. Only few African countries have this prohibition.

Do you think spanking your child always, will make him/her become a better persons? many sociological researchers, psychiatrists, have recommended that physical punishment on children should be banned .Some of their reasons are:

1.Punishing a child always makes him disconnected, as it’s not human nature to feel loving towards someone who hurt them. Punishment, even when it seems to work, can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which happens only when the child can resist.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/parenting-is-hard-work/

Parenting is hard work, irrespective of a child’s attitude (a good or a bad child), it’s not easy to train up a child. Listening and talking to a child is a good way to communicate and chastise a child. Some parents spank their children with canes, but in most cases the children get use to their beatings and become worst.In 49 countries around the world, it is illegal for a parent, teacher, or anyone else to spank a child, and 124 countries prohibit corporal punishment in schools. Only few African countries have this prohibition.

Do you think spanking your child always, will make him/her become a better persons? many sociological researchers, psychiatrists, have recommended that physical punishment on children should be banned .Some of their reasons are:

1.Punishing a child always makes him disconnected, as it’s not human nature to feel loving towards someone who hurt them. Punishment, even when it seems to work, can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which happens only when the child can resist.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/parenting-is-hard-work/

The qualities some ladies are looking out for in their potential husband are the most reasons why they have not found him or the reason why they married the wrong one. My ideal perfect man, has to be tall, rich, dark and handsome. He must be caring, must understand and respect me, should be romantic and their list goes. That indeed the perfect one. They have this list on their mind, so they naturally turn a caring respectful brief man down. He’s too short, I can’t marry him. Few get their kind of men, but most times not with all the qualities they want.
It’s good to desire good things, but sometimes these things don’t really matter. Let’s ask the woman who has a husband with all of these qualities who have turned her into a punching bag, maybe she will tell us a caring, lovely brief man is better, because at this point height does not matter anymore. Beyond our wants, there are however certain general pointers to note to get your ideal man.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/why-shes-still-not-married/

Did my parent cheat? Ha! I don’t know. But I think they didn’t. Wow! They are good people. Not necessarily, people don’t chest because they are bad people, though some people are promiscuous and are always in the mood to commit the act. I think the reason I will want to believe my parent did not cheat is not because they are good people but because the environment, education and experience they had is different from what we have today.

In those days, our grandparents informally educated our parents on extra marital relationship and affairs,they told them a lot of negative stories about what happened to the woman or man staying after the stream who never existed. They grew up with believe like “if you sleep with another man while your husband is alive, your first son will die” Wow! This can indeed keep a woman away from extra affairs.Continue Reading. http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/the-lies-our-grandparents-told-our-parent-about-extramarital-affairs/

Tell your children about sex, because they know it. If they don’t, they will be told outside, most time by the wrong people, who really don’t have their interest at heart. The media and our environment are portraying sex in the wrong manner. Yes! In the wrong way, children deserve to know the truth about sex. Parents are in the best position to tell their children about this subject. Don’t doubt it, they know it, some even better than you their parents do. First, find out how much your teenage child knows about sex, please be free and relaxed, and don’t be judgmental. Make them comfortable to discuss this subject with you, they will tell you the whole truth, What your child knows about sex will just be the starting point of the discussion, sometimes they fake it, they give the impression they know what is right and can manage it. Can sex be managed? Most mature students of this subject are still struggling, how much more a teenager who knows little or nothing about the subject.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/tell-your-children-about-sex/

Marriage is an institute, where learning is continual. Unlike our universities where we study a course for a period of time. Marriage is an institute with different courses which are prerequisites to one another. There is also no fixed examination date, most times you are tested in a course before you learn the lessons. It’s advisable to always be prepared in this institute, if you must succeed in the school of marriage. Life is the board in charge of the affairs and does not have a one way syllabus for the courses. The course outlines are determined by the individuals in this school, their personality, temperament, likes and believe.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/276-2/

Self control is one thing everybody desires,though not everyone is disciplined nor have the capacity to control what they feel, how they feel and respond to these feelings. If you have self control, you are regarded as a disciplined person. Research showed that disciplined people tend to do things quickly and better. They are less likely to get into behavior issues, like over eating, over drinking, smoking and over sleeping to mention but a few. Those people with lower levels of self-control on the other hand are also zealous people, some of them know what to do, how to do them, but lack the capacity to do them promptly.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/what-discipline-does-to-relationships/

Marriage is a lifelong commitment entered meekly by two persons in love, and their intent is to grow old together, share and love themselves forever.They never think divorce, from the onset, but somehow, some marriages goes that way. Sociologist said that a divorced life is less satisfying than married life. Women are usually confronted with greater emotional adjustment problems than men. The reasons for this are related to the loss of intimacy, the loss of social connection, reduced finances while on the part of the men, most of them become depressed and wasteful. Babies whose parents are going through a divorce may cry more often and sleep less soundly than those living in intact households.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/yes-you-can-go-your-way-if-all-effort-is-to-no-avail/

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Successful relationships are not successful by chance nor are they products of miracles. There are shielding factors which make relationships work. Anyone who desires a successful relationship has to be conscious of these factors. One of these factors is our feelings which is a product of our thought, our thought affect the way we feel, while our feelings affect our behavior towards each other.Continue Reading. http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/factors-which-help-to-make-our-relationships-successful/

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The affection one has for a person who pleases one’s desires but for diverse reasons it seems unattainable.Some think love is impossible when you do not look very attractive or when you do not belong to the high class while some think that its possible even in an unimaginable state.The impossibility of love in a relationship will incite the fantasy and feelings of love one has not enjoyed.When one turns to reality such fantasies are denied.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/love-that-seems-impossible/

This an interesting topic that will trigger a woman on how to keep her man forever. For you to keep your man forever you need to have a good connection,a desirable sense of romance and emotionally involved.You must be adventurous to make him feel relaxed, because men naturally do a lot of mental and physical work .

To keep your man forever you need to learn,observe and put these things into consideration and actions.
1.Respect him: Men naturally love to be respected because of their ego or pride , they believe they are the head or are in charge.To keep your man forever, learn to respect him, his folks and friends.Continue Reading.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/how-to-keep-your-man-forever/